I have a friend who left her live-in ...sm
Posted By: blondie_1147 on 2008-11-21
In Reply to: Anyone go through a divorce w/younger kids? sm - UnHappyFlaMT
boyfriend of 11 years who she had a baby with because he was doing drugs and wasn't coming home at night, going to strip clubs after work and not coming home, etc. She lived in MS close to me and her parents and all of her family lived in Las Vegas, NV. She left and never looked back. She said it was the hardest thing she ever had to do but she doesn't regret it and is so much happier now.
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...and be happy! Still lots of life left to live
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a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
 (How un-PC is this emoticon?!)
Make them live outside? This is so funny! Ours live outside, where they WANT to be. sm
Not all dogs want to be in "indoor" dogs, mind you. They have plenty of space to run around and play, fenced, and if they are brought in during bad weather they whine at the back door to go back out! So before you comment on outside dogs, you really need to get your facts straight. Seriously. Not all dogs are made or want to be inside all of the time.
Not left to me, just trying to add some help (sm)
He does got to an ESL program regularly at school, but his teacher (and I agree) feels he needs more help. She is questioning whether there may be a learning disability instead of just a language barrier and I am starting to wonder the same thing. I am not in charge of his learning in any way, but I really would love to help him if I can.
My left toolbar only
has "top" "home" and "contact" I will contact the moderator. Thanks for your help!
A decision on this would not be left
up to me at all. This is not something I put my 2 cents in about. Their parents would be the ones to do this, that is unless the daughter/granddaughter is of age where she makes her own decisions. I have both but someone elses decisions, not mine.
no she's not further left than Rosie....
like most of the world.........*lol*
You left one out ----- NO tree.
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Sounds like somebody was PO'd to be left - sm
at home. If we leave them inside we gate the dogs into our dining room and utility room (the 2 rooms are connected) so they have 2 rooms to hang in and nothing of any consequence if they decide to chew. Luckily they don't chew on furniture but will rip up what is handy within their reach sometimes. Leave lots of dog toys and give them some rawhides and a pig ear. We had a chewer in the past, she ate a couch (down to the frame).....ended up penning her in the bathroom during the day, hated to do it but it was the only way for her not the chew up the entire house, other than that she was a great dog.
I had a dog once that hated when I left and would eat anything he could get...sm
We put him in an old fashioned wire dog cage and he bent the door down on it and then ate through the wall and then on to my moms sofa, pillows, and rugs. Needless to say mom was not happy with me or Rambo! He was just a stray that got so attached to me he would get angry when I left him. Ended up taking him everywhere I could!!
So you all have left your husband over sm
the same situation? I just need to validate that it's okay for me to feel this way. This has come to a point where it is just ridciulous and he makes me feel like I am wrong for feeling this way or even telling him I can no longer live like this.
I have 3, one on my left biceps, one on
upper chest. I got them all when I was young.
NO! I left mine at
the bridal shop until the day before the wedding even.
I'm so fired up left off, "I don't THINK its right! nm
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Well he finally left....sm
He asked when my husband would be home and I said tonight and he left. He is staying somewhere else. He is getting an apartment next week 30 miles away from here he said so I am glad. I hate to say it but I am tired of babysitting. I got to where when he comes and won't leave I just stay in my office.
Left untreated
If nothing else, you would need to see your doctor to get a note for your employer. You would have to stay out of work for at least, the very least, a full week and it should be more. With mono, plenty of rest and staying away from other people is essential.
Left untreated??
It's a virus so there really is no treatment other than supportive, symptomatic care. It's not extremely contagious, as it's spread through saliva and mucus. A doctor or clinic can diagnose it with a Monospot test, and it should run its course in about 4 weeks.
Got any left?? YUMMMM
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My younger left at almost 30 and
I hope they do fine and can maintain their own lives outside of mine. I love my own life, I travel quite a bit, do the things I want and to me the child rearing years not half as satisfying as my life is now.
Are you saying you left the dog or dogs
alone at a home, giving them food and water until their parents get back?
sounds as if ( ) DH/SO left her
for a much younger, prettier, 22-year-old. The joke reminds me of one of my favorite Country songs by Billy Ray Cyrus..."Where Am I Gonna Live?"
Where am I gonna live when I get home?
My old lady's thrown out everything I own.
She meant what she said
when she wished I was dead
So, where am I gonna live when I get home?
I knew our road was gettin kinda rocky
She said I was gettin way too cocky
She waited till I was gone
She packed from dusk till dawn
So where am I gonna live when I get home?
She decided she would keep my cat
My transportation, I wouldn't be needing that
She kept my TV
The bills, she gave to me
So, where am I gonna live when I get home?
What money left over?
The man died from what I am hearing insolvent (is that the correct spelling),anyway over $400 million in debt. Not good. They said probably would be worth more dead now than alive. The only reason supposedly he was trying a comeback was that he needed the money. He had, from what I heard, half of the Beatle's porfolio he had not sold and some other rights. By the time his estate pays off what he owes, might be the only thing left for the children would be the album, record sales and a setup like Elvis had. He had sold his Neverland home to pay off debts. The man was broke.
Is he single?? LOL - not many good ones left. nm
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Left you a long answer before your
post got moved to this board - I guess posts to your post got deleted. Anyway - get help for him!! Good luck!
I can bet those parents that left their children with the
Catholic priests over there felt the same way. I am not trying to flame you, but I do get a little unnerved when people use the word "Christian" in a description of another. Yes, personal experience has taught me that if someone uses the word to describe themselves they usually have to say it because their actions don't show it.
I do understand your comfort zone and the fact that you have known this person for a long time, but I do want you to be aware thaat sometimes the grass is not quite as green and lush behind closed doors and what he tells you for the eason of the divorce is HIS perception of it. Theer are always 3 stories; His, hers, and the truth.
Last, I want to just stress to go into it without expectations. I began to date a Deacon from the church that was highly regarded and someone I had known for years. Fairly early on he began to show sigsn of control, which I shoudl have heeded, but then he wanted a lot more than I coudl give emotionally yet and actually went to my 9-year-old son and told him that he really did not think he would be able to continue his friendship with him because "Mommy just won't give me what I need emotionally and sexually." Yes, this really did happen and I found out about when my son was in tears and mad at me for it all. No, this does not normally happen and I hope it never does to anyone, but what I am trying to convey is that you need to be cautious and concerned with anyone in your life. Just don;t get too fixated by the "christian" label.
I wish nothing but happiness and love for you in the future!!
So sad she has left a small baby as well. nm
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I wish you would have left the initial responses on it :(
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I was glad those 3 left today...sm
I couldn't believe Nicole was sobbing the way she was...c'mon! It's just a game/competition. I have a hard time believing they could actually be in love with the man. I mean, he seems sweet and has a hot bod (LOL) but it must be so unnatural in this setting. I was really glad that one witchy backstabbing blonde left (I don't know her name).
I think he has a soft spot for Bevin, Amber, and Tina...but I think he also likes that other Stephanie too! LOL...I dunno.
It's fun (and sometimes embarrassing) to watch...gives me a good chuckle.
:D Chickadee
Please tell me I'm not the only Gilmore Girls fan left and ...
...that someone can tell me what happened last night. I wasn't home and my VCR is so hard to program, I didn't have time.
I so agree - left at 18, therapy from 8-28...sm
And have been in fine shape ever since. I became my own hero the day I walked out the door for good at 18, never looking back...never went back, not even for dinner, though kept in touch all the time with my father via his work/job, phone or going directly there, my father always trying to be the peacemaker. I tried for several years and several different time but once one is so poisonous - you have a choice...and I always chose not to be involved with poisonous types of people.
Therapy IS the ticket FOR SURE and there's all kinds of therapies out there today for all kinds of personalities. Thank goodness for that - I was into the new-wave therapies back in the late 1960s-70s....
Bless everyone going through all of this either prior or now.....Bless ALL.
I think it is too young to be left alone all day during the summer with a ...sm
5-year-old. There will also be 2 girls, ages 13 and 8, left alone all day as well. They are neighbors so it should be interesting. I am the only mother home during the day but I'm not getting involved. I'm taking care of mine. I have to be able to work without constant drama during the day. I may let my daughter go somewhere part-time just to have something to do and not be so bored. This is her first summer home (I worked in an office past 2 summers) and I want her to be able to enjoy it. Things will get better. Time will take care of a lot of it....I hope.
wildlife should be left wild
I agree about the psycho woman, but this is about feeding wildlife. As stated above, wild should the left wild. It's become a romantic idea to feed the ducks at the lake. Because animals cannot digest all the synthetic crap we put into our foods, their digestive systems become blocked and they die. Human education is a very long haul.
Not until 9/6 near Philadelphia. College kid left, tho.
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whoopi is in the middle - not left, not right...
Like cat suggested if you have left over carpet
somewhere that is a possibility. We once cut a piece out of a closet so you never knew it was missing. BTW, Jennie Garth went home. Used to be a big 90210 fan so that was disappointing.
You ask about 1 thing and others go off in left field
I have known this man for 33 years now- he was my friend before my husband. The person who talked about still waters running deep is right on with the kind of man my husband is. I know where he was born, where he has lived, his family and most of all I know his heart and what a heart! He is the most perfect man I think I have ever met- including my father and brother- kind, considerate, thoughful, prayful, hard-working. He brings me things home because "he was just thinking about me." I can reach him even at work 24/7. He does not drink, does not smoke, is respectful, loving, married late in life, no other wives, no other children. He is a thinker, a doer and the kind of man anyone would love to have. Most who know me tell me I am extremely lucky, even my 86-year-old aunt said she wished she had met him first- I would have had a run for my money! Here an older southern white woman saying he is right up at the top of her list for people she likes! She is an aunt I always went to for advice- looks like she is still right in her thoughts. To make an issue about my not knowing where he went to school or how much school is such a minute thing for me- I have riches untold just for him being in my life and I give thanks quite a bit to above.
Does anyone else have a dog that wants to be destructive when left alone at home?
I have a 70 pound pit bull who is the biggest baby you will ever meet. And good doesn't tear anything up UNTIL I leave him home. Then he gets the shoes, his food bowl, water bowl, now he is tearing up DVD cases. I have a fenced in backyard but he has been able to jump the fence if he wants. So I don't trust leaving him out there when I am gone. I put him in the extra bedroom for a while and he tore the door up and got out. He is like the Turner and Hooch dog in the movie. Not only does he act like him he looks like him. He is just an angel as long as you dont leave him. If I bought one of those big cages like they have at the vet I guess he couldn't get out of that. Gotta do something. Any ideas?
those people that set that tone left...
you can find them on the other board if you are bored. They're probably kicking over there.
Left arm "lump"...?overuse?
I have a long (2-3 inches) somewhat flattened "lump" on my left arm about an inch above my wrist. I first noticed it a couple of years ago and went to a surgeon, who did an MRI that only showed a very small ganglion on the wrist. He clearly did not think anything was there at all and did not want to be bothered with me...the whole experience was very frustrating. At least 3 other doctors have looked at it, can "see" it, and say it is not consistent with a ganglion. They suggest I see another surgeon. I may do this as it is starting to hurt occasionally, must be sitting on a nerve.
What is weird is that I seem to have an identical problem just starting on my right arm, mirror image, but still very small. I am wondering if this might be muscle or tendon inflammation from all of the typing. Has anyone else had anything similar to this? I looked on the web, didn't find anything. Thanks. 
I'm leaving what little I have left in my 401K for now - sm
(what's left wouldn't do me any good, anyway), with the hope that someday it will gain back some of what it lost. THEN, even though I probably still won't have as much as was in it before, I'll most likely take it ALL out of the stock market forever, and invest in something concrete, such as land (which even if it can't be sold for a profit, can be lived-on). The stock market has become so volatile and flaky that it no longer makes any more sense to put your hard-earned retirement money into that than it does to blow it all on Lottery tickets or slot machines.
That is truly an example of crazy left-wing
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This is what happened, found out why he left
Kai Penn the one one that plays Lawrence Kutner , one of House's team committed suicide on the show. They found him in his apartment when he did not show up for work. I never new he was planning on leaving the show.
He actually wanted to leave the show because he had campaigned for Obama and now he is going to Washington to be on one of Obama's comittees. I think Public Relations. He has a few degrees and said he always loved Politics. He is taking a big pay cut , but could not pass up the opportunity
I'd say she has a couple of years left.
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oops, meant commercialism......left off *of*...lol
You have very good taste! My fav too, but left a $65 bottle in a
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Just one question...any difference in temperature between the right and left leg?
Not trying to scare you or anything, but my clot did not hurt at first.
Do you have Gab board to your left? click on that and then look right above the posts. nm
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Born and raised there in Wahiawa, HI. Left after sm
my mom remarried. I was soo homesick that I went back. But then I missed my mom too much and then came back to her here. It's been about 13 years since I've been back. I've since married and my "dream" is to take my husband and 3 children "home." It would cost around 8,000 to go for a 1 week vacation with 5 airline tickets, etc. We've looked into it many times.
The funny thing is this. I always have dreams that we are there. All of a sudden I'm at the Honolulu Airport picking up leis. Or I'm on a beach in HI and all my kids are with me. One dream I had was so vivid that I actually asked my husband if we were really there. He said, "Of course we are." And it was just like I remembered it. On the beach. I began crying because I was SOO excited. And then I woke up. Isn't that tragic? haha
I'm part Hawaiian from my paternal grandfather
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