I have found the best punishment for kids is
Posted By: Older mother on 2008-03-14
In Reply to: Son Suspended From School - MomMT
to do hand them the exact opposite of what they want to do. For example, does he love to go outside and play? Then he sits in his room without anything like his television, telephone, just 4 walls. If he is a couch potato then he spends time outside, even if just sitting under a tree and thinking about things. I always punished children/grandchildren with the opposite of what they loved to do. Works like a charm.
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
punishment
Apologies seem to stick with my children; my boy has had to apologize to his teacher for misbehaving and guess what, no problems since. I think making her apologize is appropriate and will humble her enough to never have to worry about it again.
Harsh punishment but . . .
like you, I don't agree with this sort of behavior at all. But what recourse does the school have? These days, kids communicate widely via the internet. When one child writes something evil or threatening about another child in a blog or sends bullying emails, parents go straight to the school and ask that something be done about it. In the same vein, shouldn't the school do something about their own teachers being bullied? Most schools now address this sort of thing in their parent/student handbooks.
We can leave this up to the parents, but sadly, lots of parents aren't doing their jobs, either monitoring their children's activities online or teaching them appropriate social behavior. In and of itself, this one comment about a teacher isn't so threatening, but the bigger picture can be pretty upsetting.
I have a friend whose teenage children drive me insane. I can barely keep my mouth shut around them. I would love to sit them down and tell them how obnoxious they are. They are profane and will curse in front of adults and then tell us that we're just uptight and "what's the big deal". Many times as I speak to my friend on the phone, her children will start a conversation with mom while she is on the phone to me. That's rude in itself, but the foul-mouthed comments about their teachers, etc., are horrible. Mom does nothing about it, in fact, she joins in with the remarks. In recent months, I hardly talk to my friend on the phone anymore, because these sorts of things were happening nearly every time I speak to her on the phone. That may not be relative to this situation, but it's an example of the kind of "support" that schools get from parents.
I think the school has to have some say over what the kids are doing online with respect to school, but 10 days total suspension is an awful lot.
Well, I for 1 don't think the punishment fits the
The school is waaaaay over-reacting. Suspension for 4 days? Come on, he didn't hit his teacher out of anger, just kidding around.
Oh, well. Maybe you should have him write his teacher a note of apology. That might help with his relationship in the future with her.
That's an interesting form of punishment
Something I might try the next time. I agree that 4 hours was a little a harsh, which is why I gave in after about 30 minutes. I will say that he was pretty good the rest of the day. He had 1 time when he started to rough-house with his brother and it ended pretty quickly when I reminded him that he could sit on the chair again, this time until his dad comes home. He quit pretty abruptly.
Thanks for your input.
My father one time decided this was the punishment for my son
Had him write 200 times I must not ...... My father laughed as he told me when my son got through he said, "Now paw-paw can I do it again?" What works for 1 does not necessarily work for another.
Not withholding as punishment - withholding as a reaction (sm)
Maybe it does exacerbate the problem - but I have dealt with the problem for over 13 years. I gave in for years hoping it would help. Now, I don't care if it exacerbates the problem - unless something changes in the relationship and I feel like I want to be with him in that way, I am not doing it.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
*
Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
As soon as I found out
I was really excited because we weren't planning on having a second child so as soon as I found out I told everyone. Thankfully all went well. I would think it would be up to the individual. My friend never told anyone until she was 5 months or so along because she had suffered a miscarriage earlier and was having some symptoms that she was worried about.
found these...
Nestle chocolate (like chocolate milk)
Neopolitan ice cream
nachos (don't know how much kiddies will like those though)
I never found out as a kid.
I guess I was really lucky, because no other kids ever told me about Santa and I never questioned it with my parents. I guess I knew at a certain age, but I don't recall what age it was (probably well into my teens).
My kids are 14, 10, and 8 and they all still believe. They tell me that some of their friends say Santa doesn't exist, but they don't believe their friends. My kids think it's sad that they don't believe in Santa.
I don't think kids need to be told about Santa. At some point they'll figure it out on their own, if not now then when they have their own kids!!!
I think we found it...
Thank you to all of you who shared some great ideas. As many of you I considered the baby monitors, however, I was trying to think of all the "what-if's" and was worried that if she fell going down the hall to the bathroom in the middle of the night, she might not be close enough to a monitor in a nearby room to make enough "noise" to get our attention, especially considering she is still somewhat short of breath following the surgery..might not have enough wind in her to be able to yell out for help. I did find what I think we need and am going to RadioShack tomorrow to check it out. It had some great reviews from people that have purchased it for much the same reason..to alert someone else in the house instead of a pricey call center..however, does still give her the cability of reaching 911 if we happen to not be home at the time. Thanks again for everyone who took the time to post a response. If the product below (I hope the link works) is not what we need we will look further into some of the other posts. And if anyone else out there finds themselves or a family member in the same situation (we will hope not), then this might be something to keep in mind.
Wish you all a very merry Christmas with your families.
http://www.radioshack.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2117828&cp=&origkw=personal+assistant&kw=personal+assistant&parentPage=search
I FOUND IT....Thanks for your help!!
I went back to Google and typed in toothpaste commercials. it took going through a couple pages, but I came across a Rembrandt toothpaste site and someone else mentioned the hot and steamy commercial. The song is *Waterfall* by Griffin House! Guess what I am buying this afternoon!
so thanks again for the suggestion. I never would have found it otherwise! yippee
this is what I found about
I googled posttubal ligation syndrome and found this info...hope it helps. I have heard some doctors refer to posttubal syndrome when talking about a patient's heavy menses after a TL...just something to think about. I wasn't aware of this when I had mine 8 years ago, but boy believe me, if I had known, there's no way I would have had it done...
A study in Britain followed 374 posttubal patients and found that 43% had subsequent
gynecological treatment for such conditions as heavy menstrual bleeding, menstrual
disturbances requiring hormonal treatments, cervical erosion, ovarian tumors, and
recanalization of the fallopian tubes requiring a second operation.
Another British study of tubal ligation found a 40% increase in menstrual blood loss;
26% of the group experienced increased menstrual pain. Women who had used the Pill
before their tubal ligation reported more of these complaints than other patients.
Re found Dad
You might want to contact him, if for no other reason than family medical history. It is important for all of us to know what kind of illnesses are in our family. For instance, I didn't know until 2 weeks ago that my grandfather had had bleeding ulcers when he was a young man and had to have part of his stomach removed. I found out when the doctor was asking me about family history of ulcers. My mother, all 3 of my brothers, and myself all have had problems with our stomachs with gastritis, reflux, etc. It seems that there is some kind of a hereditary issue; the doctor thinks maybe a hypergastric nerve or somekind of genetic thing. It's something to think about.
Found it!!! Thanks again :) nm
x
Found out that is exactly what I have, the
Bakelite, 2 braclets and 1 that is ?? Went on line and found out might also have a cameo ring from Mother that could possibly be the same thing. I have an old radio from my father and found that Bakelite used in older radios. Found a pearl pin with gold behind it that could also be worth $$$. The second Tuesday of each month is an antique sellers delight close by my home, loads of stuff including jewelry. I am going there this next time and ask for advice on the price of my items. I definitely will not include these in the community yard sale, figured they were worth something as I knew a little about the older jewelry. I will not sell to the people at the antique place before I get several appraisals. Thanks for all this, otherwise I might have made a BIG mistake!
Not that they have found but
the police, apparently from the bodily fluids they say they have gotten, show she is dead and also apparently showing large quantities of this medicine in the fluids. This is really interesting case.
Found it. Thanks so much for your help.
xx
oh sorry, you already found it....
I jumped the gun - and you already found it - Gibran's On Love. I loved The Prophet back in the late 60s, early 70s.....especially on children...that begins something like this....but it's all I remember....(I can look this one up too) and made me a better parent in the 80s-90s...and right through today.......
Your children are not your children
They come through you, not from you.
You are the bows, they are the arrows.......
I found her
I finally found this ghost in another urban legend that went around. The reference to the above message she was called the ghost of Sundarbans, but in another urban legend she is referred to as the Malay ghost. Knew I had seen her somewhere before - but I still believe I've seen her photo in some movie.
found it maybe?
try this link to start
http://www.dickblick.com/zz012/02/
here's what I just found
Rebate delivery schedule |
|
|---|
Direct-deposit payment |
All sent by May 2 |
Paper check |
|
If the last two digits of your Social Security number are: |
Your tax rebate check should be in the mail by: |
00-09 |
May 9 |
10-18 |
May 23 |
19-25 |
May 30 |
26-38 |
June 6 |
39-51 |
June 13 |
52-63 |
June 20 |
64-75 |
June 27 |
76-87 |
July 4 |
88-99 |
July 11 |
I found it!
It's called Jetty Park. Here is a link with some more info and the phone number!
http://www.floridacamping.com/campgrounds/moreinfo.php?ZID23=12804&ListingFormat=camp&ClassID=2
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
I found the coolest...
recipe site:
http://www.recipezaar.com/
We tried one of the recipes last night and it was delicious.
They have an upgraded version, but I joined the FREE version because the upgraded had nothing I couldn't find using the FREE version.
Happy cooking/eatin'!
:)
I found some on Googling....
There are angels God puts on this earth
who care for us and guide us.
You can feel their love and gentleness
as they walk through life beside us.
God blessed me with a person like that
she loves me more than any other.
And I'm thankful I'm the lucky one
who gets to call her
MOTHER.
Found some recipes for you :)
http://gourmetsleuth.com/copycat_starbucks.asp
Found some ideas for you! :)
http://www.kidsdomain.com/holiday/birthday/party.html Have fun!
I was 9 when I found out and my daughter was 9 when she
g
Found some for crockpot...
Ingredients:
3/4 cup apricot preserves
1/4 cup prepared yellow mustard
2 scallions -- chopped
1/2 pound precooked mini smoked sausages
Directions: Combine all ingredients in crockpot. Cover; cook on low for 4 hours.
Here's a link for more: http://www.cdkitchen.com/recipes/cat/886/0.shtml
I found some info. for you... sm
Seizures are scary to witness, but sometimes I think they're worse on us than the dogs (unless of course they're having a prolonged, life-threatening seizure).
With idiopathic epilepsy, I don't think the seizure causes them pain, and I seem to remember that a dog is more at risk of secondary injury (like falling and hitting their head, falling into a swimming pool, etc.) than from the actual seizure.
I had a dog with idiopathic epilepsy. She was a fiesty, gorgeous (okay, I'm biased!) dark red and white, blue-eyed Siberian Husky named "Cherokee." I loved her, adored her, and pretty much catered to her every whim (and created a bit of a monster in the process, but I was happy to get to take care of her and spoil her in her old age). She was funny, aloof, dignified, super smart, and, of course, mischievous. Hubby and I still miss her terribly, and we still talk about her hilarious antics. But I digress!
She was 10-11 years old when I adopted her, and I got to have her for 5 years. At first, she was only having a seizure about... twice a month. We worked her up and decided to hold off on meds since the seizures were fairly infrequent. But she pretty quickly started to have them more like... once a week, I think it was? If I remember correctly, my vet said if they are having more than a certain number of seizures a week/month, it's best to but them on meds, so we put her on phenobarbital at that time, twice a day.
The dose was a little too high at first, and it made her a little groggy and caused her to vomit. We lowered the dose a bit, and she was fine - never had another seizure again. Phenobarb is pretty inexpensive, but not w/o potential side effects to the liver. At Cherokee's age, we didn't really worry about that, but maybe that's the reason your vet is taking a "wait and see" approach? Your dog is young, so if she has to be on anti-seizure meds, it will likely be for the rest of her life. Not that I'm trying to discourage you from meds, just saying maybe your vet is thinking about the side effects as a reason to maybe hold off as long as possible.
I also have a Siberian Husky named Alexxa ("Alex" - sometimes pronouced "Owwhh-licks" ;o). She's now 15 years old. She started having seizures at about 1 year of age, but hers are very mild ("partial complex" I think they're called?) She only has one about every 3 months or so, and all that happens is her head has a little tremor to it. If you aren't looking right at her when it happens, you could be right next to her and not even know she's having a seizure. She doesn't even seem to be aware anything is happening. Vet said they might get worse over time, but they haven't, and she's never had to be on medicine for it.
Epilepsy is hereditary in some breeds, but it can happend in any breed or mixed breed of dog.
Here are a couple paragraphs from this site: http://www.asc-cockerspaniel.org/health/news03.asp
>>Epilepsy Treatment
If idiopathic epilepsy is diagnosed, a dog may be treated with anti-convulsant drugs such as phenobarbital or potassium (or sodium) bromide. Since neither of the drugs is without side effects, the veterinarian and owner might choose to wait until seizures become more frequent or prolonged before starting an epileptic dog on them.
Phenobarbital was more effective than bromide in eliminating and shortening the duration of seizures. Thus, for many dogs, phenobarbital may be the first choice for an anti-seizure medication. Though the study did not look at long-term effects of using either drug, phenobarbital can damage the liver with prolonged use. Also, phenobarbital more so than bromide interacts with many other drugs. For that reason, bromide might be a better first choice for older dogs or those on other drugs, Boothe says. >>
Sorry for the length of this. (I simply must take any opportunity to talk about my dogs. LOL)
THEY FOUND BEN OWNBY sm
don't know if any of you have been following the news. there was a 13 y/o boy missing since monday in missouri. not only did they find him today, but found another boy that had been missing for 4 1/2 years!!!!!!!!! (also from missouri). it's a miracle!!!!
I found a forum for you. sm
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/OvarianCancer/wwwboard.html
I happened upon this after reading your post because I have a cyst on my cervix that has me wondering.... I found this forum, I don't know if it interests you, but I just thought I would put it across. I wish you all the luck, and I'm sure you'll be fine with the medical technology we have today! Take care and God Bless fellow MT. 
He's been found alive
suspect not in custody yet
Glad you found it nm
:-)
Found this - sounds like what you are looking for : )
http://southernfood.about.com/od/hashbrowns/r/bl80201e.htm
Found my real Dad.
I was born in 1982 and was raised by my mom and FINALLY found my dad after years of searching. He lives in Houston. I don't want to just show up out of the blue and say dad, here I am. I have his address and phone number. Mom says that I shouldn't contact him, he walked out on her after I was born, but I want to know what he's like.
I guess he went to a lot of trouble to start a new life somewhere else, got remarried, had other kids. In all these years he hasn't made an effort to contact me, but I still want to meet him. I hear his wife doesn't want me around, but she can't stop me from seeing my dad. Still, I don't want to make any waves. What should I do.
Found help in magnesium-sm
Several sources - including an MD on the Today show - advocate taking 500-750 mg of magnesium just as you are ready to lie down. I have found it a lifesaver. I was sleeping in 2 hours snatches - now I sleep wonderfully. It is listed in several books on menopause. Benadryl leaves me feeling hung over.
No idea what they found in the car - sm
I presume pot, but who knows, theye did not elaborate. It was just kind of funny (ironic anyway); they were calling it the drug car. Well someone's butt is in a sling anyway; they don't fool around and that is how it should be. I find it nice to know (though it was a pain) that they do such a thorough investigation for employment at the public schools (criminal background check, you are fingerprinted and investigated; drug and alcohol tested; filled out a zillion forms or so it seems; complete and thorough physical too which as to be done every year).
Same problem here.....think I have found
I tried every nice smelly detergent out there and those without any scent but the other day, I overheard a lady in the detergent isle telling someone her sister recommended she use Arm and Hammer detergent, and that it was the best she had used for getting out smells. So I tried the A&H Essentials 2x concentrate. It has plant-based soaps, no dyes, no phosphoates, no bleaches, no pertroleum-based cleaner. I gave it a try and put color-safe bleach in with the towels (not regular bleach). They have smelled so fresh I couldn't believe the difference. My 21 year old even noticed his towels smelled better. It has worked for me!
I had the same thing and found out sm
I had gout. I had lost about `100 pounsa. So have your uric acid checked, just an idea.
Found this on the 'Net sm
Right click on the desktop, go to Properties. Go to the Settings tab, then the Advanced button and Video adapter tab. See if there's a "Rotation" setting. Some New video cards allow the display to be rotated to accommodate flat-panel monitors.
and another suggestion
Should your screen rotate on you try pushing: ctrl, alt, up arrow key. Push all 3 down at the same time.
So I'm behind I guess - they found her??
??
Aw, I'm glad you found each other.
I'm sure the cats will be working together, pinning you to the bed for naps in no time, LOL.
Just found the best cat treat EVER -- sm
it's called Kitty Kaviar-- but I think it should be called Kitty Krack, LOL
It is thin dried flakes of real tuna and my cats cannot get enough (and they are fairly finicky).
My male kitty is diabetic and with these treats he lets me test him and give him his shots without any fuss whatsoever.
I just found out I am a PA target.
I have been for years and just didn't know it. I knew I was the person everyone went to to feel better, and I would give everything I had (people pleaser). Most toxic people I have kicked out of my life, but it is hard when it is your sister. And it's hard to figure out you are a pushover. LOL!
found the site sm
Went to the site mentioned here, showed step by step, sounds wonderful, snug as a bug in a rug, may make one for myself!
Odd Things You Have Found
What are some odd things you've found in the car, the yard, the house, on the street, the mailbox etc.?
In the yard in the past I've found shoes & some unidentifyable stuff the dogs have dragged in, But the strangest thing I ever found was a few years ago. One day I attended an event at a local center, it was a hot summer day so I left the windows down while inside. The event was attended by a large number of people. I came out & put the baby in the car seat & headed home.
When I got the baby out of the backseat I noticed a brown paper bag stuffed between the pasenger seat & the door. I opened the bag to find a good amount of pot that was in a plastic baggie. The strange thing was I had cleaned my car out early that morning & it wasn't there & I know it didn't belong to any of us.
After thinking about it for a while I came to the conclusion that someone(s) was doing business in the parking lot & got interrupted by the security that was patroling the parking lot so they just ditched their stash in the first available spot they found to avoid being caught. I flushed it down the toilet.
my mom found them 2/1.00 saturday
yay
I think you found your own answer...
An 8-year-old boy will quickly come to find what pushes your buttons and then pound away at them.
|
