I have joint custody w/ dad being primary

• I am so sad today, can't even work. I received an email sm - sad mom
  • If this were dead beat dad instead of dead beat mom, would - there be the samy sympathy offered? I think not. n
    • Lady, you seriously, seriously have to get a life. nm - OMG
  • Scratch up at least half of what you owe - sm -
  • You need to get it back into court sm - definitely
    • Yes. There is a reason. I am a little behind on child support. sm - sad mom
      • Posters are correct, child support diff from visitation - They COULD garnish your salary though...sm
        • They SHOULD garnish wages. There is no - excuse for delinquent child support payments.
          • they have joint custody w/dad being primary... - oh puhleeze, sometimes there are....sm
            • Extenuating circumstances? - SM
            • If there are then go back to court. This is a dead beat mom, - no different than dead beat dad. nm
              • I have joint custody w/ dad being primary - I pay no child support
                • No dead beat if no CS agreed on but not paying court - ordered CS does equal dead beat, male or female.
                • Not referring to a no-support agreement. If there - is a CS order, it should be paid - NO excuses.
      • Child support is a separate issue from visitation. nm - clhmt
      • My X never paid a dime - he still had his "rights." (sm) - Laws may have changed
      • If you want to see your son, sm - then
      • See, what did I tell ya??? - "Mean poster." nm
        • Don't you watch Judge Judy? Being behind in child support sm - I love Judge Judy
          • I DO watch Judge Judy, which is why I knew there was - more to this than just amean Ex. nm
          • If you already have visitation rights. sm - only
        • Lady, you have got to get a life! Seriously! You probably waited - OMG
  • There must be something you can do legally, sole provider or not. - I've been there
  • Hugs to you... - gotlatte
  • sad mom - nn
  • In a few years you will probably be glad you didn’t get - Yvette
    • That is a totally ridiculous post. This woman wants to see her son regardless. nm - trose
      • Just from experience and just the truth - Yvette
        • Are you in midwest? I might know you, and I understand. - nm
          • Nope, not in the midwest - Yvette
        • How old is your child/children and when did you decide he wasn't worth the effort? nm - trose
          • Grown and - Yvette
            • How very sad for you nm - trose
              • reminds me of a former poster here named Joyce - her posts look EXACTLY like these....nm
                • Glad to know not the only 1 who feels like this. - Yvette
  • Please ignore the meanies - (sm)
  • How are you going to explain to son in a few years why - you didn't make an effort for him? nm
    • What are you talking about? Effort? Just because he doesn't - sad mom
      • Just tired of people having every excuse why nothing is their - fault, wanting sympathy but not doing what needs t
        • Well, don't take it out on a someone when you have sm - My 2 cents
        • You shouldn't be so judgmental and nasty - pip
  • Sounds like a lot of "poor me"excuses. If this were me, - NOTHING would stop me for fighting for DS. nm
    • I had to actually kidnap mine back. - Different situation, but
  • Can you talk to your son's father about this? - anon
  • Take this to a lawyer. Fight for him. This cannot be legal. - nm
    • Unfortunately, when we divorced I was completely sm - sad mom
      • can you wait a few days - mtstudent
      • If you wanted DS visitation bad enough, you WOULD get - lawyer. You seem more worried about you than DS. n
  • i pray for u and ur son - smh
  • I will pray for you also. Hugs to you. nm - trose
    • I'm so sorry. You will be in our prayers. - mtstudent

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HAS ANYONE HAD A CMC JOINT REPAIR WITH COSTOCHONDRAL CARTILAGE AND TENDON ANCHORING?   MY DOCTOR SAYS I NEED THIS FOR MY ARTHRITIS, ETC.. AM CURIOUS IF ANYONE HAS ANY INFORMATION FOR ME?   FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME.

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THANKS

in the best interest of the child - a lawyer who represents the child.  The GAL can make recommendations that this or that person be best suited in raising the child, or make a recommendation to a court that evaluations need to be done, etc.  MOST GAL's do a splendid job in looking out for the child's best interest, but there are those whose priorities are more in line with being in favor with a particular party (a judge, a person of influence, etc.).  I've seen great GALs and not so great GALs.  Time will tell what will happen in this case.

My 11-year-old son has recently started tearfully asking me to divorce his dad.  I have been borderline on it for a while but was trying to keep the family intact - one reason being that I was afraid of how my husband would treat my son and 8-year-old daughter when I was not here.  In discussing the possibilities of divorce, I told my son that his father could possiby try to get 50% custody of him.  He said tearfully, "if that happens, I'll just shoot myself."  I have never heard anything like that come out of my child's mouth.  His dad is overbearing and he truly doesn't ask the kids (or my for that matter) opinion about anything...just does whatever he wants and expects us to just live with it.  He is very concerned with what everyone else thinks but in truth doesn't care much about us.  I guess my son is finally seeing that.  I asked him to talk to his dad about how he feels but he is too afraid and said his dad will just say , "you got that idea from your mother." 

I'm scared.  I do want to consider filing for divorce, but if my husband gets partial custody the trauma on my children will be devastating!  And he has much more financial means to fight me in court than I have. 

How much say does an 11-year-old have in court about who they live with?  If we went to a family counsellor first would that help at all?