I had a somewhat similar experience with my wedding band...sm
Posted By: Mimi on 2007-10-17
In Reply to: Problem wearing wedding band..sm - HappyCat
Quite suddenly my finger would itch underneath my ring. It would become red and almost blister like. I would have to take my ring off for a few days for it to go away. I took the ring, which is not a plain band - has two rows of diamonds so the underside is not smooth, to the jeweler and had it cleaned. It hasn't happened again since. It wasn't dirty to the naked eye, but there was apparently something in there. Perhaps your diagnosis and your reaction is a coincidence. It's worth a try.
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Problem wearing wedding band..sm
I was recently dx with RA, and have been having some issues wearing my wedding band. Two main problems - my fingers get puffy and wearing the band makes my hand itch (even though they are solid gold). I was thinking about getting a tattoo'd ring on my ring finger, but I was wondering if you all could come up with some ideas that are creative but perhaps not as painful...I don't mind the permanancy, as I am married with the intention of staying that way for life.
Thanks in advance, y'all.
HC 
I wear only my wedding band and engagement ring...sm
No other jewelry is on my fingers or wrists when I type.
I don't wear my wedding band or my engagement ring. I took them off six years ago because...SM
My DH and I were having marital difficulties and he never and I mean NEVER wore his wedding from day one of marriage. He works on cars and stuff and claimed it got in his way, WHATEVER! Back then he was going out his buddies every once and while and still didn't put his ring on.
So we had a huge fight and I took my rings off and said until you put yours on, I'm not wearing mine. Well, we got marriage counseling and saved our marriage and now everything is fab, but he still doesn't wear his ring because in all the years he didn't wear it, he lost it! I wanted to buy him a new one, but cheapo that he is, he doesn't want us to spend the money. So I haven't put mine rings back on and I won't. It drives him nuts. He makes comments every now and then about men flirting with me cause I'm not wearing my rings. I just shrug and say "it's just a ring, you know I love only you," which is the line he used to give me.
I'm going to break him down one of these days and we'll go ring shopping! We have a great marriage now, but there's just this one little battle. He knows I'll win eventually. We're both just really stubborn.
Long story short, men act like things like wearing our wedding rings and engagement rings aren't a big deal to them, but really it is.
just had a similar experience
Your complaint would actually be through Paypal if paid by Paypal. There should be no delay required in filing this. You proceed through the complaint steps but when ebay questions that you paid via Paypal you will be redirected to the Paypal complaint process. I was not even given the option to file an Ebay complaint.
Beware though, if you should at any point withdraw the complaint (as I did - the seller promised to send me the item but said he could only if I withdrew the complaint) you can absolutely not ever reopen it.
I have had a similar experience
in the past and what I did was confront the person when he hit is kid and asked him if he needed a little help just so that he knew that I saw what had happened and that it wasn't acceptable. I could care less if an adult goes off on me as I can handle myself. I feel for the children who grow up like that. The mother has likely experienced the issue before with the man, but why make it a tattle-tale issue...instead confront the bully calmly and firmly. He would have probably been embarassed at that point and would maybe think twice about smacking his kid in public, but I doubt it would keep him from doing it at home. Would be nice to just smack him upside the head with a closed fist and see how he likes it. Whatta jerk! I understand no one saying anything though. People were probably in shock that he did that to such a young child or any child for that matter.
Wow, I had a similar experience.
Only this was 2 dogs, tied up in the back yard, while the guy was in Iraq and the gal had gone to Greece for his R&R! They had somebody come in the morning to give them food and water, but those dogs barked ALL night long and half the day. I called Animal Control and so did my neighbor and FINALLY they took them away only because the day the Animal Control person came they had gotten impossibly tangled up in their ropes with a SKATEBOARD tangled in the whole mess! The dogs never came back and, needless to say, those folks were mad but oh well. Even when the people were not out of the country the dogs would get out and roam all over the place. I told the guy that the dogs get out and they would get hit by a car (I live in Redneckville, USA), and he got mad, called his landlady and said I didn't like his wife, called the cops, landlady threatened to sue me because her renters wanted to move, and all the while I just wanted that house OFF the face of the map (my house was here first with a vacant lot next to it). Lord, what a nightmare! Needless to say, nobody at that house EVER picked up poop!
I had a similar experience
 I divorced my first husband in 1972 and it didn't bother me for a long time. However a few years ago I contacted him and apologized and he was such a gentleman and readily accepted my apology. You will feel SO much better after you do it!
Yes, similar experience
A young neighbor killed herself by driving her car into a tree. I got to the funeral a few minutes late and the coffin was closed, but apparently had been open earlier. Her brother asked me if I wanted to say "goodbye" to her and I nodded, not really thinking clearly. He led me up to the coffin and opened it, and I was stunned by the extent of the injury to her head. They had attempted to fill in the defect with makeup and wax, but it was still visible and very disturbing. Her brother and the mortician kept asking me, "Isn't she beautiful?" over and over, like they needed my validation that they had done a good job putting her back together.
My dad was a mortician and told me some people are determined to have a viewing no matter what. I guess seeing it from the other side is why everyone in my family opts for cremation.
My Mom had a similar experience
My Mom is 75 yo. A couple years ago, at about 12:30 at night, she was woke up by someone repeatedly ringing the doorbell and pounding on the front door. She went to the door, turned on the porch light and looked out through that little peephole thingy, and there was a young girl on the porch with blood on her face. My mom talked to her throught the door. She said she had had an accident and could she come in to use the phone to call her parents. My mom told her to wait right there, she would go call 911. She got 911 on the phone and when she came back to the porch, the girl was gone. With 911 still on the phone, she went out on the porch and looked in the yard and up and down the street, the girl had vanished. You know that would have ended badly had my mom answered that door.
Similar Experience
Only the guy came looking for us. Same thing, dad was a musician and a womanizer. Mom got fed up with his bull$ and finally divorced him when we were teenagers. He moves out of state and haven't heard from him in years. Fast forward 25 years. One day my mom gets a call out of the blue from a young lady who says her husband is my father's son! Times, dates, places all add up and mom believes his story. So mom calls me and I contact them and we agree to meet. OMG . . . looks exactly like my own brother and my father. We talk. He was very nice. Didn't want anything, just wanted to know who his true father was. He was raised by a man who he had thought was his father, until that guy died and he found out otherwise. I call my dad, the jerk, and tell him what has transpired. Of course he denies it. Denies it to this day. This guy looks just like our side of the family, nothing like his mother who was small, blond, and petite. His baby pictures and his son's baby pictures look just like ours. His mother was a young cute waitress in a bar where my dad's band played. My mother met him and she's pretty sure it is. I've met his mother, she gave me exact dates and places they were together. But my dad still denies it.
It's weird, I have to say. But at the same time, I look at his side of it. It wasn't his fault what happened or what circumstances he was born under. We'll never be super close like my sisters and brother and I, it's just too awkward. But at the same time everyone is cordial and have just learned to deal with the past. Except my dad whose still sitting down south saying "No, didn't happen. Don't remember anything like that at all."
Similar Experience
Only the guy came looking for us. Same thing, dad was a musician and a womanizer. Mom got fed up with his bull$ and finally divorced him when we were teenagers. He moves out of state and haven't heard from him in years. Fast forward 25 years. One day my mom gets a call out of the blue from a young lady who says her husband is my father's son! Times, dates, places all add up and mom believes his story. So mom calls me and I contact them and we agree to meet. OMG . . . looks exactly like my own brother and my father. We talk. He was very nice. Didn't want anything, just wanted to know who his true father was. He was raised by a man who he had thought was his father, until that guy died and he found out otherwise. I call my dad, the jerk, and tell him what has transpired. Of course he denies it. Denies it to this day. This guy looks just like our side of the family, nothing like his mother who was small, blond, and petite. His baby pictures and his son's baby pictures look just like ours. His mother was a young cute waitress in a bar where my dad's band played. My mother met him and she's pretty sure it is. I've met his mother, she gave me exact dates and places they were together. But my dad still denies it.
It's weird, I have to say. But at the same time, I look at his side of it. It wasn't his fault what happened or what circumstances he was born under. We'll never be super close like my sisters and brother and I, it's just too awkward. But at the same time everyone is cordial and have just learned to deal with the past. Except my dad whose still sitting down south saying "No, didn't happen. Don't remember anything like that at all."
Friend with a similar gruesome experience. sm
She went to the ER in excruciating pain and was told by the ER physician that she could not possibly have a kidney stone because "women don't get kidney stones." Her husband, an RN, knew better but had no authority to prescribe any painkillers, and how she suffered until her test results came back in a day or so. I wouldn't go back to that NP either, sounds to me like she doesn't know what she's doing!
You need to send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding - sm
If possible you should drop it by the brides or grooms house, etc. so you don't have to take it to the wedding, and so they don't have to worry about transporting the gifts from the church or the reception. You should always send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding though.
This wedding, the wedding party will be releasing butterflies!
Apparently, you can buy live butterflies, individually packaged, that can be released after the ceremony. The bride and groom are 65 and 68 years old, for crying out loud and this is their second marriage. This wedding is the craziest thing I've ever seen!
No experience with the program but definitely experience with the symptoms! nm
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Any out there with Lap-Band or
gastric bypass done? Would love to hear your experiences and comments. Thinking about it for me.
I am considering a lap band
Minimally invasive, easily reversible. Ironically, the surgeon at our local hospital who probably does 15-20 gastric bypass procedures a week has a lap band himself - not bypass surgery. What does that tell you?
I worked at that hospital for five years and transcribed many, MANY diagnostic imaging reports on patients who had problems with gastric bypass surgery, some of them several years after they had it done. It is tempting, but I am not ready to spend the rest of my life eating one or two ounces at a time and worrying about malnutrition because of impaired vitamin absorption.
I am having my yearly physical next month and I will talk to my doc them about a lap band. Personally, I would not consider anything else. Too dangerous.
Never take them off - band and diamonds. nm
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how about liquid band-aid?
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Municipal band
The next town over from where I live has free municipal band concerts every Thursday night in the summer. They do classical, popular and movie/show music. They've been doing this for 77 years. There is a bandshell in the park downtown, parking is free and you can bring a picnic supper. The town festivals always have free musical entertainment. Sometimes the downtown merchants sponsor an evening of free music.
Try going up or down in band size.
For example, try a 34 DD or a 38 C. When you go up or down in band size, it changes the size of the cups. I ended up having to do that and you'd be surprised how different the cup sizes are when you adjust the band size.
FYI - Rock Band
We were going to trade in 1 guitar for the rock band set and were told the Rock Band still has a lot of kinks to work out and the sales person advised us to wait until after this Christmas as it will probably be the big thing for Christmas and the problems will be worked out.
I would love to get the 80's one too! I didn't know they had that! My husband was a DJ in highschool and I bet he would love that. Ok, that's now on his xmas list. lol Thanks!
Another band geek here
Also a flute player; principal flute in concert band my senior year, only flute in jazz band. Too much of a goody two shoes for drugs or alcohol or stretching exercises, even... did take part in a Vietnam war protest or two, and walked several miles to school on the first Earth Day, which accomplished exactly nothing because the diesel exhaust-belching school buses ran anyway, regardless of whether I rode them or not.
And I may join up with some friends for the "Teed Off Party" on the 4th of July....
had dinner with the band a few years ago
A friend of mine works for them and asked if I wanted to go before the concert. Loved it!!! Great band
Don't you think he sounds like the other boy band guys? sm
To me he sounds like the guys already on the radio so there's nothing that has come from his mouth that I'd want to buy.
Plus he dresses funny - wouldn't want a CD cover with a goofy outfit on it staring at me ! My husband thinks he's gay because sometimes he wears gay type clothes... especially that whatever it was last night.
nope, not going to swallow Band-Aid for my...NM
   
White. Big Band or Disco
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A good friend of mine had a lap band
However there are a lot of hoops to jump through testing wise before you can have those procedures done including a psychiatrist. Also if you do not follow the directions you can become sick, which means you cannot over eat and must exercise. She is doing fine with it, but did it mainly because her back bothered her so much. Come to find out her back is still an issue and she needs surgery to correct that. So, if it is a last resort, I'd say it is worth a try, but I would not do it with all of the complications and risk of infections unless it is a serious must.
Marching on the field at band camp ...sm
it was my freshman year of high school. One of the adult volunteers heard it on the radio, ran to the band director crying and insisted that he stop the practice because of the news.
spent NYE playing Rock Band for PS2
a lot of fun though discovered I'm never going to be a drummer (or a singer) :) So I guess I won't quit my day job.
Strike up the band, blow up the balloons!
Ready to celebrate. I wrote here some time ago about a problem with a CPA cousin. My father died and he put in writing and also told the people where he worked any money coming from there should come to me. When I got the money it had to be made out to estate of .......My cousin who supposedly was taking care of my father's last bill, etc. told me I could not cash the checks (duh) and to send to him for putting in estate money. I asked him to pay off father's last owed bill out of the money (he never did this 3 years ago now) and did not probate my father's will (said not enough there left after most all spent). I wrote a letter to cousin finally last year and said I wanted this back, next of kin, basically belonged to me. Ignored, another letter, ignored and finally asked on here who to contact for the head of CPAs and a person told me. Thanks to you, contacted the officials and after giving my cousin a deadline and telling him I had contacted the people over him, he finally sent me a check on the very last day of the deadline I gave him!! Now I wonder with him doing family like this, who else has he jipped?
I love an alternative rock band called
Minus the Bear and so does my 15 yo son. 
LOL; were you at *my* wedding?
I think it took me almost a year to get them all out - but 100+ is a lot of handwritten thank yous! I know, no excuse ; )
The Wedding
Yes, you are just being petty. Obviously, you love your dad, but really ... What difference does it really make to YOUR life how much he paid for the ring, how much they spend on the wedding, etc.? Rejoice in your dad's happiness and grow up. You only go around once in this life. Let your dad enjoy his golden years. I say, "Good for him - go Daddy!"
Lilly
When is the wedding and where are
you staying?
wedding
Wedding is 05/17 at Mandalay Bay but we are staying at New York, New York - this is my first trip to Vegas and I'm pretty excited. . We are staying 3 nights.
Would you go to a wedding of
a step neice that you have not heard from for over 20 years? I am so against this, plus I have not talked to her mother or aunts for the same amount of time. I cannot afford to get something to wear with the paychecks I have been getting, giving a gift, etc. I think the only reason I was invited was for the gift. I am trying to get out of it but it is my stepfather's granddaughter and he has been very good to me so I would be doing it for him only. How could I get out of this without hurting my dad? It is this Friday and I have done absolutely nothing to get ready for it. Unfortunately, I already sent in the RSVP card for dinner.
Wedding
If it were me, I would just send a card with a small gift in it. This way you won't have to spend any money buying something to wear. You are probabably right about just wanting the gift.
Yes - the wedding was on TV, he married
he did marry the air-head, he called her princess.
Wedding Ring ?
Do you have more than one? I have a wedding and engagment ring that DH gave me that I used to wear all the time, along with a diamond band my mom gave me years ago. Last summer my mom gave me her engagment ring that she really never wears anymore. Since then, I haven't been wearing the engagment ring DH gave me, I wear the plain gold band I got married in, along with my mom's two rings that she gave me.
DH says he doesn't mind as long as I wear the wedding band that we got married in. I guess it's a superstition thing with him. He understands that I miss my parents (especially my mom), since they live in Florida and we are in New York.
How do your SO's feel about stuff like this? Do they even have an opinion about what rings you wear or don't wear?
She was a wedding present
From my husband to me. When we brought her home she weighed just 1.5 pounds. She was so scrawny. We almost lost her twice and boy did she cost us a fortune, but it was well worth it. We found out she had asthma when she was about two and when I found her she was turning blue. She was on steroids for a long time. She weighed 20 pounds, quite a change from when we first got her. Then she ate fake pine needles from our Christmas tree one year and had to have emergency surgery to get this huge wad of needles out of her intestine. She was the sweetest cat and wouldn't hurt anything or anyone. She used to sleep on my head (on my pilow) which drove my husband nuts. LOL. She purred like a race car. I'll miss that definitely. I still have a, what I call, a wacky 10 year old black cat at home. I think he knows she's gone. Thank you so much.
I had a no child wedding except for immediate - sm
family; so to hopefully appease the very few that could not bring their kids (3 couples) I just had my 2 nephews carry my dress train. We had a swim party reception and I did not want to have to worry about parents getting drunk or inattentive and having a child drown. I knew my SILs would watch their kids as they are both somewhat overprotective, plus they were used to doing this when all the family was over anyways. But the post below is good about the gifts, or maybe directing people to the guest registry; handing out the "favors" or whatever you may have there for the guests.
Wedding shower...
My niece is getting married in August and is having a shower in July. Long story short, they live together, have been for a looonnnggg time now. On the invite, it says "Money preferred" with a bunch of $$$ around it. They're calling it a "greenback shower"...Is it just me, or is this totally disgusting and greedy? Makes me not wanna go. Also, I am not even sure how much to give. We never see them, only at family functions (DH's family..... )...anyway, is it just me that feels this way?
wedding shower
I agree. I think they have a lot of nerve expecting guests to "finance" their life together. Are they getting married after so long just to make some bucks? Or are you supposed to help offset the cost of this wedding? Are they registered? I'd give her a gift (if that's what you'd prefer). If you feel you have to give money, I'd probably stay in the $25.00 range or whatever you feel comfortable giving. Of course, you could always make an excuse and not go. After all, they'll probably want money as a wedding gift also!
Wedding question. SM
Okay, I'm confused as far as the gift process. I am invited to the bridal shower and the wedding and reception. My question is this, do I get two separate gifts - one for the bride for the bridal shower and one for the happy couple for the wedding? This is an older couple (in their 50s) and this is the second marriage for both.
If so, I need some nifty ideas for a bridal shower gift. Nothing naughty like lingerie or sex toys (which would be hilarious) because the bride is very, VERY refined and would not find any kind of humor in it at all. Plus the bridal shower will probably be elegant and tasteful and will make Emily Post proud. So I guess I should wear a bra and show up with a tasteful gift.
Thanks!
Another wedding question... SM
I posted a question a few weeks back about a wedding I'm about to attend and whether I needed to give a gift at the bridal shower and the wedding...
Anyway, the wedding is this Saturday. I've been asked to be in charge of the guest book, whatever that means. The dress I bought for the wedding is red. Yesterday, I'm told that the bride isn't happy with that and that her wedding colors are periwinkle and some sort of pastel green.
Now, I'm very irritated. I'm told that I'm not part of the wedding party, but they just want me to make sure everyone signs the book. No one told me that I need to try and match the wedding colors and now five days before the wedding, I'm told the bride doesn't like that I have a red dress!!??
I came from out of town for this thing so this dress is the only dress I brought with me! I'm working from my hotel room so we could be here this whole week because my daughter is the flower girl and they needed to do a fitting for her and she had to be here for the rehearsal. Now they are suggesting I buy a new dress?
My response to the bride was if she doesn't like my dress, she can buy me a new one. Now her daughters are telling me I'm being difficult and ruining their mothers special moment. The groom does everything the bride tells him too, so he's not on my side even though he's my family. I have half a mind to get in my car and drive back to Missouri with my daughter and tell them all to take a flying leap!
Am I being unreasonable here?
WOW. Yes what a crazy wedding
Glad you have been demoted to program passer outer. LOL. Butterflies and 65 and 68 years old. CRAZY. Keep us posted about he reception. I am sure that should be a hoot too.
Enjoy yourself. It is almost over. LOL.
BTW - I am going to a wedding Sept 1st. They are going to have a pig roast. How about that?? I am from NJ and never been to a wedding like that before. Should be very exciting. Can't wait.
Going to an outdoor wedding on Sat.
where they are having a pig roast. Never heard of such a thing at a wedding, so should be interesting. Sunday going to my sister-in-law's summer home, as she calls it, (her trailer at a campsite). She loves it there and then laboring on Labor Day. Have to work. Enjoy the unofficial end of Summer.
Wedding poem? sm
DH and I are renewing our vows for our 20th anniversary. At first we didn't think this was going to happen but just found out it is a go and it is happening Wednesday. Would like for our daughter to read a poem. It will just be DH, DS, DD, myself, the preacher, and the Lord. Any suggestions. Am also posting on Christianity board for additional suggestions for DS. Thanks for any help!
What about Betsy's Wedding???
It is kind of an older movie with Molly Ringwold when she was very young and Alan Alda. This has got to be about the funniest movie I have seen. Also get Big Trouble with Peter Falk and Beverly De'Angelo, Robert Stack and others. This and In-Laws are about the funniest movies I have ever seen. Anyway we all get down in the dumps at times. I kind of dread the holidays sometimes because my sister's husband is so very rude and they are all very materialistic -- all they care about is money -- it is kind of hard to be around people like that. His mother just recently died and I don't think he shed one tear or even cared. It was just business as usual. Kind of shallow person. Oh well. Takes all kinds to make the world they say. So you just cheer up girl. Hope you feel better really soon.
Suzanne
destination wedding
I've thought about this - with just a few friends/family. . maybe a cruise or somewhere you could spend honeymoon?
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