I highly doubt you'll get someone to do all of that for

• For those of you who have paid help with the house .. - Please advise me here (sm)
  • paid help - marilyn
  • My MIL used to do all her own cleaning... - I vote for cleaning service
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  • I had a house cleaner... - Oh gosh
  • Nope. That's more than an hour's work - Misha
    • BTW, the company I advise you - Misha
  • Thank you to all; I have a teen here in my complex who wants to do it. - Please advise me here (sm)
    • Then you're lucky!! Yes! I would hire her to do it and I think $15 is great! (nm) - NCMT
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    • I think she said in her post that it was a teenager in her neighborhood. - LinK
  • I highly doubt you'll get someone to do all of that for - $15.00 an hour.
  • I think you'll have a hard time finding someone who will (sm) - NCMT
    • Am agreeing with you about only hr each day - Angie

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that this guy is capable of change. And the best thing you can possibly do is think about your girls and what you want for them, how you want their childhood to be, and how you can avoid further trauma to their psyche. This type of dysfuction is devastating to them and will, if left unchecked, eventually lead to them seeking out dysfunctional relationships in the future. Children learn what they live and have no reason to believe that this family dynamic is not normal. It certainly is not healthy for them. As you filter through advice that you are given and make decisions about how you will deal with this, ALWAYS make your girls the first and foremost consideration and make all decisions with their best interest in mind.

Exhausted, I wish you and your girls the best. I also have a 16 MO daughter and cannot imagine my DH acting this way. Sure, he doesn't LIKE to change poopy diapers, nobody does, but he will do it if she needs it. He will do anything for her.

As their mother, you are their most important role model. If you continue to be his doormat, you can be sure that they will just the same later in life.  You have to show them that this type of life is unacceptable and that you always consider their needs and emotional health to be your first priority, always.

HUGS!

Please, everyone with a pet of any kind, consider it.  It can be a lifesaver (literally!), and I personally like the peace of mind it gives me, whether I ever need to file a claim or not.  Try Veterinary Pet Insurance:  http://www.petinsurance.com/ 

There are other companies too, but this is the only one we've used.  It saved us a small fortune when our Rottie got bone cancer in his front leg at just 4-1/2 years old.  After the diagnosis, we got a CT scan (same machine they use for people - $$$) to make sure it hadn't spread.  It hadn't, so we went ahead and amputated the leg (also not so inexpensive).  He felt great, was out of pain, adapted easily to 3 legs and was his old, happy self.  But just 6 months later the cancer was back, and we had to let him go.  Poor baby.  It all ended up costing about $2000.00, and we were reimbursed about $1200.00 from the insurance, so it was a big help. 

I think we just had their basic policy too, not the more expensive one (that would've reimbursed more), but I don't remember.  I think we paid around $300.00 a year for him (including an optional $99 routine care coverage addition to the policy).  The cost depends on the age and breed of the animal, and you can make monthly payments or pay all at once.  They insure all kinds of animals too, not just dogs and cats. 

We have VPI for our 2 youngest dogs (2 y/o Rottie and 5 y/o husky mix).  Personally, we will never be w/o it again on any of our dogs.  It's just such a relief to know you have it.  VPI also has a routine care plan you can add on to the policy (or not) that reimburses part of your yearly costs for shots, spay/neuter, teeth cleaning, flea/tick products, and heart worm meds, and we like having that. 

My oldest dog, my baby, is Wiley, a 12 y/o Siberian Husky.  Much to my regret, I didn't get insurance for him when he was younger.  Now it's too expensive (and they don't cover preexisting conditions).  Same with my senior Siberian, Alexx, who died earlier this year - I didn't have insurance for her because it's too expensive when they're seniors (if they'll even cover you then).  So I'll be paying off credit card bills for Alexx (who was very healthy until the last year or so) and Wiley (mostly Wiley) for yeeeeeaaarrrs to come. 

Wiley's had health problems since he was 5 yrs old, starting with his teeth (enamel hypoplasia, meaning lots dental x-rays, cleanings, extractions - root canals!), then a tumor (spindle cell sarcoma), then a recurrance of the tumor 3 yrs later (the biggest expense by far, due to the extensive nature of the surgery, need for a scan first, a specialist...), and now... immune-mediated joint disease.  If I'd had insurance for him, I would've save myself, literally, *thousands* of dollars (assuming they didn't cancel the policy! LOL) 

We're like you, Hayseed.  Our dogs might as well be our children, and we take care of them accordingly.  ;o) 

JLo and Antonio Banderas.  You will be moved and inspired to act.  HIGHLY recommend. 

Thank you everyone!  It has been great reading all of your responses!  Goodnight!!  "See" you all tomorrow!

Hugs,

Chickadee

The woman she is dealing with is irrational and has serious issues. Confronting her could lead to a big emotional blowup that would leave the OP feeling even worse.

When you are talking about rational people who are able to deal with their problems calmly and with some degree of objectivity, then discussing problems is an excellent idea.

But believe me - I have been there when it comes to dealing with people who refuse to face their own problems. I definitely came out of that situation feeling much worse than when I went in, even though I remained calm, softspoken, and rational during the entire conversation.

I think the OP should use her own judgment in deciding whether it is worth it to confront the woman over this. Sometimes it's better just to close the door, literally and metaphorically, rather than try to get "closure" through confrontation.

JMHO

but don't you ever type a list of meds a mile long and wonder how the poor patient (especially someone elderly) is still standing upright?  Sometimes that makes me absolutely crazy.  I think there is absolute validity in natural cures and I think the medical community or government or whomever is too quick to push yet another drug - or in this case, a vaccine - on the population without knowing exactly what the side effects will be.

I strained my lower back 3 weeks ago.  My mother immediately assumed I was going to need surgery, friends insisted I needed drugs.  I went to my chirpractor.  It took several visits, but I am now pain free.  Totally, 100% natural.  (I didn't add this to start another whole debate, but just to make my point that there are alternatives.)

Have a great day!! 

Toss it........chicken needs to be refrigerated after cooking and leaving it all night in the oven is not a good thing, I have done it myself and thrown the chicken out.

When in doubt, throw it out! 

going on myself, so it's a bit difficult to describe it in any clear way.

I know very little about diabetes, but my vision is definitely deteriorating.  I had wondered why the nurse specifically asked me if I was a diabetic.  I also know that I have a great chance of developing diabetes once my pancreas is completely destroyed.  All I know is the last set of labs I had were very good.  I see my doctor again on July 22, and I will definitely mention this to him.

I took Wellbutrin almost 10 years ago to try to help quit smoking.  It gave me tremors of the hands so badly that I couldn't type.  So I stopped taking it.  I'm on a mess of medicines (most of them, gratefully, provided by the manufacturers' patient assistance programs.)  A couple months ago, I started Abilify, didn't seem to have any problems.

As far as the problem with staggering, mine came out of the blue, as well.  I was somehow thinking they might be related, but after your comment about diabetes, I'm going to do more research on diabetes because it's a disease that I know absolutely nothing about.

Thanks so much for your post and your input.  I'm feeling like "Columbo" trying to figure out a mystery, and I appreciate any input I can get. 

Hope you have a great weekend. 

Roux in French means to cook equal amounts of butter/flour together to make/thicken sauces.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roux

However, medically speaking here's a descript. of what name means/comes from:

The name (Roux-en-Y) comes from the restructuring of the small intestine to form a Y-shaped structure. One arm of the Y carries digestive juices and the other carries food. The two arms come together farther down the intestine where digested food can be absorbed.

http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9507E4DA143FF932A05751C1A9649C8B63&sec=health&spon=&pagewanted=print