I had same question. Daughter of good friend SM
Posted By: Sand Inmyeya on 2007-04-18
In Reply to: I have the same questions except it's a second marriage? SM - QALady
had large wedding, married for less than two years, now she is getting married again. She was very immature when she got married the first time. Her parents never let her date and so she married the first guy she dated!
I suppose the nice thing is respect the first marriage "didn't count" and, hopefully, this one will.
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My friend's daughter has hair like that (sm)
She only combs it when it is wet, right after washing and conditioning it and she combs it with a very wide-toothed comb. They keep it in a pony tail at night and just kind of dampen it and pick it out in the morning. There is no way she can brush or comb it when it is dry, but it is just beautiful!
If the daughter's friend spends the night she SM
should abide by certain rules. Being found under a blanket with a house guest is not acting appropriately. I am by no means excusing the boy she is interested in. This situation is not good by any stretch of the imagination.
I need advice. Daughter received a frantic call from a friend, sm
Her friend is at a local sleepaway camp at a local university this week. My daughter is 18, her friend is 17. Anyway, the friend called my daughter telling her she had unprotected sex over the weekend (once) with her 17-year-old boyfriend (they claim it was the first time for each). Anyway, the friend wanted my daughter to pick her up so that she could get a morning after pill. I looked it up on line and anyone under 17 needs a prescription. My daughter had come to me, asking me not to tell anyone. I told her that she should have her friend call her mom. She said her friend thought her mom would freak out if she found out. We found a local clinic, but it is only open certain days of the week, and was closed yesterday, so she's going to try again tomorrow. I've tried to get my daughter to convince her friend to call her mother, that she may freak in the beginning, but parents usually get over it and would want to know.
My dilemma is that my daughter told me this in confidence, and I want her to continue to be able to come to me with anything, yet I wonder if I should call the girl's mother and tell her that her daughter needs help. Or, just wait until she goes to the clinic and pray that she isn't pregnant.
Does anyone have some advice?
I have a good friend who had it....
She did great. She said the key is to do EXACTLY as the doctor says - no cheating. She has lost 150 pounds, and looks and feels wonderful.
Cat UR such a Good Friend! But why
have I not heard from U. Did you get my new email. I have spent many frustrating moments here trying to report and change it..
A very good friend once said...
*If you can raise a puppy, then raising a child is easy...*
I think you are on the right track. It's hard to remember that puppies need patience just like young children do. I have a Corgi boy that did not train as fast as I thought he should, but he did get there after about 6-7 months. For me, since it was my first time, I had no idea how long it would take. It would probably go faster a 2nd time around. From some reading I did, it sounded like it should be in a matter of days, and some dogs just do not fit that mold.
It reminds me of all those who told me their baby slept through the night at 6 weeks of age. That did not happen for me until my 3rd child was born. Each child and puppy are different.
1 best friend, 3 or 4 really good ones, and
lots of casual ones. My best friend lives clear across the country. :(
My other good friends are within 30-70 miles, I see them a couple times month, the other more casual ones, I see every week at the roller rink.
I have a good friend who used to be a stripper....sm
She was still a good person. You would never know she was a stripper just by meeting her. She didn't look the type. But she was. She said she made good money. She quit because she got tired of perverted men. She said they were degrading to you sometimes.
If your friend is good at measuring... sm
and cutting, certainly it can be done. I re-did the floor with vinyl and it came out fine. Learn from my mistake--make sure ALL lumps and bumps, no matter how small they seem, are smoothed out before the adhesive cures. I had the counters done by a pro, but the guys were great and explained everything to me. It actually *seemed* pretty easy, but I bought Corian solid surface, so it had to be cut in the factory and delivered. Can the cabinets just be updated with new doors? Go to a big hardware store (Lowe's, Home Depot) and check out their sample rooms. This helped me determine what type of material to use, style of sink surround, colors, etc. It took me over a month to decide what to get. Have fun! It's hard work, but I love DIY stuff.
If you are interested, I had to Google my countertop material and came up with this: http://homerenovations.about.com/od/kitchens/a/artcounters.htm
A good friend of mine had a lap band
However there are a lot of hoops to jump through testing wise before you can have those procedures done including a psychiatrist. Also if you do not follow the directions you can become sick, which means you cannot over eat and must exercise. She is doing fine with it, but did it mainly because her back bothered her so much. Come to find out her back is still an issue and she needs surgery to correct that. So, if it is a last resort, I'd say it is worth a try, but I would not do it with all of the complications and risk of infections unless it is a serious must.
My good friend has family over there -checked BBC, (sm)
and everywhere, couldn't find anything. Many apologies. At least I got to tell my friend so she could call her family.
Good friend had this, had MANY complications, infections, PEG tube, ICU, etc. Put
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A very good friend of mine had ablation and no regrets.
She has no more periods. This is just a little over a year, and she was having very serious problems, had to have transfusion twice due to the heavy bleeds prior. She was willing to try this before hysterectomy, and it worked for her.
Married good friend of my deceased husband
I knew him for over 30 years and yet didn't know him. He is very quiet, reserved, shy and when husband died called after 12 days to invite me to the zoo- I had no idea he had ever seen me to tell the truth. Bottom line months later he told me had loved me since the first day he saw me and "just waited."
Looking for good volunteer project for 12 y/o daughter
Does anyone have any ideas for a volunteer project for a 12 y/o girl? or maybe even a group of girls. Most places in our community require you to be 14 for "official" volunteering, but maybe we could just do something on our own. It doesn't have to be Thanksgiving/Christmas related, but that would be okay too.
Thanks for the advice.
a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
Daughter's phone is daughter's responsibility. Valuable lesson learned.
It should be between the daughter and the friend if the friend is going to pay any of the fees. They are teenagers, not preschoolers.
I agree - a mother is a mother and a daughter is a daughter for life sm
despite the problems they had, which i truly believe stem for anna's drug problems. obviously her mom wasn't too bad or she would not have raised daniel for a while. i think the mother wants her buried in Texas so the grave will be close enough that she can go visit it without having to come up with expenses of going to the bahamas to get there. although i contradict that too in poor anna needs to be buried with her son.
Anyone have any good holiday dessert recipes? Looking for something good to take to a party. nm
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What a good role model you are for good holiday spirit...wow nm
Awesome! Good service is good news.
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glad to see you look at it this way! Really good idea! Have a good season! nm
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Good Fences make good neighbors
You can get premade cedar fencing that comes in sections. You dig a post hole at the appropriate distance and fill with a bag of quick-crete. Alternatively, you could buy a used fence from a place that hauls away.
You could also get an electric fence, just hook to a battery and run the cord (for retraining purposes) it would not hurt your dogs.
I feel your pain. Roll up your sleeves and pray for some digging weather!
No, he is not..I have a friend...
coming to feed the cats (live in the country, have 8 outside cats!) and 3 inside cats. I feel bad making her come and mix food for him...we live 25 miles from town. A vet told me that he will either eat or just drink water and would be okay...but I will worry about him! I have been cooking extra chicken, turkey, etc. for him..my husband says he is spoiled!
I had a friend who had those and
apparently they just observe them. Maybe you should get a second opinion if you are having pain. Hope you feel better. 
too bad- my best friend
has 'the gift.' That is about the only way I know to put it. She cleans my house for me and she can do in an hour and a half what it would take me all day if not two days to do. And it just looks so clean and bright and shiny when she is done!! LOL I mean, there is clean and then there is CLEAN!! And when she folds my laundry I don't even need to iron it later! We have the best deal worked out- she has one of my vehicles on a sort of 'permanent loan' and I pay the insurance on it and I also try to pay her a little extra here and there, and she comes over and helps me keep my house clean and helps me stay on top of my bills. I have a pretty bad case of ADD.
If you were in this area I would maybe lend her to you for a while, LOL. I know she would like to find just one or two 'regulars' that she could clean for to make a little extra money on the side.
Friend
If she is really a good friend, stick with her. REAL friends love you warts and all. If her behavior is causing you true anguish and she is an acquaintance... go your separate ways. Money comes and goes -- true friends don't.
Lilly
My friend's SON. not MOM!
Sorry for the typo. I am a BAT brain today!
Friend? Some friend! sm
Yes you should be mad, but only at yourself. Giving $$ once I can see. Maybe twice. You have been used by this 'friend'. Doesn't matter how nice you think she is, you have found out otherwise. You are out $$ which you generously gave in thinking it was being used to help her out, yet she has taken advantage of you and therefore, that speaks reams about her character, or lack thereof. I would be disappointed in her and mad at myself for falling for her sob story. I'd tell her exactly how I felt from the heart and would end the friendship since it was based on lies. She has the characteristics of a con woman. Time to cut the losses and move on...and learn!
friend
If it is something that is opening her up to being hurt in anyway most defintely i would tell them. It is their choice then to decide what to do. You know how some parents really shouldn't be parents and others are great parents!
friend?
I actually had to call a parent before. My daughter had asked ex-friend to stop writing things about her in her online diary which she did for a while. When it happened again, with a statement to the effect of you asked me to stop writing about you, too bad!, I called the mother and had a little chat. Never happened again. In this case, she actually used my daughter's name so I brought up the fact that it was libel. Print out the bulletin to show parents if you have to.
Friend
I would want to know if it were my daughter. It might get complicated when you first tell them and could cause problems but in the long run you may very well be saving her life. Please don't hesitate to tell the parents.
been where you are, my friend -
I am so sorry. I know this is hard, but here is an idea to try. Have your vet get you some Buprenex to administer at home. It is a very small amount of liquid you give via syringe inserted between her cheek and her teeth. You shoot it into the mouth. Takes less than a second and is painless. It is absorbed nearly instantly. It also causes far fewer side effects than most pain killers. This has worked like a charm when my cats had to have teeth pulled, for one that had all its teeth pulled due to severe stomatitis, and one who had oral cancer in his jaw. Try baby food (the meat types) and AD canned mixed with Pedialite to get food in her and keep her hydrated. You will know when it *is time* to let her go, but please give these things a try and let us know how it goes! My best to you.
Thank you - about my friend (sm)
She was a Christian and throughout her illness she asked for prayers for God's will to be done, not for her healing (although many of us still prayed for her healing). Many of the people posting on here blowing the horn about what great Christians are, are not acting the way true Christians should. I will admit to everyone that I am confused. I can't answer the questions about the suffering that goes on. I am not going to say that those people suffering just didn't have enough faith. The fact is you are not going to get what you want just because you pray for it. You might and you might not. I still believe, but many things in the world still don't make sense to me. I think somewhere along the way, we have gotten the message confused. I posted a link above about some little children who I think have it right.
A friend of a friend has had it done - sm
She did it about a year ago and has lost over 100 pounds but recently starting having severe problems. They ended up having to take them out as she was unable to eat at all basically; nauseous, constant vomiting, etc. She feels much better now though. Not sure of the details but that is the basic gist of it for her.
I'd be mad...no one else is her friend, so why should you be? (sm)
No reason for you to put up with her any more than anyone else does. She's just a snob - maybe if everyone ignores her for a while she will get the hint!
Friend?
Ever hear of a toxic relationship? Sometimes they are terribly hard to break, but you will be much better off if you cool it with her for a while, just see her when you absolutely have to.
I have a friend that did this went from Bob to Rob - sm
I just had a hard time switching to the new name as I had known him for years as "Bob". To him it was more an acknowledgement of his coming out as gay I think. I could care less that he was gay (and had known for a long time before he "came out") but he got mad that I would not call him Rob and so cut off all contact (we are on opposite coasts now, and then, so it is not a big deal either way). Upsetting to lose a friend over something so stoopid, we were both wrong I'd say, I should have tried harder and he should have cut me some slack as I had been a good friend for years. ---This guy's family you mention probably has the same problem, they know him as "Michael"; he should cut them some slack as that is what they are used to. My brother is named Mike, and we all call him Mike, my SIL is the only one who calls him Michael (he has never asked us to call him Michael though). I think he should just learn to live with it and use his new name with new friends and leave his family alone.
I have a friend like that too, SM
She does have a chronic medical condition, but is doing very well. She exercises with a personal trainer several days a week, takes long walks every day, and recently helped her stepdaughter remodel her home! However, she has a handicapped sticker (she brags about never having to walk very far in the winter) and not only that, is on SS disability. She hasn't worked in several years. Oh -- and if her DH or one of her teenagers runs errands, they take her van so they can get the close spots too. :(
And yeah, maybe I'm being judgemental too, but I agree with you 100%.
friend...
You know I guess some people are different but if someone pays $1000 for something I AM NOT asking to borrow it. I don't like borrowing other people's things. If I break it I feel it is my responsibility to replace it. So I just don't. Some people have no problem with it.
Friend
My good friend had a baby 8 days ago. Beautiful baby boy! Well her husband took off work 2 weeks to spend time with the baby. Her mother also lives with them and helps her too. Her mom also took off a week. Well I am friends with her mom also. We talk on the phone too. I thought I would not call and bother my friend until her husband went back to work. She won't talk on the phone if her husband is home. I know, don't ask. They don't want to take away from time with each other from what I understand. I personally do talk on the phone when my husband is home. Different strokes for different folks I guess. Anyway me and my friend always talked on the phone before the baby was born almost every day. Unless her husband was off work. Well since she has had the baby and her husband went back to work, she just has withdrawn herself. Doesn't want to talk to anyone. Made the comment to her mom that she doesn't want any company. Her mom called yesterday and I knew my friends husband was working so I told her mom tell her to call me later when she gets a chance. The baby sleeps alot so I figured she would. But she didn't. I guess I am just confused. I never went through that. I wanted to talk to friends. After a few days of recooperating I wanted friends to see my baby and all. But I don't understand her. I know every one is different and I just have to respect her wishes but I as well as another friend of hers is confused. I should also mention her baby was born with clubbed feet. She has really been upset about this and asked me in the hospital not to tell anyone. How can this be hidden when the baby will wear casts for a while? I am wondering does this sound like postpartum depression?
friend...
That is why I haven't went. I am respecting wishes. I did not say I was going to go by unannounced. I am honoring her wishes so therefore I am being a real friend. I considered sending a card though.
No, I only had a best friend
back when I was about 12 or 13. I open up to people and think I can trust them and just when I do they turn on me. I don't trust people anymore, been hurt to many times. I see this all the time where I hear ladies talking and hanging out shopping and having a nice time and wish I had that with a friend.
best friend
I have not had a best girlfriend since college. . My fiance is my best friend now. . I like the idea of having a best friend but I think I am not trusting enough. . My daughter has had a best friend since she was 13 - she is 23 now - and I really think they will continue their friendship - I hope so. . I think it is a good thing, just doesn't seem like it is going to happen for me.
I like your friend. . .
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Okay, I think you are my new best friend LOL
I can't believe she is going to die! I can, cause she's way too nice for a soap, but I really like her and want her and Vicki to be friends again. Oh, how that death will put Vicki into a tail spin. She's going to feel so horrible for how she treated her. This will definitely push Nikki and Victor back together again too I think. Wonder if Victoria will take over the art gallery?! Wow, lots to think about.
Yes, Heather was going through Ji Min's belongings and found a picture of him with Walter. Paul just saw it as she asked him for help on the Ji Min thing. (not sure, you may already know all of this). Anyway, Paul asked for the complete photo as it was cropped and I'm sure David will be in it. Then all of this will go down in a hurry with the Nikki thing. Wondering if I should watch today's or tape it and watch it WITH Monday's episode, cause I know it will be a cliff hanger today.
Thanks for the website, I will have to check it out.
Also, his FRIEND would help for $200
It sounds like he is not charging you, but he is going to need help and his FRIEND wants compensation. I mean, for someone that doesn't know you personally, to help for only $200, I wouldn't be complaining. Also, if your daughter knows you don't like him, most likely he knows you don't like him. He isn't going to jump at the snap of your fingers to help you if he knows you don't like him. I am sure he will set the furniture where you want it, but he isn't going to unpack all of your things and keep moving furniture around so in other words, you better know where it is going before he gets there. I have moved many times and I have had the same experiences. I don't expect someone to help me design my house for me. Just be appreciative that he said he would help because he could have just said he was too busy PERIOD.
If I were you, I would stop being a meddling mother-in-law and let your daughter have a good marriage with this man if she loves him, or you may be a contributing reason they divorce. Let your daughter be happy! I wouldn't say anything to your daughter if I were you.
I have an old friend--or ex-friend really...
I let something stupid, the details of which I really cannot even remember fully get in the way of our friendship and I miss her terribly. I realize now that it was stupid and that one little let down - or big let down, for that matter - is not bigger than all the times that she was there for me. I was selfish and stupid and not as understanding as I should have been of where her life was at that point in time. Sometimes, I think that taking the back burner is what we need to do to be good friends. I wish that I had been older and a little more understanding when this little (should have been little, anyway) fight happened. I might still have my friend.
This is where my best friend went sm
http://www.denture.com/
She has had them under a month and LOVES THEM. She has been talking properly since day 1.
Best friend
I still keep in contact with my best friend from high school, although not as much as I would like. Her son is my godson. We laugh about the fact that she just became a grandmother (has a 21 and 24 year old) and I have a 15 year old and a 5 year old.
Tell us about your best friend
My best friend is Dawn. We met in first grade - well, I was in 1st, she was in 2nd, and our mothers walked us to school.
We are very very different, but she is the closest thing I have to a sister. She is beautiful, and very "waspy" looking. She is also quite conservative, and we argue politics but as soon as we finish screaming at each other, we laugh. In fact, no one except Dawn and my brother make me laugh uncontrollably.
She has a rough life. She married someone older, who also has a heart condition, he had his first open heart surgery when he was 19. They have 2 kids, and live in a beautiful 5,000 sq. foot home in NJ. Dawn is the sole breadwinner, cause her DH is disabled. They have 2 young teenaged kids. Dawn is a realtor. Aside from being the sole earner, her husband cannot drive, so she has to be everything - her life is not easy.
We can talk to each other about anything, and are always there for each other.
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