I had one like that - sm

Posted By: Feel for ya on 2007-12-19
In Reply to: Do they ever grow out of this?? My once precious and sweet 3 year old son has sm - Mom

The terrible twos were NOTHING compared to three!

I was a single mom and really had no support system so I was completely on my own dealing with the temper tantrums and bad behavior.

One day, in the middle of one of his tantrums I had an epiphany! I threw myself to the floor right next to him and started flailing about, screaming, and crying, just like he was.

He stopped dead in his tracks and just stared. Completely shocked him.

When it was all done, I got up, didn't say one word to him, just looked at him, smiled, and went to fix lunch.

Apparently it worked because he never did it to those extremes again. If he started to fire up for a tantrum, I would start to fake sniffle, like I was going to start crying and that was it. He was done.

Not saying it would work for everyone but it fixed my problem and I felt surprisingly refreshed afterwards myself! Go figure!

Good luck. You have my sympathies.

By the way, my little monster baby is now 21 and an absolute charmer. It CAN happen.

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Do they ever grow out of this?? My once precious and sweet 3 year old son has sm - Mom
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- take this advice! - me
- he is feeling out of control and he wants control - raising my granddaughter
  - I think the problem is that I actually gave him "too much' control and now sm - Mom
    - I forgot to mention 2 other things - raising my granddaughter
- Could be an attention/jealously thing too - sm -
  - He just got over a bad bout with bronchitis so that is why he stayed home. Dad always takes sm - Mom
  - that is "why didn't dad take both kids"....tired already - nm -
- Kids want/need bounderies. Makes them feel safe - knowing what to expect, may need swat to set limit
- Be firm and consistent, consistent, consistent. - nm (Did I say be consistent?)
- Sounds like my kid about 10 yrs ago... - sickofit
- Well, he finally stopped when he became hungry enough. sm - Mom
- I have 4-yo who is the poster child for... - MTHubie
- my brother used to pull that crap. SM - happened to my brother
  - I love that idea! - Great!
- Hi, I am sorry to hear you are going through this! - I have been there and probably will be there again
  - I am going to flame your response - Puzzled.
    - Didn't say i don't spank, just said wasn't going to - talk about it here.
    - just so you know, many states have laws - raising my granddaughter
      - Things are different- - Puzzled
        it's not just the parents... - raising my granddaughter
        You say spanking does not build trust? - Puzzled
        spanking builds fear that you mistake as respect - raising my granddaughter
        I disagree - mt3Rs
      - I understand some of these laws but - trose
        the law defines it as - raising my granddaughter
        And someone is in your home monitoring all this? - Hmmm
        some of these states make home visits - raising my granddaughter
    - And I'm gonna applaud yours! - bravo...sm
      - I could be a real brat when I was little and - me
- Gonna catch flak for this, but what I would do - Mother also
  - oooooooo yeah. That worked for me and my sister! - sm - Feel for ya
    - That made me laugh... - funny...sm
      - My sister and I still laugh over it too - sm - Feel for ya
        I would get some really cool/cold water - Wise man
- I had one like that - sm - Feel for ya
  - I did the same thing. - Jeeperbelle

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