I have 3 children, but I agree with your post 100%
Posted By: anon on 2007-03-27
In Reply to: BAD idea! Terribly BAD idea! - What's the world coming to
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What an awesome post! I agree, agree, agree completely with you.
 You are right on the money in my book! 
I agree. My children were both bottlefed.
My nieces were both breastfed. They are very clingy to their parents, shy, and do not do very well in school. They also were sick a lot when they were babies. They still get sick a lot now and they are both in school. I thought it was funny how the first one got fed real food grinded up and the second one got fed baby food from the jar. Boy did my SIL get lazy!!!!! Too much work grinding that food up and freezing. I fed my kids from a bottle and I fed them baby food until the started growing teeth. They got soft regular food from about 8 months on both of them. My nieces only like to eat bread and candy!!!! GO FIGURE, they were breastfed!!!! JMO.
I also agree her children's safety comes first n/m
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Agree. I think some homeschooled children
are the brightest. The author of Eragon....he wrote that at age 14 after graduating. He was homeschooled. It absolutely amazed me to think that I child could write that!
I agree with letting him go...if there are no children involved (sm)
and you are still young, get out now while you can. Don't wait like I did. I was married to someone very similar for 15 years and finally separated, but now I am older and I have two children who rely on me. I would much rather have left him early on, found someone new, and have children with a stable home.
I agree with post below --sm
but also, if I were in your shoes, and I have been in the past, I would definitely be looking for another place to live. I know that sometimes that is not possible, but you have to think of your own safety and your children's safety over a house to live in. Sometimes you just have to move as far away from the *problem* as possible. If he can't see you, he can't hurt you. Don't rely on police. Protect yourself first. good luck to you!
I agree with your post...
I would not recommend a tubal to anyone...talk to your SO about a vas, SO much easier on the guy (isn't everything???)...GOOD LUCK THOUGH!
Agree with the above post
I would try to keep my trap shut, the more you say the more she wants to be with him. I learned that lesson years ago - my child grown has caught on and said - you don’t really like them, do you? I said why do you say that- I never said a word and they told me - that is just it- you didn’t say anything- if you had liked you would have said so.
I agree w/you and your post
mayo is made with eggs in it....and while the other post might *think* it's a myth - (m deceased mother got NUTS about mayo being uncovered in the jar even while we were using it - and we didn't put the lid on it immediately) - it's far from a myth. I was married to a French chef DE cuisine and I too was a chef for 5 years back in the 70s....and one is taught this.
Once can merely call Johnson & Wales Culinary School and/or any institute of culinary art anywhere in the USA (or in France) and ask this very question......IF one does not believe......
I have to agree with this post.
Not to flame you in anyway, but my son uses his money (I talked about this in an earlier post) uses his money for time with friends. My parents as well and my hubby and I paid for his used car. We pay his insurance and from time to time give him gas money because he does run errands for us, including taking his sister to after school activities. He is extremely active in after school activities, is involved in his youth group, and is a straight A student. Defintely during the school year there is no time for a part time job. Also someone mentioned a paper route. My brother and his SO other used to deliver papers as well as full-time jobs. Their day started at 4:15 every morning 7 days a week and they had at least 2 hours of delivering papers. I realize it is different everywhere, but if you took a day off you had to pay someone else 50.00 to take your route. If there was a complaint from anyone no matter what the complaint was, you were docked 1.50. The weekly paper doesn't even cost that much. I would never recommend a paper route, but if you are ever looking to hire someone and they have had a consistent paper route for over a year, that is the person you want to hire.
Agree with most of your post, but...
What's behind all of this mess, and what people don't want to consider is this: CAPITALISM by its very definition breeds corruption. Not only that is makes our economy DEPENDENT on people consuming/buying more than they can pay for.
PEOPLE! When wages are stagnant and everything goes UP, the economy implodes!
Anyway we are in a real mess and EVERYONE is to blame if we want to play that game, including the government - they RAPED the treasury to pay for yet another fake war.
the solution lies in what WE THE PEOPLE DEMAND: trust the crooks who did this to fix the problem? Then we deserve what happens next.
PEACEFUL PROTEST IS PATRIOTIC.
Completely Agree with Your Post - NM
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Applauds TM's post!!!! I so agree!...nm
I agree with latest post
It would be ideal if you could handle it with your SIL, but not always possible. I would begin talking to your child instead and explain that just because someone says they will do something doesn't always mean they will and there could be lots of reasons. He may as well learn it now, or he will defitely learn it later and then it may be about something much more significant and even more hurtful. I hope things get better with her. Oh! Maybe (if she has a child) you could "forget" the present and say you will bring it by later and then really DO it. That may make a point w/o having to be confrontational and jeopardizing your relationship. Just a thought. Good luck!
nice post. I agree....
I dreaded my first from warnings of others, and went to my local hospital and I was like..."That's it?" LOL!!! i was even told to take a pain killer pre- since it would be so bad. Heavens. Wish i would have known how NOT bad it was! Then, I had implants and was told the same,and that was just as easy. Dont put it off. My friend has double mastectomy for BC on Tuesday AM...she is 37!!!!
re: above post, I agree with Jan not "Lady"
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great post and I agree with you...nm
I so often agree with you! Thank you for your post! That was awesome! nm
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I agree with your post - see message
I have 3 jobs and keep putting my resume in for jobs doing whatever it takes to get hired on somewhere that will give me benefits.
You are so right that in our industry you can't depend on just one. I have seen companies fail and if you are dependent on one you are going to go down with them - and they never tell the employee ahead of time. Also with the economy the way it is there is just nothing that is guaranteed anymore.
I have a husband but he doesn't work (can't finding anything, and think he's going through a midlife crisis), so that leaves just me. I'm the one who has to do it all and I do and I don't complain about it. When he sees me typing all the time he says he feels bad, but I told him I do what I gotta do because we have bills to pay and need to eat and have a roof over our head. I was brought up to believe you do what you have to do and you don't complain about it. If you are unhappy then you change the situation. We all make the lives we live. For us this certainly is not the perfect situation but I'm doing my best to change and improve it.
I too am in my 50s and I've been taking home study courses (along with working 3 jobs), also to transition to something different. One never knows what path the MT will be. I hear more and more about jobs going overseas, or the current administration doing whatever they are going to do to health care and that could change a lot. I just think it is wise to have another skill.
To the OP - if you are reading this all I would suggest is that if you can't stay with relatives try looking for a studio or something very cheap. It may not be your ideal place, but do whatever you can to find yourself another job. Search, search, search the local newspapers, employment boards here, there's a ton of websites for jobs. If you have to work every day and more than one job do it. Take whatever you can get and then work on getting something better. I wish you all the luck.
DITTO - Great post!! I agree.......nm
Amensister - GREAT post and I agree!!!!!
Government get out of our uteri !!!!!! (one of my rooms in my home is a tribute to the Native American by the way!!! *S*)
I agree totally this this post, though I have never been married,
and you should not have to disrupt their lives anymore than necessary by finding a new place to live, etc. Though from the sound of it, you dont like where you live and he does, but I would stay put like this poster suggests.
Completely agree with your post. Don't bring sm
ANYTHING to school or on bus. It will get stolen and how could you even prove the game belonged to your son?
Agree with chalk it up to experience.
As far as calling parents: You will be the one cursed out. They will never believe their little darling could pilfer anything.
I agree with the post above, some lino is wonderful sm
and be clear, there real live linoleum and then there is vinyl flooring. REAL lino looks EXACTLY like anything they want to make it look like. Vinyl flooring won't look like anything other than what it is. I have kids and pets, so I have VINYL throughout the house with washable area rugs. I'd love hard wood or real lino, but sadly both are equally pricey and God knows, we don't make money in this business anymore.
what you say in your post makes sense,. I agree...
Don't doctors always emphasize HOW IMPORTANT the patient's attirude toward a treatment is?
The patient HAS TO BELIEVE in the success of the treatment, otherwise it will not work.
If the patient rejects a kind of treatment, IT IS NOT GOING TO WORK FOR HIM.
THE PATEIENT MUST HAVE A positive attitude and embrace the treatment.
I totally agree. Not to minimize your post, but there are far worse
To keep at it would be overkill.
Agree with the catnip on scratching post - works for me. nm
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
I should mention that I am 42, have 2 children and done with having children. nm
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You must a) not have children or b) your children are young
I don’t see them as being spoiled- I see lots of kids in the age group of one (30+) who are totally in the me scene, not just the 1 I have- she married and her husband same - a me type person. The other not spoiled but just got nasty when he did not get the money left to me and he thought he should. Just to think, this was my chosen 1 if I had to choose. Oh well, live and let live is the way I see things now.
she said *he definitely does not want more children*
but she said that HE definitely does not want anymore children...that's what the OP said so I responded based on that *fact*.... 
I am so sorry!! I have 4 children myself
30, 28, 24 and 17 - and can honestly say that we have gone through periods like this before - it is usally something really silly that gets all blown up - a misunderstanding, etc. Enjoy your birthday to its fullest - send a gift/card to your granddaughter as you normally would and go about your business with no bitterness - it will all work out - they will be back to you soon - really! :)
Yes, and then only if there are no children.
Sorry, but tobacco is a dastardly substance that people need protection from IMO.
Does she have children. If so, what are
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I have 2 children of my own,
starting with K. This is my sil who is having the baby and she has 3 children already and has run out of K names. So, I thought I would give her a hand. Thanks for your suggestions!! I am passing them on.
All children are different
it seems to me you keep comparing your 19-year-old to your 21-year-old. Since they are two separate people, they should be treated as such. Times are a changing. I'm sure it does worry you, but if she's off to college, she is probably staying out late there too.
both my children do just that and they are
both well-rounded, well-behaved, straight A students. Children have to live in this world and we as parents have to love and teach them. I know I am not the exception.
Whether having children or not is, without SM
question,your own choice, but you come across as very cynical. Perhaps you are watching too much TV or listening to talk radio. Things are not that bad. Oh sure, there is too much media attention given to Britney Spears, but most young girls, with the proper guidance, don't want to be her. There is a challange to motherhood, but most of us meet it very well.
Children & TV
How many hours a day/week do you let your children watch TV? Do they have TV's in their room? If so how do you monitor (or do you monitor) what they watch?
Have you ever banned certain shows from your house? What do you think about all those "sassy" shows on Nickelodean and Cartoon Network, like "Zach and Cody," or "Drake and Josh" or "Hannah Montana?"
I'm thinking of changing the TV rules and want to know what you all do with your kids.
Is this only to children that you know and
the parents know who the treat is from. We used to give out special home-made treats but always with a note saying who it was from. Now our neighborhood has grown so much we have a lot of children that don't live in the area. I don't want to give out something to someone and then their parents not let them eat it.
23 and 25 and like your children
my of my kids friends have older parents. All the kids like to hang out at our house because we "seem so much cooler" than their parents. Believe me, nothing goes on in this house that shouldn't. We just always have lots of junk food in the freezer, don't mind the music up loud, and love to just sit and chat with the kids. Last night one of my son's friends was picking him up to go to youth and she was early so we talked while he got ready. When it was time to go she said she didn't want to leave. It was really sweet.
Do you have children? LOL! sm
Meant that becasue I have a friend that says she has "brain damage cuz she has kids". I have a book that is titled "If questions for the soul". Not all questions are religious but most are. I had another one that was the same but not religious ? and loaned it to a friend. We often have these books in the car on family road trips. Really gets the family talking.
My children, now 26 and 25, are right there with yours. My
son works in retail (grocery store) and buys his jeans to wear to work at the thrift store. None of us mind wearing thrift store clothes. We tend to shop clearance racks and sales. They are not particular about the brand of clothing they wear (I never was either) so long as they fit and are comfortable. I'm really glad mine don't feel the need to compete with everybody else and spend everything they make trying to keep up with others.
Since I do not know you or your children, sm
I can not tell you the effects it will have on them--but, do not think for a minute they do not know about and cannot feel the stress and fear you are dealing with.
For me, it was best for me and my children to have a peaceful, happy home than to live one more day like we had been. This is a personal choice and for us, I made the right one. Good luck to you.
you know your children and how
they are prone to react (ie, 'you turned out okay'). I never lied to my kids, but only shared my experiences when I thought it would add to their education about a subject, and of course was age appropriate. For example, about drugs, they know what i think about pot/weed, but they don't know anything else i may have tried. Sometimes personal experience gives validity to the discussion, but i sure wouldn't make it a confessional.
You ask if she has children, will tell you what she has
She has a man who is likely bisexual but then sounds like a closeted gay to me, marrying for his own reasons, a person who is refusing her sexually, probably getting his kicks elsewhere (as in the gay sex line and possibly meeting other guys and having affairs on her.) I would not care if I had 20 kids, there is not that much "love" in the world for me to stay and hope to have a relationship? Not this woman. I do not want to risk my life. I heard the saying for years- where there's smoke, there's fire- so much smoke around this guy he could set his own bonfire.
I don't have children - but
Let me start by saying I do not have children (but do have neices and nephews). Second...my language itself is well lets just say I shocked my mom quite a few times. Bad language just happens to be part of our everyday conversation (IN THE HOUSE)- mostly as we scream at the TV watching the news about politics. :-) We don't talk like that outside and certainly not around children. I think its disgusting. Our neighbors across the street talk to their children exactly like what you wrote above. Except their words were "get your f'n a** in the house" and "you give me that sh*t again and I'll beat your a**" So they aren't swearing as if they were talking about other people, they are swearing at their kids. They are just a couple of pigs! Just sounds very very low class. My husband and I said if you talk to your children like that how are they going to be respectful as they grow (mind you we have no experience whatsoever raising kids, but we would never talk like that to our kids if we had any).
Yes I have children
Apparently you did not read my whole post.
Even little children need to feel they have some control over their lives ... like letting them pick between two different outfits for school, rather than telling them what they are wearing.
A safe and fair compromise is not a bad thing. The daughter will have to choose if she wants to cooperate or not. If she will not, there there is only so much you can do and she will have to experience the consequences.
Just because she has started handling her desire for independence in a not-so-great way does not mean she cannot do things differently after receiving more information and some thought. You have to allow teens the room to make smarter decisions along the way ... people DO learn and grow. That's the plan anyway. :)
I think I have to ban my mom from seeing my children (sm)
She lives 500 miles from us and sees them about twice a year usually, but every single time, she says inappropriate things around them. I end up asking her to please not tell them things like that and she gets angry at me and barely says anything for the rest of her visit. Yet the next time she sees them, it is the same thing all over again. It is as if she doesn't have a filter that tells her what to say and what not to say, and she talks incessantly. She talks about people who made her mad 30 years ago and what they did and she says it in a mean, angry voice and goes on and on. She talks about sexual things in front of them. She talks about ghosts and demons and how she has seen them and how the world is about to end, and on and on. Scaring them and also telling them things they shouldn't know. She started talking yesterday about my teenage nephew being propositioned by one of his friends who had decided he was gay....saying the boy asked him to "take his clothes off and do something". My 8 year old daughter started crying and told my mom it made her "feel weird" to hear that kind of stuff and to please not tell her anything else like that. My daughter knows what gay is but she doesn't understand why someone would want someone else to take their clothes off and she doesn't need to right now! Anyway, my mom went home last night but the kids are still asking once again about demons and ghosts and everything else. I love my mother but I am thinking from now on, I will go visit her by myself and not have her come here at all, and not let her see my kids until they are much older. Is this bad?
Boy men are such children - sm
my DH is a j*e*r*k like that too sometimes. He refuses to stay at my dad's house because he re-married so quickly after my mom died. (he wants to stay in hotel--which is very expensive where they live--....though we have not done it yet because as yet he has refused to go, so I go w/o him and the kids and I have lots of fun--he did go once 2 years ago though he made us stay at a friends apartment, very silly). There is more to it than that but that is a big part of it, and he thinks my stepmom's family thinks he is a loser. He is hung up on what people think about him and imagines slights, looks, etc. all the time, very hard to live with. But he know I will leave him in the dust and do what I want as he is acting like a 2-year-old. I would just go and not worry about him acting like a baby. If you stay home with him you will be mad, resent him for making you miss out spending time with your mom (which you will regret if something happened to her any time soon), and probably have a boring day at home while he watched football all day and you cook or twiddle your thumbs. He will probably never be the bigger person and bite his tongue and go, though he should. Men really are babies though at times.
Yea me and him have no children but
he does have a child of his own from a previous relationship. But his son does not like me and has nothing to do with me so I don't consider him of my child. He doesn't speak to me. I won't even get started on those issues.
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