I just need to VENT and see what you all think...Beware...this is long...sm
Posted By: Charmed on 2008-11-30
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I have tried twice to tell this story but deleted it both times because the story is just too long so I will be as short as I can.
I have a bunch of ROTTEN TO THE CORE sisters. My sisters are just about the worst people I have ever met in my whole 43 years on this planet. There is one who is especially bad and I just told my other sister that if she ever dies, to please not call me as I won't come to any wake or funeral for her because I HATE her guts. I come from a very large family with 5 sisters and 1 brother with my brother being the oldest. He is not involved. He sort of "left" the family years ago because he couldn't take the bulls**t of my sisters anymore. They did terrible things to him after his divorce. We rarely see him now. I am considered a scumbag and a loser because my husband and I don't make a lot of money. We don't own a home. We don't have gorgeous cars. We can't give our 3 children everything they want and we can only give them small amounts of what they actually need, but we do try. We love our children with everything in our souls. They have made fun of me and my husband and insulted us to our faces. My husband and I have a difficult marriage as he is tough to get along with so they hate my husband's guts. My sisters have all gone out to dinner without inviting me. I have found out because of someone's slip of the tongue. They have made threats and sent rumors flying throughout the family, without me knowing, about calling DCYF on me. I heard that one too from a slip of the tongue. I cried for 2 hours in the shower that day. They talk about everyone and I mean everyone badly. They have a well known reputation in a couple of our towns here for being mean horrible girls. They are about as fake and phony as a person can get. Sweet and all smiles to your face and when you turn around, they stick that knife in as far as they can get it in. They have what they have in their lives because of what someone has given them. My sister had her property given to her by her in-laws. It is worth about $1,000,000. My other sister had land given to her by her husband's family so they could build their house and then his parents used to come over with BIG fat checks "to lessen their mortage burden" so now they owe almost nothing on their $500,000 house. They think they are fabulous people. They think they are the cat's meow. In the past years when we were all talking and I would be invited to a holiday, I was not spoken to at all the whole time I was there. I am a venter and I always have been so if my husband and I are fighting, I will always go to my older sister (one up from me) and vent and vent until I can't talk anymore because I just get so angry. She gets on the phone the second I leave and tells every person in my family what is going on. They in turn judge me and my husband, make their threats, and so on. This is also happening to my oldest sister and her partner (she is in a gay relationship but was always dating a man and was married twice) and my sister's daughter and her family. The three of us, me, my sister and her partner, and my sister's daughter and her family, talk. We get along well. We are happy with each other. We don't judge each other. Whatever happens in each other lives, we just accept it and don't judge each other because we realize that each other has their own life and they will deal with whatever comes on their own with their own family in their own way. I now attend holidays at my sister's daughter's home. I don't leave her house after a holiday feeling lonely or sad or angry because no one would speak to me. I don't feel judged. The sisters (I like to call them the Witches of Eastwick) all attend holidays with each other up at my sister's husband's family's cabin in the mountains. The three of us are not invited. My older sister has a son. Several yeas ago, my sister and her partner had a terrible fight with him. He went to the witches and told them a bunch of lies and now they have pretty much shunned her and her daughter and me too because we still talk to her. I have a sister, who is involved in all of this, that I speak to on a regular basis. She is close to my kids or at least my oldest son. She pretty much ignores my other two children and they tell me, It's alright mommy, we know Aunty Becky hates us." She is the one who has spread rumors about me in the family trying to get everyone to call DCYF on me. I heard this too by a slip of the tongue from another sister a few years back. I tend to be a forgiving person so I quietly forgave her for this without her ever knowing that I knew what she was trying to do. Now that they are all inviited to the holidays up to my sister's cabin up north, this rotten sister of mine (the one closest to my son) has 3 cats that are fed twice a day. They are extremely fat just like her. These holiday trips up north are usually kept quiet and I only know about it the day before they are leaving to go, which is when she inevitably asks me to come feed her f******g cats. This is how I know that a big party is going on up at the cabin and once again only the chosen selected few are going. This is usually for 3 or 4 days and they get fed twice a day so I have to go to her house twice a day. Sometimes I have to give them medication and the last time she asked me, I even had to soak her sick cat's feet in medicine. She lives about 20 minutes away from me. This girl would NEVER, NEVER, EVER do this for me. My husband and I took our children on a cruise 3 years ago and we have a cat and I never asked her to do this for me as I know she would have laughed in my face. I have been feeding her cats for years now when she goes away. Keep in mind though that she was in the select chosen few to be invited up to the cabin. I was not as I am considered trash in the family. I am SICK AND TIRED of feeding this girl's cats so SHE can go up north to have fun with the family on the holidays. My sister who invites everyone to go is a mean, horrible, sadistic, vicious, backstabbing wretched b***h. No one will say anything to her like, "Gee Pat, where is everyone else? Didn't you invite this one, and this one, and this one?" They could care less. All they know is that THEY were invited.
Anyway, I am sorry this is so long. I can't take my sisters anymore. I have been thinking of this all day all weekend long. I am really to the point where I just don't want to see them ever again. I am going to tell my fat a** b***h sister to fnd another way to get her cats fed because I'm not doing it anymore!! She is just using me and believe me when I tell you, she enjoys it. She is very diabolical. She loves it that I am not invited and she and her husband are. She even questions me and counts the cat food cans to make sure that I came on all of the days they were gone. These people have balls of brass and I have had ENOUGH. I am just sitting and waiting patiently for the next time she says, "Oh, we're going up north for a few days. Can you come and feed the cats?" I just can't wait to see the look on her face when I simply say, "No. I can't. I will never feed your cats again! Find some other sucker to do it!"
I believe that they are severely narcissistic people and this is nothing to take lightly. These types of people are very destructive. Do any of you have family members like this and what do you do about them? How do you stop them from making you feel sad, lonely, excluded and less than you are or deserve? I think it is time for me to cut all ties with them. I just can't take their crap anymore and I do think I would be much, much happier and calmer.
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Well, now it's my turn to tell my story...(Beware..this is long)
Well, I just don't know where to begin. I was 26 years old when I met and married my husband. It will be 14 years ago this August. I was a platinum blond, Swedish, 26-year-old, voluptuous virgin waiting for my prince to come. I had never dated because I was too fearful and shy. My mother always told me that my prince was coming. She just didn't tell me he was going to be the prince of darkness. It has been a nightmare, although he says it has been great with only a few bumps along the way. He is abusive in every way including verbally, mentally, emotionally, some physical although very little (not an excuse, just telling it the way it is), what I feel is sexual abuse with me but not the children, but the worst by far is his financial abuse. He has told me many, many times, "Who do you think YOU are? What do you think...that you're _____ is golden? I can find a dozen more women like you." I have three children, now ages 14, 13, and 11. 14-year-old has ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder. My husband is just like this although he has never been diagnosed and never would be because in his own words, "I am perfect just like God made me. There is nothing wrong with me. The problem here is you." My credit is down the toilet. Credit score is about 500. His is 800. Through the years, when the children were babies I had to feed them dry cereal with a cup of water because he wouldn't buy any milk or any groceries. One very hot night in the summer, I had to feed them generic hot dogs and pink beans, which were some kind of bean that slithered out of the can in a gelatinous material. The kids were were dry heaving at the table. One day when I was about 8 months pregnant with my last child, he came up to me and said, "Well, I've made a decision." I said what's your decision. He said (very matter of fact), "I'm not going to pay for you anymore. I won't help you pay your bills, I won't buy you clothes, I won't buy you anything. If you want something, get off your f______fat a__ and get a job." I had a 6-month-old and a 1 1/2-year-old and 8 months pregnant with the third one. What!! Get a job!! Are you crazy?? He said, "Oh well." Famous last words. That is all I ever hear. He has ripped out phone lines, denied us food and clothing. We have two cars. He used to hide the car I would drive around the neighborhood so I couldn't have access to a car. He would even take the carseats. One time when I was pregnant, I had no money so my girlfriend needed a babysitter a few hours a week. She lives in Connecticut, which is about 45 minutes from my home. She could only pay $45 a week but I would drive up there four days a week to watch those kids just to get that measly $45. One day when I was leaving to go, I wanted $2 for an ice cream cone (I was pregnant at the time and that was my thing during that pregnancy). I asked him for $2 and he said no. I reached into his wallet and took $2 anyway. So he came after me. I took out the butcher knife but he ran outside to get to the car first so I couldn't get in. I put away the knife and ran out the back door to try to get to the car first but he got there before me. I reached in to try to grab the car keys out of the ignition when he rolled the window up as hard as he could. I was screaming at the top of my lungs. I thought he was going to break my arm. I was able to backhand him and he unrolled the window. A little while later I ran to the neighbors to call the police because he ripped the phone lines out. I was there for about 15-20 minutes calling the police, family, and my friends to come and help. When I got back to the house, he had taken both cars (hid one in the neighborhood) and went to work. He left my 9-month-old and 1 1/2-year-old children all by themselves (and at the time I lived on a very busy street where cars would drive by at 50 mph). When I walked in, they were sitting on the living room floor screaming at the top of their lungs. The next morning I was in the shower and I lifted up my arms to wash my hair when out of the corner of my eye I saw something on the underside of my arm. It was a jet black bruise about four to five inches long by about two inches wide. It was literally jet black. I was stunned. When I called the police, I told them what was going on with his abuse. I told them I was pregnant with two little ones at home. I told them I had no food. I told them and showed them the bruise and I told them I wanted to press assault charges. They said, "He did that to you?" I said yes. I said, "I want him arrested for assault." I told them where he worked. They turned around and told me that because the incident happened the day before that there was nothing they would do and that they weren't going to go get him and arrest him. They told me to just let him lie low for a while. This happened in 1996. We are not talking the 50s here. This was just before they handed me a pamphlet on battered women and battered women's shelters. The pamphlet said there does not have to be any sign of physical abuse. If you are in a situation where you simply fear for your safety, the person can be arrested. And I am sitting there pregnant with a huge, jet black bruise underneath my arm from where he rolled my arm up in the window. This is just a few tidbits of the life I have had with him. There have been some good times and good vacations but mostly bad. We have fought so bad for years and years that I know the toll it has taken on the kids. The guilt I have is insurmountable. If he buys groceries, I have to pay him back. If he pays the phone bill, I have to pay him back. If he buys me anything or gives me a $10 or $20 bill, I have to pay him back. Most of the time, I am not allowed to go into a store with him. I went with him once to Wal-Mart and I put a $2 box of sweetener into the carriage. That was it. I am now not allowed to go into a store with him. He screams at us that he pays the rent, therefore, it is his house and we have to learn to live the way he wants us to and we should be catering to him. If we don't, he will take away things. He has told me for years that he is a king and that the house is his castle and that he has allowed us to live with him because he is kind, loving, and gracious. He will only buy one Christmas gift for his kids and no stocking stuffers or tape or wrapping paper or anything like that. I have to do that with what I get paid to do MT work. He doesn't buy them summer clothes, school clothes, winter clothes, NOTHING and never has. When they were little, I would tell him that the children needed some cool clothes for summer. He would take their little pants and cut them off and then take their turtleneck shirts and cut off the turtle neck and cut off the sleeves and say, "There you go. There's their summer clothes." Or he would just tell me, "Go ask your sister to buy them some clothes." He has threatened to kill me and the children if I leave. He has told me that he would kill me and the children before I would ever see child support. He has a sex fettish where he wants it all the time, every day multiple times in a day if he could get it (not that he does, mind you. I stopped that crazy crap a long time ago), and I am just supposed to stop all that I am doing and fulfill his needs (even though sex for me offers virtually nothing other than soreness, swelling, and boredom and has always been like this). If I don't, over a few days he will get very nasty and vindictive. I am very overweight, I smoke like a chimney, my credit is destroyed, I don't even own my own car or my home (we rent). I have less now 14 years later than I did before I married him. At least before I married him I had my own very nice car and some clothes. I don't even have that. My clothes are tattered, stained, and worn. And...I had dreams of what my life was going to be like when I got married. But it certainly was not a life like this. My kids are older now and they are seeing their father for who he is. He blames me and tells me it is all the bad stuff I am telling the children. I keep telling him it is what they have seen for 14 years. They beg me to divorce him. My youngest, who is 11, was diagnosed last year with severe ulcerative colitis. He has had a flare now for the past six weeks with at least ten bouts of diarrhea with blood every day. He talks about depression a lot and always asking me what it is. When I got the call last year from his pediatrician telling me to take him to the hospital for a possible blood transfusion (this was when we got his diagnosis), I almost fell on the floor from fear. I called my husband at work to tell him he needed to come home. He said, "I can't come home. I have to work." He said, "Don't you all think this is a bit overkill?" His red blood cell count had dropped to 7.2 from a normal of 12 because of his bleeding. He came to the hospital when he got out of work. He showed up at 6:00 p.m. We went outside and talked for a bit and then about 20 minutes after he showed up, he said, "Well, I have to go home to eat and shower. I'm tired." When I got angry, he said" Hey, I'm tired. I need to rest. Besides, there's nothing I can do here and it looks like they've got everything under control." We still didn't know what was wrong with him. I didn't know if it was cancer or what it was. I was scared to death. But he had to go home to eat and shower and rest!!!! I think that was the beginning of the end for me. I once read something on these boards that someone posted saying "Marriage is not supposed to be a good deal for one and misery for the other." That is what my life has been. My marriage was a great deal for him...kids that he never has to pay for (I mean nothing...not school projects and believe me there are a ton of them, not clothes, not shoes, notebooks, backpacks, nothing), free sex, and a wife that he doesn't have to take care of or pay for. I believe in my soul that my marriage was a good business deal for him. If you knew my husband, you would laugh at that statement because he is extremely uneducated and talks like a mentally retarded person. People in the past have actually asked me if he was mentally retarded. He thinks that if my son would drink lots and lots of water, that that will cure his ulcerative colitis and makes fun of me and insults me and everyone else. I tell him he is a moron and he doesn't know what he is talking about. His abusive mother made them drink nothing but water. She would not buy them anything or strive for a better life. They lived in a nightmare life. So now he gets very angry when we won't drink tons of water to "cure" everything. He tells us that he is trying to show us how to "live right" but we just won't listen. He tells this to other people too including our landlord. He has the most disgusting habits. He picks scabs and eats them, he has eczema and psoriasis so he is one huge flake, which he enjoys picking off chunks and dropping them in a pile on the floor, he passes unbearable gas (like every two or three minutes that has such a horrid stench it makes all of us nauseous) and then flips out if we spray a room spray. He will actually grab the can and scream that this is his house and we are all just disgusting to live with and just impossible to live with. He just had a fight with my 12-year-old daughter tonight because he was passing tons and tons of gas and she sprayed a room spray. He got up in her face screaming at the top of his lungs at 11:00 at night that this is his house. He will pass gas all he wants and that he won't tolerate room spray being sprayed and then called her a god d___n bitch. She was crying and begging me to divorce him. She kept saying," You said it would be better for the family if you stayed married to him but it's not better. It won't ever be better!" Well, I could go on and on. It has been 14 years of this but I think you get the picture. I have no money. I don't even own my own car. I have a son who is going to need ongoing frequent medical care and I am afraid he will cancel the insurance if I do anything to get rid of him. I have a great fear for our safety. He has major problems with having to give up his money so to have to pay child support will send him over the edge. He is a pathological liar so you can't believe anything he says even when he says he won't show up to court (which would be a dream come true). He told me, "I would never allow anyone to judge me like that. You can tell the judge to kiss my balls." He seems to expect the absolute highest standards from the children and I but he doesn't have to live up to anything, virtually nothing. Never has and never will but will shove it down my throat when he doesn't get what he wants from me. Well, any advice. I really am looking for legal advice for anyone else who has been through this. I know I need to get rid of him...for the kids sake. They need to see that life is not like this and not all men do this and that you don't tolerate abuse in any way, shape, or form. My daughter, who just turned 13, says to me she hates men with a passion. I told my niece that I felt like I was dying. I never, never, never, never leave my house except to go to Dunkin Donuts up the street to get a coffee. I haven't been out of my house for more than 3 hours in probably ten years. And that is three hours probably once every two months. I am lonely, isolated, and ragingly angry. I want to go back to school but when I talk about that, he poo poos it saying I should go back in five or ten years or 15 years when my bills are paid and I can afford it. HELLO????? I am going to be 43 in October. Maybe I should just wait to go back to school until I'm retired. Well you get the picture. If you've been through this and have any legal advice or any other advice, I would appreciate it. By the way, when I bring up any of his abuse to him, he tells me "I don't remember any of that." Funny, he always remembers every time I swear at him though. Has never forgotten a single time.
Was having a great time (Beware, long rambling:-)
while I was scooping the back so thought I'd try to get a couple of pics for DH, who is gone for the next 10 days for work. He's a labradoodle that we got last summer at 4 months old and before anyone jumps in here and says they're overpriced mutts (which they are  ) we got him from a shelter in another city. All of the dogs I have had have been from shelters and would never pay hundreds or thousands when there are so many dogs that need homes. We saw a brown one last summer that DH fell in love with, so I did some searching and this shelter had several. The others had been picked up as strays, a couple of older dogs and several puppies, which I guess all but a couple died from parvo. Jake was turned in by a family who thought he was too energetic for their 2-year-old. He had kennel cough, we discovered, when we got him home and was sick for a few weeks, but not too bad a case, had some snotty nose and coughing, was really worried about pneumonia, but the vet said to go ahead and give him the vaccine and sometimes that helps them get over it a little easier. He's got a nice combination of lab and poodle coat, needs to be raked once a week or so, but he doesn't shed. He's a little pill for sure but I think is going to be a great dog with a little more work. He's still pretty ~boisterous~ you might say on walks. I'm a Dog Whisperer fan, just love that show and Cesar Millan, so we ordered the collar that he uses on that show, and it really is making a huge difference. Also, I was really impressed when we got it. How many things do you find these days that are made in the US? His packaging on the collar had ~~we proudly support our country, made in the USA~~!! Even more of a fan now!
I have been checking out boxer rescues and if we can afford a home of our own, hopefully next year sometime, I'd like to get a pal for him. I'm actually a big boxer fan from way back, have a pic mom took of me as a baby in diapers sitting in the middle of a litter of boxer puppies with them crawling all over me! a wonder any of us grew up, huh  , with all the things we came in contact with like that, she'd probalby get hauled away for child abuse these days. Dad found the mamma boxer wandering the country roads one hot summer day when he was hail adjusting. She was struggling, pregnant, really hot and thirsty, so he brought her home, no one ever claimed her, so Duchess became a part of our family. I had a boxer some years ago that I adopted from a puppy mill raid, where I helped take care of some of the dogs that were rescued, 200 and some of all varieties and ages, mostly all sick, filthy, malnourished, etc. in the the middle of January, below zero, snow, and a lot of them kept outside with no shelter, was a horrible mess, but people in that town really stepped up to the plate, donated all kinds of food, leashes, collars, bedding, vets donated their services, and all but a few of the dogs (too sick and had to be put down) were adopted. Duke was a very sick pup at first and didn't know if he'd make it, but he was a wonderful dog with my kids when they were young!
Anyway, just sitting here browsing the board and rambling on...By the way Hayseed, I visited your website the other day because I wanted to see your web cam (really cool!) and saw you had an RIP pic for Arf, sorry for your loss. I remember you said awhile back you thought it wouldn't be long but must have missed when he passed and crossed the bridge.
Need advice and to vent. SM--long.
My son, who turns 18 in a couple days, got his 18-yo g/f pregnant. Evidently she "got a yeast infection from condoms" so they stopped using condoms or something like that. Well, I have always treated her extremely nicely and she has always been very nice to me. Now that she's pregnant, however, she has turned into an evil and conniving little witch. At 3 days' knowledge that she was pregnant, she started screaming at him and bossing him around, like, "You can't be out playing video games while I'm sitting here pregnant, come spend time with me," etc., etc. We had a family meeting with her guardians (now I understand why her mom had to call the cops every time she was with her) and her and an uncle and I all suggested adoption, with the uncle leaning more towards abortion. Well, she won't hear anything of the sort and she's keeping her baby and that's all there is to it! Furthermore, she has told my son that she will NEVER FORGIVE ME for saying she should give it up for adoption and she will NEVER LET ME SEE THE BABY. I have given up EVERYTHING for my son, made sacrifices too numerous to count. I am a single parent and I thought I did a darn good job, evidently I was wrong about that. He is supporting her on her vendetta to give me a nervous breakdown. I am leaning towards kicking him out at graduation.
Need advice and to vent. SM--long.
My son, who turns 18 in a couple days, got his 18-yo g/f pregnant. Evidently she "got a yeast infection from condoms" so they stopped using condoms or something like that. Well, I have always treated her extremely nicely and she has always been very nice to me. Now that she's pregnant, however, she has turned into an evil and conniving little witch. At 3 days' knowledge that she was pregnant, she started screaming at him and bossing him around, like, "You can't be out playing video games while I'm sitting here pregnant, come spend time with me," etc., etc. We had a family meeting with her guardians (now I understand why her mom had to call the cops every time she was with her) and her and an uncle and I all suggested adoption, with the uncle leaning more towards abortion. Well, she won't hear anything of the sort and she's keeping her baby and that's all there is to it! Furthermore, she has told my son that she will NEVER FORGIVE ME for saying she should give it up for adoption and she will NEVER LET ME SEE THE BABY. I have given up EVERYTHING for my son, made sacrifices too numerous to count. I am a single parent and I thought I did a darn good job, evidently I was wrong about that. He is supporting her on her vendetta to give me a nervous breakdown. I am leaning towards kicking him out at graduation.
Buyer beware!
I've had several experiences on e-bay, one as seller and others as buyer. I should have known better, but sent a money order for a piece of software to the UK and never received it. The price was too good to be true--about $20.00, so that should have been a tip-off, also. This seller also had good feedback record. When I tried to follow up, the seller was no longer a part of e-bay. The other buying experience I had was nerve-wracking; had to follow up with the seller of a C-phone several times before shipment. As a seller, I researched info on an old vase (Roseville) and listed it at a fair price. Other sellers had a similar vase for $1.00--so I gave up. Just my experiences! Glad to know others have had better luck!
Beware. There have been studies that
what you order is not necessarily what you get.
Settlement offers - beware
Just be aware that if they do a settlement offer of $3500 on the $7000 then you will have to include any portion that they write off as "income" on your taxes and they will send you a 1099 C that will show the amount that they cancelled and will report it to the IRS. If they already have a judgment against you, why are they taking you to court? I thought that once a judgment was placed that was it, of course if the judgment was placed prior to you making payments and then you began making payments again, that might require another judgment. And of course that begins the start of the cycle of the 7 years before they will write off the entire amount and with the new laws that could also generate a 1099 C requiring you to report that as income. Of course the amount of taxes you pay on the "income" is a lot less than the amount of the debt but it is still something to think about. Good luck.
Beware of overdraft protection on debit card though
My son moved into his own place, actually sharing a house with a friend. He got his first checking account and was actually doing well with it. He actually didn't get any checks and just used his debit card. He and his roommate decided to get cable. Evidently my son signed up for it to be automatically deducted from his checking account, which he says he did not know. That was his responsibility and his mistake obviously. He should have known when they were going to ping his account. Unfortunately, he did not. They deducted for his cable bill, and then he thought he had more in his checking account and used his check card about 12 times in a 2 day time period.. like, for 1 soda for $1.49, or $5.00 of gas. All of these charges were allowed and were put through but then were charged a $30 fee for each. Finally on the third day, the card was declined and that same day he received the notice of overdrafts in the mail. Supposedly this is a service the bank offers, which I don't understand, in that they will process your debit like an overdraft and put it through, but then charge you. I totally understand how that is a good thing for checks, as you avoid getting the check charges and bounced checks through the merchants, but when you are using a debit card, shouldn't it just decline it if you don't have enough money in there? It would have tipped him off right away that there was a problem with his account, instead of racking up over $300 in overdraft fees. We've contacted the bank several times, but they will not budge saying that this is "service" they provide and it was explained in the paperwork he received when he opened his account.
Happy Birthday - beware of coming off Depo
I have been on Depo for 7 years (I'm 25). I had what I would consider mild acne while on the Depo. I recently stopped the Depo (about 4 months ago) and I have never had acne this bad!!! I'm praying that it calms down once my hormones get back to normal. It's definitely no fun! I have Proactiv and it definitely helps to get rid of the redness and calms things down a little - good makeup covers the rest. Good luck!
Beware of fixing your own stove, fire hazard! nm
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Depends if it is long with pregnant pause um no. If it is long and juicy like an op YEP! Short ones
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I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
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Need to Vent.
 Sorry I just need to get this out before I explode. I am so mad at my DH right now. I opened my box that he had duct taped all up. I was hoping for something special, well it was a really ugly robe. It is red and has flowers on it. I have never worn red, and don't like flowers on my clothes. Why DH picked something like this is beyond me.
That is all I got, nothing from the kids, nothing else from DH. I just feel like crap. I am so sick and tired of taken second to his stupid cars. He hasn't got a clue why I am ticked at him, the kids are acting like its not a big deal. It just hurts to work so hard on everything and get nothing in return. I got DH everything he wanted, why couldn't I get anything.
I'm sorry I just needed to get that out. After not getting anything all year for any of the holidays or my birthday, I was just hoping that DH would make up for it at Christmas. But I guess I was wrong. I'm always wrong. Now I have to put on a happy face for a bunch of people coming for dinner. I just feel like crawling back into bed and staying there.
Just a vent
I went to register my daughter for school this morning. I was in line to pay for her books when I noticed the man in front of me is listed on our local sexual offender registry for child molestation. He was there to register his daughter for kindergarten. After he left, I made the secretary aware. I came home, looked him up again just to be sure though I thought I was and sure enough, it was him. I called our local police department because I wanted to be sure of the laws. It was my understanding that offenders were to be a certain distance away from public parks, schools, etc. He told me I was correct, though there is a gray area... he was at the school to register his daughter and he is also welcome to attend school functions!!!
Is it just me or is this not concerning??? I told the police officer I can't believe he would be allowed to do this and don't even get me started on the concern I have for that man's daughter!!!! I have this horrible picture in my head of attending one of my daughter's school functions and my son somehow meeting up with this man in the bathroom or something!!! I realize the odds are slim but it still bugs me. I also realize there are many more sexual offenders than listed in the registry and have discussed this openly with my children but it still upsets me!!
in-law vent
I agree, you need to calm down and don't make any hasty decisions until you ask your SIL "exactly" what was said to your niece. Don't wait and stew over it either, go to her house when your BIL is there and ask them both up front exactly what was said and after they give their story, tell them how your niece is interpreting that conversation and that they need to have another talk with her. It appears that you do not care for her to begin with and may be interpreting more into this situation than need be because of that fact. If she did say exactly that, then I would assume she will be looking for a new sitter, though it will only deprive you of a relationship with your niece, but you can just visit with her at their house. Just don't cut all ties or burn all bridges because you will be the one to suffer the consequences, not them.
Need to vent sm
My 8-year-old daughter was bit by a dog a few months ago by a neighbor's dog. The bite has healed, but the emotional scars haven't. My daughter is now absolutely terrified of dogs, and cats now, too. She won't play outside, except in our backyard and won't ride her bike which she absolutely loved before this incident. Before this incident, we were even planning to get a dog. This is obviously out of the picture now.
Our medical bills totaled over $800 before insurance. We gave them the bill, wanting $800 because we pay for our insurance on a weekly basis, and they shouldn't benefit from that. We thought that was more than fair because of the trauma my daughter suffered.
Well, today, they tried to give us a check for $87! Yes, that's $87! I was so insulted by this, and hurt! All that my daughter went through, they tried to give her an $87 check?!!! They only want to pay our copay!
Well, I typed up a letter and returned their check, informing them we will be contacting an attorney. So, instead of the $800 we wanted, I'm sure they'll have to pay a few extra thousand for pain and suffering, and also for the lost wages because we had to miss work because of this.
I can't believe these people!
Thanks for letting me vent!
I really need to vent
I am editing work to upload to a client. This MT's quality is horrid! Basic medical terms are misspelled. Basic sentence structure is a mess. There are two to three blanks in every report. She claims to have typed for a major hospital for over five years. I am wondering how she kept that position so long. I send corrections regularly, and she argues with me. I need to stand up, be a man, and find a replacement. I am spending my Saturday night fixing her mistakes while she is probably relaxing with her family. I hate my job today!!
Thanks. I solved my own problem. I need to replace her ASAP.
Need to vent a bit!
Ok, so I need to vent a bit about a friend. Well, I guess now I should say "former" friend. Back in February, my husband and I decided that we wanted to use our tax return to install new hardwood floors in our house. We were talking with our friend about it and she said that her husband was great at installing floors and that he could install them for significantly less than an actual flooring company or other contractor. We asked her about how much he would charge to do this, and she said about $400. We had been quoted $1000 and higher by several flooring companies, so we decided to let him install our floors since it would save us a lot of money.
It took about 4 days to get the floors installed. In fact, my husband helped quite a bit with the install, plus we ordered him lunch every single day he was here working. While our new floors were being done, we were also talking about how we were planning to remodel one of the finished rooms in our basement, which is my husband's office/den. We were planning on hiring someone for this We even already had an appointment scheduled with a company to come give us an estimate the next day. Our friend's husband again said that he could do this significantly less as well. He said that he would charge around $500 to put up new sheet rock and install the new laminate flooring that we had already purchased. We asked him multiple times if he was 100% sure that he could do it for that cheap. He said yes and insisted on doing it. We agreed to this and let him do the work in our basement as well. We paid him a total of $1000 cash for all of his work, which is what he asked for, plus bought him lunch every day and helped him with the labor ourselves.
Well, a few weeks ago our friend started acting very strangely around us. We didn't know what was up and she wasn't telling us. In fact, she started completely ignoring us and not answering our phone calls, text messages, or emails for days. We later found out from her husband that she had been laid off from her job and was too embarassed to tell anyone. She did finally come out and tell us about it after about 2 weeks had gone by.
About a week after she told us about losing her job, we got a phone call from her and she said that we didn't pay her husband enough for the work that he did in the basement, so she wanted us to give HER a check for $300!!! We told her that we had already paid her husband $1000, which is what he quoted us and he had been very happy with that, especially since he really needed the money. We told her that it was simply not in our budget to just give her $300 and basically told her sorry, but no way.
This morning, we woke up to someone banging on our front door and ringing the door bell over and over again, which caused our 2 dogs to start barking like crazy. Both my husband and I work really late hours and we were both sound asleep. In fact, my husband had just done a double shift a the hospital he works at and didn't get home until about 7:30 this morning. We had no idea who it could be, so I got up to answer the door, and there was our friend standing there. I let her in and she said, "I've been banging on the door forever! You're probably just ignorning me because you think I'm here to collect money." I was in total shock. We had been sound asleep and didn't even hear anything until she really started banging hard on the door. She then went on to say how incredibly rude we were and how ridiculous we were being for ignoring her. We weren't even ignoring her! We haven't even heard from her in weeks and she just showed up this morning without even calling first when she KNEW we would most likely be sleeping! I was half asleep and she was ranting on and on about how rude we were being and how she would help us out if we needed money. That let the cat out of the bag right there. The money that she wanted was for HER and NOT for her husband! She was just using him as a cover to get us to give her $300! She then said, "I also need to borrow your Windows Vista CD and I'll be back later for it and expect it to be waiting for me, unless you're going to be ignorant about that and not give it to me." She then stormed out the door and left.
Let that be a lesson to never hire your friends to do work for you!!!! She had been our best friend for about 7 years and now we want nothing to do with her. Sorry this was a bit long, but I needed to vent somewhere!
need to vent
Today is invoice day & got up extra early to get started as I will have my 5 month old grandson tonight & kids will play with him until bedtime, BUT .. I can't sign in to work, got up at 5a.m., still can't get connected, emailed boss & tech support, nobody on IM.. plus can't get on the other IM thru work because I have to be signed in.. ggrrrrr.. okay, hopefully I can get on soon.. here it is almost 11:00.. I could've had 6 hours in already.. geez.. what a day.. okay, sorry about that, but needed to tell somebody.. hope everyone is having a better day than I am..
Please let me vent....sm
I am so fustrated. I recently started a custom accessory buiness online. I have a myspace page and a website. I have had the worst luck getting this thing up and running. I mean, I know the economy is bad, but I have had THE WORST luck. I would be happy with just a few orders a month. Nothing. And believe me I have put the website out there. I submitted it to Google, Yahoo, and MSN. THey still haven't posted it yet I don't think. I am at my wit's end. Anybody who has ever submitted a website know how long it takes for them to put it up?
There are others who do similar products as me. They have orders right and left. I cannnot figure it out. And mine are cheaper. I am about ready to throw in the towel. I don't know what else to do. I'm sorry to whine here but gosh I need to vent. There is nothing like putting your all into something and nothing happens.
lead in toys/Made in China...beware of Happy Meal toys
I watched a special on CNN yesterday about lead content in toys. I did not realize by your child simply touching a toy and putting his fingers in his mouth he could be ingesting lead. The special included a segment on a nice family that lived in a brand new home with a 2 year old and 6 month old. They both tested positive for lead. A 2 year old!!!! Worried, I went to my boy's toybox this morning and it is AMAZING how many painted toys are from China. Most notably this includes happy meal toys. I haven't gotten through one toy box and already have a trash bag full of toys. Please, please go through your children's toys. Lead ingestion can lead to brain damage. Be paranoid. Throw away all of the made in China stuff. Christmas is just weeks away--they will be getting new stuff (hopefully stuff that is paint-free!).
Your best bet is to buy made in the USA toys but even safer toys are unpainted blocks, Legos and books. A good, safe place to look for toys is www.mindware.com.
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Your deserved vent
As a former elementary school teacher, I asked myself 2 very obvious questions - WHY ON EARTH DIDN'T THEY GET A PERMANENT SUB FOR THOSE KINDERGARTENERS? And, WHY DIDN'T THEY HAVE THOSE KIDS REPEAT KINDERGARTEN? Promoting them to 1st grade under those circumstances is setting them all up for failure.
If I were you, I would pull her out and home school for a year or 2 until you get her caught up to her grade level and put her back in public in 2nd or 3rd grade when her skills are developed.
You will be amazed at how much progress she will make with 1-on-1 attention from you.
Best of luck to you and the little one!
Can I vent for just a minute?
My mother-in-law called last night to say that we have some relatives in town for the weekend. They are staying with a relative that is not related to my husband's family. She asked if we would like to get together Sat. evening and order pizza. This is what we do every time family visits, unless I offer to cook. My MIL tells everyone who listens " I love to cook, I just don't have anyone to cook for." My wonderful FIL passed away 16yrs ago. My MIL works Mon.-Thurs. in a family owned business that she and my husband run. The business is closed on the weekends. My sister-in-law is a school teacher so she is out of school right now. I am not asking for a huge meal, but I know we could throw together something nice but easy quickly. BTW, for Easter dinner we are going to Outback. I can't have everyone here becuase we just pulled up all our carpets to put down hardwood floors, so most of our furniture is in the garage. I did suggest to my MIL that we do KFC since we always do pizza. Her response "I don't like mashed potatoes." Just felt like venting a little bit ( I don't say anything negative about my MIL to my hubby) mainly becuase she is a very good MIL and a wonderful grandmother. (Sigh) I feel better now. 
I understand the need to vent....
Relatives can really get on your nerves - one of the reasons we live 500 miles away from my relatives and 750 miles away from my husband's relatives. They're great in small doses, but not as a steady diet.
So I really do understand....but I think it's interesting that you chose a time when you are not in a position to offer to have dinner at your house to object to what is being planned, especially since it is the "usual thing". Obviously, for whatever reason, your MIL and SIL don't like to cook, and your MIL has decided to take the easy way out and do "what we do every time".
Next time family visits, after your renovations are done, why not ask your MIL and SIL to bring a salad, side dish, dessert, whatever? And, as suggested here, there's no reason why you can't have both pizza and KFC. Just because your MIL doesn't want it, that doesn't mean that no one else will. Sometimes you just have to go ahead and do something and not ask for "permission" - especially since your MIL seems (on the basis of this one incident) to be a bit of a control freak. If she says anything to you, you can just say, "I thought it would be nice to have a bit of variety" or "I didn't want to say anything to you, but pizza gives me heartburn" (true in my case  ). Whatever works for you.
And HAPPY EASTER!!
Glad you were able to vent sm
When I was talking to my Step-Mother about this board she agreed that it was a great site to be able to go to and complain without having to actucally talk to people. BTW,Hats off to you for all you have accompolished without the help of your mother. Feel proud and know that you will be a better mother for having to go through that. You have lucky kids.
just have to vent about illegals......sm
we had a 9-month pregnant mother and fetus that got killed this week in an auto accident. emergency section didn't save the baby. hit by a drunk driver who was 15-yo and illegal. he lied and said he was 19. well of course they are trialing as a minor, but you know what he was an adult enough to lie about his age, bigolly charge him for the age he wanted to be!!!!!!
and an in-law vent - need advice
My husband and his younger brother have a business together - his brother and his wife have 2 kids an 8-yo girl and a 5 -yo boy. The girl (niece) spent the night a week ago because my in-laws needed a sitter - I told my husband I had to work - so he would have to look after her. Well, as soon as she got here she said, "auntie, i need to tell you something. I said, what?" then she proceeded to tell me that her mother (my SIL) told her that if her uncle or our son (he is 21) tried to touch her TINKY that she was supposed to call her mother." I was dumbfounded. I didn't mention this to my husband until the next day after she had gone home. Had she said her mother had talked to her about this situation or anything else, I would not have thought anything about it, but when she said her mother said her uncle or her cousin - I was burning mad. I realize this happens - it happened to our daughter when she was 4 - but this niece has spent the night numerous times and this has never come up - why now - and why so specifically? Should I say something to my SIL and BIL about this. I told my husband I thought he should address it with them since it was obviously a slam against him and our son - ??? thoughts, please?
Have him vent to YOU at the end of the day, not the girls.
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need to vent -- are you kidding me ?!?
New year at baseball with kid, new other parents to meet and talk with. I'm talking with this odd mother, taking a head count as to how many grubby little home-schooled children she has: Seven and one more on the way! Husband is there, unemployed, has a paper route. Subsidized housing, welfare, food stamps, and then he tells me the state just gave him a check for $900 to get his car fixed. Are you kidding me?!? Shut the Front Door!
Something about a hard, honest days' work just aint right. grrrrhhh....
Just need to vent a bit...and maybe get an outside opinion?
I am engaged, and we have 3 beautiful children, boys (twins) who are 18 months and a 4-year-old daughter. My daughter is from a previous relationship (I left him when I was 3 months pregnant as he was abusive.). Anyway, I joined myspace again after not being on it for a while as my sister lives in another state, and her fiance is sick so I wanted to better be able to keep in touch as we are having problems with our phone, etc.
Anyway, I join it and add my fiance's sister who lives across the country. I notice she has a cute album that she had previously on her page of our kids.
Anyway, one of my sister-in-law's friends made a comment that bothered me a bit. My fiance said I was making a big deal out of nothing, but I don't know.
In reply to where my future sister-in-law put "How cute" about a picture of our twins crawling at 6 months, her friend said, "Oh, I only know why you said how cute!? L0L But they're precious."
I don't know what to make of it. In my opinion, it almost sounds like she is laughing at our kids. It's not that I need reassurance that they are cute as I know they are beautiful children, inside and out, but I find it disturbing when grown women or adults attack each other's children. The odd thing is I don't even know this woman. Also, whenever we're out we always get tons of compliments and stopped by strangers who compliment on how adorable they all are and also I always hear, "You have your hands full."
Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I didn't get the woman's post about LOL or I only know why part. Maybe I'm just too grown up to be on myspace, I don't know. I just know that I find it extremely disturbing when someone attacks someone else's children. My fiance has an online friend who was similar and has said extremely rude things about me and our children which bothered me, also. I mean from the time I wake up in the morning until I go to bed at night, my thoughts and energy are all about our family and children.
That is one reason I found a new MT job that pays better. I always put my children first.
Anyway, thanks for listening to my rambling. Any outside opinions will be helpful. My fiance didn't want to listen to me talk about it. I simply posted back a nice reply under that picture and said, "Thank you. They have grown so fast. I can't believe that picture was a year ago already. They have done so many new things since then."
I need to vent about our public school....sm
My daughter is in the 1st grade. While in kindergarten her teacher became ill and was out of the classroom more than in it for over a month and then ended up having to leave permanently after being out for 2 months. During this time they had parapros in the classroom but all of the kids in her class got behind because of the inconsistent teaching. Finally in March they split the class up and moved the kids into other classrooms, but by the end of the year each of the 15 kids were behind their peers because of the true instruction time they had missed, through no fault of their own.
Now fast forward to 1st grade. Some of the kids had managed to catch up but others haven't, including my daughter. She is now reading on a level 3 and should be on a level 5 or 6. Math-wise she is way behind as well as her reading level is below normal. She is currently in a classroom with 27 kids and has ADD, but it is very easily managed when she is given tasks in small increments and visual cues to work with (i.e. write math problems for her and she can do them but ask her to do them in her head and she struggles).
My husband & I met with the school yesterday because of the concerns about her being behind and in the student support team meeting, consisting of the school system psychologist, special education teacher, her teacher, principal and vice principal, we were told that they don't have the resources to work with her to meet her needs and that by the No Child Left Behind federal laws they don't have to address her needs individually until she is 6 months to a year behind her peers. Why do they WANT kids to get this behind before helping them? We know she is smart - she has an IQ of 92, but she needs to have the distractions caused by the 26 kids in her classroom removed and they won't do anything about it because all other 1st grade classes have 26 kids, and the only one that doesn't have that many is a class full of kids that are learning English. We are working with her at home but it's ridiculous to send her to school 7 hours a day and then tutor her at home because the teacher won't take 2 minutes to explain instructions on a task to her. I told them that I don't want her to have to go to special education in the future because she's behind and that I'd prefer that a way to get her caught up and kept on level with where she would be should be what the goal is - not wait until she's very behind. Their response was "well over the upcoming Holidays we can send home LOTS of things for you to work on with her."
Home schooling isn't a good option for her and her psychologist has agreed that she needs the classroom interaction with other kids. If it weren't for that I'd home school her in a nannosecond, even if that meant giving up everything outside of my regular work day to educate her.
I've talked to a couple of private schools in the area and one school wasn't really any better, has 1 teacher per 20 kids in 1st grade. The other school could take her and has currently 5 kids per teacher for 1st grade with good test results . It's ridiculous that we're being forced to consider paying for private school because the public schools don't care.
I'm sure others have run into these same type of situations. What did you do - continue working with the public schools, turn to home schooling or private school?
Considering all the ridiculous responses to this vent..sm
I guess the devil is doing his work...causing conflict! Hope you have a great Christmas, Wannie!
Male harassement vent....
I wasn't sure were to post this...
My sister was just at the bank and while she was leaving she noticed a male banker staring at her. A couple of minutes later she gets a phone call from this banker telling her if she ever needs anything to call him. She asaked if he does this with all the people that bank and he said no just the pretty ones.
He did NOT help her when she was there so he had to have had the banker that helped her reopen her account and get ALL of her information. This is soooooo BAD ! She lives alone. How can this man do this I believe he was a manager or something not just a regular employee. UUUHHHHHH!!!!!! My mom use to be a banker so I told my sis to call her and see what she should do but my mom is pretty passive so I'm not sure what she will say. This makes me so angry to think that he has ALL her information UHHHH! This is sooo wrong!
My sis is only 21 and lives alone. She has already had one scare at her apartment and I'm sure she will feel unsafe once again. I don't know why this man thinks he can do this!
I just had to get this out.
My vent...why is it a not a good idea??
The reason is to conserve energy. You might even save a few bucks. But on the other hand, I'm sure they didn't think of what a major inconvenience it would be to turn your clocks ahead a little bit early.
Would like to vent a little if everyone can stand another in-law story.
A few weeks ago we were having a visiting choir at our church. We were feeding dinner them after the performance. During Sunday school we discussed what each person would bring. We wanted to do sandwiches, salads, and desserts. I volunteered to bring chicken salad and pimento cheese sandwhiches. MIL is in the same class and heard myself and hubby say it twice. She chose to bring the same thing. Okay, not a big deal, but this is what happened yesterday. Earlier in the week my MIL gave me a church cookbook from another church. While we were talking I flipped through the cookbook (this is the size of a hymnal) and saw a reciepe for "blueberry pound cake". It looked delicious and I even said "I have fresh blueberries in the fridge, this will be great for the picnic on Sunday." I also made a couple of other things as everyone always brings 2-3 dishes. Walked in to church yesterday and my MIL announced she had made "blueberry pound cake from the new cookbook". I did not say a word, but caught hubby in parking lot and told him to put the cake back in the car.
We had a neighborhood block party last night so I knew I could take it there. Honestly, her cake was a bit dry, I truely think due to the reciepe and not her cooking. I guess it worked out becuase I went home and used a few more berries to make a sauce which helped the cake and it was a big hit at the block party.
I know this is really minor, so please don't fry me for this, but I really needed to vent and I don't want to vent to my hubby. Thanks for listening.
Another smokers' vent thread
**this is a vent***
Have you ever been lectured about smoking in person?
There is not a smoker in America who does not know that smoking is bad for you and a terrible habit. I really don't need to hear it again.
Last week I was in a smoking area (well away from a building, mind you) and a passerby from out of nowhere decided to tell me that cigarettes are unhealthy. No. Really? Wow!
A friend's son also decided to share this new info with me too. His mom didn't tell him to shush, either (he saw cigarettes in my purse, I wasn't smoking in his presence.) To me, that's rude. It's like asking an adult with a glass of wine at lunch if he's an alcoholic, or a chubby person not to eat so many ding dang doughnuts.
I would never have DREAMED of commenting on one of my parent's friend's habits, and one of them stuffs used Kleenex down the sides of sofas.
It makes me want to say "yes, but they're coooooool, Bobby".
Last vent on obnoxious toys. LOL.
The LeapFrog Tag thingy. I saw them at Wal-Mart and it looks like certain books work with it. I saw the advertisement and thought it was neat until that crazy man in the lizard costume or whatever it is insinuated that books are boring unless they can be used by that talking pen. I cannot figure out how that thing helps kids learn to read as it says it does. It looks to me like that pen reads for them. My 6-year-old is in first grade and they are trying to teach her to read by phonics. So when she and I read together whenever she stumbles across a word I have her try to look at it and sound it out before I will give her an answer and most of the time she can. I think I am just frustrated by that whole industry now anyway because I have had salespeople come to my door basically telling me that my kid is going to be a dumbazz if I don't buy their expensive junk....all the other kids have it and mine will be left out in the cold. I guess I am not giving those electronics a chance. I cannot see what they can do for my child that I cannot.
Just want to vent about a horrible thing
A friend of ours died of pancreatic cancer. Went to the funeral, fully expecting to see her husband - they were together since high school, kids, grandkids. Turned out he divorced her & left town when she got the diagnosis.
What a scumbag. I can't think of words bad enough. Just needed to tell somebody.
How long is too long to wait for Pap results?
This is a follow up Pap for an abnormal one a few months back. I have waited for the results for over a month and have called the office once. Any advised about being a patient patient - LOL. Its hard when your in this business, I think anyway, not to be more aggressive about stuff like this.
Got to vent. I just found out that a major supermarket
chain where my husband works will be open on Christmas Day. I think it is absolutely disgusting that they would take this major holiday away from their employees. There is absolutely nothing in a grocery store that is so important that it has to be bought on Christmas Day. For pete's sake, if you don't get it before Christmas Day, you don't need it very badly.
I just need to vent! My 15yo son is going through a tough time. SM
Lately, my son has been hanging with the wrong crowd -- a crowd known to be into pot and drinking, etc. One of the guys in his group is 23 years old. I have been doing everything in my power to keep him from this group, restricting him to home after school, not letting him leave the house, but he has become rebellious and basically just walks out even when I tell him to stay.
On Friday, I received a call from the local police telling me they had found my son's backpack in the park -- his name was in it -- and inside the backpack was a bong. They said they didn't have enough to charge him with anything because since the pack had been sitting in the park, anybody could have put anything in it. The police office, however, notified the school and the school in turn called me. I immediately jerked him out of school and took him for a drug test which was negative -- thank goodness! Still I'm disturbed by all of this.
I have set him down and told him he is grounded untill further notice and I have come up with a list of who he can hang out with and who he cannot. One of the boys I am allowing him to be friends with has a single mom and she is basically doing the same things I am doing trying to keep him on the straight and narrow. We both communicated very well with each other.
However, over the weekend my sister and brother-in-law involved themselves in my business -- which they do quite a lot especially since I literally live three houses down from them. My brother-in-law absolutely hates me son. He is an jerk to my son every time my son is around. My son cannot stand him either ever since he was 3 years old and my BIL slapped him upside the head when we lived with them. My BIL is a jerk to his own kids, slamming my nephew into walls and choking him, etc. Anyway, my BIL comes to my house with his chest all puffed up saying he did not want my son around his son (my nephew). He basically acted like he was father of the year and started to lecture me on what was wrong with my son. This infuriated me. He even went as far as to say he did not want my son at his house because he thought he would steal from them! My son has never stolen anything from anybody -- EVER!
Before I had a chance to respond my phone rang and he was back in his car and gone. Then he proceeded to talk to the woman whose son I have allowed my son to stay friends with and filled her ear with a bunch of crap and now she is forbidden her son from coming to my house or hanging out with my son.
My sister involved my mother and my mother tells me that my sister didn't want her husband to come to my house and say those things and that she is genuinely worried about my son and that I shouldn't be mad at my sister. Thing is, my sister hasn't called me to talk about it or tell me that she didn't want her husband to do what he did. She has just communicated with my mom and that's it.
Anyway, I've just been so upset about all of this and I've been debating on whether or not I should call my sister and tell her what I think of her husband and to tell her husband to mind his business and stay the heck out of mine.
Thanks for letting me vent!
When you post a vent on public board, must be
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LOL glad I gave you a reason to vent!
You needed that! I don't want to take their "rights" as they see them away....I JUST WANT MINE BACK!
My vent - tremendously offensive - ashleymadison.com
As a happily married woman who has watched couples around her disintigrate because of one or another spouse's infidelity, this is just disgusting. This company was going to advertise during the SuperBowl but the NFL stepped in and said no. Kudos for them.
I hate to break it to folks, but cheating on your spouse is NOT okay. It is adultery, and in a lot of places it is still a crime. It may not be enforced, but that law is there on the books in most states in this very country. It is the one sin the Bible says cannot be forgiven completely. There is a reason for that.
Before you all hit me with 'what about abuse', let me say that this is an area where I have gone 'round and 'round with pastors - if a man (or woman, for that matter) abuses their spouse, then that is most definitely a reason for divorce. However, all these folks just 'tired' of one mate and looking for another? You should have chosen better to begin with. Everyone says 'is this the person I want to wake up next to for the rest of my life', but the real question needs to be 'is this the person i am willing to change diapers for when and if they cannot do it for themselves'. If you can look at the person next to you and say that you will stick with them no matter what, not counting abuse and adultery, but if this person gets a TBI in a car accident the day after your wedding, and you are not willing or able to take care of them for the rest of their lives, DO NOT MARRY THEM, because if you don't care for them that much, you will not stay married to them.
There, I am off my soap box. I am sure I will get pounded for this, but let her rip. I'm a big girl and I can handle it...or just not read those posts.
HC
Gotta vent about a public school situation....sm
There are 2 kids in my daughter's class of 26 1st graders that can't read, and my daughter can barely read. We have a horrible teacher who basically doesn't care and refuses to spend any individual time with these kids because she tells you she has too many kids to do that, and the principal doesn't care because the kids aren't at least 6 months behind their peers. The school board leaves it up to the individual schools. My husband & I are strongly considering home schooling her since she's learning more at home with us since we started tutoring her than she is at school.
Yet, at this very same school, they have 1 teacher per 7 students for the ESL class of kids that don't know English, and of course I'm willing to bet that these kids are either illegal immigrants or their parents are illegal since they don't know the language at all (in our area of the country).
It's not right that federal laws require we teach these people our language and the schools have to hire teachers to teach them the language, yet our truly American kids, born of American parents, can't get anything but teachers that are overwhelmed with large class sizes.
Please excuse the typos - boy did it feel good to vent.
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vent - Personal appearance of health care staff
My mother was recently in our local hospital for a short stay and when I was visiting, I was shocked at the unkempt appearance of some of the nurses. For example, one nurse had long, messy, straggly hair that IMO would have looked much nicer washed AND pulled back out of the way. I mean I was just shocked that they were allowed to be so unkempt looking in a hospital setting! Just venting. . . . maybe I'm just getting old, I dunno. It seems to me standards have really fallen.
How long?
Crap, havent heard- 1 hour this week or 2 like last week? Thanks
as long as a dog
is in its carrying bag, he is in his space, not yours. Some dogs are sooo tiny, it is not even noticeable. I know of people who use doggie strollers for such places. Frankly, I am leery of people who have this kind of attitude.
I don't know what took me so long.
You can actucally understand the words and there is a definite meaning to the song. Although, when I put country on my hubby and kids say "my ears are bleeding". Oh well, I work for an ENT, I can help them out. LOL
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