I have some friends who adopted 2 of them;
Posted By: both exceptionally gentle & obedient. on 2008-09-29
In Reply to: There are greyhound rescue people who SM - Cece
The more I see them, the more I like them. If I had room for a dog, I'd consider a retired racing greyhound!
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I was adopted
and didn't find out until 2 years ago!
Adopted Kids......
I know somebody who has 2 kids who are adopted. The kids are 9 and 11 years old. Should I tell the kids they are adopted? Everybody knows and someday somebody will slip up and the kids will resent the parents.
As a parent of an adopted
child, I would definitely say the answer is 'no" and it is for this very reason that my husband and I have from the beginning talked to our son about the fact that he is special because he is adopted - we wanted to be the ones to tell him the truth rather than him hear it from someone else. This is definitely something that the parents should do and should do so when they feel comfortable talking about it with their children...My son is 6 and he knows he is adopted. He understands that he came from someone elses belly (he's my heart baby as we have told him. We answer his questions when he asks them and tell him just want he asked for - divulging nothing else to confuse him - take for instance at 4 is when he noticed my SIL's pregnant belly and knew the baby was there - he at that point put 2-n-2 together and realized something was up - which prompted us to talk about him being from someone else's belly. Then a few months ago he asked about this other person - why she didn't keep him, what was her name....(yes we were very surprised as our social worker said little boys are usually much older before they really inquire!)...but we answered his questions reinforcing the positives of being adopted because he had brought us so much happiness and that this other woman did love him enough to know she couldn't raise him and loved him enough to give him to us -making us a family! Sorry for rambling....adoption issues usually get me on a soap box sometimes!! Either way the answer to your question is definitely not your place to tell - leave it up to the parents.
I recently adopted a cat
from a rescue facility. She is a total sweetheart and so petite! I named her Tinkerbell. She shed like crazy at first but I think it was nerves because now a couple weeks later she has stopped shedding and seems to have settled in nicely, plays with my other cat (male) and loves my dog!
The only thing I've noticed is she is a bit gassy - not a lot but at times worse than others. My question is, is there something I can give her otc to help with her "problem"?
She looks just like my adopted dog, Brandy!
Brandy also is a notorious snorer. But she's such a good dog.
Here's the kitty I just adopted!
She's an 8 year old Exotic Shorthair Persian named Charlotte. Her little tongue sticks out all the time, 'cuz her face is so flat & her mouth is so small. She's tiny - and only weighs about 5-1/4 lbs. right now. Needs to gain a pound or two.) She's a total cuddle-bug!
(She just came out to say hi to me - she was annoyed with me earlier because I had to give her a pill. Not easy with that tiny little mouth!) Whenever I'm on the computer, she sits on the back of my chair and "helps".
Ditto this!! If you adopted me, then you
could be the greatest grandma that I wished my kids had now. Mom and did don't live too far from us (couple of hours) but don't make any extra efforts to spend time with the grandkids. Apparently, their idea of grandparents and mine are different. I remember spending nights at my grandparents and tooling around in their garden, building train sets, going for walks and adventures and even walking down to the corner donut shop with my g'pa for donuts and coffee(hot chocolate) every saturday morning. I practically beg for my parents to come down - I send them schedules of the kids activities, special school events, everything but there is always a reason they can't come (mainly they don't want to leave any of their critters alone for any length of time - but they are willing to animal sit for their neighbors all the time). At Christmas, the kids get one outfit and a book. If you ask me - to all the grandparents on this board - spoil them with your time, hug them, kiss them, and keep on creating memories.
Sorry, didn't mean to rattle on but this is always a touchy subject in my household because I had such fond memories growing up but my kids will have none of that.
I just adopted a declawed cat
who was abandoned. she looks like she has no toes, with floppy little hair tufts and going the wrong directions. Like other poster said, she does not cover her stuff in the litter box (maybe feels she cannot manage it) and her attitude is so defensive to the other cats, even after a month, and i wonder if it isn't because she feels so defenseless. I sure would not do it to a cat.
We have adopted several pets from shelters
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Don't laugh, but we also adopted a rooster
A rogue rooster was hanging around the back of a convenience store my husband goes past every day and we knew he must have gotten off a truck or got lost somehow, because there is no place around here to keep a chicken. Anyhoo, he was determined to catch that rooster and he and my son went and rounded him up with a net... he is now sitting on our deck in the back yard crowing every morning around 6, as soon as he sees a touch of light. I know our neighbors think we are now the Beverly Hillbillies. I have named him Elvis and he is already spoiled. We have a friend who owns a miniature horse farm and she is going to come and pick him up. She has only one hen and now Elvis will have a lady in his life. Thank goodness!!!
Here is our Becky (recently adopted)
Becky loves to cuddle and loves to get her belly rubbed. She would rather be in your lap, but is content to lay at your feet if that's where you prefer her. Becky enjoys her toys and will even carry them around the house and toss them for herself. She knows commands like "sit" and "come", and she comes when called 100% of the time. If you lay on the floor with her while you watch TV and scratch her ears or stroke her fur, she will go right to sleep. Just be sure to have the remote handy so you can turn up the volume once the snoring starts. :)
This is my other kitty, adopted 10 months ago.
This is Xanadu - a 2-year-old calico Persian. When I first got her (both came from Persian & Himalayan Cat Rescue in Mill Valley), I figured she'd be happiest as an only cat. But after 10 months of careful observation and getting to know her really well, I decided she needed a companion. She had a pretty traumatic history with other cats at her original home, one of whom scratched her cornea, so her new friend had to be exactly the right cat. And as always, the people at rescue matched me up with the PERFECT kitty-companion in Charlotte, the one posted below.
Some adopted kids have a lot of issues
I had a friend who adopted 2 kids and she said you had to walk a fine line between making their birth mother a saint who selflessly gave them up, or a villain who didn't want them. Unfortunately a lot of these kids think of their mother in one of those two categories. So they find themselves longing for the childhood they didn't have (if they think she was a saint) or struggle with feelings of worthlessness (if they think she didn't want them.)
Personally, I think it is a noble and selfless thing to give up a child who you know you cannot raise and I admire you. I'm sure it was not an easy thing to do. Hopefully your child will find a way to resolve their own issues because they have put you in an untenable position.
At the rescue where I adopted my cats, they have - sm
volunteers to clean cages & feed kitties, and one day when I was there they had a girl (about 12 years old) who was actually getting some kind of school credit for coming every day to socialize and play with a large litter of kittens so that they'd be adoptable. It was so cute to see her in the kitten-room playing with the little feather-wand with them. They were jumping all over the place, climbing in her lap, etc. They LOVED her! They ALL got adopted, (and they were all BLACK kitties, too!) So that girl did a wonderful service to all the kittens.
My children have adopted a baby pig - sm
My ex-husband went to the feed store and a man was there talking about how his hog had only had one baby and that it would "not be worth the trouble to let her raise it". My ex-husband asked him what he was going to do with the little one, and he said if he couldn't get rid of it that he would just kill it. My ex-husband told the man he would take the little pig. Long story short, our kids are feeding the baby pig with a bottle. Her name is Pinkie. They are in love, LOL. I asked him what made him decide to take this little pig, and he said, "We watched Charlotte's Web the night before, and I just couldn't stand the thought of him killing that little pig." I am praying that Pinkie makes it.
Oh, the chows and the rott are right in there with not being able to be adopted
as they also fall into that same category, aggressive and just was at the animal shelter this morning (run by police department at this particular place) and lots of pits there and they are not adopted out. That is the bottom line so must hold some truth in it whether people believe or not. There was a case of a 60 something year old man recently killed by his son's pit, family dog, he had been around for a long time, knew well, just the breed.
When you have friends - it's good. But when you don't have friends it's
REALLY GOOD!!!
I swear, I have this one friend who just gets mad at me stupid stuff. I told her a few weeks ago that I could probably go out this sat. but now I can't make it (just dinner). So, I emailed her and told her I can't go. She's upset. Thinks I should not have made plans in the first place. Well, things come up.
Why are people (women) so catty? Immature?
Are there any women out there who can: Forgive, understand, not get offended because I am not perfect? If so, I'd like to meet you. I highly doubt she exists though.
Gracie has been adopted with a good person
Dobermans are misunderstood. They love their people, they are protective and noble. They love to follow you around the house and be with you. They need patience in training. They love to run. Please, if anyone knows of an abusive case, get invovled. Visit Doberman Rescue.
I hope you get him! I just adopted a 2nd rescue kitty - sm
on Thursday. She's a 7-year-old Exotic Shortnair Persian with the cutest little personality and face! Her tongue sticks out all the time (VERY flat face!), and she's tiny, only weighs about 5 or 6 pounds. She looks a little bit like "Yoda" from Star Wars. My other Persian is interested, but still feeling threatened and hissing a lot. But today, only 2 days later, they're at least coexisting peacefully. Hopefully in a few weeks they'll be FRIENDS.
I have adopted older cats for just that reason.
Kittens are cute as a button but they can destroy in no time flat. I had 1 kitten who grew into a wonderful loving cat, but vowed never to get a kitten again. I adopt cats who are a year old or better, declawed, fixed, and thoroughly enjoy the heck out of them and, yes, they enjoy being lazy sometimes just like their mom!
Why hasn't that hospital adopted the *Time Out*
The entire surgical team is involved in the *Time Out* and *Pause for the Cause* (called different things in different states). All involved in the surgery standing in the OR at that moment must be in agreement on confirming the correct patient, correct procedure, correct site of procedure, correct position of the patient, etc.
I went in for surgery and they asked me multiple times to repeat my name and the procedure I was coming in for as I went through multiple rooms on the gurney.
That is really scary that these types of errors are still going on.
Obviously, that is a hospital I wouldn't even take my dog to.
AW he is soooo cute. We just adopted Chip last week - sm
He is what the shelter called a beagle mix, but if he is mixed with anything I will eat my hat... Okay I do not have a hat, but I would be surprised...LOL.
Here is a pic of him..
[IMG]http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o182/mamahawn/chip3.jpg[/IMG].
I hope your transition is as easy as ours was. We have 2 other rescue doggies, both lab mixes and female and the three of them were fast friends. Of course we have no diningroom left with 3 creats in it, but who cares...
Friends of Our's..
are separating and might end up divorced uggg.
They are the couple that we went on our summer vacation with. They have no kids luckily.
SHE is unhappy and has been since June I guess. He has been talking to hubby about it all on MSN Messenger and asking for advice. It has to do with her Religion, she goes to the church where they meet in homes and she wears skirts. I can't think of what she calls it but he isn't into that Religion and refuses to go to church with her and that is causing problems.
Anyway, she won't be happy unless she finds a guy in her church, that way, they will go together, ya know?
I feel bad for them but it might be for the best I don't know.
DH saw it with friends and they all
loved it. He reports it is very good and very gory. Critics hated it, but it is raking in the money because fans love it. It is more of a guy movie, but that doesn't mean a lot of us gals won't like it too. DH and his friends all researched the subject before going, they were that excited.
ooh, I never said he and I were friends...
I tried being *friends* with him for about 8-9 years after but he was never my friend (nor his own friend) - but with passive-aggressives - if they don't want to change, forget about them *cooperating* - WE EVEN DID THERAPY prior to the divorce but it was evident to the therapist that he was lying and playing games.....power tripping games too.
No, what I meant is he is in a better place today in HIS life, kids are doing their thing and communicating with both parents, and my life is great because I'm FREE....for me, it's all about freedom and having nobody trying to *control* me.
Good luck in your choices, they are not easy choices by any stretch of the imagination....
Where are her friends?
This young woman is in pain and is hurting. She needs help. Where are her friends? Instead of demonizing her, her mother, K-Fed, father - is he in the picture - former pastor, someone should be with her and get her to go into intensive private therapy. The girl is melting down in front of the world and no one is trying to help her.
I don't condone illegal drug use or misuse of legal drugs, but I really don't care if her problems were caused by drugs or something else. She is a human being in pain and needs help, not ridicule or judgment.
Where are Nicole, Paris, Lindsay, all the blondettes were ready to party with her in order to get their own picture in the tabloids? Where are the publicity agents, talent agents, etc., who made thousands of dollars off Britney's career? Someone needs to step up to the plate for her.
I should add that Pam and I were friends (sm)
not just in Bunco but had gone many places together, spent lots of time at each other's homes, had our children play together, etc.
best friends?
How many of you have bonded with a person...ala best friend...out of your immediate family?...to the point where you trust this person more so than a family member?
I have friends..not close...I'm close to only my sister...
I know one acquaintance that spends all her time with her best friend...I mean they have morning coffee together..take family trips..am and pm visits...I don't know that I could be that close to someone without it bugging me abit even though she was a good friend...
Confusing maybe..just thought I'd throw it out there..its a thought I had...
If they are your friends
Then they will take your feelings into consideration also. If you don't want to hang out, you don't want to hang out, no harm in that.
that's what my guy friends said!
and then nicely they of course told me that's why I wouldn't be allowed to live there.
haha
that's what my guy friends said!
and then nicely they of course told me that's why I wouldn't be chosen to live there.
haha
yes he does and he says his friends liked it
because he thinks his teeth look like hers now. It's my issue not his, thank goodness!!!
I guess it's because his teeth don't cascade naturally. He did have a palatial expander, which may have something to do with it.
Friends....sm
I have 3 friends who have been wonderful over the years. One I have known nearly my whole life, one for almost 20 years and the other for about 10 years. Then I have my sister and 2 female cousins who are absolutely 3 of my most favorite people in the entire world. I am truly blessed.
friends
My sister is still very good friends with her best friend from high school and it is cool to see them get so old. I am the older sister and in my head they were goofy, skinny teenagers, and now they have all these kids and it is amazing. Me and my best friend in high school did not last past me having a baby. She never married and I guess she felt like we did not have anything to talk about anymore.
Friends
I've run into quite a few of these type of individuals through the years. Oftentimes, it turned out to be a family member of the boss, owner, etc., or someone who got the job through a friend, OR someone who just happens to look good. It seems that experience and talent/ability are not the qualities that get the job nowadays.
I agree for friends
I have a very good friend who lives across the street and she's welcome to come over whenever she wants. We usually just knock and go right in. I do look out the window though if the doorbell rings and I usually don't answer it if it's someone I don't know.
My kids all believe, even though some of their friends say otherwise.
It probably helps that they are "free thinkers." They have their own thoughts and opinions and aren't usually swayed by others. Also, one of them is pretty popular in his school and very much a leader there, so many of the kids believe what he has to say over a lot of the other kids, even about Santa!
I think I've gone out of my way to teach my kids not to follow others' belief patterns just for the sake of being like everyone else. They really don't care much if they stand out, and it's actually worked to their advantage. They are often looked up to because they're strong enough to be different. :)
By the way, they feel sorry for the kids who don't believe in Santa.
did you accept it and are you friends?
mk
Well, she can't just not let her child have friends over! (sm)
That's just not realistic. So the whole family should just hide in their house because of her husband's issues? I have to disagree with that.
tell us about your furry friends.
We would love to hear!
No famous HS friends, but...
my FIL worked as a security guard for several Elvis Presley's Memphis events. He was a sheriff department reserve officer and they were chosen regularly for Elvis' appearances.
My former step-mother owned a night club in Port Arthur, Texas, where Janis Joplin and her band played regularly...before she was famous.
My parents assembled the dryers/heaters that cleaned up the radiation spilled at the Three Mile Island accident in the seventies.
oh, he realizes he does it, and he does not do that to his friends, right?
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One of my very best friends had this done and is so very happy she did.
She had a really horrible time before the ablation, including chronic anemia. (Her hemoglobin had fallen to 5.4 at one point!)
She had this done last year and says it's the best decision she ever made. The procedure wasn't bad, recovery was quick, and she's had no problems, and no periods, since then.
Losing friends
When I lost my first one (my cat BB) I tried to keep him hanging on as long as possible but when I talked to him about it he let me know he wanted me to let him go and I held him when I took him to the vet and he purred the whole time. He knew he didn't have to suffer any more. The really hard stuff only lasts for 3 days, then you feel better every day. It's lots easier after you get the ashes back, you feel like they're home. On my hearth I have 4 late cats, 1 late husband, 1 late brother-in-law and my late mother. I never really feel like they're gone. I feel for you, hang in there.
Family and friends
Thanks for understanding. I agree. I have found that family is not necessarily blood. They say blood is thicker than water? I say blood could equal dysfunction. The real family we have are those we choose ourselves and who love us in return. Your peaceful Christmas with you husband and your friends sound like what Christmas is all about, not the other stuff. Thanks for reminding me Christmas can be peaceful and warm.
This is why I have mostly male friends.
I really hope you don't take too much into the mean ones and listen to the positive input.
Walk a mile in someone else's moccasins, people...
I didn't but my son and some of his friends did.
I am going to try to record it since my son won't be home from school when it airs. I talked to another mom and she is going to record it as well. Hopefully one of will succeed.
We are going to the dog track with friends. sm
we have been doing this for years. Only spend a couple of dollars on each race (we really don't know what we are doing LOL) and then we play the slots. A couple of years ago I hit $2000.00 on "The Big Cheese". We only go once or twice a year so that makes it even more fun.
Good friends sm
Believe me when I say this, I have all my life been a giver and I always end up getting hurt in the longrun. The only friend you should be totally devoted to is YOU. Be your own best friend. Even if you don't have money, do something nice for yourself and you'll feel better.The best things in life really are free, a brisk walk, a hot shower or tub, etc. I have a hard time as well but never as much as when a supposedly good friend betrays me. I know if I take care of ME, at least one person is grateful, ME. Some of my worst best friends came from church, go figure! Be nice to yourself and the rest will follow. You are not alone with the way you feel, just tell yourself this too will pass and think of the saying that goes, "I felt sorry for myself because I had no shoes; then I met a man with no feet." You will be okay, try to let it pass, don't hurt yourself, please, we need all the MT's we can get!!
My friends all went to the fireworks at the - sm
Ferry Building on the waterfront last night. I was tempted to go, but honestly don't like being around ONE drunk, let alone a quarter-million of 'em! So instead I stayed home and worked late into the night to get as much as possible done. Then today I slept 'til noon, and then went for a long skate all over town. Went to the 4-story parking-structure where I used to work, and took advantage of its emptiness. I skated up all the ramps to the top floor(the "workout" part), and then turned back around, got into a tuck, and zoomed down all four floors non-stop. (The FUN part.) What a blast! I love parking structures..........
:)
Mom called friends?..........who are these
xx
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