I know exactly how it feels. After Dad passed away, Mom came to live with me permanently.
Posted By: Spice on 2007-06-19
In Reply to: I think you're right - I did tell them not to play that way anymore (sm) - Second week here!
I have 2 sons, one almost 21 and the other 8 y.o. and I can tell you it is not easy. Some may remember in the old days how some parents would keep their kids in check by scaring the living daylights out of them by telling them stories such as the boogy man, demons, etc. My Mom tried that several times and I did put my foot down, and respectfully but firmly told her that I didn't want her to do this. My 8 y.o. also likes to play with me like yours do, and he did try that with Mom one time and I got the same results, "he hit me, your son is disrespectful." I also told my little one not to "play" with Grandma like he does with me, especially in view of the fact that she does have severe varicose veins all throughout her legs (he calls them the worms on Grandma's legs, but of course never to her face). She also goes about the fat tummy, etc. I told her also nicely that those kind of comments even though not meant to degrade, children perceive them very differently than adults. It has boiled down to the point, that my sons basically doesn't interact much with her. I understand that as the "oldest" in the house, Mom feels she knows how the house should be "run" and what she says is the "law" but she also has to understand that she has come into a "new family." Yes, I'm still her daughter and will always love and respect her, and do everything I can for her. There is just isn't and easy solution. If you tell the children not to interact too much, then they take it as the kids don't like them or your turning the kids againt them. If the children get too friendly, then they are disrepectful and have no manners. Just take it a day at a time, big breaths, inhale and exhale.
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See, my own mother probably feels like you (sm)
She gets the short end of the stick every holiday - she does live 8 hours away though. It is the opposite here - I have been practically forced to give up my side of the family for his.
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If her daughter doesn't see that this guy is an immature moron she's in trouble. Hope they never have kids together.
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If the owner feels their being there could cause a problem
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Dont tell him you know how he feels. You don't. Situation
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Best tip that was passed on to me was -
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My MIL passed away....
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My husband has an older brother and his sister died 15 years ago  . We all get along well with BIL and his family. Our one nephew is at our house as much as our own kids, which is great. I always lived 2 hours away from my cousins.
My sister also married a great guy and we all go on vacation together with my parents every summer.
I think I'm pretty lucky! 
I'm sorry he passed away, but
you are right - it sounds like he died a very happy horse, cherished and doing what he wanted to be doing.
He was a handsome boy.
When my dad passed away very
suddenly at age 70 we were very sad and went through all the emotions of what you said. It took us a couple of days to realize what dad said to us for all those years before we planned a celebration of his life and everything changed the day we planned the memorial. Everybody grieves in different ways. Some cry, some celebrate the life the person lived.
My dad was a jokester and always said when he passed to just put him in a cardboard box and drop him (for years we were told this). He lived his life like he wanted. When we were planning the memorial for him, as we had him cremated, the funeral director must have thought he met the craziest family ever. I went with my mom to pick out an urn for him along with some other family members. Sitting there going through the brochure and just like reading a book I turned to the last page and just started cracking up, laughing so hard I started crying. I start getting kicks under the table, evil eyes from others and weird looks from the funeral director. They all turn to the last page and there on the back page is this dilapidated cardboard box and they all started cracking up with me. By this time everyone is laughing and crying and mom is saying "should I" - she didnt. That was when everything turned for us. Dad was probably looking down at us laughing thinking that we would do it. He was very vocal for years about how he wanted to go and be remembered and it took that one day to realize that for us.
Seriously, really, anyone have something that feels like bugs crawling inside their head
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Food should be passed to the right, or
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I mom passed away last September..sm
I cannot put into words how awful this has been. My mom was only 63 and not sick when she passed. She was my best friend...my entire life. I truely understand what you are feeling. I miss having her here for holidays, birthday parties, and everything else. This year on Mother's Day it had to be the worst day ever, as my birthday fell right on Mother's Day. I hate when people tell me she is in a better place and blah..blah..blah. Why is that better than here with her family where we all loved and cherished her? The only thing I know is that it does not get any better with time. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time and always remember the love you have for them. I remember my mom everyday and cry for her and love her everyday. My heart aches knowing it will never be the way it used to be. My prayers are for you and what you are feeling. Take Care.
When my mother passed away sm
the only thing she had specified was the burial service. My brother and I chose to have donations made to the church (my mother and my family all attended the same church) and the money was specified for youth programs. I recieved many cards, all were addressed to the entire family. They truely brought me some comfort. Personal messages inside are very thoughtful and truely touched my heart I still get them out from time to time and that also helps. I still remember exactly who called a few weeks later just to see how I was getting along, so definitely do that.
My dad passed away recently too
You say you think it is disrespectful to cremate and memorialize later.
Some things you should take into consideration. Did your cousin pass away far from home? My dad did. In fact, he was 1610 miles from home, on the road, with only my mother there with him. Options were limited.
Secondly, where is the family? All of us kids are on the west coast, my dad's family is in the mid west. As a matter of fact, my mom and dad had just sold their home here on the west coast and moved back to my dad's home town less than one month ago.
Third, who are you to decide what is the best for everyone? Our IMMEDIATE family has lost a father, husband, and grandfather. It is our choice and we are the ones who were informed of his wishes prior to his death, not our cousins, aunts, uncles, etc... How would you know?
I don’t like expired and also don’t like passed on
passed to where? Get this, our newspaper publishes Happy Birthday in the paper to people who have died years before - I did not think you had a birthday, much less a happy birthday after you died.
I'm not working either; it's a good thing, since my thumb feels like it will soon fall off - n
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Angels passed by our home
only 2 months ago and my dad took his heavenly flight.
Only a God-called grandmother could love you as she did. The only way your grandmother could have ever share such love for you was first being loved by God. Paradise is her home!
My dad had COPD and was diagnosed with cancer in November of 2006 and sent home with hospice with 6 months to live. He passed away in less than 2 months.
He asked hospice to please not let him "smother to death." His last 2 weeks were exactly as you described. I had difficulty watching as he was administered morphine and Ativan because I knew the morphine would suppress his respiratory system even more. He was on oxygen but struggled with every breath. He began to conserve all his energy just to breathe. He was alert but spoke very little. He was given only water via sponge and all medications were stopped the week of his passing. My family and I were by his bedside the entire time, and every day he became more weaker. He asked that we pray that the Lord would come soon, and all this time I'm trying to convince my family that we needed to take a more aggressive approach (IV fluids and blood transfusion). Early morning on the day of his death he became unconscious. There was the most precious, sweet comfort and peace felt by everyone in the room at the exact moment my dad drew his last struggling breath and took his heavenly flight.
As 2 months have now passed, I realize the care he received was appropriate, and hospice was loving and caring. I just wasn't ready to "let my dad go."
May you feel God's presence in the sweet memory of your grandmother. Grandmothers are earthly angels from God.
food passed to the right but if someone is serving
Once, right in the nose and fell down/passed out
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Previously DST started on: With the new law, DST will start on: Previously DST ended on: With the new law, DST will end on:
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I passed around several transcription books -sm
at the beginning of a semester to a class at a business school for the 20+-year-old students to see various TX resources available and afterwards, one book was "missing". I was very surprised. Bottom line: The bookstore was out the book, and I hated the loss for the school. Actually the bookstore was probably out twice for the book if it was afterwards returned to the bookstore for resale by the student who stole it.
Michigan passed it and I support it.
I think anyone who is seriously ill should have whatever is available to help ease their pain. I know it helps with nausea of chemotherapy too. I think it should be decriminalized. People are killed every day by drunk driving or those who go into violent rages or blackouts. Most pot smokers will only get enraged if you try to take away their Dorito's! 
I agree....and pills are just passed out
Like candy anymore. I see people come into the office with a list of meds so long they cannot possibly remember the names... also, even though doctors claim they can prescribe 10 different meds for a patient without interactions, I worry about that. How can they possibly know that, especially when every human being's chemistry is a little different. ??
Farrah Fawcett has passed away. RiP sm
When I would walk down the halls at my junior high, Farrahs were everywhere, on nearly every boy's locker door. They even called the main hall "Farrahway" because her image was everywhere. I struggled to keep my hair like hers with a curling iron and a few cans of AquaNet a week. She was very much a part of my youth.
RIP, Farrah.
Voted for your hospital and passed on info
to the officers of my Civil War Round Table. If I read the map correctly, ya'll are just down the road from the Andersonville National Historic Site. I hope they will either put it out as an E-mail broadcast to the membership or put a blurb in our newsletter. Our big auction to raise funds for battlefield preservation is Friday. I've signed up to make an announcement there. We may be up north, but we do have a contingent of loyal Confederates (smile) and some experience with tornados.
Phone calls are defininely in order here first! Passed
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Mandatory spay/neuter was just passed in Calif -
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Animal abuse was finally passed as a felony
and it should be enforced as such...for good reason. These "kids" would probably not think twice about taking a human life. It is well documented that people who will abuse animals will/and do all sorts of other criminal activity. To say they only need counseling and help is not right in my opinion. They DO need counseling, but they also need to pay for the crime they did, period.
Do you not think someone with repeated DWIs probably has a mental problem and has had crap thrown at them as a child? But you would probably want them to serve a sentence. Anyone who engages in criminal activity such as this or repeated criminal activity probably has not had a good upbringing. That does not mean that they do not serve their sentence though.
To compare hollywood celebrities who walk away from DUIs to this case is crazy. If anything, don't let them off cause the others are being let off. Instead, why don't you advocate that more is done in our justice system to assure everyone has to pay for their criminal activity. I do not think 3 years is too much at all. During those 3 years, hopefully they will also get the help they need too.
Daughter just passed her state nursing boards. Whoopeee!!!! (sm)
She worked weekends only while she was in school and had 2 children 8 and 5. Child support was fairly regular to the big tune of $329 a month. She did get state assistance on daycare for the youngest, her friend owned a mobile home and let her use it for free, just paying lot rent. We helped with utilities, clothing, and food. Her sister did the babysitting weekends while she worked and helped out while she studied at night. All in all, it was a combined effort and we are all so proud. She worked hard to get to the point where she can now buy a nice home and support her children on her own. So proud, just had to brag.
Estelle Getty of the Golden Girls passed away this morning SM
at age 84 after suffering with advanced dementia for the last several years. What a talent. The Golden Girls is my all time favorite show and I still watch it every day and never get tired of it.
I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
One of Vergie's (Anna Nicole's mother) attorneys passed out. He said he is a diabetic. nm
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Okay, Utah passed a law permitting college students to now carry guns. sm
I am very for this and think it's a great idea. Now let's see how many colleges in Utah have shoot outs like those in the other states. I bet shooters will think twice about going in and blowing a place up knowing that there are probably many people carrying concealed weapons. I would feel much safer in a Utah college than anywhere else.
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
 (How un-PC is this emoticon?!)
Nah, and I NEVER pass on those round robin letters for good luck, money, love, etc. if passed on in
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Make them live outside? This is so funny! Ours live outside, where they WANT to be. sm
Not all dogs want to be in "indoor" dogs, mind you. They have plenty of space to run around and play, fenced, and if they are brought in during bad weather they whine at the back door to go back out! So before you comment on outside dogs, you really need to get your facts straight. Seriously. Not all dogs are made or want to be inside all of the time.
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