I lost a baby at 16 weeks. No one knows how it feels until they have gone through it.
Posted By: Kristie on 2007-05-30
In Reply to: Miscarriage survivor question for others who have been through this...sm - Sad one
It is a child you will never hold in your arms but you will forever hold them in your heart. My husband and I talked to our priest when I was having such a rough time. That really helped - because he said all those little souls are up in heaven with Jesus. Time really does help.
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I lost mine at 11 weeks also
after trying to get pregnant for 17 years. I was the same way with the due date, as well as the date that I lost them (twins). It was really strange because on the due date (that I didn't even realize at the time) at work I was so emotional and just felt like crying over every little thing, then I realized what day it was. I don't really know what to tell you because what got me out of my depression was we adopted a 1 and 2 year old a little over a year later, but everyone is different.
Definitely give Kimkins a try. I lost 22 lbs so far in 5 weeks.
What I do is eat more if I'm hungry or drink a shake. I've been going fishing with hubby and we have to walk a ways to get to the "best" spot, so I'm getting exercise, too. I posted the link underneath if you don't know the website. Good luck! 
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Plus we lost our baby-sitter so that makes - sm
it a bit harder to do anything now.....she left her mom's house after a fight and is now at her dad's which is 45 minutes away....so unless we ask the neighbors (most are retired or our age) to watch the kids we are not going anywhere without them....but will probably fall back on our one neighbor who would baby-sit for us a couple times a year, but not on VD day as she is married too. But I doubt the girl will be back as daddy lets her do anything she wants....even sleepovers in the same bed with her boyfriend....the girl is 16, totally nuts. We are all hoping she does not end up pregnant and her mom is beside herself, basically grieving over the "loss" of her daughter. Big mess, and the courts are involved (dad just wants the support money apparently).
it takes 3 weeks for a baby bird to learn to
We have to watch the dogs and cats really close until all the babies leave the yard and it is a long three weeks. Our babies usually hide in the pumpkin patch during flight school with mama guarding from the fence.
Someone here got her mad and she feels the need to get
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would someone describe low BP, how it feels?
I'm wondering if that is what i am experiencing on occasion -- ??
Glad to know not the only 1 who feels like this.
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Feels good
I registered for fall classes and shopped for the special calculator for my math class. I start back to school, just a couple of classes, on 08/22/07. It's weird to think about being a student again, but good to know this is the rope I need to make changes in the future.
This is the tax-free weekend in my State for school supplies. I'm hoping that will be true for ordering my books. Don't see why it wouldn't.
You have NO idea what 60 feels like sm
but actually it feels a lot like 40. so you must feel like 20. It' ALL good.
Feels like fall
There's a nip in the air today and a cool breeze with a hint of the smell of apples. I have a tart warmer burning that smells like pumpkin pie all through the house, yum. I love this time of year in the Northeast. Can't wait for the leaves to start changing color. 
See, my own mother probably feels like you (sm)
She gets the short end of the stick every holiday - she does live 8 hours away though. It is the opposite here - I have been practically forced to give up my side of the family for his.
I like the way it feels when i'm hungry
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Does her daughter know how she feels?
If her daughter doesn't see that this guy is an immature moron she's in trouble. Hope they never have kids together.
I would say that she feels you are the safest
and most trustworthy home in the neighborhood. She needed a safe place, and I'm sure the car smelled like you, which gives you a head up that you are the special-est one in her opinion. Honor and respect go a long way in the mind of a cat seeking security.
If the owner feels their being there could cause a problem
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Dont tell him you know how he feels. You don't. Situation
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Iowa feels like fall too!
I just am not really thrilled for the thing that follows fall. I hate hate hate hate hate hate winter.
We were in the 40s temperature wise this morning. I have my portable heater toasting my toes when I work!
Whoever said abortion feels good? nm
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I know exactly how it feels. After Dad passed away, Mom came to live with me permanently.
I have 2 sons, one almost 21 and the other 8 y.o. and I can tell you it is not easy. Some may remember in the old days how some parents would keep their kids in check by scaring the living daylights out of them by telling them stories such as the boogy man, demons, etc. My Mom tried that several times and I did put my foot down, and respectfully but firmly told her that I didn't want her to do this. My 8 y.o. also likes to play with me like yours do, and he did try that with Mom one time and I got the same results, "he hit me, your son is disrespectful." I also told my little one not to "play" with Grandma like he does with me, especially in view of the fact that she does have severe varicose veins all throughout her legs (he calls them the worms on Grandma's legs, but of course never to her face). She also goes about the fat tummy, etc. I told her also nicely that those kind of comments even though not meant to degrade, children perceive them very differently than adults. It has boiled down to the point, that my sons basically doesn't interact much with her. I understand that as the "oldest" in the house, Mom feels she knows how the house should be "run" and what she says is the "law" but she also has to understand that she has come into a "new family." Yes, I'm still her daughter and will always love and respect her, and do everything I can for her. There is just isn't and easy solution. If you tell the children not to interact too much, then they take it as the kids don't like them or your turning the kids againt them. If the children get too friendly, then they are disrepectful and have no manners. Just take it a day at a time, big breaths, inhale and exhale.
Let me clarify...I don't sit around in my pj's all day. It makes me feels sluggish, but you ca
bet I will not be wearing what I would wear to an interview. Makes no sense.
Well, the former welfare recipient has her millions now & feels
regardless if it adversely affects children. She knows full well that her books are read by children. Since she has opted to make such a poor decision, I am opting to make a good decision and no longer purchase her books, watch her movies, or buy any products related to her books as she gets a cut on everything. It's one thing to have a personal opinion about homosexuality, but she didn't have to publicly link it to a character in her books.
LOL. I hear ya! They're $3.50 here, but box feels lighter! NM
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Seriously, really, anyone have something that feels like bugs crawling inside their head
My husband, who is of very sound mind and no, not any psychiatric problems, got both feet on the ground, has told me to find a neurologist (another physician told him to do this). Hubs drive a truck and he has been telling me the strangest feelings, almost worm-like feeling that sorta snakes down 1 side, he rubs intensely and gets it to stop (I think) and then sometimes can be on the other side. Has anyone ever heard of something similar or have you had yourself. I am making him an appointment today but this is not the ordinary thing I type even though been at this for quite some time with the 4s. Thanks.
I'm not working either; it's a good thing, since my thumb feels like it will soon fall off - n
:)
It has only been two weeks, it will get better.
Maybe do more fun things with your kids, as they're probably upset right now too. You are lucky to have them and four is a blessing. And for yourself, how about joining a bowling league, a gym, or taking a craft or cooking class etc....just something to occupy your time and meet other adults and new friends. You may even meet others in the same situation and that always helps. And always remember how much better your kids lives will be in the long run being out of that kind of situation. That may help you to not be tempted to take your husband back because you are lonely, because that does happen and it's understandable. It's a long time to be with someone. Best of luck to you.
Yes, used now for over 3 weeks and
think it smells good, other than that I have not seen any change at all in the hair situation, still falling out.....
Only used them for about 1-2 weeks when they - sm
were newborns. Personally I don't think they should be used for long at all or they become dependent on them (tops 2-3 months when newborn). I know someone who has a 3-y/o who walks about with one in his mouth 24/7; can't understand him at all even when he does take it out of his mouth to talk, major speech issues I think because of it. I feel bad for him, angry with her for being lazy and not trying to get him to transfer his need for a security object to something less destructive. One of mines has a doll and blanket that are her security things, and the other and old teething toy that is a cat from Right Start with all the rubber "feet" cut off, still sleeps with it at 8, both are well-behaved and mentally developed kids with no issues of any sort.
I used to get one every 2 weeks...
I just called a local service and had 2 sisters come every other Friday. We paid them $75 plus $10 tip. We just now cancelled the service and decided to put that money in our savings account and do the cleaning ourselves:-) We had to get the house totally cleaned up anyway the night before, which was pretty stressful. It was good, though, for the year we did it. They brought their own equipment and dusted and cleaned the whole house except for the basement. We'll use them for parties like the one we're having this month, but that's it. Just check your local paper and call a few. Ask questions to see if they fit your needs. You can have them come every day if you want, once a week, every 2 weeks, or once a month, whatever you need. Good luck!
I have someone come every two weeks
She does basic cleaning - dusting, vacuuming, mopping, cleaning bathrooms. I pay her $75 each time. She has basically a one-woman business that she is just getting started up. I found her listing in the local newspaper and lucked out, because she is a really super lady and I enjoy having her here to talk to, since my husband and I are "empty-nesters" and I am home alone working all day.
As far as what you should pay, I think the area where you live and the cost of living needs to be taken into consideration. I would expect to pay someone in New York City or Los Angeles more than I would pay someone in a small Midwest town, for example.
Just my two cents.
I go to one every 3-4 weeks - sm
and when I was looking for one I asked a friend who went to one on a regular basis. As stated below there are the rip-off ones who do all this fancy garbage that does absolutely nothing. My friend said to go to a "straight" chiropractor (no clue what that means, guess it is how they practice, and one that graduated from Palmer school of Chiropracty (Sp?), pretty sure it was Palmer, if I am wrong I will post a correction. Mine is very reasonable, $45 a visit (my insurance covers it 100%). I too started out 2-3 x a week, then tapered down to 1 a week, then every 2 weeks, and now do every 3-4 weeks. I have not been for about 8 weeks now because I hurt my shoulder but it is all better now so I will probably start going again. It feels great to get the back cracked, gets so tight from sitting here all the time.
I think just a few weeks at most ... sm
I don't intend to keep the car for long. Last night we had decided until the end of the semester. After talking with it I am waffling about taking it at all. I am sure he will have it back by Thanksgiving. Thank you.
I had a bag of those a few weeks ago (sm)
My dogs finished them. So far so good. So then I bought the name brand ones this weekend at Sam's. $12.00. Evidently they are not the ones recalled, but I went and looked at the bag, and it says, "Made in China", so out they go. I can't believe I forgot to look - lately I have been looking at everything. Even if it's made in US, I'm usually afraid because of the wheat gluten, etc, that is imported. Good luck with your dog. Hope he is okay.
Just ate there 2 weeks ago - sm
WONDERFUL!!!!! This is the third Emeril's we have eaten at. We ate at one in New Orleans and one in Atlanta and now the one in Gulfport (used to live in Biloxi, so we are trying to support their rebounding economy). We always eat 4 courses and are never disappointed. ENJOY! Worth every penny!
3-1/2 weeks!
That sounds like a wonderful vacation. . I'm taking off a few days too and I'm really looking forward to it.. Hope you have a great time!
2 weeks
as it sounds like routine blood work. If no call by the 23rd I would call the office and leave a message and then you will probably hear back on that Monday.
2 weeks?
I just had bloodwork last Thursday and I got the results on Monday. I guess it just depends on the physician/lab. They used Quest Diagnostics.
I am 43....just, B-day was about 3 weeks ago- sm
My DH is 6.5 years older than I am and dying to retire. He keeps telling me at 55 he is done. He will then go out and get a PT job somewhere, probably at $7.50 an hour, just to stay active and bring in some money. I want him to keep working until he is 62 at least then one kid is done college anyway, and we will be able to sock away quite a bit in the 7 years that we have no mortgage and have for mad money, home improvements, save for kid's weddings (they are going to get 10K each and that will be it--can do what they wish with it, but that is the gift--not going to be one of those nutty parents who blow $25K on their kid's wedding--I did it for 5K, everything including honeymoon in 1996, so can they). But in 5 years the house will be paid off (2013), as well as our loan to pay off his debt. I may or may not be done with mine at that time. So there is a goal and it will be nice to be out of debt then, though our monthly expenses now, mortgage, food, utilities, college funds, etc. come to $3400 a month---luckily combined bring in about $4300 a month currently. I go for testing on the 15th for an administrative asst. position for a neighboring county sheriff. Want the job but on the other hand don't want to change my current schedule, etc. But it would be nice to have a nice steady paycheck coming in.
I go about every 3 weeks when I can - sm
I did not go for like six months and just went about 3 weeks ago. I just go when I have a little spare time anymore which is not too often. I went initially because of a car accident, very stiff neck and shoulders, went once a week, then every two weeks, now when I feel like it. Since I had not gone for a while my spine was sore for a day or two, but it does make me feel better as I get so stiff sitting here working 6-10 hours a day. Need to start exercising too, I am sure that will help too. As for dissing chiropractors there are good and bad, there are the ones who rape you with all the different machines they put you on (been to one of them, racked up $800 in 3 days), or those (as a friend swears to) are called "straight" chiropractors who attended Palmer Chiropractic school, who don't stick it to you. My visit is $45, lasts 10-15 mins, and my insurance pays for the it, no co-pay for some reason. She ends up with $36 in the end and I do not have to pay the difference. But just tell him you will be starting to come in once a month or so from now on, what is he going to do, tell you to go somewhere else as the is unacceptable to him?
He will be in about two weeks (sm)
I am going through with the separation and in fact have signed a six month lease and paid a deposit and first month's rent, so no turning back now! Thank you for your encouragement the other day and everyone else too. I do know that what he did was wrong, I was just having some grief over the "dream" I had coming to an end. I went to a board on cafemom and talked to some others who have been in abusive relationships. Apparently it is very normal for anyone divorcing to feel grief and doubt, but from what I hear, I will be feeling much happier once I am out and away from the relationship. Thanks for checking on me :)
Usually I would think about 1-2 weeks,
especially if they sent them out. What did your doctor say about calling for the results?
I just had this 2 weeks ago... (sm)
It's called pyelonephritis, and yes, you need to go to the ER. If you can't take Levaquin, they might know of something else, but still.
I'm taking something that decreases my immunity (according to the ER doc - I had never known that about Plaquenil before), and I didn't go through the high fevers, but it seemed more like it was because my body couldn't fight back with a fever. It actually made sense when the ER doc explained it, which is totally weird because the ER doc was a jerk otherwise.
Anyway, I hope you feel better VERY soon!
I told everyone at 6 weeks...
then waited to tell son when we had first ultrasound...
Ultrasound at 7 weeks?
Ack - I didn't realize docs were doing these so soon. There are so many variables in pregancies (and children) that I wouldn't be too concerned. But, after all the ultrasound horror stories that I have heard over the years, we skipped ultrasounds with both of our children. I had normal pregnancies and there was no reason to have one.
I measured completely different with both of my children through my pregnancies and with good reason, the first was 10 pounds 4 ounces, the second was 7 pounds 14 ounces.
I hope everything is fine, please let us know.
It is probably that engineer from a few weeks ago
the one that wanted extra cash because she could "type good." LOL
I started WW 4 weeks ago...
I actually NEVER cook. My kids are picky eaters, and they both are picky about different things, so we eat mostly TV dinners.
With WW, you can eat anything. You calculate "points" based on calories, fiber, and fat grams. You get a certain amount of points each day based on your weight. You also get 35 cheat points per week. If you are still hungry, you can earn points by exercising.
In 4 weeks, I've lost 6.6 pounds and I haven't felt like I was dieting even once. I wish I would have done their program years ago.
If you do cook, you can go on their website and use E-Tools to calculate points. You can enter your own recipe into the online calculator, and it will tell you how many points it is.
Right now they have a special where you don't have to pay the initial start-up fee and you get free E-Tools for $40 a month. That's what I'm doing now, and I plan to stay at it until I lose all the weight.
Good luck with whichever program you decide.
I have a maid come in every two weeks sm
She has her own business. I just lucked out - she advertised in the paper, I talked to her on the phone and then she came over and gave me an estimate and she seemed like a very nice, responsible person. She has been cleaning for me for about three months now and she does a great job and is indeed a very nice person.
I have a two-bedroom, two-bath house that is about 1800 square feet and I pay her $75 each time she cleans.
How much exercise have you had in the last 3 weeks?
The kind of exercise where your rib cage actually has to expand as far as it can go?
That kind of exercise causes relaxation, and relaxation is an antidote for anxiety attacks.
I was also helped by learning relaxation with biofeedback and I also take Effexor. Not everybody can take that though.
It's only been on the market 2 weeks
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Or eat the 2 weeks and get professional from here.
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I definitely needed him a few weeks ago.
Definitely HOT. What did you think of the season finale?
For the last two weeks I have been listening
to Christmas music in my car. Don't know why, but I was in the mood for some Manheim Steamroller, even if it is a little early in the year. I have to say that when I listen to the Hallelujah Chorus on this particular CD it makes everything that is wrong in my life seem so insignificant. I love this group's music. It just makes you happy.
Merry Christmas, a little early!
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