I have relatives in fairly rural Maine who never lock, and I feel totally safe there. nm
Posted By: Confetti on 2009-01-09
In Reply to: Do you lock your doors at night? - GabbyChick
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Actually, relatives in suburban PA don't lock either and I feel safe there, roo. sm
But i would not feel safe in my own home unlocked, even though I'm in a gated community with tons of outside lights, etc. For some reason I feel safe in someone else's house more than my own.
Rural, no still don't lock
doors. When i think of doing it and do, my husband just unlocks when he steps out to smoke and does not re-lock. But i'd say the majority of people here don't lock doors. and some leave keys in their cars too.
We lock our doors, rural here - sm
we do not have much crime here but that may change with people out of work, etc. We have on occasion left doors unlocked when we go out for a while, by accident, and all has been well. We live on a private road though with 13 houses so we all look out for each other and strangers cars driving by (only 1 way in or out), etc. Routinely leave the dining room back door unlocked just because we let the dogs in and out there and forget to lock it when we go out. But one of the first things we did when we moved in was I insisted on key deadbolts on the front door and the door from the garage which opens into our family/great room and our 3 back doors (too many doors on this house--have 4, one is a slider). So we have double locks on those doors, cannot hurt. Everyone I know locks up, foolish not to no matter where you live.
Kids want/need bounderies. Makes them feel safe
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I totally understand how you feel...sm
I too felt that way until I came to know some pits. I realized they acted like any other dog. I won't lie. All pits can be dangerous because of their capabilities. But I know many owners who have never had problems with this breed including my dad and great grandfather. Mine is just a big hunk of love. Hes nothing like you would think when you think of a pitbull. He is so tenderhearted. To me, he is just CJ, my heart. I think you have a right to your feelings but I have a right to mine and I love this dog and in my heart I know he would not hurt me or my family. He has had so many opportunities to kill when attacked by smaller dogs and he never did. Many times he would just walk off and look pitiful.
Totally sucks, I really feel bad for them - sm
and have been upset by this all day for some reason, probably because my family went thru something very similar, my 18-m/o nephew died, aphixiated somehow at day-care....charges were never brought again the babysitter. He was brain dead by the time they resuscitated him. We pulled the plug on him the following day. This just brings it all back and makes me feel horribly sad for them.
Thanks for the info! Ever feel like you just totally missed something? LOL
That's so funny to me that I am from Florida, have been to the Keys and never knew that! I thought they were from other exotic areas and that they had to be shipped to the US and bought from pet stores. Had no idea! That is too funny!
I'm fairly new
to personals sites. Most of the people I've dated before were coworkers, old high school friends, etc. Thanks for the suggestion--I haven't heard of speed dating in my area, however. Just wanted to see about a support group for those who get dumped many, many times. If this happened to someone I knew, I'd advise her to just throw in the towel!
Yep all 3 of them, 2 of them I see on a fairly - sm
regular basis 3-4 x a year, have an evening out or bull session at one of their houses/apartment, the other I email though she actually lives closer about 2.5 hours away. Every summer I say I will try to go and visit her but have not made it as yet and have not seen her for about 6 years. She has a small farm and lots of animal so hard for her to visit. The other 2 still live where we grew up and where my family is, so obviously I see more of them. We email and talk on the phone at least once a month if not more.
He was 86. I have many relatives
in their late 90s & a couple over 100. When your parents reach their 80s, you won't be saying things like that because you'll hope they have many years left beyond 86.
fairly new student
Hello all! I am a fairly new student of MT.I am going through M-TEC. Anyone else going through the same school??? I would greatly appreciate any and all suggestions to help me out in my journey. I am sure that there are many of you out there who have some good suggestions on MT studying, finding words, answers to questions and so on. Thanks in advance!
RELATIVES FROM OTHER COUNTRIES
My husband is a first generation American. His folks came here legally, worked their buns off, and did it the right way. My father-in-law became a citizen as did his sister. My husband's sister married a man whose entire family came here LEGALLY from Beirut during that awful war where they lost everything, their businesses, their homes, couldn't even leave their hiding places to buy grocersies because they were shot at, so they went without food for quite some time. They were singled out there because they allowed the females in their family to go to college. Can you imagine? They came here with what they could salvage LEGALLY, then got jobs and saved their money until they could start their own businesses. All of these humble people respected our laws and now are part of us. They are all Americans now except my mother-in-law who passed away still with her green card, but she always showed up and did what she needed to do legally to stay in this country and she loved it. None of them worked for anyone illegally or under the table. I say send all the illegals back. All of them. She is right, we don't have enough natural resources or cash to take care of all these people who do not respect us anyway and take and take and give nothing to to contribute to our society except more illegal things in order to earn a buck. Like sell drugs, drive drunk, pretend to be Jose Somebody at the ER so they won't have to pay the bill that we all cover. Enough.
I'm sure some of your relatives are feeling sm
the same horrible crunch. Feel them out gently. Together you can approach the insensitive members of your family.
Instead of saying you "won't be buying any gifts," say you "can't" instead. It's the sign of the times, and not a reflection on you.
You can have a very merry and wonderful Christmas without gifts. It's love that makes Christmas Christmas!
Merry Christmas to you and all the other posters and readers!
I'm now doing fairly physical labor
for my job, and my body likes it better than being locked in a chair 40+ hours a week. I did have shoulder pain for a couple of months that worried me, but that's gone now. Sitting in a chair all those hours is not good for you - we weren't designed for it. It took me quite a while to figure out exactly where my worst pain was, and it turned out to be coming from right next to one of my ischial tuberosities, probably from an inflammed bursa irritating the sciatic nerve. But everybody's pressure point could be different.
It's one thing if you work in an office and have other duties in the mix, even just delivering reports or whatever, but it's not natural to do only one thing like they make factory workers do. Currently the worst pain I have is from my long commute, SITTING in the car.
Progressive rural
Been around a lot in several "blue" states. All rural areas definitely not created equally, but there are a lot of really fine, progressive, intelligent and accepting of race-creed-color-sexual bias rural areas in Wisconsin and Minnesota. I love it here for that reason.
Rural area also
I also live in a rural area and have a farm. Unfortunately a lot of people are moving to this area and since it is rural, decide that they can let their dogs "roam free" which means I have a lot of livestock killed. The owners, when notified, say that their baby could not possibly be responsible for the carnage and refuse to pay. I lost $4,000 worth of registered pregnant ewes (not counting the value of the fetal lambs) in one evening to a black lab which I shot and killed. Now I don't bother to give the owners a warning, I just shoot every dog that I find on my property unless it's something like a toy poodle.
But is that not rural and not city
taxes? I had some property in the country, 200 something compared to my city home of over 2,000.
i'm rural too, so that's good to know!
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People can get pregnant on an IUD. I have two relatives who did.
You have to wonder why she hasn't had her tubes tied, and why he hasn't had a vasectomy and gotten a full-time job since he's perfectly able-bodied. At least if they're living off the dole, one or both should be going to college on grants to eventually be able to support four kids.
Who are you buying for, your kids or relatives? If you
know someone is going to return whatever then go with a gift card and let them get whatever they want themselves. But, whatever you give them they can do with what they wish. You have no control over that.
awkward conversations with relatives
Sometimes there is not much more to say when it comes to the cookies. Sounds like she had just enjoyed the conversation and wanted to keep it going... maybe she liked hearing from you guys.
Wanted to let you know what happened to relatives
I went with my two sisters on two separate occasions to fill out forms at social security. One sister was applying for social security benefits and when asked about her marital status she told them single. The women then said, have you ever been married? The next thing my sister had to do was to give the names of all previous marriages and the dates they were married and then the woman said she was listed as divorce. Another sister, who only lived with this man for 22 years after his death went to see if she would be able to get any kind of help from them. You should see the form she had to fill out. It was called a marital relationship something or other and it went on for miles. We were told they ask about previous marriages and the like to see if people might be getting money from other places. With the married sister according to the years she might have been married to either 1 determined whether she got social security on that marriage. According to SS if married, gosh don't want to mess this up, but seems like over 20 something years then you would perhaps be able to draw from that marriage even if you are divorced from them so when applying for things like that if married previously you are not considered single.
Seizures are fairly common in Springers.
But what is the age of onset? Usually if age of onset is after 5 years, it is something other than epilepsy. But in a very young dog, it probably is epilepsy. A friend of mine has a Australian shepherd (named Major) that was having multiple grand mal seizures a day. Medicine helped, but what made a big difference for her was changing the dog's food to Canidae. Of course it's not in place of medication, but the dog went from multiple seizures a day before medication to 1 seizure a week with medication (may have had to add a second med, not sure), but then changing to Canidae improved him to 1 seizure in 6 months! She also has a Pembroke corgi (named Minor) who alerts them to each seizure before it hits their Australian shepherd.
She named her dogs Major and Minor - what a nut. :oD
I have a fairly new HP printer and I have plenty of paper in it but it always think it is out.
I adjust the paper but it keeps saying this. Seems to be an ongoing problems. I can hear it drop on to the paper but it doesnt pull it.
Again - We live in a very rural area
Our cats were not only our pets, they served a purpose too. We have fields all around the house and the cats kept mice out of the barns and out of our house. We had our cats for 10+ years and they did just fine until SILs dogs moved back to town with her.
My animals are all checked regularly by the vet because we live on a farm. They probably see the vet more often than I visit the doctor for my checkups.
It is unbelievable how many nasty witches come out on this board when a person asks for a suggestion to help with a problem.
Everyone is such an animal lover but so quick to kill an animal or cut off ties with a family member because of an animal. Talk about double standards.
She loves her dogs like they are her children.
Not one single person who has responded with a nasty comment even came close to making a suggestion that would satisfy.
KILL THE DOG! DON'T GET ANY MORE CATS! That's it?
A friend just suggested that the SIL's dogs be kept in a kennel/dog run if she absolutely must keep her dogs up here.
WOW! How's that for a humane solution.
For all of you out there who were so nasty. Try to put this in perspective.
Since she cares for her dogs like they were her children, think of it that way.
I may not like her dogs because the one killed my cats but I was trying to be mindful of how she felt about her dogs too, as I feel about my children.
Why because you live rural did you ever think crime is not everywhere?
No matter where you live, rural or big city, means nothing to criminals. I keep my doors locked always and another thing, I never work with my back to a door, just cannot. You need to be thankful in the part about the dogs barking and alerting you to something not right and yet here someone was standing in your home. Good common sense is what it takes in this world.
I too live rural and have good sm
neighbors, beautiful lawns and homes (which dont' all look the same) and no roaming animals, boarded up houses etc. Given all that I still wouldn't live in a HOA, too many restrictions!
I have had this happen with relatives and friends alike - sm
I am actually surprised now when someone actually calls or writes to say they received something I sent and *thank you* for sending it. How sad is that? I was also told to send a thank-you note or call the sender the very day you receive their gift, no matter if you like it or not. After all, they cared enough to send SOMEthing. Guess we are a dying breed???
Charmed...I have similar relatives. Here is something to remember
MISERABLE PEOPLE LOVE TO MAKE OTHER PEOPLE MISERABLE.
That is why the saying "misery loves company."
I know they are your family. However, if they treat you that badly, dump them and move on. I went through this years ago. I have family like this. They never had anything to do with me unless they needed something from me or they wanted to belittle me.
One can find friends who are more like family and treat you with respect. Make sure you have caller ID and DON'T ANSWER WHEN THEY CALL. That is the first step. LEARN TO SAY NO. It will not kill you, I promise. When you empower yourself, you learn to like you for yourself and it no longer matters what these people think of you. When it no longer matters what they think, they will see it and pick on someone else. 
I've always been in fairly good shape (ski, bike, etc.) But - sm
there are some people I skate with who are heavy and skate just fine. One girl in particular is actually obese, but is an amazing skater & dancer.... very flexible, too. Unfortunately she has chronic ankle problems that have kept her off skates for the past couple years, so she bikes, instead. One skater has only one leg... has a fake one made to fit his inlines, and he goes like the wind... I sure can't catch him! :)
I quit (I am still fairly young, so only smoked 8 years), but
I feel so much better. Even if someday I get lung cancer despite having quite, I am thankful to not wake up coughing every morning and to have clothes that don't stink and to be able to tell my kids not to smoke without being a hyprocrite. I can tell them why I quit. Mostly, I just feel better for the time being and that is enough. Plus, I save A LOT of money because cigarettes were darned expensive in Washington state.
Mine was $150, little bitty rural coop
This on the face of it doesn't seem too bad, what with winter month running the furnace and everything, but I was pretty much living with my gentleman friend and spending less than a total of a week a month at my house, kept the furnace turned down to 55 to prevent pipe-freezing, and didn't have TVs or anything left on. I'm glad I wasn't around to see what it would have been had I been here all winter, with TV, computer, microwave space heater, furnace up to 68, washer/dryer, hot water heater, etc., etc., all running. EEK!
Amen Sister! She is totally unrealistic! Totally. Loved your post! sm
My grandparents (from VT), will tell you that my grandfather began farming at 6-7 under the supervision of his 10 year old brother. haha No major incidents - his mother tended the home and ran a nursery and she did have the siblings watch over each other. I didn't even think about all of this until you mentioned the farming post. I loved it!
I, for one, need plenty of sleep - so I must work during the day while they are here...Oops, I gottah go! My 2 year old just fell off the kitchen table.
just kidding
I had surgery about 1-1/2 years ago and have a fairly long abdominal scar. I see now I am getting
a sore knot in 1 spot underneath the skin. My scar actually is hypertrophic so have had a lot of problems with it. Any suggestions. I am not enthused about cortisone shots in it.
Anyone who has relatives in assisted living, high rise places, anything?
I have a dear aunt that went to live with her son and his fairly new wife of about 2 years. My aunt really needs the assistance of someone but this is not working out. She is 86, called me tonight, wants to go back home and I told her I would try to assist her. She is my second mother since mine died several years ago. I have heard that high rises go by how much income a person has. I do not think assisted living is a possibility as might be too much money involved for her, she does not get that much from social security. She has both Medicaid and Medicare and I wondered about inhome help also. Anyone out there who has a situation like this that can give me any information I would appreciate it. TIA
Snow in Oregon, I am in rural coastal range near Newport...
absolutely beautiful. We have about 2 inches right how at 5 a.m.
The historic Hudson Valley, fairly close to the river. We've had lots of 40
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I think some up here in Maine still use them!
There are some doctors that do still make housecalls up here in rural Maine...floored me the first time I typed up a report on one! I'm not talking nursing home calls either...these were bonafide housecalls, complete with description of having iced tea with a patient on their porch! I kid you not!
Speaking of "back in the day," remember how some doc's used to have license plates that said "MD" on them next to the numbers? Never see those anymore either...seems they like to stay under the radar should they drive by an accident or something.
Tom's of Maine
It is all natural and your teeth feel really clean afterwards. It is a little pricey though.
They just had one here in Maine!
Some frantic mother got a text messsage from her kid in school (I know, I know, kids having access to a cell phone during school hours blows my mind too!) who said they have police and dogs in the school and are checking lockers, backpacks, and the students for "something." Wouldn't divulge what. Some mumbo jumbo about finding "threatening" grafitti in one of the bathrooms and they were simply looking for the spray can so they could finger the perp. 100% BS if you ask me. They also wouldn't let parents in to get their kids, which just...there are no words.
Now I know why people are yanking their kids from the public school systems more and more and home schooling them. I used to think that was a silly thing to do, but ya know what? The more I read and see the more I think they are ahead of the game here. What makes me even angrier is that, as a taxpayer, this crap is allowed to go on without anyone seemingly making a huge stink over it!
I'm from Maine too!
I live in Bangor! I just had to renew my license last year, but I couldn't do it online since it told me that since it was my first time renewing it (I was only 25), I had to go in to get an updated picture taken. I hate that DMV!
maine
Hey just wanted to say "Hi", I am from Maine also.
Maine
Durham! lol, not far at all from you! Nice to meet you neighbor!
It's really warm in Maine
For the past week, it has been in the 60s and 70s here. We haven't had to start running the heat in our house yet this year, but I'm sure we will be soon! I remember last year around this time it was freezing and we were already burning through heating oil like crazy! I just wish this weather would last...
Anyone out there living in Maine? SM
An old boyfriend, who is now a minister lives in Bath, Maine. Can you tell me where it is located and something about it? I would appreciate it. I was thinking of maybe visiting his church. 
Yes, I live in Maine.
Bath is in southern Maine, about an hour and a half from where I live. I don't know too much about it. It's a somewhat small town.
Not a maine coon but he looks just like
Norwegian Forest Cat, really big and fits the category, double fured, loves the water and will jump in a bathtub for drinking, carries his tail straight up but alas, he and his brother are Wal-Mart give-aways and how I love those guys. His brother is smaller, about 14 lbs.
Lucky for me I live in the rural midwest. Personally, I don't care about designer shoes
or pedicures, etc. The average person doesn't think about those things and I could care less what "Michelle" is wearing or who she is wearing or where she shops or if she has sleeves or doesn't have sleeves. I don't give a rats patootie about any of the superficial crapola that is the Obamas. Good God, people, this country is going to heck in a handbasket, the unemployment rate is rising, and we are talking about Michelle Obama's ugly, way overpriced shoes!
Better safe then sorry
I support your reaction/action to the situation. It would seem to me that the FBI would not prosecute, and the court would not find him guilty, if it was sent to him in error. Be supportive to your daughter's friend's mother - but hold firm. Women's intuition is generally correct.
Did I say anything about not being safe?
That wasn't even the point of the OP. She wanted to know about in-laws or anyone else just walking in without knocking. My family and friends don't have to knock before they come my house. That was my point.
I live in a rural area that I grew up in, everyone knows everyone else. I have a nice, loud watch dog who lets me know when anyone is around. The windows are locked. The doors are locked at night and when we leave the house. I know what kind of a world we live in. The Pony Express brings the paper every couple of weeks back to the sticks. I try to stay informed.
Better Safe Than Sorry
Better to be safe than sorry, especially with beef -- that can be a very bad GI problem if the beef has gone bad with bacteria.
Happy New Year!!
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