I just want to jump in here and perhaps clarify.
Posted By: Practicing Catholic on 2009-06-17
In Reply to: Cradle Catholic, now Christmas Catholic here - AnnuderMT
I think it's a common belief that the Catholic Church believes marriage outside the Church is sinful. Actually, the Church labels it as non-sacramental. The Catholic Church makes no ruling on the legality of marriages. In other words, if you've followed the laws where you live, and you have a marriage license, you're married civilly. Divorce, also, is a civil matter that is dealt with in the courts.
Catholic annulments, for instance, do not determine whether or not a couple was actually married, but whether or not the couple entered into a sacramental marriage.
A sacramental marriage must take place in a Catholic church, is witnessed by a priest or deacon, etc. Couples married outside of the Church can receive what is commonly called a "blessing", but it is actually their entering into the sacramental state of marriage according to the Church. If their married according to the law where they live, then they are civilly married, and the Church recognizes it as a legal marriage.
Some people consider it a lot of hoop-de-doo, I suppose. But it's part of the faith and tradition of the Catholic Church, and so it should be respected in the same way that people respect the Amish living apart from the modern world.
So, yes, if a couple is married outside of the Catholic Church, the church recognizes their marriage as legal. It doesn't recognize it as sacramental.
It's a topic that others explain better than I. So I apologize if I've actually made the issue more confusing.
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Let me clarify------
I see where you are answering a post, sorry not much sleep last night and see where that statement made, knew I did not make. Anyway, will keep eyes peeled for this kind of spam as well as scammers.
I should clarify.........
I didn't mean if a kid doesn't come out with straight As, they are not smart. What I'm trying to say is by the time they graduate, they should have a firm grasp on reading and writing, and at least a level of math where they will not be taken advantage of as adults. No one expects every kid to be a rocket scientist....heck, I wouldn't want to be that. I took higher maths and sciences because I expected that from myself, but that by no means implies that friends of mine who didn't weren't considered smart. I'm talking about kids who are 16 years old and can't read 3rd grade level. Some of the problem is parents simply aren't involved. There isn't a book in the house, not a newspaper or even a magazine. If a child never EVER sees their parents reading, where is the implied expectation of their children.. Some parents can't read either. So, if the parents know they can't read, then it is their responsibility to talk to the teacher, let them know this, and look for tutoring classes or other avenues to help their children succeed. Don't expect the teachers to do your job in other words... The teachers hopefully will have the resources to help you and your child. A teacher would rather you let them know this than have notes sent home not responded to and no test papers ever signed and returned. My daughter has some parents that she knows cannot read or write past a 5th grade level, and she accepts that, but that is no excuse not to encourage your child and do everything in your power to help your child perform at a higher level.
If they can at least read high school level, can put together a coherent paragraph, and comprehend what they read, they will do better in their adult lives than so many that haven't gotten that far. We have classes where we volunteer to teach adults who cannot read, and I applaud those adults who come forward....I can't imagine the amount of courage and inner strength that must take. They then go away able to read to their children and grandchildren and the joy is all over their face.
Remember the Wendy's guy? Dave something or another? He couldn't read all the way through high school and then managed to get through college without reading, all because he could memorize everything and pass his exams. Unbelievable! But everyone doesn't have that ability...I certainly couldn't do that. Smart to me means being able to read, write, and comprehend at a level where they won't be taken advantage of as adults.
I should clarify... sm
I was talking mostly about the different quality levels of dog food types *overall* (because of the posts about whether Iams was a quality food or not). When I mentioned brand names (like in the 1st paragraph of what I wrote) I was talking about kibble - *dry* dog food only, not canned. None of the dry foods have been on the recall list as far as I know.
I probably should not have combined the 'overall quality' topic with the topic of the recall. Sorry for any confusion.
BTW, I know what you mean about being skeptical. I'm feeling that way myself, and I also hope it gets resolved soon.
Just to clarify.....
This was a post responding to someone who had made a comment to my original post. I make a heck of a lot more money than $300.00 every 2 weeks. I think this girl needs to find another company to work for, unless she's just doing it for some "mad money".
I think I need to clarify.
In case my post was confusing, my 21 y.o. is not afraid of demons or any of the sort and neither is my little one. Once, the little one asked me (when she wasn't home) what were the worms on her legs as he didn't know they were called varicose veins. I explained to him what they were, what they were called, and that he had to be very careful around his grandmother not to hit her on the legs by accident. He has never gone up to her and asked her about the "worms on her legs" as he knows they are called veins. I have raised my 2 sons to be respectful and caring of other people's feelings. My parents never hit us when growing up and yet we learned to respect, not only respect towards them, but respect to ourselves. I have never in my life disrespected my mother or father, and neither have my children. Not all children are the same, some can learn respect without having to be spanked, whooped or beaten.
Ok, let me clarify (if i can...)
Maybe "date" isn't the right word...how bout "hook up" with someone online...and NOT a dating service...maybe that's a better way of putting it...
Let me clarify
I have NEVER put a pet down myself. I have taken out loans to get proper care for a pet who was at an age where the doctor's said they wouldn't be with me much longer but the problem was able to be treated. I do not promote putting an animal down either.
I truely feel this dog is struggling and in pain. I am not the only one who feels this way after seeing him. My mother agrees in one breath but in the next says specifically that SHE is not ready for him to go. She has had extensive tests performed on him and the vet has told her that he will continue with the lumps and problems and they are not treatable except for the injections for pain which are getting expensive for her on a limited income. She has not had him biopsied for cancer because of the cost and the fact that she is not ready to accept that diagnosis. The doctor said that cancer is likely the case being that they are turning up so rapidly and continually growing. Please keep in mind that this was "my" dog and I love him dearly.
I hope this post doesn't come off as b1tchy because that is not how it is meant, I just thought a little more clarification was needed before I get an abundance of posts making me out to be insensitive or an animal killer.
Maybe I should clarify that I
if my husband did do something like that, I would hit the roof and tell him exactly why it was inappropriate and that him keeping it from me makes it look all the more suspicious.
I can also see my husband coming to me and saying, hey, maybe we should help her out and consulting me on it. Actually that is probably much more likely since we pool our money. Sometimes he is wise and sometimes he is not. Just like all of us really. My point was that men like to be the hero and it boosts their ego. I just wouldn't be so quick to assume the worst. He was probably just wanting to help her.
In no way do I mean to insinuate that the OP is neglectful of her spouse's emotional needs, but now might be the time to remind him that he is her hero.
I did clarify this - said it was probably ONE - sm
of the things that contributed to the divorce, though she left him and initiated the divorce, so probably not, who knows, who cares. She lost a great guy, provider and father of children. But he did not divorce her because she didn't like having sex and couldn't orgasm (not organism by the way). Most women cannot have an orgasm from the "act" itself and need a little help along the way. It is ignorant men who expect a woman to have an orgasm just from intercourse, so for the pleasing aspect I know differently.....
Just to clarify - the brother that my son
lives 30 miles East of my parents. He does not visit, call, he is better than the rest of the family. Read my recent post above in regards to being a future felon. Yes, life is too short now isn't it?
Please clarify...Got WHAT untangled?
Your boobs? aaarrrrrrrrggg!
Just to clarify, that's another "Chuck" (or someone doing ... sm
a bad job of posing as me, which, of course, NEVER happens here, LOL).
Don't jump...
Please don't jump to a hasty decision. Like has been said before, think everything through before making a rash decision you might soon regret. Dr. Phil says, *if you think the marriage is hard, just wait til the divorce.* I've been on both sides of this fence, without going into detail, and it can work out. And honestly, I had the same sort of relationship your husband says he did; we did see each other for a while, but did not have sex, didn't even come close. Please, email me if you need to talk, because truly, I have been there...it can work out and make you and your marriage even stronger...cross my heart!
get up and jump up and down
Go take a walk for 10 minutes or so. Good luck!
To clarify, she didn't do in vitro.
She was using Clomid, I believe. She claims to have polycystic ovarian disease, and so ovulation is a problem for her. The sextuplets were conceived after it was determined that her ovaries were hyperstimulated, and the clinic would not do the insemination. She and her husband were advised to "skip the cycle", but went home and conceived the old-fashioned way anyway. Originally, there were 7 embryos, but one did not develop.
I don't know if Jon and Kate set about to conceive high order multiples, but they definitely went after money not long after the babies were born. What started out as an interesting program showing how two more or less average parents dealt with the demands of raising a family in an average home has morphed into a sad, sorry situation. The live in million dollar home now, and the show seems to be endless vacations and product placements. Those poor kids are on display like a bunch of zoo animals. What a shame. Jon and Kate need to shut down this production and take care of their family.
I had a guy jump right in front of me
As if he didn't see me. I didn't want to make a scene, but I thought it was very rude. I absolutely hate cell phone usage in public. It is very annoying. I will purposefully make noise to interrupt. I think cell phone usage while driving should be banned as well. Most people are not paying the least bit of attention when they are driving and talking on a cell phone. It is worse than driving drunk in my opinion.
I'm not going to jump on your case about this sm
But I wonder why you think these kids need to be told now? Has something happened that makes you think that someone besides their parents might let it slip? If that is the case, then maybe you need to talk to the parents about it and tell them that so-and-so found out and isn't good at keeping secrets, or whatever the case may be.
In any case, if you talk to anyone about this, talk to the parents.
Sorry to jump in late, but something else to try...
Massage therapy! I go every week, but during my PMS days (and I get it BAD!!) I make sure I tell my therapist (been going to her for over 4 years now and she really knows me) I am having PMS. She does some extra focus on my head and neck area for that session and I promise you it helps relax me more and does take some of it away. One time I went to her with severe cramps in tears and shaking with pain and they went away completely before I got off her table. She also tells me to focus on my breathing when I find myself getting bent out of shape. Easier said than done, I know. Best of luck to you. :-)
I'm gonna have to jump out on a ...
limb here and say that you don't deserve the two kids that you have since you aren't talking to one because of money and you get mad at your other child for calling you and asking if you are upset. OMG......seriously. Get your head checked!
Jump off a bridge already.
I find myself wishing that toward all the pedophiles I've been typing about lately. My heart just aches for their victims. I'm so disgusted by what they do, have done, that I just about puke by the end of the notes. As soon as this shift is over, I'm taking a hot shower to help wash away my disgust. 
Jump rope.
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Well just jump in there with your concerns..
All men are created equal. It is understood that the "women" are included.
clarify please-u mean woman playing Mary.....sm
You do mean the person playing character of Mary in this movie got pregnant as a teen?
Welcome to the 21st Century, m'dear.........*lol* - not many couples are getting married today (although the gay community sure is trying to get married).....but the numbers are WAY down for hetero couples.........
in any event, it's just a flick/movie - what do you care about the actors/actresses who are playing the characters? 
I should clarify - that would be rubbing alcohol, not liquor! nm
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Let me clarify...I don't sit around in my pj's all day. It makes me feels sluggish, but you ca
bet I will not be wearing what I would wear to an interview. Makes no sense.
Wow, sounds like you want to jump right into the fire.
I wouldn't do it. Way too expensive. Y'all are probably young. I would sleep on it for several, several nights.
True Christians do not do this, that's why I jump all over them. LOL
A true Christian does not feel the need to preach nor should they.
Only the ones trying to recruit through brainwash do the preaching
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He had pneumonia, let's not jump to judgement here,,
If he starts by helping himself, I will jump in. He saw
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Finish from above: As they jump off the cliff.
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Go jump through your window, Chuck.
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If Cindy's parents let her jump off a bridge would you do it too.
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Dirty store and nasty workers. Wanted to clarify
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I grab my CD player and jump around to good music...
as it really does help! It gets my heart pumping and totally wakes me up. I've been doing that for years. Just put your headphones on and go!
Needing A Mental/Emotional Jump Start
You good people are probably as good to ask as anybody although if we had a philosophy board, it might be better. My question is Why? Why are we killing ourselves? And I mean this in the broader sense than just the MT industry. I have an ex (46 years old) who is an alcoholic. He lives waaaaaaay out in a very rural area. He owns his own house, land, and a lot of horses, something he acquired 20 years ago when he had a really really good job. He has a regular income now of about $1000/month from CDs, primarily funded from an industrial accident about 10 years ago.
Anyway, neither he nor any of his friends work. They sit around, start drinking at noon and light their first joint, and just drink steadily until passing out around 2 AM. They play horseshoes, cribbage, shoot pool, shoot the breeze, joy ride, poach deer, etc. His house is kind of a dump (jiggle the toilet handle, turn on the tub water with pliers, no windows that open) and lots of projects undertaken while drunk, some done, many half finished. As they say, the Lord provides for fools and drunks, and that seems to be the case here, as he never goes hungry, has never had to do without his vices because of money, etc. Somehow, something always falls into his lap when he needs it, and I'm not talking $20...he'll rent a chunk of land to a farmer for several K and gets all caught up, or he sells some old fencing and gets a grand. He bought a couple of timeshares years and years ago so he takes these great vacations a couple of times a year where the lodging is only $150/week.
I had to leave because I just couldn't stand the lifestyle (I don't drink, smoke pot, or shoot pool), but I'm wondering why. I'm killing myself working 2 jobs to keep the roof over my head and maintain even a meager quality of life, and while I don't have the drunken projects he does, my house is no palace. If it weren't for my kids chipping in and helping, my car would have been reclaimed by the finance company a couple months ago.
So I'm having a hard time hanging on to my motivation lately. There's probably some jealousy involved, but it's also making me wonder why I bother. If I really wanted to, he would probably take me back and there are moments that I wonder 'Why not?'. What is wrong with the way he is living? Footloose and fancy free without a care in the world?
How do you find the strength/will to go on plugging away when it would be so easy to fall into the idiot/drunk category and just the Lord take care of everyday existence like he does for the ex?
Also to YOU: Fead the whole thread. Do not jump in in the middle of a thread:
You will experience the bad side effects of Xanax, when you try to stop the intake of Xanax. Honestly, don't you notice that you are increasing the dosage on your own?
It is not a sleeping pill, it is an anxiolytic, it is supposed to lessen anxiety.
What are you so anxious about?
Try not to take it this evening, you'll see that you cannot or don't want to.
It is a highly addictive drug.
Another addicted person?
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