I have to weigh-in on this - sm
Posted By: former wild child on 2008-01-29
In Reply to: How much do you tell your kids about your youth? - trose
I was truly a wild child in my youth. I partied, got in trouble though never arrested but I probably should have been once or twice. I got caught drinking, smoked pot a few times but was too scared to do anything worse than that.
I was a rebel. I was also a mother before I was 19 and that's when I realized something, I was never ever going to lie to my kids about anything if it meant I may prevent them from making the same mistakes I did.
My son is 21 years old now and I have three other kids not far behind him with my husband (not my son's father but he raised him.)
My biggest fear when the kids hit their teens was that one of them would end up becoming a parent as a teenager and have to struggle as I did. I don't want that for any of my kids.
When my kids ask me about things, I tell them the truth. They may or may not be shocked but I also tell them that I am not proud of the bad things that I did.
My husband disagrees and wants the kids to think he was the perfect child. In my opinion, that is not doing them any favors. Why lie?
If a parent lies and says no, they didn't do this or that, the kid is really looking for guidance.
Who better to give a life lesson than a parent?
I can and will say, yes I did that, I'm not proud of it, but I did and I hope you have better self-control and judgment than I did.
I speak very frankly with my kids and always have.
Reasonable advice from past experience is what I offer them and they know they can confide in me. I have had no trouble so my theory has served me and my kids well so far.
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Weigh too much, laughing as I read
because that is exactly what I tell even my physician if they want to weigh (which I do not, by the way!) because figure unless I am getting anesthesia and they want to make sure about amount, do not really need to know that. Just take a guess..
great picture and you weigh ??? *ROFL
imagine that description on a 400 lb person.....
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Have you ever heard of the Weigh Down Diet program? sm
It's not really a diet. It is a matter of changing the way you eat, not what you eat. Feel free to e-mail me and I'll give you some specifics.
What is a good weight for someone middle aged around 5Ɖ. Just curious what others weigh. nm
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