I have been living that life for the last 2 years. Very familiar story. SM
Posted By: I feel for you on 2008-12-19
In Reply to: I need help --- kinda long --- - anon
I have two kids at home and a baby on the way. My husband keeps gettign laid of jobs due to slow business Just got word that after Christmas he will be laid off again. As it is, we can barely afford to feed the family... so dont know what we will do come January when we lose his income.
There are no jobs for him to apply to. We do not qualify for unemployment for some reason....
And its not like we are lazy or bad people. All we do is work. I work 3 different jobs for 3 different MT companies. I wake up 2 hours before the kids go to school, work while they are in school, and even have to make up soem time at nigth when everyone is sleeping. That in addition to my husband's job... we can barely, and I mean barely make it...
Then I spend the rest of my free time cleaning the house, doing dishes, laundry, errands, bills, homework with the kids. Im pregnant and should be getting more rest. HA!! What a joke.
And I know all about the bank fees. We pay probably 100-200 a month in fees becuase when you live paycheck to paycheck it is just something that happens.. Sorry folks... Its not about being good a balancing your checkbook... not in these times. We have to play russian roulette with the monies sometimes.
My husband and myself do not have insurnace. I do now through Medicade because I am pregnant. We were hoping to drop the Medicaid when my husband's insurance kicked in... but he got laid off before that happened. My kids have CHIP, so that is good... But I am down to my last pair of contacts and I havent taken them out in 2 months because I do not have the extra 100 dollars to make an appt and then 50 for the contacts.
The school hits us up for $$$ every week for this, that, and the other thing... which all that does is take food off our plates. If one of my kids loses a shoe or needs a winter jacket, etc.... it puts us out.
Not to mention on top of all of that... My brother-in-law was in a car accident in a car he bought from my husband, but never took the time to put it in his name, and now it is back on us. We have 30 days to come up with 4000 dollars or my they take my husband's license away. Sounds crazy huh? Lawyers say they cannot do that... but they say they can...(the insurance company), but who has money to pay the lawyer for the help?? Not us.
I could go on and on and on and on and on and on.. LIke how it is Christmas, which is hard enough, but on Dec 31st it is my daughter's b-day and then just 3 weeks later it is my other daughter's birthday... How I am going to give them a nice birthday is beyond me...
Anyway, you are not alone!!!!! Of course I have never thought about suicide. That is not an option for me and I cant imagine ever would be...
If you think that way, you need some medication and therapy real quick!!!!!! Other than that, what is the worst that can happen? There has got to be help somewhere... food stamps??? I am going to look into them myself... I might have to skip on paying rent this month... and hope the landlord understands...
Come January 20th, I hope some good things start to happen and we can be on the road to a brighter future... but until then... we have to ride it out somehow. How, I dont know. I just take every day at a time...
And this morning, I cried during my first hour of typing... Typing through the tears.. so you are not alone there either.
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No excuse for it, but I'm sure Kim has made his life a living you know what.
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What a cool story! When I was in college, living in the dorms, sm
going for my bachelor's degree in medical technology, I stumbled across a medical transcription class. Was curious, signed up for it (I was so wishy-washy back then and wanted to party my life away), but was SO surprised when in a class of about 25 women, after typing 2 or 3 reports, the teacher came up to me and said, "Boy, you are good at this. You are probably one of the best at this that I've ever come across so soon in the course. I think you found your niche in life." That did it for me. Those words of encouragement stuck with me and when my life completely fell apart after I dropped out of college, got married and then divorced within a year, moved BACK in with my parents, I always, always remembered what my teacher told me. So, I trekked down to the local university teaching hospital, looked up MT, applied, and got called to take their test. It took me 3 hours! The records manager brought me into her office, laughed and said, "I'm sorry, but you didn't pass." I was devastated!! But I didn't give up.
Right across the street was ANOTHER hospital and I applied, but this time as a medical records clerk instead (I just wanted to be AROUND the records). After 3 months they became desperate and I begged my supe to let me start off slow on ER reports and she was like, "what??" But, I asked her to please let me. I don't remember getting up to go to lunch for 2 weeks I loved it that much!
As the saying goes, the rest is history! I applied to MQ and been with them ever since - all of this started back in 1993.....
OMG you are living my life!!!! (Mine is lying behind me as I type this!)nm
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Been with my man for 16 years, living together 8..
11 years and your still living on his land
and talking about moving on to your mothers land. Here's a thought, buy land from him, or buy land from her and then its YOUR land. Better yet, move away completely and stand on your own two feet.
I'm telling you after years of living with the same family - they figure things out! sm
For example, he knows that if I am going somewhere with the kids, he probably can't go, but if he sees that I am alone and pick up my keys, he heads for the door with that look in his eyes! It's like he is trying his best to convey a telepathic message - "I want to go!!"
If this was the most sensational story you've eve heard in your life sm
then count your blessings. I know personally in my family and through others, of women/girls who don't know their baby's daddy (does the name Maury ring a bell), drug abusers, child loss, living such a worldly, superficial life....
Her life was not surprising to me. She was just a looker, just gorgeous if you ask me, and so she was like a bright light you couldn't take your eyes off, yet annoying if you stared too hard!
Not where I live, 30 years to life?
Most do not even get 30 years for a murder.
If the mom was so bad, why did ANS let her raise Daniel for the first 6-7 years of his life?
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Me either...31 years now! Life's too short to be uncomfy!
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Siberian huskies have a life expectancy of 12-15 years.
One of my Siberians did die of a brain tumor recently at age 7. I do use Frontline here in NC. I am more suspicious of chemicals to treat lawns and gardens, however.
Hear about your perverted sex life along with the perverted 6 years nursing
heavens no. You act like you hold a title for the biggest tits, the longest nursing animal and the x-rated queen of sex, why would any of us on this board care- I am sure lots could give you a run for your money if you catch my drift. Only a person who is very dissatisfied with their sex life would want to boast about how perfect theirs is. You tell me a lot about what kind of life you actually live and it is rather pitiful. Sorry for your plight.
Just a little ego there. It's a guy. She probably just wanted to sit with someone familiar.
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Not familiar with medication, but is there some way SM
you can cut it in half or quarters and start out taking a tiny amount, then gradually start taking the entire pill? If you are able to do that, your body will get used to it and you will soon be able to consume entire amount.
Or ask doctor is there is something else to try. Good luck to you.
This sounds familiar...
I now have BC/BS as of 01/01/07, but I had Cigna before that (who covered everything). My gynecologist recommended Mirena placement for SEVERE cramping and menorrhagia for me to prevent hysterectomy which would cause complications due to other medical problems, and was not being placed for contraceptive reasons (I have PCOS). BC/BS said Mirena was not covered and the explanation was that Mirena as a form of birth control was much too expensive and recommended an oral contraceptive. Again, it was strongly emphasized to BC/BS that I did not require Mirena for contraception, but for menstrual problems. I have not used any contraceptive method in almost twenty years...but they denied me. Well, the strangest part of it all is that they denied me the $675 Mirena placement, but BC/BS sent me a letter and I have been approved for the $3800 hysterectomy, which we were trying to avoid because of possible medical complications related to surgery, which could cost even more. Go figure!!!
I'm not familiar with the items you used
but I do definitely try to find natural cures if possible. I flatly refuse to take prescription or OTC cough medications. I make my own, because it's so much better for me, and it doesn't contain all those chemicals that wreak havoc on my body. I have and continue to use herbs for various things. I think it's important to know about alternative cures. There may come a day (and it's here for a lot of people) when we won't be able to get prescription meds, or be able to afford them, and we'll need to know how to take care of ourselves for a lot of things.
Sounds familiar
I live in Saratoga Springs NY about a mile from the track. Come August, same thing. We're too far away to rent out our yard. You DON'T want to try to drive anywhere in town at 6:00 p.m. when the track lets out. But it's exciting and you pick up on all the energy of the city for a month! Nice to get the streets back in September, though.
Anyone familiar with Snellville, GA? SM
Friend of mine is moving there to be with boyfriend. She said it's a nice quiet town, but another friend just told me there is a gang problem there. All I know is, it's a small town. Can anyone tell me about this town? Now I'm concerned. The other friend lives in Marietta, GA.
Thanks.
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I want to live in Savannah, but that's another story.
Yep. Sounds familiar.
We have upwards of 2 dozen cases in my state. However, officials in my area of the state are neglecting to test people with symptoms.
People are getting this and spreading it as they go because they are told they have a cold or something and they can go back to work or school.
It is on the verge of insane here where I live. I got sick a week ago and ended up in the ER. Two days later, my DH got it too. Will never know what it was because they are not testing people appropriately.
Anyone familiar with scrapbooking software
I love to make scrapbooks. I am currently working on one a thank you gift to the hostess who allowed us to stay with them on our vacation this past summer. They are friends of ours and actually took their vacation to vacation with us. We had a great time in Colorado!
I'm wondering if anyone has used any of the scrapbook softwares that are out. I think I might try to do it this way to conserve some time. Any thoughts or opinions would be appreciated.
RUTIN, not familiar with this. Is this a pill? NM
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Not familiar with carbon credits - what is that?
Also to change the topic a bit since you mentioned it, what about life on other planets - believer or not? If you believe, do you think we have been visited?
I agree, maybe seeing a familiar name as a donor will encourage others. NM
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Sounds familiar with hubs not wanting any more
cats around. I had an older girl and hubs brought home 2 young guys (he thought when the older one died the 2 younger would take her place, not true of course but he thought that). The older girl died and before long I spoke with him about another kitty. I have loads of room, work is ideal for pets around, he travels so they are loads of company for me but he said absolutely not. Ok, my housekeeper called me 1 day, said kitty up a tree, she would be over when she got it down and I asked her to bring with her as she could not keep. Instant love, not only with me but hubs. I told him the cat had shown up at my house meowing and running from the dog. Well, that was true- she had shown up at the door and had been running from the dog, just not at my home. Gina, my kitty, is now his best friend, follows him around the home, comes for petting and stays in whichever room he is in. It is kitty love for him now.
I have a life, a great life at that. I just happen to include my canine family
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Office; Life on Mars; Lost; Life; Pushing Daisies
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Well, have to get the word out. How many of you are familiar with Belk Dept. Stores? sm
Well, they bought out our local Parisian Dept. store, promised to come in to our town, buy the building (in our local mall), and then backed out at the last minute. We live in a town of over 300,000. Anyways, so there is no longer any store there in the mall. They are just like Macy's. etc.
They have THE POOREST CUSTOMER SERVICE CENTER (via phone) I've ever encountered. They don't even bill on a 30-day billing cycle, so my payment was due TODAY when I always thought it was the 6th of every month (I last made a payment Oct. 6 and thought I'd pay my bill a few days early) only to find out that the bill would be considered late if not paid by 5 p.m. EST. If I paid it on line like I always do, you MUST make the payment date at least 2 days later than today's date (makes no sense) so next month I would be LATE and charged 35.00. So I call to make a payment. This rude lady tells me: Go into a store and make a payment. I tell her, "well, we don't have a store within 200+ miles of my home since you guys never did come here," Then she says, "Well, you can pay by phone today by 5 but it will cost you an extra 15.00." So, I'm livid. She gets her supe on the phone who is rude as h*** and tells me that she wasn't the one who decided to pay late! OMG!
So, I call husband very upset. To make a long story short, I finally paid it after 3 LONG PHONE CALLS to these fools (all 3 of them were extremely rude). One guy put me on hold for 15 minutes (I counted!!) after I asked to speak to his supervisor and he gets back on the phone (minus his supervisor) after being put on hold and then I finally pay part of my bill.
Thank GOD Belk isn't around here. Sounds like a godsend.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE if you work hard, don't shop there! They SUCK** and I will NEVER shop there!!
Too many of these stories becoming familiar, in addition to inforcing the death penalty....sm
I have to ask myself why so much of society these days is behaving in this way, uncontrollable, ugly rage...is it the decay of family units, absentee fathers, is it the abundance of drugs, violence in media....I am old enough to remember a time when these atrocities seemed to be the RARE horror stories, why the abundance now? No God in their worlds?????
Is he still living?
I heard leopards don’t change their spots.
We have been living in ...
the me me me society where everything is now now now. DH and me cut up credit cards and paid off debt for the last 3-4 years instead of remodeling the house, buying new clothes/cars/toys.
I live in a $60,000 house that many people turned their nose up at because it wasn't an McMansion. Well we are about two years from paying it off without any help from anyone and those that turned their nose up at us are in foreclosure right now.
I had a feeling the stock market was going to crater - just didn't know how bad. I'm doing everything I can to keep my job and make the most of it. Now is not the time to go job-hopping.
Time for folks to live within their means and businesses/corporations need to realize that slow and steady growth isn't bad - its better then the alternative of not even being in business.
Finally I think we need to STOP rescuing this fat cats that make these stupid decisions that bankrupt these companies and put 1000's out of work. Make them return their golden parachutes and live like the common man. Same goes for salaries for actors/actresses and sports figures.
Yes, shows are something we could do, living
where we do. It's not far to go, maybe 12 miles across town.
And thank you very much. One thing we don't want to do is get Sasha's nose out of joint, LOL.
Your living your dream like never before?
?? That doesn't make sense.
funerals are for the living
nothing done to the body is going to affect whether she 'rests in peace'. Let the mother bury HER dead where SHE wants. She is the legal next of kin.
p.s. her character isn't like too bad if she was a cop so long. don't believe everything the way the media slants it.
You might consider doing the living room
(or whatever the fanciest room is) in same color but with a special border tile worked in to set that room off.
Just a thought.
Living in the country is so...
enjoyable. We have two neighbors and that is about it. One neighbor is across the pond from us and the other neighbor lives back behind a wooded area and we can't hardly see their place unless it is in the winter. I don't think I'd like living right next door to someone else.
Living arrangements
I don't have personal experience, just an opinion. I think you should remain in the community with the best school for her. If you are in an apt. now in that school district, stay. Don't go the mobile home root. Then if you can in a few years, get a condo or townhome in the same area. That way the friends she makes at school now will stay with her as she grows up and she will have continuity and stability. I would cross mobile homes off my list. JMO.
Living in la-la land
I cannot believe in this time that anyone would leave their door open for anyone to enter. It does not seem like you either hear/read the news or know about things that go on around your little world. Why invite danger by opening your door to the world? In my town some children molested by strangers coming into their rooms in the middle of the night- oh by the way, not only their doors left open but some windows not locked of a night. I read a post on here where a man showed up in one persons home through their garage door. My home is just as secure as I can get it. I love and cherish my life, my hubby's and my pets as well. What is someone other than someone you know comes in 1 day- then what? Good luck with a dangerous situation.
Sexy men who are still living !
Patrick Dempsey, Dennis Haysbert, Keifer Sutherland, Thorsten Kaye, Ryan Reynolds, Sam Elliott, Tom Selleck, Aidan Turner. Thorsten Kaye is the sexiest! Sam Elliott is second. Dennis Haysbert is third except Patrick Dempsey is tied for third with him! So many men! So little time.
After 6 months of looking and living
like a pauper I am now pretty happy in the new job I have. I am also behind on every bill in the house! Has anyone used a credit counseling service to help them with debt and paying off everything to get their credit back on track? I want to use a legitimate company and not worsen my situation more than it is. Thanks everyone.
what's wrong with living
with a 29-year-old? I was married with two kids, owned a house, etc. when I was 29. It is not like he is going to live with a 19 or 21-year-old who might not be that mature or responsible.
Not if they are legally living here or if
they have become citizens. That is why Carly could not compete 2 years ago when she made the top 24. Her paperwork had not yet gone through.
Anyone out there living in Maine? SM
An old boyfriend, who is now a minister lives in Bath, Maine. Can you tell me where it is located and something about it? I would appreciate it. I was thinking of maybe visiting his church. 
what i think is there are too many people living
what is good to one person, may not be to another but a free ride may be a lot of fun to some.
i don't sit and worry about it.... i just think it is incredibly sad the way i've seen it work so well for someone who doesn't even deserve it and works so slow for someone who does.
We are living in a sad world.
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how ridiculous! I said living
thing with a SOUL. Humans have souls. Oh i love my animals dearly, but they are not people, and i understand the difference. No, it cannot be twisted 1000 different ways, not accurately anyway. Human babies are innocents in God's eyes. But i doubt if you are a believer, thus the difference in understanding.
Living in la-la land
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My MIL is in an assisted living...
I think it depends on location and what is available really.
She lives in Salt Lake area and is in an assisted living, paid for through her Medicare/Medicaid and Social Security benefits. She has an apartment there and is wheelchair bound and they even let her have a cat. You should do some checking for her because there are places that will take them.
I worked in an assisted living for a while here where I live and it was mostly for private pay. I think nowadays they do allow otherwise due to the need for it and it is cheaper than putting them in a nursing home.
Once again, I would check on it. She will have to be evaluated of course to see if she meets the criteria for assisted living or if she needs to be in a long-term care. Prepare yourself for that one as well.
Hmmmm. What does he do for a living?
I'd be a little suspicious about selling drugs.
Yay! We've been living vicariously through you. sm
I'm really glad you had such a nice time! What a bummer about that Pakistani doctor....pretty scary!
Have a great day! It's the last day of my pay period and I am soooo behind!! Gotta work! See ya!
Chickadee
Every living breathing male does if they can.
Only most don't codemn it. THAT is what I would have a problem with. :)
Try living downstairs from them sometime..... Gaaaaa!
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