I need help with my dog - it's kind of long --
Posted By: Amanda on 2009-05-29
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I do not know what to do. I got my new puppy a couple of months ago and things have been wonderful. She is so loving and outgoing and constantly wanting to be held and played with... lots of energy and playfulness. Until...
A couple of days ago my grown son came to stay with us (first time he had been here since we had the puppy). She immediately started barking at him and would not stop. She ran and hid from him in another room. Now, it has been 5 days and she is no better. She barks and growls any time he enters the room. She is withdrawing from all of us and hiding under the desk and behind furniture, will not come to even myself or my husband (and before she would not let us leave the room without following us and being with us). She is not eating, she is not drinking.
Just now, I tried to put her in her crate for the night and she would jump from my arms and run. I went after her and she cowered down in the corner like I was going to hurt her (which I have never done). I tried a second time to put her in the crate and the same thing happened. I moved the crate to another room (it had been in the living room, where my son is staying on the couch) and now I was able to put her in it. The thing is, he is not home now so the living room was empty anyway. At this point, she will not even walk into the living room if we are in there calling her. She is jumpy at any little noise and runs and hides.
What could have happened? She was at the vet for a week at first with parvo, but she seemed okay after that. Then week before last, she went for her second set of shots, and she seemed okay for the first few days, but that is when my son came, and now I don't know what to do. 
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What would you do? Kind of long sm
My 16 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADD quite a while ago. We put her on medicine but it made her loose a tremendous amount of weight so we took her off and tried everything under the sun to help with her grades (tutoring, cyber school, wrap around, etc). Fast forward a few years, we asked for her to be put back on it before she went back to public school. She still struggles tremendously with her school work but refuses to take the medicine even though she says she thinks it helps her. Same with the medicine that the neurologist gave her for migraines. It makes her feel better but she won't take it. I get calls all the time from the school nurse that she is in her office but I have finally gotten to the point where when the nurse calls, I tell her to have her rest for about 5 minutes and then send her back to class unless she is throwing up or is definitely sick. I'm at my wits end! She is constantly trying to duck out of school or her school work. Any suggestions?
Let me explain more- kind of long winded - sorry!
Four different times since my daughter got married and left home, she has called crying and with no questions asked, I immediately told her come home and she did. Then, within days, my carpets were ruined with the sippy cups and the food, my furniture was ruined, there were dirty diapers laying around everywhere, the kids would come to me when they were hungry and thirsty, and she would be on the phone or watching TV or taking a nap. She never helped with the food or the bills during those times, and she would only decide to leave when she would get a boyfriend and need her privacy and I would not allow them to stay overnight at my home.
My son has been in and out of my house since he was 16 years old. The whole time he was telling me I was trash, to stay out of his business, that I could not tell him what to do, that he did not have to listen to me, that he did not have to get a job, nobody was going to make him get a job. There were times when I was physically afraid of him and would end up calling the police. One time the police took him to jail because they said they were tired of coming out to talk to him. After 4 days he did not call and say I am sorry mom, will you please come get me, he called and his only words to me were "Are you just going to leave me here" - again after telling me he hated me and not even letting me visit him during visitation when I tried to. One time he decided he was going to kill himself and at the hospital he had the police escort me out because he hated me and did not want to see me. He spent the day in bed at the hospital with the little girl that he was wanting to see (and was going to kill himself becuase I would not let her come to the houe that day). Five days later when they released him from the kids psych hospital and said he was just looking for attention, he told me not to come get him because he hated me and never wanted to see me again. Then, when nobody else would go pick him up, including his father, then he called me back and told me that I HAD to come get him and that I HAD no choice -- and guess what? I did.
The things I told you in my first post are just the tip of the iceberg as far as I am concerned. And yes, when I say I would be suicidal, I am not exaggerating. I have bent over backwards to help both my children and never received so much as a happy mother's day phone call in 19 years from my son - and not much more appreciation from my daughter.
Now tell me, how much do you think they are going to be there to help me when I am old anyway? And what at this point does it matter?
The drinkin kind or the rubbin kind?? sm
So....is that for me to drink so I don't notice or care that my hands are all splotchy black or to get the ink off?  Seriously though, do I use the rubbing alcohol - or like Jack Daniels?? and do I soak in it or what? I never heard of using alcohol but I'll try anything.
Depends if it is long with pregnant pause um no. If it is long and juicy like an op YEP! Short ones
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I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
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How long is too long to wait for Pap results?
This is a follow up Pap for an abnormal one a few months back. I have waited for the results for over a month and have called the office once. Any advised about being a patient patient - LOL. Its hard when your in this business, I think anyway, not to be more aggressive about stuff like this.
I feel that is best too. I have been kind, very kind, to this ...sm
child since he moved here in March. I also am not one of those parent's that thinks my children are perfect. You never know what they might do out of your presence. I do know how I have raised them though and I am all for getting them all together when there is a problem and getting to the bottom of it but anymore that doesn't seem to work. The parents automatically get defensive and start making excuses, etc. I'm going to look for somewhere else to move. I've lived here for 2-1/2 years and we never had a problem until this boy moved in. His mother is a piece of work.
Are those the red kind of
licorce? Have not tried those yet. Wonder if they would be good with, say a few olives on the side?
and that's being kind actually....sm
I could think of dozens of adjectives that are *stronger* than smarmy but probably not permitted to be typed at this website...
GMTA = great minds think alike, eh? 
what kind of dog is it?
x
I would not want to pay for that kind
of therapy. If the therapist cannot stay neutral and professional...I just would not be comfortable either. If my friends and family cannot be my therapist, why would I want my therapist to act like a friend? Good luck in whatever you do.
At least you got a thank you of some kind. sm
There have been a couple times when I haven't even received a thank you note for a wedding gift.
Actually, I think it was just one time, because the other time I finally got the thank you note (lovely, hand written), but it was a *year* later! (And I thought I procrastinated... LOL)
That's kind of what
I figured, but wasn't sure. Are you talking about like the Solarcaine green gel with lidocaine? That's what I put on it, but he will barely even let me do that. I put sunscreen on them on and off all day, but guess not enough! I guess I underestimated that hot Galveston sun! Thanks for the advice.
What kind of look are you going for?
Classic? Country? Rustic? Modern?
Butcher-block (or lookalike) would work for country or rustic. Stainless steel would work for modern. Tile or slate could work for most styles, depending on the design.
I have a Corian-type solid surface countertop which I like. It does scratch fairly easily, but the scratches are easily buffed out with polish unless they are really deep.
Well, I think they are trying to do some kind of (sm)
public service or something, probably about reporting it. Brooke was on at the very end making a little speech, but I actually didn't hear it.
YAY!!! What kind did you get? (sm)
I've been using one for years, but I'm working 2 jobs now and to break the monotony, I use 2 different computers in different rooms. I 'commute' with my ergo keyboard because the one downstairs has a regular keyboard. So, I'm thinking about getting a new one. The one I'm using now is a Microsoft, but I think the model is extinct, so I'm looking for recommendations.
You're not a dork. I know how you feel. It was like... How the heck did I ever type on a regular keyboard!!?? With our job, ergonomics and comfort is everything. Congrats and have fun LOL ;-)
No and if I did that, she is the kind that
would be highly insulted, get her nose out of place. I have honest to goodness kept my mouth shut when I wanted time after time to say something- I love her but I don’t like her. Does any other mother understand this? I have walked on egg shells not saying things. Not an open communication ever with her- she is much into her friends though.
You are too kind!
 20 years ago I would have flew off the handle to have something like this, but now I know it is in His hands, not mine! Thanks for the encouragement.
Me too. I can't think of what kind of job I can do
that isn't MT...I've been doing this for so long. I can write well, and am a heckuva ghostwriter (have done blogs and resume cover letters for friends) but can't figure out where the money is in that. Sigh.
Good luck to everyone.
You all have been so kind
Thank you all so much. Words just cannot express my gratitude for the way you've extended your hearts to a virtual stranger. You're all amazing.
Romey, your post was very nice. I couldn't read it the first time I tried. I had to walk away and come back and read it later.
It is getting easier with time.
Kind of
Usually every year my husband's family gathers here in Central Florida at the beach. However, during the hurricane season of 2004, the condo that my uncle owned timeshare in got damaged to the point of being condemned. So now that we have to actually PAY for a condo, this year we have decided to head up to the panhandle which is halfway between the FL family and the AL family and in the same town as one of the aunts, namely due to gas prices and Lord their drive used to be 10 hours, no fun with kids.
As for us, we will be heading up there which we don't usually do. However, both myself and my husband work from home so we might put gas in each vehicle once a month? We also own a boat which we put gas in but this year we're telling friends who want to come out and go wakeboarding that they're going to have to chip in for gas. As an FYI, boat takes 87 and not great gas mileage. I drive a truck that takes the cheap stuff but gets 19 mpg and less while towing the boat. Husband drives a sportscar that takes 93 BUT gets like 25-28 mpg, to say the least we will be driving his car to the panhandle in May!
what kind of dog is it?
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You are both so kind, and you are right
on the mark. Yes, the credit cards are his. He lived off credit cards for several years to support himself and his kids after he and his wife split up. His wife never paid child support and he paid for daycare and everything, so had to pay for extras outside of his salary on credit. Then when I came along I was doing real well as a hospital MT, but had to quit because I was here and he needed me to watch the kids. He did not understand I had a shift like a regular job. So, after several months of my back and forth work and being with the kids, the boss gave me an ultimatum daycare for the kids or I leave my job. I told my DH that my income which was very good at the time was important to me as I have supported myself my whole life including being a single mom. But he would not budge. So, I quit. It has been 3 years and most of our marriage my trying to balance kids (I love them don't get me wrong) and work. I finally become a SE, and I am giving him direct deposit on my paycheck with me taking a small percentage out for things for my son. But, since the money is now coming in he is putting it to the credit cards. Anyway, I stopped eating mostly because I got disgusted. He is always having sandwiches and chowing down in front of me. His boy who is a big eater is asking for 3 or 4 snacks a day. My son asks for snacks there's nothing left and he said to me:" Next time you get money mommy, GO FOOD SHOPPING." He said that right in front of DH. But, I just know when I do that the gorging goes on. I explained to DH about telling his son about gluttony, but he laughs at me. So, when I see him and his son eat this way, I get grossed out and am not hungry at all. I am sorry to say all this here. I actually just came back from the doc who gives me nerve pills because of my situation and he says I am doing really well coping with the situation. Which he knows what is going on. He is sending me to see a good counselor who he says," will validate me and give me support and confidence." Last time I went to see a counselor she told me to leave. But, my son loves his step sister and brother and so I want to stay. Well, sorry for the soap opera. I think when I start making more money I will get food and tires for my car, etc. but I will hide some food and snacks and siphon it into the general population here. That way they don't get snorted up by certain people. LOL. (And yes, I am putting an emergency fund away. But this is why I wish there was more transcription out there!) Thanks for your kind words and support. Between you and the doc today, it makes me feel I am not alone! :)
I kind of like this.
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I have tried nearly every kind
of mascara known to woman. My favorite BY FAR is the Loreal Voluminous waterproof. It's so silky, non-clumping, etc. Just perfect. So I guess now it's time for them to discontinue it - LOL! That's what happened after I found my perfect foundation -- Maybelline's Wonder Finish.
Yup, have 2 teens and it is kind....
of interesting as one does not have "all the time in the world for that anymore." We have got to get when we can. But also he works nights and obviously sleeps some during the day. Maybe that is what has kept the fire going all these years. LOL
With that kind of money,
she could have easily afforded to pay you back without filing on the insurance. She should have offered to have paid you half back at least. I think that would have settled it.
Don't take your parents not choosing sides personally. They are probably trying to not make the situation worse than it already is. They are probably hoping you two will work this out somehow. Them getting involved will only make it worse.
Besides everything she has done, losing your family is just not worth it. I hope that you can find a way to work this out. My brother passed away and my sister is missing. I would give ANYTHING to have them back.
you are very kind; thanks for your time.
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What kind of shakes do you use?
Some of them are just nasty ... any tips on ones that taste halfway decent?
What kind of programs?
Sorry to hear you are in the same boat. It's funny because until you feel or have felt that way, it's hard to relate. I truly feel that I have tried everything in my power. Now he wants me to try again and I just don't think I can change the way I feel. We recently went to a Christian marriage counsellor that his mother wanted us to go to and he kept telling me that it is my choice how I feel toward my husband. It isn't. It's like a response to something bad for you I think. Your body tells you to spit out bitter things because they could be poison. Well....I think maybe it's the same type of response! Like, no this isn't good for you, get away from it!
What kind of biopsy
What kind of biopsy did you have and when did you have it? Out here (Virginia) I had a stereotactic biopsy on a Wednesday morning and the results at noon the next day. At the breast clinic here everyone comes in for the results. I liked knowing the very next day, regardless of the outcome. You know - the percentages are actually in your favor ... all the research I've done indicates 80% of biopsies are benign. I had one 4 years ago that was benign. Please let me know how you're doing. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
what kind of vitamins do you take? sm
i had been bying vitamins from wal-mart. then i went to GNC and talk the gal that works there and she recommended GNC brand ultra gold which i do take when i think about it. but their vitamins are so big, they almost gag me, even the smell gags me. supposed to take two a day. they are loaded with stuff. just wondered what ya'll take.
ps: can't tell a difference in my energy level when i take GNC vitamins.
It's not your normal kind of tea..sm
and one cup, I don't think, will make one P three to four times during the night, but whatever works for you.
That's kind of on the high end where I am at. Do
you live in an area with a higher cost of living?
That's awesome you've found someone you are happy with though. I'm still searching! :)
And I don't mean the Geiko kind either.
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Oh my! What kind of *drugs*?
Interesting story.
what kind of camera?
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She kind of reminds me of
That african/american girl on New Adventures of Old Christine only heavier. I thought it was her at first. I bet if you look up on Soap City you'll find out.
I wonder what kind of a home
these girls came from. Perhaps they saw abuse or were abused themselves and have become immune to suffering. I do not condone what they did, but they did not grow up in a vacuum. It would be interesting to know their family background/upbringing.
LOL. I have that kind of hair too!!
Mine is longer layers and I have a LOT of it and it gets coarse sometimes after highlighting. So you should see me when I wake up in the morning sometimes. It is sticking up and out a good few inches on the top and sides! I joke with my husband, don't come too close or I may poke your eye out! LOL So I know exactly what you mean about not being able to just run out for something some days. Or God forbid, what about unexpected company or UPS or FedEx? LOL
I was kind of thinking
that too, but don't know how to make it!
first, what kind of pain do you have?
nm
What kind of music is on your
Mine is a mixture of 60s, 70s, 80s, and everything in between. I have Van Halen, Elton John, Fergie, George Jones...just to name a few. My kids listen to it and can't understand the combination, but it's just music I like. So, what's on yours? I'm looking for some suggestions to add to my collection...
That would kind of seem like using those people
Since you don't really know them all that well and your husband rarely talks to them, it kind of seems like using them to get out of paying for a hotel room. If you mention to them that you will be in the area and they actually offer you a place to stay at their home, then that would be completely different, but to call and flat out ask to stay is just plain rude. Besides, I would feel really uncomfortable staying in someone's home who I barely know. I would much rather pay for a hotel.
As kind of the new kid in town....
and a very rural town at that, I introduced myself to all my neighbors in walking distance and let them know who I was, gave them my phone number if they ever needed anything, and let them know I was gonna be bringing in some stinky animals and told them I would be doing my best to ensure they wouldn't stink up their joints. I couldn't believe how welcoming everyone was! People were genuinely happy to have farm-y neighbors and admitted they were worried when they heard we were "from away," as they thought we'd be tearing down the little house we bought to put up a McMansion or something. Neighbors even came by with carrots for the animals and asked if their kids could pat the horses and stuff. One family even invites us to their home for Thanksgiving every year because they know we don't have any family nearby and really can't leave the animals for any length of time. They give us hugs and welcome us into their home like we are their family. I can't describe the feeling--it's just awesome.
Now, when we lived in a condo in the city--out of about 100 buildings we knew maybe 3 of our neighbors. Imagine, packed in like sardines and we never talked to anyone. Rush rush rush, keep your head low and don't make eye contact. Darndest thing....of course hardly anyone spoke English as a first language there, but it was still weird to check your mail and have a bunch of people nearby and no one spoke--very icy. I'm so glad I reverted to bumpkin-like livin'.
That's kind of ignorant
That just shows that he really doesn't care all that much about how you feel or what you want. He seems to think that it's all about him. I would be furious if my husband pulled that kind of stuff! Mine is very good about that sort of thing, and he always asks or suggests and doesn't just say "this is what we're doing." I would be especially annoyed if he was planning a vacation with someone that I didn't even know!
Got one too...very respectful, kind...
not demanding at all, great looking, has a wonderful work ethic and a great job. Treats me wonderfully. We respect each other and have fun together. This is who I am growing old with! It takes two to make the relationship work and believe it or not, the man is not always the problem!
I kind of envy you
I know that is really cold, but at least winter is setting in when the holidays come. Here in Florida, even if it is cool in the morning by 10 a.m. you are sweating. It is always hard to get in the holiday spirit when you can't wear your Christmas sweater because you will overheat. Of course, I am from NY too, so I guess I associate snow with Christmas, not the beach. LOL.
Which kind of incontinence -
urge or stress?
Thank you for your kind words - NM
NM
Thanks so much for your kind words
Under my first post, I wrote what the reasons were for that counselor to be so grouchy, and the principal apologized. No matter. The kids are happy to be back at our old school and so am I. Your note here did cheer my day!
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