I had an older girl and then moved in 2 very young boys
Posted By: Catlover on 2009-02-17
In Reply to: To all cat lovers..... - concerned
It brings a smile to my face to remember what went on. The girl, Emerald, Russian blue, decided instead of accepting she would try to go into the master closet and sit behind the door and sulk. Hubby would have none of that and made her come out and "mingle" so he said. She lived to be ripe ole age of 18, the boys by that time were about 3 and as she lay dying in the living room (had her comfortable. her head on a pillow and a cover over her lower body) one of the boys came and touched her gently with his paw as if to tell her it was ok. Now my smile is turning to tears. She learned to accept and was their friend. I could tell after her death the boys missed her as they went thru the home looking for her in the rooms. When the boys first came I just made sure everyone got attention and loving and all accepting in the long run.
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As a mom of 2 boys, now older,
who played baseball and hockey, do your son a favor and refrain from making a scene. It's embarrassing for him and puts such a negative tone on the game for all the kids. Be the better person, take the higher ground, keep your mouth closed and realize this should be fun for the KIDS.
And you think young boys don’t know about periods?
The kids here have sex education, boys and girls together, long before the old age of 13. Boys know about periods even if immature- and by the way aging with guys continues on for years, whether 13 or 34! I absolutely would never go completely by what a kid might say and rush the teacher. I have grown children, not kids, and I also wore tampons (like the earlier post) at a very younge age. When I started the period so heavy I had to wear panties with plastic in the crotch and by the WAY---- at 13 I walked to my drug store and got Paregoric because I had such bad cramps. See, it did not kill me to say why I wanted it. It was over-the-counter then and I have no ongoing terrible issues from that. Mountain out of mole hill again!
I agree, 2 is too young for boys.
My son turned 3 in July and he has only shown passing interest in potty training. I know I will need to help him with his motivation soon, but for now I am not even worried about it. I also have a 7yo daughter who was potty trained at 2-1/2 and she was very easy. It's true what they say about boys being different than girls when it comes to potty training. I say don't force the issue. I think that tends to complicate things.
We do the Sunday dinner thing every night. We have 3 young boys sm
all under the age of 10 and our family didn't do it growing up and neither did my husband's family. The 5-7 p.m. hour is precious to me. I work from 7-10 almost every night so I just take that time to talk with my husband and let the kids update hubby on their day at home, esp. since I'm homeschooling this year. I know, sounds so June Cleaverish...but it's really not. I make sure I am NOT on the phone when he comes home and definitely no company between those hours. You have to protect that family unit.
boys or girl
I have 2 of each (yes 4 in all) and I would defitenly say boys right now. My kids are still young so may be my mind will change with age!
I would raise 5 boys to 1 girl!
Girls cost too much.
I'm no young girl...
I'm a lot older and I think Blake's adorable. To each is own. And by the way, he's as tall as my husband, who by the WA is no creep. LOL.
As a young girl, I suffered so much
with cramps, so bad I would be bent over so all girls are not alike. Years ago we could buy OTC paragoreic (sp?) and it was horrible to taste but it did the job in relieving those cramps. I also believe the steroids not only have to do with early puberty but also the fact of lots of excessive weight on people now. You never saw as obese people years ago, say in the 30s or 40s. I know loads will say fast food but also then our food supply was not loaded with all that it is now.
Think my older girl cat had a stroke
I posted about the strange behavior the other day with my cat. I now think she probably had a stroke. She does not seem in pain but almost sure she has been blinded and when I call her, see no response with the ear motion that you see with cats listening. She does not come to me, another sign she is not hearing. She and I have spent a lot of time together since the other day with my holding her and telling her how much I love her. I will be at the vet's office the first thing in the morning. Putting her down is not an option right now for me because I do not feel she is in pain. She wanders around the house and circles things, staying close to the perimeter of the house. I have closed off doors and also made the house more cat safety, just as you would with a baby to make sure things are put up and out of the way for her. If I had to hand feed I would but she finds her food, her appetite is good and also put her liter box out of a room she had an obsticle in so now everything in the outer hall near the garage easier for her. I have read on the internet that cortisone sometimes helps in cat strokes, also sometimes the blindness may be temporary. What I want to know is has anyone else had a cat that they think may have had a stroke, if so the treatment, improvement and anything you can tell me. She is, like I said before, my older girl who was born at my home and has been around for a good long while and of course I love her dearly. I again am not thinking about putting her down, only if and when I thought she was in pain or just unable to cope with getting around, etc. Any thoughts you can give would be most appreciated. I will get back on board as soon as I can but now my #1 priority is for my much beloved older gal. Thanks!
I know a young girl who had a wonderful experience......sm
This young girl was 9 when she started her period. She was a neighbor and she was totally informed about what was going on. Her mom was at work and her dad, bless his heart, took an empty bleach bottle, rinsed it out real well, poured not-too-hot water into it and closed it up with the cap and gave it to her to lay on her side and curl around for her cramps. It was the sweetest thing I have seen a dad do.
It is true, maybe the additives in our food is causing puberty to come on early but we have to deal with the situations at hand. Checking out the daughter's blood is not a problem to be on the safe side to make sure she is healthy. Other than that, the best support we can give them is our love, understanding and, if necessary, a warm water-filled bleach bottle.
Help feed hungry dogs! I saw this young girl SM
last weekend on the Today Show. SInce she was tiny she has loved animals. Just click and answer the question and each time someone visits this site a donation of 20 pieces of Kibble is made. Doesn't matter if your answer to the question is correct or not. I do it every day. They allow one hit a day per person. Just takes a few seconds and does so much.
http://www.freekibble.com
My older girl, Emerald, walks around like an old lady but
where I used to live we would get small mice (well, had a couple of big ones also before) and you would not think she could get up any speed but she sprang into action and was everywhere getting the mouse. At an ungodly hour 1 morning my hubby shouted out I just LOVE that cat and when I asked what in the world was going on, found out she had captured and killed a huge rat! He later on bought me the most precious gift I have ever gotten, came home with 2 brothers, black and white kittens who have grown into the more gorgeous boys. These 3 are so joyful to me. By the way, looked at the exotic cats on line before but after reading watch out when you open doors, even though they were beautiful, would hate to pay that much and zip out the door. My kids tell time also, every night around 8 when time to get off, they are right at my heels meowing. They know it is treat time.
Young love/older love
I think it has a lot to do with your age and his. I married hubby at age 59 and he was 49. Best thing I ever did but say if you are 30 and he is 20, hmmm in that case might not be so workable. What are the ages here?
I'm older than dirt, too, and older
than the 2 posters below me.
I remember when gas was $.25 a gallon when I got my driver's license and first car.
The first car my dad had was a LaSalle with running boards. After that, he bought all Hudsons and then Ramblers. He never owned a Chevy.
My first car was a ི Chevy, green and White, that my dad paid $12 for (cost of the tag). My uncle gave it to him and was a stick shift. I never drove an automatic until I was 20 and bought my own car with my own money. I paid $1500 for a ྀ Rambler Classic, 4 door (my first 4 door, too) in turquoise blue. My dad was mad because I didn't pick the Navy blue and white stick shift Rambler because it was cheaper.
My allowance was $1.50 a week and to make money, I chauffered all my friends around plus to school and back for $.25 a week.
And, I just turned another year older on Monday. Ugh! Thank heavens, no one in my family wished me HB. I quit counting 20 years ago.
When we moved, our dog went through some
anxiety issues and what the vet said was allergies. I think it was more anxiety from the kennel though. He gave us some meds to give him for a week since he was biting his tail. He swings his tail like crazy and would hit it on the walls and break it back open. Least to say, I was cleaning up blood splatter for a long time; no fun!
My mom has a co-worker who also had a dog with the same problem. His vet told him to give him Benadryl. After we ran out of the meds the doctor gave us, we gave our dog Benadryl. He has since adjusted and quit biting his tail. Everything is healed up fine, and we've had no need to give him anymore meds. That is why I think it was more anxiety than allergies.
I would suggest giving her can food for now so she can get some nutrients into her. Make sure she is drinking water because she could get dehydrated easily from vomiting and get her to take some Benadryl. We used the liquid kind with a squirter because it worked faster. Also, see if she will eat some boiled chicken. Try something soft and bland. Good luck! I hope she gets to feeling better soon!
So have you moved away, never to
return to her home, or do you continue to do the "good daughter" thing and go home for visits, or invite her to your home. If so, why?
I ask because I knew somebody whose family and especially mother were absolutely toxic, but she still had her in her life. I believe I would have moved out as soon as feasible and not shared my address or phone number.
I am currently 50 and moved away from
my hometown about 8 years after high school. Just recently joined the Facebook craze and now have reconnected with several.
when we moved into this sm
neighborhood 24 years ago it was a quiet country type neighborhood. Unfortunately, all the "quiet" ones have died, their kids have taken over (their kids are the same age as us) and not kept up the property. Also there are a couple houses two doors down that were always so neat and clean even though they were quite small. The owners sold them to a company who rents them out to illegals who have destroyed the property. Our home and about four more around us are immaculate and we are the ones suffering. Can't afford to move. Houses to expensive in the town I live in.
When we moved into our house..sm
the people who lived here before us had a rabbit that got out of the hutch and they couldn't get it back in, so it lived in our yard. One nice warm evening I took our house cat out with me while I was outside. I looked away for a minute and in the blink of an eye, the male rabbit was...um...having nonconsensual relations with my poor, terrified female cat. I could not believe my eyes. Needless to say, my cat stayed in the house after that.
Are you saying you moved to help a friend....sm
and are miserable because of the uncontrolled kids and revolving doors of people coming/going all day? Then get another place to move out and get some peace & quiet.
We just moved into a new house
and the last owners left some of the nails in the wall where they had things hanging and I guess thinking we might want to hang something there as well.
Well, we had this little sign my mom had give me with 2 turtles on it with some saying on it, about family or something. Every time I turned around, my hubby had that thing hanging somewhere. I would take it down and put it away and the next day it would be hanging somewhere else.
I told him to leave the decorating to me, haha! ;)
We just reached our 7th year being married. I hope that in 21 years we have that same relationship. So far, so good.
Cute story, thanks for sharing. :)
I just moved from Atlanta and believe me when I say
most of the people there could care less about your lineage, would just be another good fight for them. Just spoke with my daughter and she told me a coworker of hers yelled at a person going through neighborhood driving too fast and the person got out and came back after her. Scared the girl to death and my daugher said she would not do that again. I have moved recently to a wonderful quiet place but still return to Atlanta to get my housekeeper. Making the news yesterday was young male, got upset with neighbor, got a gun and sprayed the neighbors home hitting a 2-year-old child inside his home, killing it in the mothers arms. Read about the killings here, for nothing. It the part about backbone for me, my kids would find that funny as when they were growing up they used such words about me like aggressive, outspoken, etc - but people say with age comes more wisdom.
When I first moved to the south, I once saw this guy sm
mowing a lawn (up a steep hill) with short shorts, cowboy hat and cowboy boots. Obviously, the boots were slippery so he kept slipping and trying to dig his heels in the grass. I almost crashed from laughing so hard.
When we moved to Kentucky from NY...sm
14 years ago I was filling out that pile of paperwork for my sons and came across the document about paddling....I was appalled.....How archaic! My mother has taught in NY for 42 years and I assure you it's not an acceptable practice! I just wrote "What, are you kidding me?" and got called into the principal's office to explain myself.
Also, when asked about race I checked OTHER and wrote HUMAN....Got called in again to the principal's office. Cat
Discussion has been moved..thx (nm)
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Moved from the burgh...
But still a Steelers fan! I'll be waving my Terrible Towel Sunday night, that's for sure!!!!!
We did not have that issue when we moved here -sm
back in 1998. There were two agents, our agent represented us and only us. Sale went smoothly and quickly. We even rented our old house for a month after we sold it to make our move smoother. We had a few things we wanted done to the new house before we moved into it. It all went quite smoothly with no problems. I have two friends here too that are real estate agents, never discussed that with them, but curious now and will. One helped us buy some land a few years ago, again no problems with representation, 2 agents, she took care of us and we had a huge issue of an oil/mineral rights lease to get invalidated which took some time to get taken care of...our neighbors love us as we got it removed for the whole subdivision, not just our lot. We were not about to buy property with that hanging over our head, whether the others knew or not who knows, but our real estate agent and lawyer made sure we knew what we were getting into.
I moved from CA to WA and I felt very...
welcome. Maybe it is more perception than anything, but I miss my Washington neighbors very much since I left. They were great people.
They moved your thread and not my answer
I think it is Vanessa Carlton. Can't remember the name of the song now.
I am like yu, but my family moved every 3 years.
It was tough as a kid to grow up like that, but due to exentuating circumstances, I have moved my kids a lot, too. It stinks!
We recently moved 200 miles away and
joined a church after being away from the church for several years. There are so many activities for couples and singles, or both, and not just church/religion related. We have dinners, baseball games, hayrides, dances, etc. and have made several friends in the few months we have been here. We get out more now than ever before. I don't know how old you are, and though I hate to admit it, we joined the seniors center also (you only have to be 50). They do all sorts of things - day trips, 1 and 2 week trips, dinners, plays, game nights, music... I just never thought I would be joining an old folks place, but it's fun and a lot of them are in the 50-60 range. Lots of singles and couples.
I moved out two days after I graduated from h.s.
I tried for years to have at least a civil relationship with my mother, but it never happened, so I gave up a long time ago. I see her when it's unavoidable -- weddings, funerals and the sort. She still thinks my brother walks on water, and interestingly, he doesn't come around to help her either.
I just saw it on the main board. Maybe it was moved.
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Book-in-bag still hasn't moved.
Except now it has a drillbit sitting on top of it for some reason....
Moved to the Comedy board. NM
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when I first moved to KY I called it a PIRATE tax..nm
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We just moved out of modular and built (sm)
We lived in a modular, what some would call a 'double-wide', for about 8 years, and while it was by no means what one would call a trailer, neither was it as sound as a site built house. It was a great starter home, but there were a couple of things about it that anyone looking to buy a modular should be aware of. The first thing is that resale on modulars/manufactured homes is not as brisk (at least in my part of the country) as a regular, site-built home. We ended up selling ours via land contract. The second thing to be aware of is that these homes off-gas. If you move into a new house, there is going to be a smell associated with that new construction but in a manufactured home, because of the way they are built, on an assembly line, some things are done differently than in a traditional house. There is a lot of formaldehyde used in the construction of these homes.
Heating and ventilation are other things to be concerned about, as well as insulation, and what type of foundation to put underneath the home. My suggestion is that if you go with a modular/manufactured home, go with a full slab.
As far as settling goes, any house is going to settle. If the home is set up properly the settling will be held to a minimum, but if it isn't done well, the settling will be more obvious. I would check with the BBB where you are looking to buy and see if there are any complaints on file with them re: the company/ies you are looking at.
Another thing to consider: Where are you putting this home? Many subdivisions have regulations against modular homes of any type, including the one we moved into. These people (small subdivision) freaked out completely when they found out we were building a house in THEIR subd. and that we lived in a modular at the time. I guess they thought the trailer trash was coming to town...let's just not go there.
We were able to go through a service where we hired a consultant who is a licensed builder to guide us through the process, and we actually did the general contracting ourselves. We managed to save a significant amount of money in the process, and while there were very stressful times we managed it well and are extremely pleased with the results. While we are not what could be considered tree huggers, we did want to build a house that was more environmentally friendly and energy efficient. There are several ways to do that, and it really is so much simpler than you may think. We just moved in about a month ago, and we do still have quite a bit to do, trim, paint, landscaping (we have a beyoootiful mud pit right now), but it is so very much worth it.
In any event, good luck with whatever you decide to do, and if you have any questions, please feel free to ask.
HC
It got moved to Main Board I think. NM
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We were hoping she would've moved them by now
Because I was in and out of the car last night counting little furry heads but I guess it didn't bother her. Guess I'll go find a box. Thanks!
This thread was moved to Gab from another board.
Just moved to South Mississippi and...
food here is very expensive. I have always lived on the west coast and, although everything else here is cheaper, food is NOT.
My town has 25,000 people but when I first moved
here 23 years ago, it only had 5,000. We had a Tastee Freeze and a Chicken Country and that was it. Our town has gotten to big for our liking but the school system is excellent so I suppose we'll just bear with it for a while.
Thank you - your post moved me to tears - sm
Your description of walking around with a gaping wound in your chest and no one noticing - You may not believe this, but until I read this I had long since put away feelings I'd forgotten - I HAVE had an experience, and you reminded me. One of my babies died at one day old thirty-two years ago. You described what I remember feeling exactly. How could I have forgotten that? I'm sitting here with tears running down my face.
Your suggestion of a note to the families is a great one. I'm certainly going to do that. God bless you.
I know this will get moved to the Gab board, but for some reason I cannot post there and I SM
I really need some opinions. So when it get's moved, please follow it over.
My son's school called me this morning to tell me that they have not yet received my son's transcripts from his the private school he attended last year. The secretary at the new school tells me that she when she faxed her request for the records along with my signed release, the school only sent her my son's shot record and any other medical history they had on him and that was it. They provided no explanation whatsoever. When she called the old school, she was told that I have an outstanding tuition balance and they refuse to release his records until the balance is paid.
Regardless of whether or not I owe them money, can they legally do this? I have tried to research this to no avail. All I have found out is a court case in Louisiana where a judge ruled that a private school can refuse to release a student's records to the student's parents if they have not paid tuition, but that legally the school cannot keep the student's records from the student. Wouldn't this be what the school is doing? I am not the one requesting copies of my son's records, it is the public school district in which my son is a student that has requested the records. I simply signed the release forms and gave them my son's proper identifying information, i.e. social security # and birth date so that the school district would be able to obtain his records.
I am very angry. This private school and I have not seen eye to eye for quite some time on a number of different issues. My son attended there only at the behest of my father-in-law who is a member of the church that owns the school. My father-in-law offered to pay half the tuition if I let my son go there. I agreed because it was a small private school and I felt that my son would benefit from the small class sizes and the "Christian" values. However, over the four years my son attended that school, I found that these values weren't so "Christian" after all.
I had trouble with the school "losing" my tuition payments a few times. I am not the only parent that had this trouble. A number of parents received collection calls saying we were behind on our tuition payments and that we needed to pay immediately or our children would not be allowed to attend; only to find that when I presented the school with a copy of my canceled check, the payments were simply not written down in the ledger and were called a "common bookkeeping error." This happened on more than one occasion and I have contacted my former bank in search of the tuition payment they claim is missing now that has caused them to withhold my son's records. There were also rumors of embezzelment within the church that owns the school. Apparently the Pastor embesseled some money from the church to invest in real estate "for the church" and when the IRS starting sniffing around, there was a fall guy that the church refused to press charges on, and a number of church board members were given high paying, useless jobs at the school as a "thank you for keeping your mouths closed." There are four principles and two superintendents at the school. This is a school that has maybe 100 students total counting all students, K through 12th grade. Why on earth do they need that many principles and superintendents?
So you see, there are some shady things going on in that school and I have to wonder if this isn't just another ploy to extort more money from me. Which brings me back to my initial question, can they legally do this? Even if I truly did owe them money, can they withhold my son's records from a public school district who requires those records in order to make sure my son is placed in the appropriate classes? Should I contact a lawyer?
I am sooooooo mad right now, I can't even see straight!
I am so moved by your generosity and love for others. God bless you. nm
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I have moved on and was just trying to make SoBlue feel better.
I have moved on and gotten on with my life. My ex now lives 2 minutes from me and I could care less. The kid who robbed me is now 19 and in jail for robbing a bank and I don't have to worry about him either. These things were in my past and I have learned and become a stronger person from them.
I've moved approximately 28 times...
the shortest I lived in one place was 19 days - the longest 9 1/2 years (so far). Hated it. Went to 9 different schools and hated that, too. I said I would never do that to my children and, although we had to move several times, they were only in 2 different school districts. You sure do learn to adapt, though!
A big sign at a local business that had moved said
Come see us at ARE new location - on both sides of the sign!
I'll wait to see if this post gets moved
before replying, because I think it might get moved to the Christian board, and then the answers could disappear.
I moved cross country from Nebraska
to Phoenix. It was the best time of my life. I actually lived in Mesa and the cost of living was suprisingly reasonable. I had a really nice condo for around $700-800 a month, 2 bedroom, with it's own laundry room, covered parking, etc. I worked in Phoenix and the highway I took wasn't all that bad from what I was expecting. I eventually moved to Scottsdale, but the cost of living there is fairly high, but beautiful. I loved Phoenix because it was just hours away from the Cali so I could visit the beaches on the weekends and also just hours away from Las Vegas. It's a great place to be single and I made so many new friends there so quickly. At the time, I was also single and no kids. It's supposedly the best city for singles. Good luck on your search. I envy you a little bit as I love traveling myself...
When I was about 22 I moved in with a couple who was renting a room (sm)
It was not free rent and not nearly as fancy as the picture in the ad you posted. But I started to notice that there were multiple things around the house with various names on them even though I was the only "roommate" they had at the time. I kept thinking they acted kind of strange but they never really said anything to me...then I started looking at the books on the shelves in the living room...porn type novels, a book on the life story of Linda Lovelace, with lots of details. A couple of weeks after I had moved in they said they were looking for another roommate to move into the room they still had left open. I saw them interviewing a man as I was on my way out. Later when I came back, I saw a balled up sticky note on the floor. I opened it and saw that they had written notes to each other while interviewing the guy. One wrote, "do you think he'll work out?" the other wrote, "maybe. Small guys are usually built big." I started to worry that they were some kind of porn ring and I got the heck out. the next day while they were gone I got my things and left. You just can't be too careful. My sister moved in with a couple once who acted very nice, and yes, they wanted her to have sex with them, so she moved out. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is, unfortunately. If you want to find a place to live rent-free in exchange for cleaning and errands, you could probably find someone who has a parent who need someone to live with them, or a person with a physical disability who could use some help. I would go that route. Best wishes
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