I know he is depressed...but
Posted By: Anonymous on 2009-04-19
In Reply to: I wonder if he has depression & if - sm
he refuses to ask a doctor about it and get medication. I have tried multiple times to get him to. I have to take antidepressants myself. If I don't I don't want to do anything. I have told him this, but he won't listen. So I can't force him. I let him eat when he comes over and all. But what I am concerned about is when he is evicted he can't live here and how do I tell him that? My husband says absolutely not because he sold a mobile home he had a few months back that was paid for and blew the money. He said he shouldn't have sold it and he would have a place to live. He said he cannot live here. I have to tell him if he asks no. And he does hint about it. My husband is a truckdriver and I know when he is gone dad is gonna say well can I just sleep here while he is gone. My husband says no he is not. He said he has to learn to stand on his own two feet. How do I tell him? How would you go about it? I thought I would just say you have to talk to Steven (my husband). Of course he isn't gonna ask my husband.
What to do, What to do?
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You seem to be depressed. You should be SM
getting some joy from life, your work, your family, your friends. Those are the most important things.
Is there any way you can see a therapist? I would talk to your family physician about antidepressants or see who he/she can recommend you see.
No way! He may be depressed,
but he created this huge mess of his life. It is not his daughter's responsibility to pick up the pieces for him. (Just to fill in the back story, dad blew all his money on a mistress. Mom didn't just throw him out.)
I think the OP should have her husband tell her dad in no uncertain terms that he WILL NOT be staying with them when he loses his apartment. Since the OP understandably has a weak spot for her dad, her hubby should step in BEFORE he is out on the street, look ole' dad in the eye and tell him it's time to be a man and stop the whining.
Just wondering, OP, has your dad ever asked you or your mother to forgive him for all the pain he caused?
Sweetie, I am depressed because of the
state of the world, and I guess maybe I was supposed to post for you. I wish I could help you, bring you a smile. Your poor children. What a sad world this is with people hurting as you are hurting. That is what is depressing me. I guess I did expect maybe a smile from these people in real life. That's all I tried to say. I am depressed over what kind of world this is, where neighbors can't say hello and smile, where even church members just are members on paper only on a mailing list, but can't sit and smile, especially during the Holidays. I am so sorry for all the hurt you have been thru, and, yes, I have been seriously hurt as well. I have moved on, though, and will never ever lose my joy. Thank you sincerely for helping me see this. 
I'm officially depressed
If I made $80,000/year , I would think I was rich. . I am single but only make about 19,000 per year - thank God my child is out on her own.
I feel exactly the same. I am very depressed and
anxious now about everything and don't have the money for it this year. I have to find a way to tell my nieces, etc. that I am not buying gifts this year, but it is hard. My mom is elderly and ill and things are not right for it this year. Good luck to you.
She sounds depressed. Sorry if that offends
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Just venting somewhat about depressed parents sm
I feel the need to vent a little about my parents. I talk sometimes with my hubby but he doesn't give much input. I'm close with my parents (I'm 36 they are in their mid 50s). My dad has always been controlling and negative (causing stress on our family). I'm an only child. I'm not going to go into deep details about stuff. My parents are not financially stable. My mom is a hard worker, always has been. My dad hasn't worked for almost 9 years. He rehabs houses when he has one to rehab. They are down in the dumps I think because of money. My mom gets stressed out with her job and then not having financial help from my dad, that stresses her. My dad is a negative person. He lost his mom when he was in his 20s and I'm not sure if he believes in God. He doesn't have faith at all. He gets jealous when my kids stay the night with my in-laws (my parents like my in-laws). There's no talking with my dad. The one time I tried to talk to him about something he said to me that hurt my feelings (I was 30), he didn't talk to me for a whole week. Sometimes I feel guilty for being happy. My hubby and I are fine financially, with our faith. I wish I could sit them down and talk with them, but there would be nothing but negative talk coming from them. I know that really you can't help someone unless they are ready to help themselves. It's really hard to say exactly what I feel. I love my parents, I want them to be happy, but then I feel like YOU are the only one who can change your life, or what makes you happy. I don't want disconnect from my parents (they live a mile from us). If my dad would just go get a job, I believe he'd feel so much better about himself. Anyway, I'm really sorry for rambling on like this. I just don't have anyone to talk to. I sometimes feel responsible for my parent's happiness/unhappiness. But growing up, I could never do anything right to please my dad, so I guess that's why I feel that way. There's so much I could type about, but not going to. There have been numerous times I thought to myself that I wish my mom would've never married my dad. Anyway, thanks for listening.
Actually, he sounds clinically depressed - sm
I would call the local "crisis response team" and say you think he is a danger to himself, to get him in for a 72-hour evaluation. Sounds to me like he needs to be on some meds, get some counseling, and - if he is faking - see that his threats have consequences. If he isn't faking, you'll have helped him get professional care. Good luck.
I am so depressed about them finding James Kim dead. I am having a really sm
hard time grasping this that I can't imagine what his poor wife and family must be going through. I can't even move and want to read everything about them finding him, etc. if he only stayed in the car with them - He left Saturday morning to look for help and the found his wife and girls on Monday. And he was found dead today miles from where the car was found.
I guess I could thank God that his wife and 2 children are still alive. I am happy they are alive, but it just makes me unbelievably sad what he must have gone through. He had such a great will to live and yet he died out there.
I don't know if anyone out there reading this who lives in Oregon, but I certainly have zero desire to EVER venture out into the Oregon wilderness, now more so than ever. I've heard horror stories about one-lane, winding, extremely hazardous roads and I don't understand why the state won't fix that? This isn't the first family to go through something like this because a lot of maps are contradicting.
This should serve as a warning to anyone who wants to travel the Oregon mountains, especially in the wintertime - DON'T DO IT.
How tragic and sad. 
Why would it offend me? And suggesting someone is depressed isn't a putdown anyhow. NM
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I am feeling very depressed this Christmas season. I feel guilty because I
would rather it would be over. I have no money to shop, and things in general are bad in my life. I am trying very hard to focus on what matters this time of year and what it is about. Anyone else having difficulty now?
Hayseed..you crack me up.. I needed that. I was sitting here on the verge of tears..depressed..and
you made me laugh. Sadly, even her dad couldn't save her though. She lived with him but he was on the verge of a heart attack ( I feel his pain). He said he tried to avoid going home because he would get heart palpitations which I now recognize as anxiety that I also get around her. He just couldn't deal with it anymore. She drives everyone away and that hurts me too but yeah I keep thinking the only way I'll ever get away from her is enroll in a witness protection program..and of course, I feel guilty for wanting to get away from her.
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