I had a tubal/ piece of cake sm
Posted By: ncmt on 2009-03-29
In Reply to: Vasectomy vs tubal ligation - Chele
My husband is a big baby. I was working full time at an insurance company. I had my surgery the day after Thanksgiving. I was home by 10 AM feeding the baby (not my husband) in the high chair because my husband had to run to the store for stuff we needed. Not a big deal. Didn't hurt, woke up from anesthesia quickly.
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Had mine at 29. It was a piece of cake. (sm)
Had the surgery at 7:30 AM. Home by 12 PM. Doing laundry by 12:30. No pain. No complications whatsoever. 43 now and no menstrual comps.
And dealing with the kids is piece of cake compared to dealing
jk
My dog just ate a piece of...
Broccoli!!!!! My last dog wouldn't eat that. She likes things like bananas too. Does your dog eat funny stuff?
Tubal
Yep, me too. I had a tubal with my C-section 3-1/2 years ago. My monthly cramps are MUCH WORSE!!! My doc told me it was caused by blood backing up in to the tubes and having nowhere to go. (Gotta love my technical explinations, lol). I now have cramps that radiate around to my lower back and down both legs to my knees. No one warned me either! My doc said to take ibuprofen right before my cycle and every 4 hours throughout the week. This does nothing! I wish my hubby would have gotten "fixed" instead.
I had a tubal at age 27 (sm)
I do not advise a tubal for anyone.
I experienced very heavy flow and excruciating pain after my tubal (tubes were cauterized), and this lasted until menopause at age 55. From onset of menses until the tubal, my monthly cycle was never a problem. I changed OB/GYN, who said the painful cycles after tubal was because BCPs had kept that from occurring prior to tubal. I told him I was not on BCPs and had not been on them since I was about age 21. Of course, OB/GYN does not want to think tubal creates any problems.
My family physician (female) explained that, after a tubal, every month during ovulation the egg ruptured through the wall of the ovary into the abdominal cavity (and body absorbed the egg or eggs), which could create the severe pain during mid-cycle.
I took multiple Aleve during this time. I have a high pain threshold, but just prior to menopause I needed pain medication.
I strongly encouraged my daughter not to have a tubal after her 2nd C-section. Her OB/GYN was not too pleased with her decision. Her husband had a vasectomy a year later.
I had a tubal the day after
the delivery of our third child. My husband and I had discussed it and he didn't want to undergo the vas. He is deathly afraid of needles. After going through childbirth 3 times, I was kind of used to it. I honestly don't remember a single bit of pain following the tubal. I had it done laparoscopically and I was already on "light duty" because of the delivery. I was discharged the day after the tubal. I had a 5-yo and a 2-yo at home plus the newborn. My husband was able to take a week off to help me out, but he would have done that regardless of the tubal.
As for cost, my insurance covered either. I would suggest that your husband wait until after the birth of this child to have the vasectomy, the reason being that you may end up needing a C-section (though I hope not) and they can do the tubal then if you've already discussed it with your OB.
Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope your "surprise" brings you as much joy as mine does! We hadn't planned on our third one either, but I can't imagine life without him!
Tubal Ligation
I had a tubal after my c-section when I had my second daughter 3 years ago. I was over 40 when I had my second child and I knew I didn't want another child since I was older so it wasn't really a problem for me. I will say though that it made recovering from the c-section a lot worse. Our best friend had a vasectomy and he had no problems at all.
I had a tubal about 8-9 years ago. I would really...
suggest not going to an outpatient surgery center. When they did my tubal they found I had an ectopic pregnancy and had to yank the tube and ovary. I went home 2 hours later; if it had been done in the hospital they probably would have kept me overnight. Just something to think about. Had no problems afterwards. Was back to typing 2 or 3 days later and really did not notice a change in my periods. Good luck.
Then go to her and tell her, say your piece but be nice - sm
about it. She will no doubt get defensive, so unless you want a permanent rift you (unfornately) have to be careful in how you phrase your complaint of her being totally nasty, rude and tactless herself. Just explain to her that her little digs hurt your feelings and you are only trying to help her out as you care for her, etc. Tell her if she continues to make the cutting comments about her perceived inability to help her out now and then that you will just have to stop helping her and limit your time with her as she is making you feel like dirt and killing your self-esteem. Maybe that will get her to knock it off, if it does not, then just cut her out, no one needs that kind of garbage in their life and let her be bitter and alone and nasty to herself.
I just saw a funny piece on (sm)
"Best of Craigslist."
Somebody advertised that they would pay somebody to come and clean their refrigerator and then described the problem, which was one specific spill that was growing new life forms or something. It was hilarious.
I had a tubal ligation
I had it done while I had my last c-section. Maybe it's easier when it's done by itself, but I had a lot of pain and it took me a long time to recover. My husband even said that if he knew what I would have to go through he wouldn't have wanted me to have it. But again, that was because I also had a c-section so don't let me scare you. I'm sure someone here had a tubal separate from anything else and can tell you exactly what they went through.
I never heard of the Essure procedure. What does that actually entail?
I had a tubal with my second c-section sm
i had a c-section with my second baby and while he was in there i told him to do a tubal. he cut and cauterized my tubes. i haven't had any problems since, that's been almost 6 years ago. when i'm ovulating, i do have some pain on my left. i don't know if that's due to the tubal, but i don't regret getting it done. good luck!
I also had a tubal during a C-section
I healed up OK, but have very painful cramps every month ever since. Other people who have had tubals have told me its a very common experience - nobody mentioned it prior to my decision. I'm talking 10 years of such awful pain I could not work during my monthlies without serious pain killers - worked my way up through every strength of ibuprofen, scrips included, until finally was prescribed a psychotropic drug that turned me into a happy zombie that barely noticed the pain. Finally around the 11th year the pain has slacked off enough I can get by on 2 regular strength ibuprofen every 4 hours, as long as I'm very careful not to get much strenuous exercise during my period - that brings back flareups of mega-pain. I had no warning in advance this was a supposedly common result of a tubal so I wanted to warn you to ask around and talk to as many people as you can that have had tubals and see if debilitating cramps have been their experience. Good luck in whatever you decide.
I had a laparoscopic tubal at age 28.
The procedure itself was relatively painless. I took one Tylenol and that was it. No pain meds, nothing. The doctor did cut out at least an inch of fallopian tube and cauterized the ends to prevent regrowth of the tubes, but I still wonder about the chances of an ectopic pregnancy especially with ovulation pain mid month.
I have had problems since then with extreme PMS (PMDD?), heavy flow, cramping, mood swings, headaches, hot flashes with sweats, not being able to sleep for 1-2 nights before Aunt Flo arrives, and a bunch of other annoyances. In reading the post tubal syndrome websites, it seems to fit. I don't know how much of this is related to not taking birth control pills, getting older, gaining weight with a sedentary job, just regular PMS, or the actual tubal. I was also recently diagnosed with uterine fibroids.
I had never heard of the Essure procedure, but I personally wouldn't choose it. I just don't like the idea of having something "foreign" inside my body. What if it dislodged, what if the metal springy thingies were recalled, what about scarring?
okay, just one more piece of advice
Hey Emily Ayn - I've seen your posts on this board so many times its almost like talking to a friend - okay, an invisble friend because I can't see you, but at least you answer me back :-) Anyway...this is the only piece of advice I would offer you, and a couple of my thoughts. (P.S. - I hope you didn't think I was shouting at you, I didn't mean the no, no, no to come off as shouting, it was more of an Oh my gosh, no). Anyway...if I was facing the same situation, this is what I would do.
I would most defintely get the address and name of the people. I would then take that with the ad to the local police and ask if there is anything illegal that has happened at this address and show them the ad. They should then be able to tell you at least that this couple is not wanted by the law or has done anything that you would need to know about. Everything could be very innocent and legite, but that would be the only way to really be sure.
As for their ages, I would come out and say to them (again if this is me) I would say.
"I noticed your ad asked for my picture, and I have never heard of that before and just wondered why you wanted a picture of me". I'm not sure if asking their ages would mean anything because "weirdo's" (if they are weirdos) come in all ages. If they have any sense at all they will understand your concerns, and if they get offended that would send up a signal. Most defintely though the only thing I would do before hand is check it out with the police to make sure they are not wanted for anything.
By your posts I know you are a smart person and if you've dispatched for 911 you've heard a lot come your way.
Just wish you all the best and hope things work out for you. I understand totally about needing to feel safe. If you do this please let us know how it goes.
Take care, be safe, and as they say on X-Files "Trust No-one". (That's a saying my DH lives by).
Boy you are a piece of work- nm
xxx
Update, might not have been the tubal
but getting off the birth control pills, sorry about that.
I also had my tubal after my second C-section
And it was incredibly painful. It took me way longer to recuperate from having both of them done at the same time. After my husband saw how bad it was for me he had second thoughts about me having the tubal. Even months after I still had slight stabs of pain in the area.
I know...and I was off the pill for about 7 years before my tubal (sm)
so can't blame mine on that. In the 7 years since I had my tubal, I have had to have a hysteroscopy for a thickened uterine lining and multiple period problems, very heavy, very painful. Before I had always had fairly easy, very average periods which lasted only 4 days. Now they last 7. Sometimes they stop completely for a couple of days right in the middle and then start up again. I will probably end up having a hysterectomy because of the tubal.
I would try to find a piece of carpet
somewhere in your house - closet, etc., and have cut out the area and install the other piece - it will stick out like a sore thumb for a while as it is not worn - but eventually will look fine. You might even be able to find a carpet installer to help you with this
Vasectomy vs tubal ligation
Okay, I am about 8-10 weeks pregnant. My husband and I definitely don't want more children after this one. We weren't even trying for this one actually. We talked briefly about our options. Every thing that I have read leads me to wanting him to have a vasectomy. It is cheaper, less invasive, done under local anesthetic, and recovery is within 48 hours. Tubals are more expensive, requires an abdominal incision done under general anesthetic, and a weeks worth of recovery. However, I don't know that my husband is really wanting to go with the snip snip himself. I'm hoping the cost alone will talk him into getting it done versus me as it is 3-4 times cheaper than a tubal.
Does anyone else have any helpful tips on this? I wouldn't mind having the tubal but I really don't think being unable to lift things and having light activity for a week will really go well with a 5 y/o and a newborn to take care of. Plus...there are more risks with a tubal than there are a vasectomy. So any additional tips on this subject to try and convince my husband into undergoing the ole snip snip would be much appreciated. Thanks!
Had a tubal 10 years, reversal 5 yrs ago and have a 15month old
What would you like to know lol.
I missed on day of work for the tubal and three for the reversal.
The tubal really didn't hurt at all but the reversal was a doozie (The doc forgot to warn me about the bendz??sp??)
painful at first but wedge a piece of cotton
from a cotton ball underneath the corner - sometimes numbing with some topical agent like neosporin plus helps a little. I cut mine too short because walking in tennies aggravate me and this happens. Works pretty well - wedge it under with a tweezer.
I googled post tubal syndrome
What I found scariest is the way doctors commonly try to blow off your symptoms - blame formerly being on the pill as being why it was never this bad before, or just act like you're being a big baby. Many women on those forums saying "thank god I read this - now I know I'm not crazy". I went to several doctors (male and female)about the pain and not ONE of them said it could be related to my tubal. They don't want to admit these side effects are common, and they don't want to admit they don't know what to do about it. They want us to just shut up and deal with it. Its shameful the way they sweep this under the rug, and the only way you find out its common is word of mouth. No such thing as "informed consent" when it comes to tubals! We need to spread the word! Like call Oprah or something!
tubal in 98 reversal in 2002 and baby in 2005
I was in a really bad marriage and knew I wanted no more children in this relationship and so I spoke with my OB/gyn and her performed a tubal not removing any of the tube just cutting and cauterizing. In 2000 my hubbie and I married and he had no biological children so we had my tubal reversed at a cost of about $3000 and little or no discomfort. A couple of years later and some Clomid (because of my age) I gave birth to an almost ten pound baby boy and am planning on working on a little sister currently *~*~*weg*~*~*~
Her mother is a piece of trash. So is that biological father.
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Ah, the Dalkon Shield. Truly a nasty piece of work! LOL..nm
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Sorry, but he really sounds like a piece of work.....good luck! ; )
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Try reaching for a stick of gum or a piece of hard candy.
The doctor I work for prescribes Chantix and it has been very successful for many patients.
I had a tubal 10 months after my second child (11 years ago). The only real
"problem" I had was with the air left in my abdomen (it was a laparoscopic), I had sharp pain in my shoulder for a while, but other than that I have had no problems. Regarding Essure, I know they use coils in teh tubes, but don't know what the failure rate is. A friend of mine wanted that, but because she had endometriosis, she was not able to have it done.
Poster below said something about hormonal problems. I don't see how you could experience anything hormonal if your ovaries are left in. Tubal does not remove those. I still have "PMS" sometimes, but that is because my ovarires are still functioning.
My husband and I were deciding on a tubal versus a vasectomy....
after reading these responses about a tubal I told him he has to get a vasectomy....thanks for making my decision easier--I honestly never knew about menstrual issues afterwards...
Say a tubal ligation got rid of your eczema, wanna know how I got rid of mine?
Had severe eczema on my hands, thought once would lose my fingernails. I got divorced, the eczema went away and never returned. True story.
Google post tubal ligation syndrome
Very many people find there are side effects to a tubal. My worst problem since having one is horrible, debilitating cramps. Every.single.month! Sometimes they get so bad I can't work at all, and I have to baby myself during that time every month as the least amount of physical activity brings 'em on. I have been to numerous docs (who act as if I'm exaggerating the pain), had numerous prescriptions - they finally put me on a strong psychotropic drug (where you still feel the pain but you're so stoned you don't really care).
I had never heard of PTLS prior to my tubal and had no idea what I was in for. Docs don't give full disclosure, IMO, as to the risks. Please look into the numerous websites on it - the testimonials of people who all have identical symptoms should be enough. This can mess you up until menopause - and its completely unfair to take on a sentence of pain vs some guy's ego!
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Awww...scoop it up with a glass and a piece of paper and place
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lets pray he gets the maximum time; piece of crap that he is.
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When puppy does her business where you want her to, reward her with a piece of food treat.
And when she pees in house, use paper towels and then place paper towels (soiled) to the area in the yard where you want her to do her business. Dogs tend to prefer where they smell the odor. Be patient. This dog is young. Confine her to an area where the floor will not be damage (tile or vinyl). Take her out six times away,including first thing in AM, right before bed, after she eats her meals. Pull water up a few hours before bedtime. Do enjoy your new puppy dog.
My friend has you beat... she paid $35,000 for a small piece of land
and a home 30 years ago; she just sold it for $375,000, clear profit; she and her DH paid it off last year and now are reaping the benefits.
Google post tubal peace of mind syndrome
Nah, just kidding but I had a tubal at age 29 after my second child, knew definitely did not want another, had always said no children at all after 30 and that is what I did. Never had the first problem with it. I would not try to talk a guy into a vasectomy if he had any drawback to it because lots think it somehow takes menhood away and men can be such big babies to start with sometimes.
It's only a teeny weeny piece of skin, for heaven's sake, get real! nm
nm
Its not a little piece of skin - read up on it. It plays a lot of important functions. Google it.
You just need to look around for some FACTS about the foreskin. It protects the glans, keeps the glans sensitive, plays a role in sexual activity, enhances the sexual experience for men, should I go on......Why don't you just read up on it?
cake
Pitiful union busters. Wal-Mart offers absolutely no respect to their workers, and obviously no screening that covers use of at least understable exchange of language context and grammar...tsk, tsk.
cake
I hope that the purposeful mistakes in my last post were caught, unlike the cake that the poor lady received.
It is "understandable" and "its" with reference to Wal-Mart.
Thanks for the vent.
Carrot cake
If the recipe asked for canned pureeed carrots the canned it should be. I am sure the recipe made allowances for the salt
Wal-mart Cake
Keep in mind this actually really did happen!!!! This is someone who was moving from a claims office.
Okay so this is how I imagine this conversation went:
Walmart Employee: "Hello 'dis Walmart, how can I help you?"
Customer: " I would like to order a cake for a going away party this week."
Walmart Employee: "What you want on the cake?"
Customer: "Best Wishes Suzanne" and underneath that "We will miss you".
Walmart Employee: "Dat all? Okay, Bye."
Cheeseburger cake??
I am having a surprise 40th jimmy buffett theme party for my husband on saturday. Does anyone have any idea how to decorate a cake to make it look like a cheeseburger? what kind of things would i use, i.e, fondant, etc. I have a general idea of yellow/chocolate cake but all I can find online is pictures of a cake but not how to actually construct it.
THanks for your help!
Coffee cake
Has anyone here ever made homemade coffee cake? Would you mind sharing the recipe?
recipe for the cake? nm
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Do you have a yellow cake mix?
You could do a pineapple upside down cake. Add about 5 tablespoons melted butter and 1/2 cup brown sugar to the pineapple. Spread on the bottom of a well-greased baking dish, pour the cake batter over it. You could even go crazy and add a dash of rum to the pineapple before you bake it.
dumb ? but would the dry cake sm
mixture recipe work with canned pumpkin pie mix? Love pumpkin, have cans of one-pie and a can of crushed pineapple w/the cake mix. Sounds like it would be very "mush". Just thought I'd ask!
dumb ? but would the dry cake sm
mixture recipe work with canned pumpkin pie mix? Love pumpkin, have cans of one-pie and a can of crushed pineapple w/the cake mix. Sounds like it would be very "mush". Just thought I'd ask!
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