I have often wodered this too. I would also not be offended hear of someones
Posted By: customes or whatever-sm on 2007-12-20
In Reply to: Couldn't believe this... - MT in MT
I have also wondered why those who do not believe in Christ (athiests and the like) celebrate Christmas.
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My intent was not to offend others - that is why I worked as a wet nurse - so that those who could not breast feed their babies received the immunity and benefits of breastfeeding. I realize that it is not something that every woman can do and I never said that it was for everyone because it is not.
I would be so offended if I were you
I am a really big animal lover and probably would have turned him in for the kicking of an animal, husband or not, just would not be done around me. Secondly, running the risk of catching a disease by the tick thing, I would not live in the same home knowing this. His actions would just gross me out. Whether others killed birds or not, I would not be there, innocent animals all around that this man is hurting! Sounds really like a disgusting life style and I would never want to be a part of that. You are not wrong in your feelings. Do you have children that you cannot leave or just don’t want to leave. I doubt he will change his ways but you could tell him either clean up or you are out of there, might work.
I would tell her that I was offended and was buying elsewhere (sm)
I have learned over the years to stop wishing in hindsight that I had said what I should say to begin with. She is being rude and thinking you will pay her asking price just to prove to her that you can afford it. She is banking on you being offended and trying to prove to her that you can indeed afford it. That is a sales tactic I have seen used before - don't bite the bait!
I agree--not offended here at all.
I think that's what this board is for...a safe haven to talk about things. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't worry about what you witnessed at all. Seen it, heard it, even lended a hand a few times! We have been through the discord and will probably be through it again. It's always something. Hang in there and please try not to worry. Stuff like this happens...a lot. It's just that not a lot of people like to talk about it for fear of it being verboten is all. ;-)
no i wasn't offended :) sm
i feel like to each their own. my kids didn't sleep with me when they were babies. they slept in their own rooms and actually they fell asleep on their own very well. my second boy would sometimes spit up big time while sleeping, so i kept him close to me anytime he was sleeping, in his bassinet (gosh don't know how to spell that!!).
i see my hubby and his family and although they all love each other, there is no communication whatsoever in his family and they aren't near as close as i am with my mom and dad. i want my boys to grow up knowing they can talk to me about anything and that i'm always here for them. my hubby is the type that keeps EVERYTHING to himself. i'm not like that! i blame his family for not having open communication, and my hubby suffers from anxiety to a certain extent. his family situation is a whole nother chapter!
thanks for your input! 
that's okay im not easily offended
and im EASILY amused.
#7 is very funny
Can I ask some very personal questions? Please don't be offended and you sm
don't have to answer. I would completely understand. but...
When you two got together I'm sure he wasn't exactly over the death of his wife, so how did he respond to you? Was he emotional around you, missing her, etc? At what point were you positively sure that he was in love with you and not still in love with her? I am only asking because of a personal situation in my life and I am curious about yours.
Thank you.
lol, nope not offended at all. Not sure what that means actually.
But, yes, you would think, right? But nope! Actually I have been going to the up-scale and very expensive salons where they have spas and serve you lattes and finger sandwiches by choice hoping I will get good results and they are the ones I have the most problems with!
If you read my other post, where I mentioned the bleach products and what I said about the expensive versus the cheaper products, you'd see what I mean.
But thanks!
Not offended, just thinking with some sense
She is emotional because of what has happened. Legally, you cannot obtain someone elses records - I told her to contact lawyer because this is not a good thing to tell. It is not legal period. She can try to protect but you cannot take the laws into your own hands, well you can but then you might be put in jail. I am just telling her the facts like they are. She can insist on him having testing but again she CANNOT make him do it. Not her call.
nor was I offended. Sorry for your troubles in the marriage. sm
Maybe he just needed some "relief" if the two of you are not getting along so well in the bedroom, so to speak, if you catch my drift.
No! Not offended in the least and as a matter of fact, sm
I never even noticed the imperfections of my daughter's feet. Interesting though is the fact I never realized for the last 20 years that the second toe is longer. Isn't that the sign of a leader? Well, she definitely fits THAT profile :-)
As for the bunions... well, let's just say it's a good thing I work at home...
first of all, I agree you have a reason to be offended
but on the other hand, she may really have been trying to have (what she thought) was an open and genuine conversation with you.
I went through a period after my divorce where I really questioned why guys who slept around were considered studs while gals who did the same were considered *luts. I asked a lot of questions from a lot of people. Doesn't mean I slept around a lot, but I was curious about the thinking behind the idea of how things could be so different when the only difference was gender.
All I'm trying to say is that perhaps in her disjointed way, she was trying to genuinely institage a thoughtful discussion about racial inequality, even though she failed not to offend, but in her own mind thought she was unoffensive. Some people really do ask questions because of genuine curiosity that has been dormant in their own minds even if they do come across as offensive. Just MHO. Doesn't excuse her rudeness by all means, but just a thought to toss about.
It is not my fault others get offended at my opinions
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Am so offended by the loading him up so he is more manageable for me comment (sm)
I would NEVER do that. How dare you make that assumption? How rude of you!!
Agreed! Hear, hear...amen, sister!
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Do You Hear What I Hear and Little Drummer Boy
I love the holiday!
Hear, hear! I'm with you too, same boat. -nm
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Did not hear about the porn but did hear
there might be a conflict about her babies going home with her when they were able to be dismissed. You can hardly blame anyone for questioning how she will take care of them. From what I have seen, she hardly seems stable enough to do that.
I hear ya........
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Look - I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but
I speak from experience - and many advice experts will say the same thing - if a man is interested in you, he will ask YOU out. Just like if you go out with a man and at the end of the night you ask him to come into your home, and he doesn't - then he's not that into it. It doesn't matter what he has going on in his life, men make time for women they are interested in! They are never that busy that they cannot call you - that's just a lie. They make the time to talk for one minute because THEY ARE INTO YOU!! If you have to ask a man out, think about it - what was wrong with him?? WHy couldn't he approach you? He knows how to open his mouth and say "hey, I don't know if you're single or seeing someone, but I was wondering if you .... "
Don't ask him out. Let him pursue you. It's old fashioned, but hey, it still holds true.
I am so sorry to hear that. It does cause
actual physical pain to lose a special pet. I have wished I could cut my heart out to end it, or be PTS alongside my poor dog. What a shock to lose such a young cat. I am sorry.
sorry to hear that, don't know what to say...sm
Sorry to hear this happened to you, don't know what to say, but this has never happened to me, and both my CPA and the other person, a corporate estate tax person, say that I'm legal and nobody has come after me or notified me that I am in the wrong....
I hear what you are saying
Personally, the wrinkles start showing in my face if I am too thin. I need a little weight on my to look good...unfortunately, it is all on my hips and glutes...LOL
You are what you eat, so I hear
and if a person wants to be a supersized so be it. Got off Cokes on my own after marrying my hubby, used to drink loads of those and I never feel like I am not living by the way I eat because I also love sweets and if I want I have them. I just don't care for any of my foods supersized, be it a drink or a hamburger, just too much to consume for me and the amount of calories you get plus the fact of it just not being that healthy for you. I would put my delicious food up against any fast (fat) food place any ole day. I just like taste with my food.
So sorry to hear that....
Our cat is getting older now, and I hope she lives forever, but.... I'm so sorry for your loss! It is truly a loss to lose a much-loved pet! Take care... my thoughts are with you today.... 
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this.
But with her compression fractures, and probably the COPD also, there was no way the MDs could have coded her. Her bones (and probably lungs) wouldn't take it. At least that's what they told my grandfather about my grandmother when she had leukemia. He found out the doctors made her DNR without talking to him, and he found out after she passed away.
Now hear this.....
Just called the courts and on my way there now to swear out warrant for arrest of the person writing the bad check. Talk with you later.
I hear ya
This situation sounds a little iffy to me, too. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck....
Sorry to hear this
about your new tile floors honey bear. That is too bad. It is very frustrating!
I want to hear...
.. the end of this story.. The AUDACITY is appalling...
I hear ya
I feel the same way - I'm not really close to anybody outside of my husband/children/parents (which is my choice) and this was kind of a big step for me to hang out with an old friend which is why it is so disappointing. I have huge trust issues with friends and this is just another instance where I kinda feel like I'm getting shafted.
I also don't feel comfortable taking my children around a new boyfriend (they have known each other a couple of weeks) who I don't know anything about.
Thank you for replying and I'm very sure you are not repulsive! Like you said, a lot of people are just so selfish nowadays and those of us who actually consider others feelings before doing things are the ones who get hurt.
Sorry to hear that
hope you are able to work things out.
I am curious to know the name of the restaurant that you wanted to visit.
I hear you!
I seem to have more and more of those days as I grow older lately. Good thing the caffeine doesn't affect my sleep, though.
If I hear same one over and over, that will do
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I'm sorry to hear about your FIL.
Maybe this article will be helpful.
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/534592
Sorry to hear about Arf . . .
I've visited your web site before (very cool site, BTW!) and all of your animals look so happy there. Arf is a beautiful cat, and it's good to know he's got a mom like you to love him, especially right now. Hope this transition is smooth and painless for both of you. 
Sorry to hear about your cat
You are right about them wanting to go away and die, though. My cat, who was mostly and indoor cat, would go outside for years and never step foot near the road. Always stayed in the yard and "hunted". Once she got sick, she started acting strange and one day, meowed at the door to go out and went straight into the road and got hit by a car. It was almost like she wanted it to end quickly...
It's hard to lose a pet - hugs to you!
I hear you
I, too, have an evidence picture! Mine is concrete steps, 5, tiny porch, my son sitting on the absolute very edge of the porch! This was my older son, the favorite. She never did like my younger son (he was a boy, you know, not the girl she wanted). To this day, he refers to her as the Evil __itch - she has been dead for 13 years. Needless to say, evil people are not missed.
I hear ya!
I wonder how I functioned without my medication...I would not remember anything that I had typed. Now if I have a dictator who redictates a note and it is basically the same...I am able to recognize it whereas before I would have just typed it and not known the difference. The med wears off by late afternoon and I am pretty well ready for bed but have ruminating thoughts swirling about and I take a medication to help me sleep.
sorry to hear that he won't
compromise.. I am glad to hear he at least respects your daughter's wishes and not smoke around the grandkids... It is awesome that she stands her ground and won't bring them if he does...I wish he could see that you cannot tolerate it and that is enough motivation for me at least not to harm my spouse...Dunno...Good luck with the air purifier...Maybe get one for every room...RUN THEM ON HIGH!
The more I hear about those, the more I want one.
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Hi, I am sorry to hear you are going through this!
as soon as I finish typing this. I have a 4 and a 5 year old. I have gotten to the place where if they start screaming and crying, I tell them that they can do that all they want in their room, but I don't want to hear it. So, they get sent to their room, and as soon as they are ready to stop, they can come out. Don't give in. Consistency is the biggest factor. I can't believe you said you spanked him, you are going to get mega flamed now. So, let's not broach that subject. :) Do not reward him for bad behavior. Do not lose your patience. I have found when I am nice and respond positively, they in return respond better too. I don't feel like going the extra mile sometimes and I usually don't, but I am continually amazed every time I do, why don't I do it this way all the time? Don't threaten him with things that aren't going to happen. (im taking all your christmas presents back!) That is childish and you don't need that on top of what you have already. It is frustrating and difficult, I know. I certainly don't have all the answers, but I can empathize. Talk to him like a big boy. I thought you were going to be a really good big boy today....I was hoping we could go out for lunch to McDonalds, but I can't take you there if you are going to act like this! Delayed rewards, works wonders! Good luck!
so sorry to hear about this
I am not that far away from Marshall, in Kentucky. . I had not heard this story yet. . Will be praying for a good outcome.
Okay.. I hear what your saying...
We definitely do it in a loving, teasing, and funny manner..Rarely, when we joke around like that and grope does it lead to anything or intended that way..When we're really serious about that..the groping is definitely more affectionate and meaningful. What your describing borders on rude and disrepectful and I'm so sorry. It's nice being crazy in love (like we are)..and then there is just plain crazy.. WOW..Again, I apologize if I sounded like I made light of your situation. I do realize there are extremes. We have a healthy balance of playfulness and know when to be serious. EVEN I would be turned off by that behavior and it takes a A LOT to turn me off PERIOD.. but that would do it.
I'm sorry to hear - s/m
My parents separated several years. Although the details aren't quite the same, the end result was. My dad hit my mom. It wasn't the first time, but that isn't my point here.
My point is this: My mom has been miserable ever since she took him back. She constantly brings up the circumstances surrounding it and never lets him forget that she took him back. She has now let the anger take over her and consume her to the point that I can't remember the last time she was just content. She's not the mom I used to know and I'm not sure how to handle it anymore, but my advice to you is if you can't forgive, get out. Get out before you spend the rest of your life trying to make his life miserable as a punishment for what he did. It will eat you up inside and you'll end up alienating the people around you. Life's too short to spend it in misery. I feel for you.
I'm so sorry to hear about that
Ours is an only cat. Our other cat passed away a year ago this past March. I'm not sure what his problem is, but I may take him to the vets to be sure he doesn't have a UTI.
You should hear . . .
  You should hear how my one doctor says Protonix. Took me awhile to figure him out -- Gosh you would think a doctor would know how to correctly dictate a drug!
I'm so sad to hear this......sm
I absolutely LOVE that show. I can still hear her saying "Picture it...Sicily...1932....." and Dorothy rolling her eyes.
Ms. Getty was a tremendous talent and will be missed, but she will live on as long as the Golden Girls is aired.
Sorry to hear this but (sm)
what the heck was he doing out at 5:30 AM with a 9-yo?
Did you have a talk with him or just tell him? I think you made the right decision for now. Let him think about it. Maybe you can have a close friend of yours or him to try to talk sense into him.
I didn't state in my earlier reply that I, also, am a stepmom. My husband's son lived with his grandmother for the first 3 years and he was terrified of me. Long story there, but his real mother was kicked out when the child was 6 weeks old and his grandmother drilled it into his head about his mother.
My husband and I had many a fight over him, but I tried to stick it out until the day my stepson said I wasn't his mother and he hated me and he would never call me mom or even my first name. This was at a birthday party and that was the last straw. I left my husband that day.
My best friend sat down after that and had a chat with my husband because he never intervened when his son made snide remarks about me, and he finally realized he was on a guilt trip for his ex's behavior. We got back together and it took another 3 years, but now his son calls me mom and he treats me better than my own son!
I wish you the best of luck. It is a tough road to haul, but if your guy cares anything at all about you, he will try to figure out the problem.
So sorry to hear about your dog
It does take a while, but in time it does get better.
sorry to hear
Sorry to hear that. I am a proud pitbull owner & I love the breed. Sadly I hear stories like this that add fuel to the fire on the pitbull's reputation. In cases like these unless I was there and saw & heard exactly what went on I can't pass judgement on the pitbulls nor the people because you just really don't know what happened to cause it. Who are we to judge?
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