I hope he is not driving because if he is -sm
Posted By: on 2007-04-18
In Reply to: DH problem - mtmomof3
it is only a matter of time before he is in an accident, hopefully only a 1 car accident. If is is driving he is not only endangering those in the car, but those on the road driving around him. Point that out if you have not already, very irresponsible and foolish of him IF that is the case. My DH is similar with docs, though he will go the eye doctor, but anything else he has to be dying, I am surprised he is not dead (Had a horrible case of pneumonia a few months before I met him, was out of work for 3 week, temps of 104/105, hallucinations, horrible sweats, etc, crawled in to see the doc at their office a few times, the only thing that saved his life was his girlfriend of the time, though why she never called 911 or took him to the ER is beyond me, he needed hospitalization, total miracle he lived). Mine acts like a big baby most of the time too. If you don't have life insurance on him, get it now while you can, then you will be okay if needed. As for SS disability, it will take a while to get that if he gets to that point, and even then he needs to see doctors and get doctor reports to have that submitted to SS so they can approved disability--but if he has a fixable problem then there is no way he will ever get it. Try to guilt him into to or else just get him in the car somehow and get him to the ER.
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I'm the last dinosaur - I don't think teenagers should be driving their own cars. She needs to be spending her time on school and music, maybe working 8 or 10 hours a week at a job if she can handle that as well.
A car is a tremendous responsibility and she will have her entire life to paying ins., gas, etc. Give her a couple more years without that responsibility.
Frankly, unless she has to drive to school or work, I wouldn't let her have her own ccar. Not because she isn't mature enough, but because the roads are filled with angry, distracted drivers and I would be afraid everytime she was gone.
Senior year is early enough for her to have her own car.
I know no one else will agree with this, but I wanted to say it. As a former teacher, I believe this is part of the reason the rest of the world does a better job educating their young people. No one else in the world expects their high school students to work for money for a car - their kids are in school as full-time students. Look at their test scores compared to ours and look at who is populating our graduate and professional schools.
Driving to NYC
I'm leaving Saturday morning to go to NYC to see an off-broadway play with my daughter and her friend (my daughter's 13th birthday), and I was wondering if there was anyone in the areas between Upstate NY/Pennsylvania/New Jersey (my route) here that might be able to tell me how the roads are and how the weather in general is. We have a lot of snow here (some places have over 6 feet) and I'm a little worried. I've never driven to NYC before so I'm a little worried about the weather. TIA.
TEEN DRIVING
I just dropped you an email.
These floaters are driving me ...
crazy!! Have any of you had these and if so were they able to be treated and how? Seems like today in my right eye they are worse (I know they can go back and forth). I hope someone out there maybe has an answer to this irritating problem. Thanks.
Tell him that his criticizing you is driving you away!
My DH has issues with my weight, too. Well, he's not perfect either. He's just as overweight as I am, so why the double standard? I told him if I didn't have to work so much and handle EVERYTHING else that I do (and then I listed everything for him), maybe I'd have time to exercise. He's doing more around the house, and I am making an effort to increase my activity level and eat better. He also had to stop pushing food on me, which I think he equates feeding me as an expression of love. Don't worry about the weight. You can still curl your hair, put on some makeup and wear a little slinky something. Cripes, this is the only time I've actually had boobs! It's not so much the weight that bothers them as the attitude. When you get in a rut wearing elastic waistband pants and a ponytail to work at home in, and you stay in them all the time, you don't feel as feminine as you can. Know what I mean? Forget about the underwear and give him a real woman!
I am not alone! The news is driving
me nuts! But I am like a person with a sore tooth and your tongue can't leave it alone. I should just quit watching. They throw out these headlines and never follow up. The reports involving children are really getting to me. How many times have you seen a missing child story only to have the camera pan to the cross street signs, the block number of the house and then, of all things, "here's her best friend, Ginny, who lives right next door, and says she is really missing her friend tonight", and then they post the child's name on the screen. If the parents don't have anymore sense, you would think the TV station would. They have practically made themselves the pedophile home shopping network. And yes, I have actually written to all the major Houston stations and only one bothered to write me back, the NBC affiliate. I don't know if they stopped doing this, but I just saw one yesterday on ABC, so that had no effect on them. Oh, well, enough of my soap box.
haha! My 5 year old wants to know: Who's driving and what are ALL the
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Mine also, and I go very fast driving over them
and hold my breath or pray pretty much. Years ago my sister had gone over a bridge traveling to Tennessee just before it collapsed and I never forgot it.
On the news today they said something like 70,000 bridges in the country are in disrepair. I say put our taxes to better use! Do something constructive for a change.
Scary stuff.
I was driving home from work..sm
got the tail end of the report, mostly just that he'd been taken to the hospital, but the somber tone of voice made me realize pretty quickly that he had died. VERY sad day for me, I've always been a fan.
This mother saying too big a town for driving through yet
I honestly can understand this as when my children first started driving we were living in a huge city and all the freeways around, not some small town where everyone knows everyone and I bit my nails to the quick. The mother probably just wants the child to get more experience under his belt before he tries such a trip and the son is lying to her and making this trip regardless. He and the girl both sound like they are too much into each other for things like school right now. It happened to me- son just did not want school after high school. Sad when it is handed to you on a silver platter.
i stopped night driving when I was 48....
I live in a huge metropolis where everyone on the road is nasty.....gave up night driving at 48 due to problems seeing with the red, green, orange-yellow traffic lights PLUS headlights and rear lights.
I also have just given up driving all together...people are too nasty on the road.......I never did like driving, let my permit expire when I was 16 - never had a huge interest in driving.....just me is all.......
My children drive and all my friends drive so there's no problem whatsoever *lol*
Those low-mounted driving lights that - (sm)
illuminate both sides of the road are really helpful on dark country roads at night, and in the rain, too. They help me see puddles of deeper water, especially those along the side of the road that can get you spun around if just one front tire hits them. They're also good if you're watching for deer, pedestrians, etc.
I've learned a few tricks that help improve night driving vision:
First, if your windshield is pitted, replace it. The pits diffuse bright lights and make it hard to see.
Keep your headlights, tail-lights & turn-indicator lights clean so they'll be as bright as possible.
If I've been doing a long drive from daylight into night, especially if headed into the sunset, I'll wear sunglasses that are as dark as possible during bright daylight. Once the sun sets, I'll switch to more lightly tinted ones and wear them for as long as I can to help get my eyes better adjusted to the dark.
Once it's pretty dark, I usually take a break at a service station, and in addition to the slight rest I get from topping off the tank, I also take that opportunity to get my windshield as clean as possible - inside and out.
Next I'll wipe off my driving glasses, and finally, use some "Clear Eyes" eye drops in my eyes.
Finally, a sort of "last resort" trick I use to improve my vision right after passing an oncoming car with very bright headlights is to close one eye for a few seconds as the on coming car is within a certain distance. That way the iris in that eye doesn't have to readjust as much as the one that was blinded by the oncoming headlights.
All of those things make driving at night a little easier.
I must be the only one who LOVES driving at night.
When I was a kid, I did a lot of long-distance driving with my dad, and we were on the road a lot at night. I always loved that. It seemed so cool to be out on the roads at night when most of the world was tucked into their houses. It always seemed like an adventure. And then, I'm an avid backpacker and have been known to solo. I love the woods at night and the sounds of owls. It's lovely at night when it's quiet and dark.
Within the last 30 minutes I walked in the door following a 3-hour ride, mostly on the PA turnpike. It's not late, but the days are short now. I purposely left as the sun was going down, because I love watching the pinks and oranges of sunset. The moon is full tonight, and I saw the moon rise tonight, too. Che bella luna! It was just beautiful.
I have a dependable car, and if I were in trouble, I know basic mechanics, have a cell phone and AAA. I also know that most people are good people, and so that's how I choose to live my life ... counting on the good and appreciating the beautiful things. It makes me happy, and I'm well aware that the time is approaching when my eyesight, joints and muscles might not allow me to enjoy the simple things like driving at night or setting up my tent along a trail somewhere. So I'm doing it while I can!
While driving, some guy got really mad at me one time - I guess I cut him off? (sm)
I have no idea - but he followed me for miles on a busy road and kept pulling in front of me and slamming on the brakes, pulling up beside me and flipping me off, running up at the back of my car - scared me to death. No cell phone back then to call the police!
One day a few years back I was driving
to work (when I actually left the house to work) and I saw a man shoveling snow in his driveway, dressed like a normal man, but wearing a pair of red pumps. I almost crashed into a parked car doing a double take. He was tall and husky, built like a man, so I know it wasn't a woman. I got to work and told everyone and I don't think they believed me.
I went to 2 different high schools and when it came to driving....sm
the 1st high school a lot of the parents gave their kids brand new cars for their 16th birthday and paid for everything. A lot of those kids would wreck their cars and didn't care because they had no true repercussions.
The 2nd high school I went to after we moved was in a more economically depressed area. The kids that did have cars, generally had older used cars, had to work part-time to pay for the expenses of it and rarely got into accidents.
I drove a family car and while I was a senior in high school I took a full load of high school classes, 12 hours of college classes, worked 15 hours a week to pay for gas, insurance, upkeep, and was in marching/concert band, and made straight A's because I was determined to do all of this.
No way...driving cross country just as..
we do every year. DH and I take the month of May off for vacation and drive a Ford Explorer. Yes I have a large vehicle and no I don't feel guilty about having it It comes down to being economical in other ways. We use a credit card for the whole trip for gas and hotels, etc and get a 5% rebate. The vacation money is already put away in the bank so when we get back I just write a check for the bill. We have some of the highest gas prices here in the west and always figure it is a treat to head east and watch the prices drop a bit.
husband driving you crazy
Well, you could be like me and a lot of other women...no husband...all alone. I have all the time to myself I want and care to have. I was married once, and we worked together on the ranch and loved it. I like the suggestion that you go on a weekly date, or biweekly. Men do not know how to set these kinds of things up, so I will be on your shoulders to do this. Be creative and include things you both like to do. Wish I had that option.
I have two teens of driving age who both have their own cars. sm
My older teen is 19. She pays for her own insurance, but is on my policy. I will pay for my 17 year old until he is 19. I got them both used cars, and now if they want to sell them and get another one, that's up to them.
I am randomly tested for my bus driving - sm
duties. I get one day notice then have to show up at the testing place with a few other drivers and we either get alcohol testing (breathalizer) or a drug (pee) test, or both. If you test positive, you are immediately fired. I don't have a problem with that as I am responsible for other people's children and certainly would not want some alcholic or stoner driving my kids.
They see someone driving a nice car who paid for food sm
with food stamps, and this is where we began. They have no knowledge of income, housing, if that person owns that car or not, etc, etc. It is all jealousy and rage against a system they do not understand. As I said in the beginning, if you want to change it, then start by trying to change the regulations.
It depends on your vehicle and driving conditions...sm
In most cases you do not need to change it every 3000 miles unless you do a lot of strenuous driving (i.e. mountains or towing things). Your manufacturer of your vehicle can tell you what they recommend. A lot of the newer vehicles have sensors that advise when the oil needs changing based on how dirty it senses it is. The sensor on my Saturn usually alerts me between 6000-7000 miles that the oil needs changing. On our Kia they recommend changing it only every 7500 miles unless rigorous driving has been done, in which case they recommend changing between 3000-5000. Our Ford recommends changing the oil every 3000-5000 miles but it's also the oldest vehicle in our driveway.
How long are my hot flashes going to last? Driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!!
Not wanting to stop for gas and then driving on fumes SM
in hopes of reaching the pumps in time! 
Well, my significant other and I went away today and I was driving. Now he is a very aggressive
driver and I am much more cautious so it did not go well. I just dont pass everything in site with one foot on the gas and one on the brake. What a pain to have a passenger like that in the car telling you this and that and I would have been way up there by nowetc. Not much fun. I dont like to drive by the seat of my pants.
Unemployed husband driving me crazy sm
If my chair so much as squeaks, he has to open the bedroom door and see if I am really working. If the phone rings, he picks up the phone in the bedroom to listen in. This is getting way out of hand.
I asked him to stop doing this but he got really mad and said I should have nothing to hide. I don't have anything to hide but he is really really working my last nerve!
I am about ready to flip out. 
We cut back on driving, and the demand dropped.
Goes to show there is no reason for it to be that high anyway. If they think they can charge that much and get it, they will.
I was 18 and driving my Mustang on Main St. listening to the radio.
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I am thinking of driving to another state for a few days by myself to do some sightseeing. Has
anyone that has done this felt lonely on a driving trip by yourself. I have done bus trips and trips overseas with groups when the husband doesnt want to go but never drove by myself unless I was meeting someone I knew somewhere. I just wonder if it would be lonely in a hotel and sightseeing on your own. Any suggestions.
Angel story - Was driving with my kids to Florida from NC (sm)
We always say a prayer before starting on a trip like that, asking for God to send his angels to protect us. My children were about 5 and 8 years old. I got onto the interstate and before getting to the next exit, my car started bumping really bad, like I had a serious flat or something. I pulled over, got out and looked. It looked fine. I got back in, drove some more, a few minutes later, it happened again, much worse, the whole car was shaking - hard - not just like an out of balance car, but seriously shaking, almost like the brakes were on and the car was still trying to move. I took the first exit and saw a repair shop right there! I asked the guy to look at my car - it looked fine. He test drove it. Nothing. He told me it seemed fine, didn't charge me a dime, and I went on my way. A few miles down the road right in front of a rest stop was a huge pile of 2 x 4s and 2 x 4s scattered all over the road. I never had that problem again with my car, ever and never knew what caused it. But I believe that we were being protected by angels from being there when the 2 x 4s started falling, who knows what might have happened.
I totally relate..my daughter AND my mother are driving me insane.
It's funny you should mention Melodie Beattie as I went online today to look for support groups and someone mentioned that book. When I saw the description of "copendency" it fit my daughter..in EVERY category, and I know that I, of course, fell into the "enabler" category. Between my daughter calling 15 times a day and my mother..I am ready to move away and let someone else deal with them for a while. In a way, my mother is like my daughter..she also calls for money. Ironically, she does not like my daughter because of what my daughter has put me through. Funny how she doesn't realize that she does the same thing..emotional manipulation..guilt trips. I just want to be mentally free from them, and for this, I am getting help. They have drug me into depression, along with them. They are both bipolar and I think I am almost there with them, because one minute I feel so happy and positive..and then they call..and I'm depressed. I pray for strength..Thanks for your kind words. I can't help them anymore but I can save myself.
I'm in lower NY state. Driving and parking in the city is atrocious. He
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Question. Do many of you have problems with streets, turns, etc. driving at night in strange areas
you are not familiar with. I am not thrilled by night driving in unfamiliar towns.
You live where it's cold or warm? Driving gloves? Some nice body scrub/shower gels? nm
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well, I certainly hope that...sm
everyone on the plane wasn't hovering around this woman while she nursed...good grief!
Mind your own business and you'd never even know the baby was being nursed...dang!
By the way, at Disneyland.. how many butts and boobs did you see hanging out of shorts and tops? Did *yo momma* report them to the security and hold them hostage while they were told to leave? Huh? Doubt it!
Hope you are doing well... sm
I totally understand how you may be feeling. I was only able to get pregnant one time and lost the baby four weeks into the pregnancy, but I was the most pregnant woman in the world during that time. How special I felt; how special my husband and I felt together with this miracle growing inside me. Then, our world was shattered by the loss of the child we dreamt of. It took me a long time to get to a place in my heart where I could talk openly about the loss and grieve for our lost child. We prayed and prayed that God would bless us again, but it didn't happen the way we expected. I did not get pregnant again. Our little girl in heaven would be age 22 now.
Then, at the age of 40, when we had all but given up on parenthood, we met a 16-year-old unwed mother at our church. She was raising her infant daughter by herself and living in a shelter. She had decided to bring this child into the world instead of taking the easier road and aborting her. God bless her for that. She and her infant daughter came to live with us for over three years, restoring the joy of having a child to our home. For that time, we were content being "Nana and Pappaw." Then, the birth mom got involved with a man who wrecked her life and caused her to have to give up her child for adoption. We did not want this to happen to her, but the Lord intervened and we were able to adopt her daughter as our own. She is now 11 years old, is a wonderful child, bright, loving, and full of life. Her birth mom left the man who caused all the trouble, and God blessed her with a wonderful husband and a son. We now have contact with her new family by telephone, and she is like a daughter to us as well. Our 11-year-old daughter is so amazing, and so much like us that it is almost frightening! God, in His infinite wisdom, will restore you, just as He restored us. Trust in Him and trust His timing. We will be praying for you as you go through this chapter in your life. We are also in the State of Georgia, and you may email me at any time, should you need to talk to someone who has been there, and reassurance that God loves you and there are a lot of people out here praying for you. May God richly bless you throughout the holidays, and may you find His peace which passes all understanding.
Hope
 Like the other MT said . . . I believe that there is a love match for every person on this planet. This could be the "one". Follow your heart. It is better to have loved and lost than to never have been loved. (Someone really great said that!) Take it slow and enjoy the ride. Have fun!
I sure hope so... but, we won't
give up on them. We are season ticket holders (nose bleed section of course), but we love it. Our daughter loves them more than our son, she has not had the opportunity to go to a game yet. But one of the guys in front of us want to trade up some tickets so he can bring his family. He has two seats and we have two seats, so maybe that will work out for next season. It is a blast! Of course, my Dad was from Southeast Philly, so I grew up on 'em. I'm looking forward to the Phillies' games, too. We do not have season tickets for them, but I wish... if only.... .
I hope you are right..sm
I really don't think that for just a traffic ticket they would spend money to send some officer to another city to make good on a warrant, but you just never know. Depends on the judge who issued the warrant I guess. Your court records may be sealed, but I do believe the patitioner and defendent names are on a court dockett, and that is made public, though. If I remember right, it is posted by the court room door, but that is the state I live in. who knows. Either way, I wish you luck...with both your ticket and your child support issue! Think positive thoughts! :8]
Hope it is JT's but, sm
you are probably right. This may be old news, but she looks preggers in realy life. She and JT married in real life and it all happened so quickly most of her castmates didn't know until afterwards.
I so hope your dog does well sm
Our neighbor had the same problem with a mixed breed with a bit of terrier mixed in. It took her a bit longer to heal, but she is now doing wonderful. Isn't is amazing how much we love our furry friends? They will love us no matter what!!!
I hope you are right. Nothing would
be too severe. This country has to take a much harder look at this for so many reasons. We would love to think that everyone respects these beautiful creatures, but sadly not the case. In my local area alone the horror stories make me ill. I am going to put a post on about puppy mills the effect it had on my friend's dog.
I certainly hope not...
But I think she's way too selfish to get married any time soon. I see them breaking up when he gets ready to get married (he's only 20), cause she's too wrapped up in herself to be a wife...or am I just wishful hoping??? 
hope
Has your daughter changed her mind yet? The Navy sent my son's friend to Behran way back when the war first started. The other poster had marhvelous good luck with her husband and her sister and their Navy experience.
I hope they can get you right in!
Dentists where I am are few and far between and it's a real problem. When I lost my childhood filling there, the tooth was too far gone to be saved. Well, it could have been saved but the cost was as much as monthly mortgate and car payment combined, so it went bye-bye. I balled my eyes out for almost 2 days because it was then that I realized I would probably wind up toofless the older I got, as I had no idea how expensive dental care was. Having your own teeth should be a luxury, ya know?
You take care of yourself and it's good to "see" ya!
hope you are still okay -
after the root canal I was great for 2 days - then pain hit again, radiating all over my jaw - still had no pain medicine - was ready to hit the streets!!! Needed more antibiotics and eventually and 2000.00 later I am okay. I did get some relief from the Anbesol stuff and ice packs on my face. Hope it's over soon.
I hope you had fun! sm
But I just can't go in those anymore. We were just at the wax museum in Las Vegas and I just couldn't make myself go in the little haunted house there. My friends said it was more funny than scary. I have beeen getting more and more scared of them over the years but I made the HUGE mistake of going into that castle at Universal Studios and I didn't know it was a haunted house and I was TERRIFIED through the whole thing. I held on to my friend's ponytail the whole way. I think that was the last one I'll ever go in.
Just one more! Hope these help someone!
Don’t think of her as gone away
Her journey’s just begun
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one
Just think of her as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years
Think how she must be wishing
That we could know, today
Now nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away
And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And she is loved so very much
--Anonymous
A Woman and a Fork
There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. Therefore, as she was getting her things “in order”, she contacted her Pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes.
She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in. Everything was in order and the Pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her.
“There’s one more thing,” she said excitedly.
“What’s that?” the Pastor’s reply.
“This is very important,” the young woman continued. “I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand.”
The Pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say.
“That surprises you, doesn’t it?” the young woman asked.
“Well, to be honest, I’m puzzled by the request,” said the Pastor.
The young woman explained. “My grandmother once told me this story, and from that time on I have always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement.
In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, ‘Keep your fork.’ It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming…like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance!
So I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder, “What’s with the fork?” Then I want you to tell them: “Keep your fork, the best is yet to come.”
The Pastor’s eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman and said good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven that he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge.
She KNEW that something better was coming.
At the funeral people were walking by the young woman’s casket. They saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand.
Over and over, the Pastor heard the question, “What’s with the fork?” And over and over, he smiled.
During his message, the Pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her.
He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either. He was right. So the next time you reach down for your fork, let it remind you, ever so gently, that the best is yet to come!
(When I read this the first time, it ended here)
Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us. Show your friends how much you care. Remember to always be there for them even when you need them more. For you never know when it may be their time to “Keep their fork”. Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share…being friends with someone is not an opportunity but a sweet responsibility.
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND even if it means sending back to the person who sent it to you. And keep your fork!
I hope you get it! (sm)
I'm afraid it will be pretty wet snow that doesn't stick to the ground, but at least you and your kids will get to see it falling.
OMG! Do you know her????? I hope not!! nm
:)
hope it goes well.
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