I have had this happen with relatives and friends alike - sm
Posted By: misty on 2007-08-06
In Reply to: is it uncool to say thank you - behind in times vent.
I am actually surprised now when someone actually calls or writes to say they received something I sent and *thank you* for sending it. How sad is that? I was also told to send a thank-you note or call the sender the very day you receive their gift, no matter if you like it or not. After all, they cared enough to send SOMEthing. Guess we are a dying breed???
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You and I think alike - nm
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Even more alike
I used to write poetry and song lyrics a lot too, and it sounds like we have the same issue with the longer writing projects.
I always think I am good at the general idea and would be good at the final drafting ... but sucky at all the work in the middle! Lol
We are absolutely nothing alike
Both of the females my brothers married are absoutely nothing like my mother, and my mother was absolutely nothing like my grandmother.
Don't get me wrong, I really like my MIL, she raised an incredible son and I think I am doing pretty much the same thing. That is about the only thing we have in common. LOL!
Great minds think alike? :)
I was thinking about the recipe this weekend! Thought about trying to add cinnamon or maybe some dried cherries to the bread...wondering if bread lady has tried any variations of her recipe to split up the 4 loaves into different items. my weekends are usually pretty crazy but I hope to try it this weekend.
True cornbread- you and I are alike
on that. Have had all my life and never put cranberries in it. My aunt was just saying the other day she could taste her mother's dressing, rest her sweet soul. It was so good, put sausage in hers along with the cornbread, of course, no white bread filler.
That is exactly where I was getting stuck. Great minds think alike! :)
Congratulations!!
He was 86. I have many relatives
in their late 90s & a couple over 100. When your parents reach their 80s, you won't be saying things like that because you'll hope they have many years left beyond 86.
I've had a George-Clooney sound-alike
at most of my jobs, but so far haven't heard him yet at this job.
Too bad ...
loved your post - great minds think alike!!
RELATIVES FROM OTHER COUNTRIES
My husband is a first generation American. His folks came here legally, worked their buns off, and did it the right way. My father-in-law became a citizen as did his sister. My husband's sister married a man whose entire family came here LEGALLY from Beirut during that awful war where they lost everything, their businesses, their homes, couldn't even leave their hiding places to buy grocersies because they were shot at, so they went without food for quite some time. They were singled out there because they allowed the females in their family to go to college. Can you imagine? They came here with what they could salvage LEGALLY, then got jobs and saved their money until they could start their own businesses. All of these humble people respected our laws and now are part of us. They are all Americans now except my mother-in-law who passed away still with her green card, but she always showed up and did what she needed to do legally to stay in this country and she loved it. None of them worked for anyone illegally or under the table. I say send all the illegals back. All of them. She is right, we don't have enough natural resources or cash to take care of all these people who do not respect us anyway and take and take and give nothing to to contribute to our society except more illegal things in order to earn a buck. Like sell drugs, drive drunk, pretend to be Jose Somebody at the ER so they won't have to pay the bill that we all cover. Enough.
I'm sure some of your relatives are feeling sm
the same horrible crunch. Feel them out gently. Together you can approach the insensitive members of your family.
Instead of saying you "won't be buying any gifts," say you "can't" instead. It's the sign of the times, and not a reflection on you.
You can have a very merry and wonderful Christmas without gifts. It's love that makes Christmas Christmas!
Merry Christmas to you and all the other posters and readers!
People can get pregnant on an IUD. I have two relatives who did.
You have to wonder why she hasn't had her tubes tied, and why he hasn't had a vasectomy and gotten a full-time job since he's perfectly able-bodied. At least if they're living off the dole, one or both should be going to college on grants to eventually be able to support four kids.
Who are you buying for, your kids or relatives? If you
know someone is going to return whatever then go with a gift card and let them get whatever they want themselves. But, whatever you give them they can do with what they wish. You have no control over that.
awkward conversations with relatives
Sometimes there is not much more to say when it comes to the cookies. Sounds like she had just enjoyed the conversation and wanted to keep it going... maybe she liked hearing from you guys.
Wanted to let you know what happened to relatives
I went with my two sisters on two separate occasions to fill out forms at social security. One sister was applying for social security benefits and when asked about her marital status she told them single. The women then said, have you ever been married? The next thing my sister had to do was to give the names of all previous marriages and the dates they were married and then the woman said she was listed as divorce. Another sister, who only lived with this man for 22 years after his death went to see if she would be able to get any kind of help from them. You should see the form she had to fill out. It was called a marital relationship something or other and it went on for miles. We were told they ask about previous marriages and the like to see if people might be getting money from other places. With the married sister according to the years she might have been married to either 1 determined whether she got social security on that marriage. According to SS if married, gosh don't want to mess this up, but seems like over 20 something years then you would perhaps be able to draw from that marriage even if you are divorced from them so when applying for things like that if married previously you are not considered single.
Charmed...I have similar relatives. Here is something to remember
MISERABLE PEOPLE LOVE TO MAKE OTHER PEOPLE MISERABLE.
That is why the saying "misery loves company."
I know they are your family. However, if they treat you that badly, dump them and move on. I went through this years ago. I have family like this. They never had anything to do with me unless they needed something from me or they wanted to belittle me.
One can find friends who are more like family and treat you with respect. Make sure you have caller ID and DON'T ANSWER WHEN THEY CALL. That is the first step. LEARN TO SAY NO. It will not kill you, I promise. When you empower yourself, you learn to like you for yourself and it no longer matters what these people think of you. When it no longer matters what they think, they will see it and pick on someone else. 
Actually, relatives in suburban PA don't lock either and I feel safe there, roo. sm
But i would not feel safe in my own home unlocked, even though I'm in a gated community with tons of outside lights, etc. For some reason I feel safe in someone else's house more than my own.
Anyone who has relatives in assisted living, high rise places, anything?
I have a dear aunt that went to live with her son and his fairly new wife of about 2 years. My aunt really needs the assistance of someone but this is not working out. She is 86, called me tonight, wants to go back home and I told her I would try to assist her. She is my second mother since mine died several years ago. I have heard that high rises go by how much income a person has. I do not think assisted living is a possibility as might be too much money involved for her, she does not get that much from social security. She has both Medicaid and Medicare and I wondered about inhome help also. Anyone out there who has a situation like this that can give me any information I would appreciate it. TIA
I have relatives in fairly rural Maine who never lock, and I feel totally safe there. nm
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When you have friends - it's good. But when you don't have friends it's
REALLY GOOD!!!
I swear, I have this one friend who just gets mad at me stupid stuff. I told her a few weeks ago that I could probably go out this sat. but now I can't make it (just dinner). So, I emailed her and told her I can't go. She's upset. Thinks I should not have made plans in the first place. Well, things come up.
Why are people (women) so catty? Immature?
Are there any women out there who can: Forgive, understand, not get offended because I am not perfect? If so, I'd like to meet you. I highly doubt she exists though.
My son had this happen to him, as well--sm
and he did report it to the bank. however, he only got half of his money back (I don't know why) even though the woman who stole his cc# was caught. I had the same bank as he did and apparently they told him they would only reimburse half of the charges. To this day, he will not buy items on line.
me too but I don't think that's going to happen...sm
GOP-democratic ongoing battle will make it political, but if WE can resist all that.....it would be good.
Just as an aside, us older MTs...are really going to be the largest senior group ever.......in the USA - something like 70+ million - and we, politically, are a HUGE voice (in numbers)....so I still believe WE CAN change the world.......that we CAN make the difference.
just as I believed 40 years ago too.......
perhaps I'm deluded.....*winks*
sure hope not......
p.s. please don't burst my bubble....
Did this happen already?
I'm watching CNN and they haven't mentioned it. They just have a message up saying that Judge to decide if Paris Hilton goes back to jail. She isn't even at the courthouse yet. The Sheriff are picking her up at her house. I definitely think she needs to go back to jail no question about it.
Happen to be in
or is this something happening all over Indiana, thanks to our MITCH????
He does not ALLOW it to happen...
We are humans, with minds of our own, allowed to make choices. We're not puppets on a string being guided around. Come on now, you can't be that unschooled in the Bible.It's unfortunate that bad things and abuse and so forth happens in this world, but it does...and it's because there are so many nonbelievers and so much evil...God wants us to come to Him. He's not going to force Himself on anyone.
Having same happen to me
Gosh I love these fuzzies but shocked every time I pet them, etc. but that is just the tip of the iceberg- getting shocked from clothing, coats, blankets, etc. etc. Does anyone have a good idea how to stop some of this- and no, I will not get rid of the fuzzies.
You could have this happen to you sm
where you disconnected from someone because of something petty (shower) and then when you really had time to look back on it and put it into perspective, along with putting yourself in her situation, you realize that you miss your friend and try to reconnect.
When you do, you find out she actually died a year before. Think about that before you make a decision to end the friendship. I wish I had.
I can see how it could happen
Years ago, I went for an upper GI. The tech came in right before the test to ask if I had done the bowel prep. They were preparing to do a barium enema instead of an upper GI. It was a good thing I was in the medical field and knew exactly what test I was having and why.
I agree that it must happen a lot..sm
A few years back I had an ink cartridge that I wanted to return because I had grabbed the wrong one. The Walmart wouldn't take it back. For that store anyways, it was their policy not to accept ink cartridges in return for that very reason. They told me that I wouldn't even believe how many they get back and are actually empty. I was told that I needed to send it back to the company for whatever brand it was.
I believed what they said because at that time my husband was a manager there.
When they do inventory it takes them like a month to do it, and you wouldn't believe sometimes how much money and merchandise is unaccounted for, not just easily concealable things either. No way to know how much of it was really stolen, but I would bet a good portion of it.
I'm sure they'll take back your cartridge. If you can't find your receipt, they will probably just give you a gift card figuring that if by chance you didn't get that cartridge there, at least they know you have to spend that gift card at a Walmart.
Just my 2 cents.
I'll tell you exactly what will happen.
If you don't buy it, everything will break. If you buy it, everything will break right after it runs out. lol. I bought a blazer a couple years ago, bought an extended warrantly and literally a month after it ran out my fuel pump burned up, some motor for my blinker burned out, had to get a new alternator, new battery, new tires (due to neighborhood felon in the making), driver side viser broke...I think there was more but I can't remember at the moment.
Anyhoo, good luck! :-)
i expected this probably would happen, but not yet.
I feel for her baby growing up without her mom and for her mother, who i'm sure always had hope that "vicki lynn" would come out of this downward spiral before it was too late. It's tragic all the way around. I would love to know if mr. lawyer is really innocent of all this too.
did these happen at once or different times? nm
I can only imagine what would happen
to all the animals that would not be adopted because the owners could not afford health insurance. We have 2 dogs and 2 cats,all adopted from shelters. We don't have insurance on them but isn't them living in a loving home a better alternqative then what might have happened to them?
Gee. I knew that would happen! LOL!
Know things happen but.....
I can relate to what you say; however when my own father asked me to move in with him (close to age 90) I refused to do that. I visited, had seen him growing up (parents divorced) but I would never ruin my life moving in with him as life would have been hel* for me, overbearing, rude, constantly belittled me in front of others (weight issue he had with me) and generally not the kind of person I would care to live with. However, this is what I did and he could take or leave it. He lived close by in another state and I told him I would get any assistance he could use be it Meals on Wheels, rides to and from appointments, just anything. It was up to him if he wanted or not. I did not care norr do I care now what anyone would think about this situation. My maternal aunt (who knew my father very, very well) said he had lived his life, now I should live mine. I am not throwing away my happiness to satisfy someone else. Now, if he had been a kind, understanding, loving father he could have possibly (and that is not a sure thing) moved in with ME but definitely not giving up my home, etc. to have lived with him.
What's the worst that can happen; you buy a new one?
I have heard people clean them by running them under the shower and letting them dry in the warm outside air. I'm going to try it, I have a backup cheapie to use if it gets ruined and I have to buy a new one.
Would you happen to be a male
Because any female knows how hard it is to go to school while having your period, especially having your FIRST period. And the thought of her using a tampon at that age I am sure freaks the poor child out. My DD is 17 and she still doesn't use tampons. I never used them until I had my 3rd child, over the age of 30. Only a male (I hope) would make such an uneducated response...more power to ya Mom, stick up for your DD 100%... the teacher was absolutely wrong in the way this situation was handled and should be confronted about it...good luck!
Yes, my mother had this happen. sm
I think she was in her 40s, can't remember exactly. She said it was the worst headache and vomiting ever. Her's also was a small bleed, such a small aneurysm that when it burst that was the end of the aneurysm. She recovered fully and if I remember right she was only in the hospital for a week or so.
A lot of assuming going on here. Did it happen or
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It's not uncommon for this to happen, (sm)
and it suggests you are headed for reading glasses. The first indication will be that your focus change slows down because the lens is getting stiffer with age. This slowing started to happen to me about 2 years ago, and I started taking the eye supplement, lutein. It is described as a supplement for eye health, and I decided to take it because it's supposed to help avoid macular degeneration. But would you believe that slowing of my focus problem WENT AWAY completely? I am still not in reading glasses and have no trouble with my focus as long as I take lutein. This would be the time for you to start it to keep you out of bifocals for as long as possible.
I'm curious - how did that happen? - sm
I recently got pet health insurance for my cats, and notice that one of the things NOT covered is ACL injuries. Never heard of it in a cat before, but sometimes in dogs. Did she jump from something high? Is it in a back or a front leg?
You know what will happen if we all quit
There will have to be money coming from somewhere to replace the tax revenue lost if all of us wicked smokers just up and quit (or died, whichever!). They already decided we could do without the transfats and took those away from our McFrys; Salmonella risk caused many places to get rid of genuine cesar salads because of the raw eggs; and some places have banned pate. They may start slowly hitting the US consumer with a Twinkie tax- $1/pack, $10/carton. Those McFrys, even without the transfat we knew and loved) will have a $0.10 surcharge each (eek, I can't afford to supersize anymore), and I'm afraid that it will take a mortgage if I want to get that Chantilly Lace cake from the bakery.
Fat people and smokers- the last two groups that it's okay to make fun of in this country, and dang if I ain't both!
You wouldn't happen to be a bio-mom would you???
That sure would explain a lot of your behavior and comments.
The OP is doing nothing wrong by wanting a FAMILY and not a part-time husband. Leave her alone.
I've had this happen before and it is usually
when there is fluid behind my eardrum. Usually no cold associated with it. It sounds like a bee buzzing in my ear.
The point is this should NOT happen every day -
The fact that some people think this is okay is why a lot of these kids are so out of control. Do you want everyone to wait to take action until it's a 6:00 news story??? When I was in school this would not have been a big deal, and worked out between kids/parents. Unfortunately we live in a world today where kids do not seem to have morals or consciences and do not think twice about hurting another person because they were "mad". IMO the only way to change that is to STOP making it okay.
Yes, I've had this happen too, sm
As my allergies have gotten worse over the years, I have been pulling up the carpet throughout my house and yuck, nasty! I would love to put wood floors throughout, but cannot afford it. In the fall, my sinuses are even worse. I can't dust or vacuum, make the kids or DH do it.
To get rid of the drainage, you have to dry up your sinuses. I personally use Zyrtec and it works very well for me. I also have a personal steamer that I use a few times a day to try and steam things out. I've heard of the neti pot (not sure if that is spelled right) and that is supposed to work really, really good.
I keep a few peppermints with me in case I'm in public and the nausea gets too bad, it helps dry things up for a few minutes at least.
Good luck!
This could happen anywhere, not just WalMart.
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they didn't tell me that could happen! sm
Thanks for the info - they did not tell me that could happen! They told me the other one would take over the work of both. Mine was also removed due to a cyst. It has been a month and so far I am wondering if mine is working. How did you know yours stopped? Other than the obvious (no period) what symptoms did you have?
this didn't happen to me but had a sm
friend who use to work the ER as an aid back in the 80s. Ambulance and EMTs brought in two guys "stuck together." No kidding. I just have a visual on that one don't you all?
Accidents happen... sm
I guess I'd have to fire myself since I'm the cleaning lady around here because sometimes I occasionally break things accidentally. I guess that's the risk one takes with a cleaning person/service, but they're human and mistakes happen.
It always seems to happen like that, doesn't it.
Everything falls apart at once. Anyway, I have gas after having had electric for 15 years. I love my gas stove. The stove top is much faster, saves a lot of time. In the winter, when I'm done with the oven and turn it off, I open the door and it heats up the kitchen so nice and toasty. I would not go back to electric if I had a choice.
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