I have my wedding/engagement rings and now - sm
Posted By: Laura E. on 2007-01-18
In Reply to: Wedding Ring ? - Janey
my mom's. My dad gave them to me after my mom died. However I cannot wear any of them since I have gained 70 pounds since I first married. My rings still fit after 30 pounds but now I just cannot do it. I bought 2 fake bands in larger sizes, but they are too tight now too. I am working now though to lose the weight and with any luck wear my rings again in about 5 months. As far as I know it does not bother him that I do not wear my rings, though once I get thin again we will see if that attitude changes, I have a feeling it may. As for my DH, he has worn his ring about 3 times, a waste of $750 (luckily that was a wholesale price and not retail--I have connections). He works with electron microscopes though, and it is dangerous for him to wear his ring, though he could if he really wanted to and was careful, but then he'd probably end up losing it. A co-worker had his on and an electron beam arched and literally welded his ring and finger to the gun in the microscope. Poor guy had quite a burn on his finger and quit wearing his ring after that. So most of the engineers there do not wear their rings. I do not have a problem with it though. He tells people he is married with kids if the subject ever comes up.
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I wear only my wedding band and engagement ring...sm
No other jewelry is on my fingers or wrists when I type.
I don't wear my wedding band or my engagement ring. I took them off six years ago because...SM
My DH and I were having marital difficulties and he never and I mean NEVER wore his wedding from day one of marriage. He works on cars and stuff and claimed it got in his way, WHATEVER! Back then he was going out his buddies every once and while and still didn't put his ring on.
So we had a huge fight and I took my rings off and said until you put yours on, I'm not wearing mine. Well, we got marriage counseling and saved our marriage and now everything is fab, but he still doesn't wear his ring because in all the years he didn't wear it, he lost it! I wanted to buy him a new one, but cheapo that he is, he doesn't want us to spend the money. So I haven't put mine rings back on and I won't. It drives him nuts. He makes comments every now and then about men flirting with me cause I'm not wearing my rings. I just shrug and say "it's just a ring, you know I love only you," which is the line he used to give me.
I'm going to break him down one of these days and we'll go ring shopping! We have a great marriage now, but there's just this one little battle. He knows I'll win eventually. We're both just really stubborn.
Long story short, men act like things like wearing our wedding rings and engagement rings aren't a big deal to them, but really it is.
You need to send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding - sm
If possible you should drop it by the brides or grooms house, etc. so you don't have to take it to the wedding, and so they don't have to worry about transporting the gifts from the church or the reception. You should always send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding though.
This wedding, the wedding party will be releasing butterflies!
Apparently, you can buy live butterflies, individually packaged, that can be released after the ceremony. The bride and groom are 65 and 68 years old, for crying out loud and this is their second marriage. This wedding is the craziest thing I've ever seen!
No, But I Only Wear an Engagement Ring....
It's not the biggest diamond in the world so it doesn't bother me. The whole "bare wrists" is another story, however.
Engagement gift...I need YOUR ingenuity...
I want to do something for my fiance that would be in addition to the traditional ring. Her idea of a great gift is something created by me. Not necessarily from wood; I would actually prefer something a little more exotic, interesting, original. My only idea thus far is a small waterfall for the living room. Was hoping to get some other ideas from you! Thanks in advance for your help!
Den
Rules of Engagement, Big Bang Theory, House ...
The New Adventures of Old Christine, CSI Miami, Bones, Design Star, Biggest Loser.
Do you take your rings off
rings
 Yep, I do, always have, they seem to get in my way. But, on the other hand, I usually leave them laying on my desk and I never remember to wear them !
I normally wear two rings;
my wedding ring on my left hand and an opal on my right hand. For some reason, I always have to take my wedding ring off because it slows me down if I'm wearing it yet I keep my opal on because I feel it slows me down if it's off. ???? Strange I know.
I also wear Ace bands on my wrists. Have done this for a few years now because I don't want the big CT and it slows me down now if I don't have those on.
Can't they cut off his leg and count the rings???
asdf
class rings
It really depends on what you/she want and can afford, how important/cherished you think it will be, how she/you believe it represents the high school experience, etc.
I think I spent close to $400 on my daughter's class ring. Actually the ex and I split it, but I believe it was in that range.
It is really nice and she still wears it. She says she will always wear it. It has lots of little things on it that reflect the activities she participated in while in high school. Good memories. She put a lot of thought into personalizing it. It was actually a lot like my HS ring which I lost at the beach a year after I got it :-(
We didn't get a lot of extras, but did get 10K gold which is what shot the price up so much. It is a substantial ring even though it's the female version (smaller than the male one -- be happy you're not buying for a boy lol).
Anyhow good luck :-)
Are those your rings on the desk?
Too funny! I take mine off too (except wedding band) while working. My fingers swell and they hurt if I don't.
Certainly rings a bell
We had a big yellow lab named Smooch (had been a stray) with the same problem. It's amazing what they will bust in and out of due to their extreme anxiety.
He was also terrified of storms and would become zombie like hours before a storm would hit. We couldn't even get him to eat meat during those spells.
He died several years ago, but he was one of the sweetest dogs ever. When someone would lie on the couch, he would stretch out right on top of them (and he was a big boy!).
I think crating would be your best bet if you get him used to it while you are home with him first. That really wasn't being done back when we had Smooch (at least we didn't hear of it).
Maybe you could also get him a big stuffed animal that would make him feel he had company too. As a very last resort you might be able to get some medication for specific times you know will be extra difficult.
I wear my rings all the time
I don't think I can get them off if I wanted to. LOL. My husband only wears his ring on special occasions. He can't wear any jewerly. His fingers swell up. He also can't wear necklaces or watches. It used to bother me, but as long as he wears it when we go out, I'm fine with it.
Oh yeah - the phone rings
and he tells his shrink it's his mom ... "I'll put it on speaker."
HA!
I gave up wearing my rings sm
I've had them resized twice already, once up a size and another down a size. I don't think they will resize them a third time. I, too, have arthritis and prednisone swells my finger something fierce. I have a beutiful mother's ring that I can't wear again since it is too small now.
DId he get into the Lord of the Rings movie? That
set would be nice if he did.
I have caller ID but when the phone rings....sm
every 15 minutes it is nervewracking. I mean Geez. I told my husband just ignore it and he is like well it just bugs me when the phone keeps ringing and ringing. I said well just ignore it and don't answer it. It just drives my husband nuts. And when I have company it is so embarressing. My caller ID pops up on my TV screen when someone calls and so they can see it is my dad calling repeatedly. My father-in-law was here tonight and he was like geez answer the phone so he will quit calling. I said I have answered it 4 times today and he is still calling. He said what does he want? I said nothing. Just to say he is bored and he wants to kill himself, which he has said for almost a year now. When I talked to him and he said I am so bored. I said daddy why don't you watch TV. He says I don't want to. I said well why don't you call a friend. Well my friend is out with his girlfriend. I suggested numerous things and he said no to each. He has no life at all whatsoever. That is the problem. I have a family and my own life. I can't hold his hand and talk to him on the phone 24 hours a day. What can I say? I have tried to get him to go to the doctor but he refuses. If he won't help himself any at all then I am at the point of blocking his calls and just trying to avoid him as much as possible. I have even thought of closing all the curtains and locking the doors if he comes over here. This is nonsense. Enough is enough.
High school class rings - how much is too much?...
I just about fell out of my chair when my junior brought me the price list from the school for class rings. Most began at $250 with just a few in that price range. Ouch - someone is getting rich!
I'm trying to figure out a budget for a ring for her and have sent her to research places like walmart.com What do you think is a reasonable budget for a ring?
Never did rings for self or for kids. Diploma is what counts. The
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Curious about your objection to Lord of the Rings...
... not going to try to talk you out of it (since there's really no accounting for taste, likes or dislikes) but I'm curious whether you dislike it (a) because you don't care for the story, or (b) because the movie(s) did not meet your expectations.
Having grown up in the 60s, if you hadn't read the thing, you had NO possibility of being cool back then. I finally slogged my way clear through the trilogy for the first time in about 1969, I think it was. I re-read it after the first movie came out, and oddly enough, it was a lot easier to get through at the age of forty-harumph than at the age of 13. Go figure.
Keeping in mind it was written many, many decades ago, in a completely different style than modern readers might be used to, I still thought it was a good story. And I thought the movies were really quite good, visually stunning, and well-done. The only sour note in my experience was that I thought Aragorn was much older than Viggo Mortensen, but I could have been wrong.... Oh, and the balrog looked like something out of a Disney cartoon to me; not NEARLY scary enough. :)
very true, I remember back in ྏ our rings - sm
were about $80 and that was just a base metal ring. The gold ones were $250 or $350, cannot quite remember, just remember parents said forget it for gold. Later one after I got my BFA in metals, I went and gold-plated it myself with my own equipment, looks just as nice as the pure gold ones (still). I don't have to worry about this yet for about 9 years......sure they will go fast.
Why not give him some rings to choose from and let him make the final decision?
Some guys want to say they picked it out. Makes them proud to say they did so. Ultimately, it is not really about the ring, the wedding, or any of that. It is about how you two will live your lives together. Congratulations!
LOL; were you at *my* wedding?
I think it took me almost a year to get them all out - but 100+ is a lot of handwritten thank yous! I know, no excuse ; )
The Wedding
Yes, you are just being petty. Obviously, you love your dad, but really ... What difference does it really make to YOUR life how much he paid for the ring, how much they spend on the wedding, etc.? Rejoice in your dad's happiness and grow up. You only go around once in this life. Let your dad enjoy his golden years. I say, "Good for him - go Daddy!"
Lilly
When is the wedding and where are
you staying?
wedding
Wedding is 05/17 at Mandalay Bay but we are staying at New York, New York - this is my first trip to Vegas and I'm pretty excited. . We are staying 3 nights.
Would you go to a wedding of
a step neice that you have not heard from for over 20 years? I am so against this, plus I have not talked to her mother or aunts for the same amount of time. I cannot afford to get something to wear with the paychecks I have been getting, giving a gift, etc. I think the only reason I was invited was for the gift. I am trying to get out of it but it is my stepfather's granddaughter and he has been very good to me so I would be doing it for him only. How could I get out of this without hurting my dad? It is this Friday and I have done absolutely nothing to get ready for it. Unfortunately, I already sent in the RSVP card for dinner.
Wedding
 If it were me, I would just send a card with a small gift in it. This way you won't have to spend any money buying something to wear. You are probabably right about just wanting the gift.
Yes - the wedding was on TV, he married
he did marry the air-head, he called her princess.
Wedding Ring ?
Do you have more than one? I have a wedding and engagment ring that DH gave me that I used to wear all the time, along with a diamond band my mom gave me years ago. Last summer my mom gave me her engagment ring that she really never wears anymore. Since then, I haven't been wearing the engagment ring DH gave me, I wear the plain gold band I got married in, along with my mom's two rings that she gave me.
DH says he doesn't mind as long as I wear the wedding band that we got married in. I guess it's a superstition thing with him. He understands that I miss my parents (especially my mom), since they live in Florida and we are in New York.
How do your SO's feel about stuff like this? Do they even have an opinion about what rings you wear or don't wear?
She was a wedding present
From my husband to me. When we brought her home she weighed just 1.5 pounds. She was so scrawny. We almost lost her twice and boy did she cost us a fortune, but it was well worth it. We found out she had asthma when she was about two and when I found her she was turning blue. She was on steroids for a long time. She weighed 20 pounds, quite a change from when we first got her. Then she ate fake pine needles from our Christmas tree one year and had to have emergency surgery to get this huge wad of needles out of her intestine. She was the sweetest cat and wouldn't hurt anything or anyone. She used to sleep on my head (on my pilow) which drove my husband nuts. LOL. She purred like a race car. I'll miss that definitely. I still have a, what I call, a wacky 10 year old black cat at home. I think he knows she's gone. Thank you so much.
I had a no child wedding except for immediate - sm
family; so to hopefully appease the very few that could not bring their kids (3 couples) I just had my 2 nephews carry my dress train. We had a swim party reception and I did not want to have to worry about parents getting drunk or inattentive and having a child drown. I knew my SILs would watch their kids as they are both somewhat overprotective, plus they were used to doing this when all the family was over anyways. But the post below is good about the gifts, or maybe directing people to the guest registry; handing out the "favors" or whatever you may have there for the guests.
Wedding shower...
My niece is getting married in August and is having a shower in July. Long story short, they live together, have been for a looonnnggg time now. On the invite, it says "Money preferred" with a bunch of $$$ around it. They're calling it a "greenback shower"...Is it just me, or is this totally disgusting and greedy? Makes me not wanna go. Also, I am not even sure how much to give. We never see them, only at family functions (DH's family..... )...anyway, is it just me that feels this way?
wedding shower
I agree. I think they have a lot of nerve expecting guests to "finance" their life together. Are they getting married after so long just to make some bucks? Or are you supposed to help offset the cost of this wedding? Are they registered? I'd give her a gift (if that's what you'd prefer). If you feel you have to give money, I'd probably stay in the $25.00 range or whatever you feel comfortable giving. Of course, you could always make an excuse and not go. After all, they'll probably want money as a wedding gift also!
Wedding question. SM
Okay, I'm confused as far as the gift process. I am invited to the bridal shower and the wedding and reception. My question is this, do I get two separate gifts - one for the bride for the bridal shower and one for the happy couple for the wedding? This is an older couple (in their 50s) and this is the second marriage for both.
If so, I need some nifty ideas for a bridal shower gift. Nothing naughty like lingerie or sex toys (which would be hilarious) because the bride is very, VERY refined and would not find any kind of humor in it at all. Plus the bridal shower will probably be elegant and tasteful and will make Emily Post proud. So I guess I should wear a bra and show up with a tasteful gift. 
Thanks!
Another wedding question... SM
I posted a question a few weeks back about a wedding I'm about to attend and whether I needed to give a gift at the bridal shower and the wedding...
Anyway, the wedding is this Saturday. I've been asked to be in charge of the guest book, whatever that means. The dress I bought for the wedding is red. Yesterday, I'm told that the bride isn't happy with that and that her wedding colors are periwinkle and some sort of pastel green.
Now, I'm very irritated. I'm told that I'm not part of the wedding party, but they just want me to make sure everyone signs the book. No one told me that I need to try and match the wedding colors and now five days before the wedding, I'm told the bride doesn't like that I have a red dress!!??
I came from out of town for this thing so this dress is the only dress I brought with me! I'm working from my hotel room so we could be here this whole week because my daughter is the flower girl and they needed to do a fitting for her and she had to be here for the rehearsal. Now they are suggesting I buy a new dress?
My response to the bride was if she doesn't like my dress, she can buy me a new one. Now her daughters are telling me I'm being difficult and ruining their mothers special moment. The groom does everything the bride tells him too, so he's not on my side even though he's my family. I have half a mind to get in my car and drive back to Missouri with my daughter and tell them all to take a flying leap!
Am I being unreasonable here?
WOW. Yes what a crazy wedding
Glad you have been demoted to program passer outer. LOL. Butterflies and 65 and 68 years old. CRAZY. Keep us posted about he reception. I am sure that should be a hoot too.
Enjoy yourself. It is almost over. LOL.
BTW - I am going to a wedding Sept 1st. They are going to have a pig roast. How about that?? I am from NJ and never been to a wedding like that before. Should be very exciting. Can't wait.
Going to an outdoor wedding on Sat.
where they are having a pig roast. Never heard of such a thing at a wedding, so should be interesting. Sunday going to my sister-in-law's summer home, as she calls it, (her trailer at a campsite). She loves it there and then laboring on Labor Day. Have to work. Enjoy the unofficial end of Summer.
Wedding poem? sm
DH and I are renewing our vows for our 20th anniversary. At first we didn't think this was going to happen but just found out it is a go and it is happening Wednesday. Would like for our daughter to read a poem. It will just be DH, DS, DD, myself, the preacher, and the Lord. Any suggestions. Am also posting on Christianity board for additional suggestions for DS. Thanks for any help!
What about Betsy's Wedding???
It is kind of an older movie with Molly Ringwold when she was very young and Alan Alda. This has got to be about the funniest movie I have seen. Also get Big Trouble with Peter Falk and Beverly De'Angelo, Robert Stack and others. This and In-Laws are about the funniest movies I have ever seen. Anyway we all get down in the dumps at times. I kind of dread the holidays sometimes because my sister's husband is so very rude and they are all very materialistic -- all they care about is money -- it is kind of hard to be around people like that. His mother just recently died and I don't think he shed one tear or even cared. It was just business as usual. Kind of shallow person. Oh well. Takes all kinds to make the world they say. So you just cheer up girl. Hope you feel better really soon.
Suzanne
destination wedding
I've thought about this - with just a few friends/family. . maybe a cruise or somewhere you could spend honeymoon?
This is just a simple wedding. Nothing more,
X
Met at my brother's wedding.
My Big Fat Greek Wedding.
xx
Son's wedding - Grandma is insisting
does not want at THEIR wedding. How do I, as the groom's mother, handle this. This has put us in a very awkward situation and I am not liking it at all. She calls me and then immediately calls our son and is leaving nasty messages on both phones. Threatening messages, may be a better word for it. By the way, grandma is also my mom.
Curious as to who is paying for the wedding?
x
La Venta Inn wedding - what to wear???
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My father's 4th wedding was HUGE
They had a big Victorian wedding. They had a huge rehersal dinner, wedding and reception. She was married once before and had a small wedding. She wanted a big wedding. Maybe your father and this lady want to have a party with their friends and family?
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