I knew about 2 happening in adult because
Posted By: Marilyn on 2009-04-08
In Reply to: Either can happen at any time in your life - sm -
my father was diagnosed with diabetes at the age of approximately 87 or so but it also ran in his family, his mother died years earlier from renal failure, long before dialysis was around. I had always thought with type 1 that was from childhood and the doctor today said it was 1 if it ran in the family. My husband was diagnosed several years before he had to start on medications as he kept under control with diet alone, watching what he eats and not overdoing plus checking blood sugars. Thanks for your input.
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If it's not happening, it's not happening. As for the money . . SM
I would be very suspicious of that, particularly from someone you barely see or talk to. Sounds either like he is married or a freeloader. or both. Save yourself the pain and move on. 
I am sorry this is happening to you --sm
First off, I think your BIL, and this is just my opinion so I don't need to be bashed for it, is TOTALLY responsible for the vehicle, since it was in his possession at the time, with your permission, of course. From the sounds of it, it seems like he had more than one option of what he could have done with those vehicles. It was his *negligence* in maintaining due care for your property that caused it to be stolen. Let's, for instance, say that he had borrowed a car from you. The car was in an accident while in his possession. He would be responsible. In my opinion, it would hold the same for this instance. Have the police been notified? Unfortunately, these types of things can cause family rifts that may never heal. the damage has already been done, so maybe you should speak to a lawyer to see what YOUR options are. Personally, I wouldn't just sit back and let them sherk their responsibilities. If the shoe were on the other foot, would they be so willing to just let it go and be out the $1700? Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do.
You will probably never know - unless it keeps happening. sm)
This happened to me once. Same treatment for it that your DH got - I never had it again and never did find out what caused it. All I know is boy was I relieved to have that horrible itching stop!
I see this happening with my eldest son now
He is 30, engaged for 2 years, getting married in 3 weeks - 10 hours away with only 1 month's notice to his family - and because of all kinds of strange things - new jobs, DD's second baby due any minute - there is no way any of us can go. She has been here to our house 3 times in 10 years - won't make Christmas/Thanksgiving as it is 90 miles and too far. My son knows she is selfish but is accepting of it and so we all have to be also - but I seriously doubt I will have much of a relationship with his children but I will do what I can - like I'm sure you have - but it takes cooperation and work on all sides and so far I have not seen any effort from her and doubt I ever will. I think somehow it is a 'power' struggle/play with her and I won't play her games - I won't quit - but I just won't play.
Reversal will not be happening, as
I don't have kids and don't want any. Like I said, I wanted to get this done when I was 20 (maybe even before, don't remember exactly), but the doctors either refused to do it or looked at me like I had 3 eyes when they found I had no kids yet. I told them I was definitely not going to change my mind about this, and I was 100% sure. So, either they don't think women can be sure about this, or they thought I couldn't possibly be a woman who didn't want kids (like something is wrong with that). At any rate, it still makes me mad as I didn't start with the chronic pain until my mid 20s, and it would have been much easier for me to do this back before it started and my health was better.
I'm mostly worried about the pain aspect as the slightest bit of pain is intensified a thousand times over, and I already have way too much to handle. I was trying to avoid the surgery and get an IUD instead. However, like I said below, I was told it is not recommended in women who have not had children. So, the tubal is kind of a last resort.
Thank you-I know it's bad - if it was happening to a friend (sm)
I would be telling her the same thing you are telling us. I don't know why it's so hard to tell myself the same thing. Thank you for caring. I am going to make copies of everything so that if I do get some courage together I'll have my act together too.
Exactly what is happening further up the coast
never been hit but could be and so insurance companies hightailing it. Where I live tornados (hurricaines on land) come through occasionally and I am sooo scared of these as sure most others are. I used to live on the coast on St Simons Island, hated it, but do not care for either situation as far as weather is concerned.
What's happening to Schools
Everytime I pick up a newspaper, watch the news or read stuff off the internet I hear about schools being in lockdown. Why is this happening? It wasn't heard of way back when. Don't the schools today lock their doors any when school is in session and use a buzzer to let people in and out? This is really scary. Schools today need to put more security in place. I can't imagine being a student, parent or school official and having to deal with this.
What is happening to this country
How in the world did they come to the conclusion that has to do with drugs. It could mean a hundred things. When DH and I are arguing he does that all the time (like the poster below said) it means time out. The kids in the pics look like a couple of nice teenagers (except of course not one of the best poses for a prom photo.
I wonder how many other people this is happening to? -sm
It would be QUITE the major news story if it turned out they were doing this to millions of people across the country. (But I sure wouldn't put it past our government to do it, either!) Maybe that was the plan all along.
That is happening where I live also. The
way I look at it, is it more sensible to take 1 day a week or so without pay versus the possibility of being laid off and only drawing unemployment.
So tired of this happening.
http://www.comcast.net/articles/news-national/20090331/Infant.Mauled/
Isn't there anything else happening to talk about?
I can't be the only tired of all the news coverage.
Other things could be happening here. Call parent
I agree that your daughter is responsible for her phone and her charges. She should take it up with her friend and/or the friend's mother.
But you, as the adult, should also contact the other child's mother, and here's why. A lovely woman I know recently had to hospitalize her 15-year-old daughter after a suicide attempt. It's a long story, but basically, she got mixed up in an online romance. She was cut off from computer and cell phones at home, but she was working around it everywhere else. In the end, when it was all discovered, along with other things happening, this young girl tried to kill herself over the entire mess.
It could be that the girl who did the texting is not allowed to text, and this is how she worked around it. It could be a simple thing or not. Maybe she was running up text messages on her parents plan, and her parents put a stop to it. Or it could be that she's contacting someone that her parents don't want her to contact. In any case, her parents need to know that she is sending text messages. Provide them with that information. What you do about the bill is a different matter, I think.
A US Airways plane crashed into Hudson River in NYC. Just happening now
Plane looks intact and people on rafts in the really, really cold water. Not sure if people are still inside. Hope everyone is okay.
I had them as an adult (sm)
I had braces from about 27 to 31 years old. It was painful - but definitely worth it. I had a crossbite that was embarassing to me for years. You will get used to wearing the braces and won't be so self-conscious soon - it's just because they're new that it's bothering you right now. And it will be worth it when you're done!
adult boy
Thank you. I hate it when people blast others.
I have adult ADD....
as well as depression, anxiety and OCD. After battling for years with just the depression symptoms, there were still concerns in my life which I thought medication and therapy could fix but didn't. These things drove me crazy...Not being able to finish a project - for example a crochet throw I have been working on for over 5 years, various projects started and left hanging, never able to keep at the same task, etc. Now with the help of Adderall I am able to focus for a few hours at a time (I do have withdrawal effects) and I am able to work with less distraction. It has not been a cure-all, but it has brought me some peace of mind being able to get my work done in a reasonable period of time, rather than having the constant urges to do other things.
he was an adult, by our standards, and would have been--sm
accountable for his own actions if he had been arrested and sent to trial. However, if there was familial abuse involved which perpetuated this act of violence, it should be addressed in some manner, but not for the parents to be held accountable for what he did as a result of it. Sometimes even knowing about a person's difficulties is not enough to change them or prevent them from doing something horrible like this. Obviously there were a lot of people, in retrospect, who felt this person had severe problems and they chose to do nothing about it either. He was seeing a therapist, but should the therapist be held accountable, as well? It just comes down to every one being accountable for their own actions.
No, he is an adult and responsible for himself.
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on adult swim
I've seen it.....What about The Boondocks or South Park? I have too have a sick and twisted sense of humor.....
Too bad some responsible adult...
could not get those kids. We have a celebutard, immature, crazy mother against a wanna be anything hanger on who is only interested in money...some role models! I hope there is money put away for the therapy those kids will need. The parents even give white trash a bad name!
Adult Behavioral Changes
Call a neurologist who specializes, one who may probabably also have a PhD in Psych. Go in by yourself if you have to and describe what you are experiencing and maybe he or she can give you some direction and information that may help you have your husband evaluated. There are tests he can administer and others that he can send him out for. There are several things that come to mind, but without evaluation this is speculation. It is possible that after you consult a neurologist that he may send you out for evaluation by either a psychologist or psychiatrist, or both. Maybe he has family members or good friends who will help you to encourage him to be evaluated? No matter the outcome, it is best if you consult someone professional who can steer you in the right direction. Best wishes to you. I will be thinking of you. Let us know how this works out.
Legally, yes, but how adult were you at 18? nm
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Perks of being an adult
Sometimes I feel like it really stinks to be an adult with all the responsibilities and stress and I'd love to go back to being a child. What are the little perks of being an adult that you have found?
I found a simple one this morning...I picked all the marshmellows out of the last bit of Lucky Charms to have extra in my bowl.  No I won't dare tell my 10yo I did that.  I thought it was a better alternative to having a brownie for breakfast which is what I really wanted!
You're obviously the only ADULT between the two
Someone has to teach your daughter to have the money in hand for things you want; otherwise, when will she ever learn to work for what she wants? Handing it over BEFORE the money is made is a huge mistake.
I watched my husband do this with our son and he always said he would pay us back but he needed it NOW because it was on sale or some such garbage. He would be given more labor intensive chores around the house to make the money but never paid us back.
No matter how much I told my son he was not going to get a penny out of me without the job done first, my husband always went behind my back and bought it beforehand, gave it to him, and of course my son had absolutely no motivation to pay for anything. Long story short, he is now 23 years old and still doesn't get the point of working to pay for what you want.....
My husband is very good with money, as am I, but I was raised to pay for what you want and not on credit. Children really need to learn this lesson early on. I was always surprised my husband handed everything over to him because husband worked since he was 12 years old at jobs the labor laws would never allow now! If he wanted anything, he paid for it himself.....the end!! No discussion!
Our son is still loafing around in college, home for summer now, supposed to have a job but of course does not because he knows his dad will not do anything about it, and if I say anything, I get chewed out and disrespected by our son because he knows I have no back up.
You stick to your guns and do what is right..... you do not want her to turn out like that! Her tears will go away. She wanted to umpire, let her umpire and I would definitely tell her how her first responsibility is to umpire. NO CREDIT FOR A TEENAGER!! EVER!
I too met my "father" as a teen/adult.
I had always asked questions. My mom was always very honest when she felt we could handle it about why they broke up (he was abusive). He contacted my brother and me when I was 16. I met him, found out he wasn't my "dad" since that was someone who would have at least been there for me when I needed him or to even know so I consider my "father" as a sperm donor. I am glad I did meet him and have closure (like someone else mentioned) because I think I would have always been curious but I didn't pursue a relationship with him. My father-in-law has been a real dad to me but my blood relative father is not a dad.
I agree with what someone mentioned too that your mom may not have been totally honest, wanting you to not want to pursue meeting him. I was lucky, my mom never badmouthed him when we were growing up even when we had all these questions about him, why they didn't stay married, what it would be like if they had stayed together and everything else. I realize now of course my mom was smart to have gotten out at the beginning. Once an abuser always an abuser so I'm relieved now. If you want to talk about it more let me know and I'll send you my e-mail.
I am teaching an adult class sm
but will use this same lesson when we start back with our weekly youth meetings in the fall. I got the idea for this lesson from Fannie Flagg's book Can't Wait to Get to Heaven. The book is obviously fiction but has a "quirky" (most all the characters in the book are quirky-think Mayberry) person's take on heaven when she dies for just a short time and visits heaven. The book is a wonderfully funny read (just a few swear words but it is very clean). I have read all of her books and thoroughly enjoyed them all. Thank you for responding.
Maybe you can try adult conditioner. My daughter SM
has thick curly hair. I would wash it every day. She never did mind my combing or brushing it. You could also try one of those plastic brushes with bristles wide apart.
My daughter is now 32 and does her own hair.
Adult ADD? Never diagnosed but wondering (sm)
So all my life I have been disorganized, first it was papers hanging out everywhere from my notebook, now it is everything in the world stuffed in my purse. My mind wanders all the time. I do transcription but flip back and fourth between here and my work and my e-mail and other things on the net that interest me. And i have to have background noise while I do all this. My house gets very cluttered and than I have to work like a maniac to get it cleaned up but still things are kind of in haphazard places, not really organized. I just always feel overly busy, overly tired, and behind on everything. So....could I have ADD? Or am I just too busy, bored with sitting in front of the computer, and disorganized??
I was actually dxd with adult ADD several years back sm
by a psychiologist. I had symptoms similar to yours and was being treated for depression at the time and sent by my psychiatrist to this person who gave me a computer test and then gave me the same test 6-8 weeks later on medication to see if the results were different - and they definitely were. If I recall correctly it had to do with reaction times and how long my concentration was, etc. The results were a little shocking. I think I knew for years I had it - my oldest son was dxd years ago but it was just kind of lurking in the back of my mind and didn't come forward until I started having serious problems with getting my work done and making a decent living at MT... I finally took medication upped my BP so badly I had to quit. I just try to go with the flow now - I have white noise playing in the background while working, shut my door, note on it not to bother me unless house is on fire, set goals for myself and treat myself with done with work and try hard not to let emails and IMs distract me. I leave all my other chores until the very last minute/second and then rush to complete and am always late and cook everything on high and burn or overdo things as always in a hurry - can't remember all of the other things I do - they have just become a part of me. I did do much better on medication and if I seriously needed again would definitely look into another one.
My very first boxer as an adult had kennel
cough. I rescued her from a pet shop under similar circumstances. She had been there with her brother and her brother died. I refused to let her die in a pet store so brought her home took her to the vet and got her started on medication. The first month was rough, there were nights I just sat in bed and held her, she felt so miserable. She finally got through it and after that rocky start she lived to the age of 13.5 with not another medical problem the rest of her life.
Why don't you be a mom and take care of your daughter until she is an adult? sm
Boyfriend, spoiled, blah, blah. You are her parent. You need to provide her a place to live until she is old enough to do so herself. I would either allow her to move in with you and your boyfriend or I would rent her a place to live. She is not old enough to be expected to find a roommate and pay all her own bills yet. If you had done your job to begin with she wouldn't be spoiled or having such issues.
18 IS legally considered an adult.
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sounds like you will have to be the adult in this situation as the ex is not ---
and follow the mother's lead - she knows her daughter, she sees/hears the tantrums and probably way more often than you; she is being the adult in the situation as you are, so don't lose it.
food for thought: she was hurting at the funeral. sometimes people put all their hurts in one pocket and never deal with it, never heal. gram died, the pocket opened and out it all came. you may be only one situation she put away for a rainy day.
The nicest adult I know is my BEST FRIEND, because
She still likes me even though she now lives clear across the country and has new friends there. Emails me all the time, and makes it a point to get together when she's in town. She has never ever said anything mean or derrogatory to me or about me. She has also given me moral support when I was depressed, or recovering from surgery. I dont know of ANYONE who doesn't like her. Pretty rare, these days!
I'm also a big fan of adopting ADULT cats!
I don't have the time nor storage space to 'kitten-proof' my tiny, cluttered apartment. I like how quickly an adult cat will come to love me (usually just a couple days - in the case of my current one, about 2 seconds!) Also how quickly they adopt daily routine similar to mine.
They aren't totally non-destructive (I doubt if there is such an animal). One insists on sharpening her claws on my good faux-Persian rug in the living room, pulling little tufts out of it. So I try to keep them well-trimmed. The other one likes to barf up hairballs on the light tan carpet that stains more easily, but those "oxy" types of cleaners work on those.
Other than that, it's just the occasional object they may knock over and break (which I try to keep out of their reach), or the hair everywhere, which is just part of life with any pet.
I agree with the other posters, though - I wouldn't want to live without them, so I guess I'll just have to deal with the occasional mess.
Legally an 18 year old is an adult, so
therefore not a minor, however ethically a teacher should not be messing around with a student.
curfews and adult children
We went through this with both our kids, and repeatedly I tried to get it through their heads (okay, thick skulls, lol!) that I worry about their safety, that I NEED to know that they're safe. I told them also that their driving privileges could be revoked if I saw fit (I'm not sure they believed I would actually do that, though, and I ended up never needing to go that far). But the main thing that I think finally got through to them is that I really do genuinely worry. I can't sleep peacefully when they're home from college or home visiting now, if they're not back under the roof here when they say they will be. (I don't have as big an issue with that when they're at college or living in their own place; then, a once weekly call is enough to keep my quiet!) I've also been known to ask for extra contact numbers of their friends, in case their cell phone dies or they lose it or whatever (yes, it has happened, and the extra contact numbers have come in handy). But the agreement with the extra contact numbers is that I won't use them unless there is a true emergency here or they haven't checked in at their agreed upon frequency. They don't want me to embarrass them to their friends because Mommy is checking up on them.
Whether it is safe for an 18-year-old to be out after midnight is perhaps a relative question - relative to where you live, what the night-life in your area is like, how many deer cross the backroads randomly during deer season, whether you live in an urban area with a lot of party clubs that 18yo kids don't need to be tempted to visit, etc. You get the idea.
But first and foremost, get it through her head that you need to know that she is safe, that she needs to check in with your regularly if she's going to be out late.
As for my kids - we got through those rocky years, and now when I go to visit them, they expect ME to call THEM to let them know that I arrived home safely. Life is good!
We had no curfews for our adult children.
And I consider 18 an adult.
As each of our children reached age 18, we had a frank discussion with them and laid out what we expected of them. We told them that they were now basically non-paying roommates. Because we loved them and wanted to give them a boost into adult life, we kept our home open to them, paid their living expenses, and supported them in pursuit of their dreams. But as parents, we worry. All curfews and restrictions were dropped the day they turned 18. They didn't have to tell us where they were going or what they were doing. But we asked that they not worry us. We requested that they give us approximate times of coming and going. I needed to know whether they would be eating with us, and basically at what hour I should start worrying if they hadn't returned home. I also asked that since we were paying their tuition (high school and college) that they keep good grades. Our first son was not a great student, and we told him that we did not consider paying his way to college a good investment of our hard-earned money. We asked him to prove his seriousness by working, attending community college full-time and paying the community college tuition himself. He did that, received good grades, and then transferred to a state university with our blessing and tuition assistance. Since our sons drove our cars, we told them that we would not allow them the use of our car if they stayed out later than expected without calling home or had any driving issues, or God forbid, drinking. Any major infractions, drugs, drinking, legal issues, and we'd close our home to them, as well.
The discussion was very honest. They told us what they wanted from us, too, which was to be treated as adults. That was fine with us. We gave them quite a bit. A place to live, a car to drive, an education, and respect. They gave us respect in return, and actually never stayed out very late. On occasion, if stayed out longer on weekends, they called or left text messages so that we wouldn't worry if their plans went later than expected.
Children need to learn to act like adults. We have to treat them as adults, but it's also fine to give them a bit of help as they head out into the world on their own. If your child is a responsible teenager, likely the transition to adulthood won't be so bumpy (but do expect a few bumps). Just sit down and talk about expectations, listen to your child, and come to an agreement. I think that I enjoy my adult relationship with my children much more than I did when they were young. And after all, if we live out even an average life span, we will know our children as adults much longer than we know them as children. Best to get use to them being adults!
I wore them as an adult for 18 months - sm
Nobody likes wearing them, but you will eventually get used to them and what you can and cannot do while wearing them and practically forget they are there. I know I am SO glad I did because I have a pretty smile now and no overlapping teeth. Hang in there!!!! 
My dad told me that after 18 I was an adult, but as long as I was under his and my mom's roof th
right to impose a few rules since they were paying the bills. (I could keep all the money I made.) If I didn't want to abide by them I could move out or pay them rent, either one, and then I could come and go as I pleased.
Be strong - your parents should respect you as an adult
Instead it seems like they are treating you like a child, expecting you to cater to their whims.
You can respectfully but firmly say to them that while you appreciate having extra time with them, the plans to go to your in-laws were made long ago and you have to respect them, also.
I'm sure your parents were aware of all this when they changed their plans. Just don't let them guilt you into doing something you will regret.
Stand strong, sista!
Need some adult simple games for Christmas
Played a game called White Elephant before and the group loved. Want something really simple to entertain my lovely guests for that day. We are all over the 50 year range so nothing too involved, heck we could not remember! Thanks!
I can't cook. I live alone but have adult children...
So I resolve to try a new entree once a month and invite my children and their families over to try it.
I think that may be an easy one to keep!
The nicest adult I know is __________ because they always ___________
 Happy New Year!
The feeling up was when she was a child. The coming on was when she was an adult.
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Dear Mother of an Adult Patient
Stop calling me to request prescription refills for your son. If he needs something, HE should call, not you. He is forty years old and fully capable of calling. Also, don't call me on Friday afternoon and ask me to put a Rx up front and then call me this morning and ask if I faxed it to some pharmacy. That's not what you asked me to do. And again... HE should call, not you. Also, calling me three times a day to ask if a company has called me to authorize your son's Rx is annoying. They won't call me. They will....Oh yeah. CALL HIM! Your voice annoys me. It's like screeching birds. In case you didn't get it, which you don't seem to, PLEASE STOP CALLING.
Thanks!
Claiming adult kids on your taxes
Can't you claim your kids on your taxes up until they're something like 25, as long as they're still living with you? Even if they're not going to school?
Where did you get the account of it from? The child with perception issues? Or another adult?
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It wasn't so much that you disagree with giving adult gifts....sm
It is more the way you approached the subject, which was in my estimation very rude and hateful.
That said, I do agree that a lot of people go frantic trying to buy gifts for other people who may or may not appreciate them. However, there are ways of giving that won't bust the budget. I know that I give, not so that I will receive a gift in exchage, but rather as an expression of my love for those close to me. To me, that is part of the spirit of Christmas and is representative of the first Christmas so long ago.
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