I had one at age 33 and can honestly tell you I am the poster child for it! sm
Posted By: Kokopoo on 2007-02-11
In Reply to: Hysterectomy. Thank you everyone for your thoughts and opinions. I have decided to go ahead with t - Just me
I did not go the route of hormone therapy, as I really did not want any more medications in my body, but took the more holistic viewpoint of vitamins and such. I have been cancer-free and worry-free for 7 years.
I truly think you have made the right decision and in the long run will be very content with it. My thoughts and prayers are with you, but as posters have told you below, it is so much safer to be proactive than to be sorry and worried all the time.
Hugs to you!!!
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I have 4-yo who is the poster child for...
...oppositional behaviors.
He has been headstrong since the day he was born. He started out crying for hours because he did not want to go to sleep at night.
He does have tendencies to throw fits for hours if he does not get his way. I would say that he was a lot worse at 3 years of age, but it has lessened "some" now that he is 4.
Raising a child like this takes a determination and being headstrong yourself. There are a few things that help me: 1. Do not argue. State your case and let it go. If he throws a fit try ignoring even if it takes an hour (and it will take an hour). 2. Time out: Every time he gets out of the chair, but him back in it. I did this for 1-1/2 hours the first time, but finally got him to sit for time out. The time it takes to do this should lessen each time. However, again it takes patience and determination on your part. You CANNOT give up. 3. Spankings. I found that this makes my child's behavior worse in most cases. I try to use it as a last resort. He does know that he will get one if his behavior becomes too inappropriate. 4. Love: Sometimes after my son has thrown a 30-40 minute fit, I just pick him up, rock him, love him, and talk to him about things he likes, etc. He is not a self soother and sometimes needs help calming himself down. I also tell him that I always love him even when he thinks I don't.
I have a lot more to say, but this is getting super long. If you want to e-mail, you can. Good luck. I do know what you are going through.
Melissa
I am "juvenile post" poster. "Looney" poster is some
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Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
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not poster you responded to but that poster has
everyone with different opinions is allowed to post here and poster said they were making a contribution in the name of pro-peace....give that poster a break please....
Honestly, not sure...
He was wrapped up for DH under the tree for Christmas, but not sure where he is right now.
Honestly...
I would pay the $300 and wait for another bill. If one didn't come after 30 days, I would contact the company. I have been through nightmares with companies when I tried to pay something which was different than what I was billed. I'm sure once they post your $300 payment, they will see the balance on your account and bill you for that.
Not exactly the same thing...but last year I moved into a brand new house. At the old house, we had been averaging our natural gas bill, but since this one is new, they have to get a year's worth of records before they can start averaging. When I transferred the account, the person I talked to was aware of that. However, apparently somebody down the line saw that I had been on averaging before and put the new house on averaging, too. The first bill was over $200 - which wouldn't have been so bad except we had it set up on direct debit. Of course I called, they said it would be straightened out, then the next month the bill was over $100 and they took that out of my account, too! It took me three months and phone calls all over the state to get this straightened out and for them to issue a refund check - since the actual amount of my bill over that three-month period was only about $90.
Having been through the wringer with that and with other bills, that is why I am very cautious when it comes to billing errors.
But that's me. 
You honestly believe that??
I'd be 100 bucks those kids would have acted in the same way regardless of how they were approached. They were ticked because they thought they had a right to be there and it takes a sense of maturity to be able to "get it" when you're that age and think you know everything.
Their behavior indicates that they don't have an ounce of maturity in them. How in the world is the OP in the wrong????
Sorry Hay, I honestly luv ya, but can't
laugh at that one. My son was at VA Tech on April 16 and unless you have been there, there is nothing funny about it.
I honestly don't know, but
curiously, there have been reports of migraines lessening after facelifts. go figure.
I honestly don't see why this is a big deal
This is information which is already on file with the government. Every American citizen should have copies of all of this information.
When you hear something like this, always go to snopes.com and check it out. See the link below.
but do you honestly regret...
Having them? That's harsh, IMHO...of course! I'm sorry you don't have a good adult relationship with your children...that's gotta be my worst fear (well, one of them anyway)...God bless
I honestly have no idea on that!
I have never cut my cats nails. They are indoor/outdoor cats and I kinda rely on them to keep the mice population in check around here, so I need their WMDs to be in perfect working order ;-)
It's worth a shot though, right? Might help...I can't honestly say.
Honestly, what I think is you need to move (sm)
I know it sounds drastic but this is your son's wellbeing and future you are talking about. You need to move away from your abusive ridiculous brother-in-law. Your son has no father figure, and his uncle is a big jerk who should be in jail if he slams his kids around. I don't care if you have to rent a crummy apartment somewhere, but I would get my kid the heck out of there and let him know I am 100% on his side and just trying to give him the best future I can because I love him.
Honestly don't even know what Steelers are.
I just had to "Google" it now. Only sports teams I'm mildly familiar with are Red Sox, Bruins, and Patriots. I don't follow sports at all though.
That's a hoax! ha No, honestly, they get along with a few
wrestling matches thrown in!
With all due respect, and I mean that honestly, (sm)
You insinuated that just because one may not communicate every gory and painful detail of his/her past to the spouse, love is missing from the marriage.
Relationships are complicated and I find no problem with someone whose past doesn't interfere with the relationship not communicating it. If the relationship thrives status quo, then that's between them.
Well, I honestly thought that all that was over for me...lol
I have a 25, 22 and 21 year old daughter's and a 3-year-old son. I forgot how expensive and tiring things were. Wow, today I went out with my 21 year old to purchase stuff for my son. It was really crazy. So, I bought water-guns, shades, baseball and bat, crayons and coloring book, jump rope and a water bottle as stuffers. Then I pitched in for dinner. I am really exhausted. Oh, I have 2-grand-daughter's that I purchased a few things for....so, this is the life (slams...still laughing at myself)
I honestly would not even go to her house (sm)
Why subject yourself and your children to her? If your husband wants to go over there, let him go alone. I would just avoid her. I would see her maybe on holidays and such since she raised you, but you really don't even owe her that. I grew up in a rough family...I see them twice a year. Right now I am upset at my mother for some mean things she said about my children last time I saw her. I have yet to mail her mother's day gift from this past May.
I honestly don't have the time....nm
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No, honestly I had never heard that before!
The same way someone recently mentioned Queen Latifah is gay - I had no idea! It doesn't matter to me, I just was shocked, that's all. My heart breaks for their loss of their son.
Honestly -- it's none of your business!
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Honestly, I think teachers should
refer to students, no matter how old they are, by their first name, always.
Just to avoid misundertandings, like this one!
I honestly do not understand the ins and
outs of how her things are set up. I do not know how property is handled, just how her finances are done.
I can honestly say that my brother has finally
gotten his act together, well for the most part. He is still a lousy father but in just the past 2 weeks he has been making an effort. I hadn't thought about not having to buy a casket. The last funeral I went to the lady was quite elderly and lived with just her dog. The dog had been quite ill for some time and it was almost like they were just hanging on for each other. After she died they had the dog put to sleep and his ashes were buried with her.
Honestly I think I am dealing with both issues with him (sm)
I think he has a girlfriend and a drinking problem
Honestly, it would hurt my feelings...
I've always had a key to my parents' house and if they asked for it back, it would hurt my feelings. It's kinda like saying you're not welcome here. Every time my parents move, they have extra keys made for me and my siblings, and it makes me feel like the door is always open. I live less than a mile away from them, but I make sure to always call before I come over. You might want to explain why you took the key from your son and make sure he didn't take it the wrong way and that he's still welcome to come back just to make sure he's okay with it.
Honestly I have mixed feelings on this.
On one hand...I feel it is your body, you can do what you wish. Who should say what you do with your body. Providing it is willing, agreeing, consenting adults, that should be their choice.
On the other hand...I think some, if not many, who get into prostitution, it is a bad life...they have low self esteem, no respect for themselves...and they are at their lowest and do not know what to do or where to turn. Many times they are so involved with drugs and alcohol, they can not think clearly.
But at the same time...the ones who are "low", are going to do what they can to make money....whether it is prostitution, selling drugs, stealing....illegal or not, they will do it if they are that desperate.
Heck, there are women and men out there selling thier bodies, making good money...or at least money...why not make it legal so you can tax them!
Honestly, the only part my grandmother
taught me was how to chain stitch. Yes, the blankets i'm making are all chain stitching but that makes them VERY warm and wonderful (and I think last longer). I do have someone at work who said they would teach me how to granny square but i'd like to finish up the current blankets before learning a new stitch.
Honestly I don't blame you for macing
the dog if it's owner isn't going to be responsible enough to keep the dog on his/her property. Have you contacted the owner of the dog and complained? My husband is a K9 officer and he gets these calls ALOT and it ain't all pitbull calls, it is just dogs in general roaming around in other people's yard and not on their own property. The mace won't kill a dog, but it sure does hurt really bad and makes the dog think twice about approaching you.
I can honestly say I love where I live
I can't imagine moving. I love my neighbors and the neighborhood. Everyone is friendly, and helpful. There is a lot of activity starting now that it's getting nicer out, and I can't wait for the bonfires and cookouts. The only time I thought about moving, although never would since it wasn't practical was when our best friends moved about 5 miles away. They wanted us to buy a house near theirs.
Not putting you down, but do you honestly believe Danny
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I honestly have meant to answer you about 6 times,
but I keep forgetting! Seriously! I have experienced the same thing of late - last year or so, and am in my late 40's. Its very frustrating at times, but I'm trying to joke about it - my kids are great and fill in the blanks for me. I think its natural, at least I hope. I have been thinking of getting that Nintendo DS brain booster thing on TV, but I keep forgetting...
Hmmmm, honestly, if my body looked like that.....
I'd probably post pictures of myself all over the internet too! LOL
I didn't mind either one. I can't honestly say one was worse
than the other.
Trust me..it was not easy.. and it honestly took 4 years..
I went back and forth, I kept trying to leave but was scared, had no where to go, no way to earn a living etc..I would just keep coming back. Then, I did decide to go to school. That pretty much ended it. I got through school leaving through threats and how I "ruined" our lives by going backwards i.e returning to school. He knew that if I had no education, then I was stuck with him for surviving, and I think he knew deep down, I was preparing myself to leave. The second I graduated and got a job, I moved "into town"..well, after stalking me and doing the "if I can't have you, then no one can" crap and being terrified he would kill me..I upped and moved away and filed for divorced. There was no turning back. I moved in with family and he had no idea where that was. Evidently, it calmed down and from that day forward, I did not take his crap. To this day, the man has never found anyone because who wants to live with that alcoholic loser and when he tried to control me after the divorce, I'd tell him to his face to shove off. That was sweet revenge. I had to believe in myself and believe I was worth it.. and I did.. Life is good..I remember him not allowing me to have a credit card, new car or buy anything..not even washclothes..well guess what..this country girl married a millionaire who gives me the world!!!!LOL
honestly, I would risk it and play dumb. sm
I can only say that because this is anonymous. I can't do that in my case because what I have will not go away. However, I think she was haphazardly diagnosed and I would not just accept the consequences of someone else's negligence. I would skip listing that doc and list my prior doc and if it ever came up I would say I didn't know I was diagnosed with it.
Honestly, if I were you, I would hire a real estate agent to help
xx
We would have loved to vacation in Florida. That was our first choice, but quite honestly
the airfare was outrageous. It was actually cheaper for us to fly from our home to Cancun. A lot of the hotels are all-inclusive in Mexico, which obviously makes it more affordable. It's too bad that these resort/vacation destinations in the US are not more affordable to go to and realize that could keep more people here if they did some price deals. I realize too that it's the time of year when they jack their prices up i.e. Spring Break to go to Florida but obviously Cancun is a huge Spring Break destination and we got a really good deal.
I don't believe in sugar coating the truth. I speak plainly and honestly. SM
If that offends some people, I'm sorry. The only mistake I made in my previous post was to make the assumption that the original poster was a Christian and in making that assumption, I posted the passage of scripture from Matthew. I don't know if the OP is a Christian or not. So my post may or may not have been relevant to her.
But going on the assumption that she is a fellow Christian, we (Christians) are taught in Paul's Epistles to admonish one another which is what I was doing. Her focus is on her neighbors. Their reaction is where she is deriving her happiness. If her focus was where it should be, she would never be disappointed.
ya got that right! Poster DOES know or else she
She is 54 after all.............not a baby, not a young adult/teen who really needs guidance.
She knows this is DEAD wrong but appears to be *seeking* something from all of us, as she said she was posting *in a safe place*............meaning here on the forum.
We know right from wrong from FIVE YEARS OLD on..........she knows what she is doing is most wrong/incorrect.
I just think she is craving attention, personally......... 
I will go along with the poster below who --sm
said she was *dressed*. Actually quite a personal question and no one else's business what I wear or when. I notice you didn't answer your own question, either.
If it is the same poster, she is only doing sm
400 lines in 8 hours. I guess anything is better than that. That isn't even minimum wage. If it is her, then she definitely needs a new career. 400 lines in 8 hours is ridiculous. I do 400 lines an hour. These career is only for the hardy ones.
this has nothing to do with what the poster is asking....
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The poster was right....
you can't change your dad, just stay happy. But, you could invite your parents to go to church with your family - if they say no, just tell them the invitation is open at any time. You could also just cheerfully mention to your Dad that you saw such and such a job in the newspaper and thought it was something he might be interested in looking into.
You're wise enough to know you can't change another person, but you can give him a little encouragement - plant a seed and see if it grows.
Happy Trails to you.
But you would have if you could have, and above poster did try (sm)
So why are you both saying parents don't owe their kids help with getting through college? Poster A tried to help hers and jlynn would have helped hers if she could.
As the poster below said...if you are..
having a tough time making it financially, maybe there are better job choices out there for you. My point was that most people who whine about having no money usually have the brand new car or two and the payments, a huge mortgage, the latest tech gear, etc. We have a lot of nice things, all paid for, but we took our time getting them. We save where we can, but we aren't letting gas prices or grocery prices change our lifestyle that much and the reason we can do that is because we only have a mortgage to pay. We have made a decision that whatever we want to buy we will either save and pay cash for or charge it and pay it off the next month. As you get older you realize stuff is just stuff, it comes and goes, and the less you can get by on the better.
PS! The poster below was right about UTI's -
I lost my previous cat (a 4-year-old male) to acute kidney failure brought on by an obstructed urinary tract. In addition to being a male, which put him at higher risk, he was also a Persian, which get this more frequently than other breeds), and he ate ONLY dry cat food. Just would not touch any kind of wet food. Although I normally only fed him high-quality food by Royal Canin, I also made the mistake of letting him have Meow-Mix as a treat occasionally, for a change. That brand has apparently messed up other cats' pH balances, and I'll always wonder if I killed him by feeding him Meow Mix....
Although he never peed outside his litter box, he did start to pee more often, and in less and less amounts. It had been happening very gradually over about a week, and at the time I hadn't really noticed it. It was only in retrospect that I remembered... AFTER it was too late. Even though he was nearly dead when he was brought in, the emergency after-hours vet clinic saved his life the first time, and for a month he was completely back to normal! But then, overnight, it came back, and the next morning I found him lying in his litter box (another warning sign!) The second time at the vet's, they said the toxins from the first episode the month before had backed up into his system and basically destroyed his kidneys, so at that point I had him put to sleep.
So, long story short, especially with a male cat, don't take any chances, and be sure to have your vet check him out. Be sure he's eating at least SOME canned (wet) cat food, and if possible, it might be wise to eliminate dry food altogether. If you do feed dry food, be sure it's a top-quality brand (with NO ingredients from China!)
Once again, good luck and best wishes!
I'm poster from above... (it's possible)
You know the spots you see in pictures sometimes? You think it's sunlight or whatever... Well we took a family pic (SIL took the pic) and there was a huge spot. My son told me he learned about Spirit Orbs at school. Well, I think the Orb was my mother. I'm sorry, but it just seemed weird to me that this would appear in this manner. We lost my Mom about 2 years ago. The kids were very attached to her. She's here in spirit; my son said I think that Orb is MeMe (that's what they called her).
Also, my son (he's 14) had a dream right after her death that she saw my Mom (looked like me) and my Dad (looked like my brother) dancing. He said they looked young and MeMe told him "don't worry, I'm in good hands." My Dad died about 13 years ago (my son was only 5 months old). So, you see, kids deal and see things different.
Your son probably does see images or what he perceives as ghosts and it frightens him because he is so young.
The sleeping arrangements in your household is your business. Whatever works. I used to sleep with my Mom when my Dad worked nights, and I was probably in junior high at the time. My Dad worked shift work. 
The above poster is right
My brother went through this. He had to take half of his wife's credit card debt. But what you can do is contact the credit card company, after the divorce is final, and ask how much they are willing to settle the account for. He settled a 14,000 credit care bill for 9,000, if he paid it within 10 days of making the agreement with them. His wife and her attorney were pretty mad, but there was nothing they could do. She kept wanting him to just give her the money and let her pay the bill, she probably already knew what they were going to settle for and thought she could pocket the 5000.00. The credit card company showed the account as paid in full satisfactorily. Assets will be split including any pensions, 401K, etc., as well as cars, boats, property, any of that stuff. You can trade off on things, for instance not touch his 401K if you get _____?? and so on.
As for the kids, there will be a set visitation schedule which you both work out and the court approves of. If he doesn't follow it or if he doesn't return the kids, than he is in contempt of court. If there are problems during the divorce, the court will set up a schedule for visitations during that period if needed.
One more tip I learned. You want the best attorney you can get. If you don't know any, ask a cop or a few if you can. LOL, they know who the good ones are and who they would call if they needed one. They're in court and around the courthouse and know how things happen. Ask more than one person and get some opinions before you retain a lawyer. It sounds like you already know he's not going to be nice about this. Don't be overly nice about it either or he'll try to take advantage.
I don't think the poster is looking for
Family friendly. She went to "Couples" Negril. Sandals and Beaches are great if you don't mind family vacations.
lol actually i said it under the first poster!
because like you i work a lot and sometimes can only catch shows once in awhile... THe office is one that i love but dont get to watch often enough cause of work.
it is so up my alley of humor. but then again im easily amused.
I hate not following every week though you know. i never thought about renting seasons or anything cause i definitely dont have an extended period of time to just sit and watch TV... too much other stuff to be doing but you are totally right, it's a good one!!!
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