I guess, different men in diff areas...sm
Posted By: with boys/men it turns out to be ALL ABOUT THEM on 2007-05-05
In Reply to: Funny you would say that, if I was asked 1 time if my daughter only - Jewell
It's funny the comparison here....as I have one daughter (an only) who is 26 and she is the most thoughtful, giving, so not a me-me-me type of person, it's amazing. However, I taught her to be that way, to always think of others, and she does. Perhaps I just *lucked* out. I'm not sure. But I am so thankful EVERY DAY for this type of daughter!!! BTW, she did NOT inherit these good traits that I speak of from her father, who is a me-me-me type. (European/French)
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Posters are correct, child support diff from visitation
Just because a parent is behind on child support does NOT mean you lost your visitation rights, even if you went to court and tried making restitution. What the courts might do is GARNISH your salary (if employed) with some going towards back child support. I am not sure if all states are the same, but I would think they are on this subject, but again, I'm not sure. Florida works this way though, this I can assure you.
p.s. make sure you check your tire pressure... I've been reading it makes a diff. nm
In some areas of the country it isn't really inappropriate sm
Not to be disagreeable but where I live a simple kiss on the cheek is pretty normal when meeting someone, etc. So perhaps it is a more common thing where that person is from and therefore there may have been no ulterior motive behind it. I recently went to my brother's wedding and quickly realized that not everyone wanted a kiss on the cheek when I gave them their lei at the luau party - though it is custom here.
In many areas they also get free water too
Also even tho they don't pay property taxes they get the sevices of police & fire protection and possibly trash pickup!
I found this - it's from Oct 11, 2006. Interesting read!
Not so Separate Church and State—Should Christian Organizations Get Breaks from the Government?
The New York Times this week has run a series of interesting articles by Diana B. Hendriques about the ever decreasing size of the wall between church and state in a variety of matters. This particular blog will try to digest the evidence she presents. Here first are links to several of the articles
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/08/business/08religious.html?_r=2&pagewanted=6&th&emc=th&oref=slogin
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/09/business/09religious.html?th&emc=th
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/10/business/10religious.html?th&emc=th
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/11/business/11religious.html?th&emc=th
Take first the issue of Christian Day Care Schools. In many state they do not have to be run to the same standards nor have the same inspections as state run Day Care centers. For example a state run center in Alabama must: 1) have regular training for its staff; 2) submit to regular on-site inspections; 3) have a lock and key for the medicine cabinet; 4) have two sinks only one of which can be for food preparation; 4) have a license; 5) comply with the civil rights laws in regard to hiring; 6) file a report with the IRS of donations and grants to the center. None of these restrictions apply to the Church of God Day Care Center in Auburn Alabama or for that matter other such Christian Day Care Centers. One of the things that came as a surprise to me in reading the articles is that while some such exemptions are of long standing, many of these sorts of exemptions have been created in the last fifteen years. In fact, there has been a growing trend of such exemptions in the last decade or two--- more than 200 laws have been created since 1989 of this sort in a wide variety of states. One professor from Emory has bemoaned the changes in the laws and says that separation of church and state is no longer the law of our land—instead we have what he calls ‘religious affirmation action programs’. And what is especially telling is that it is low church Protestants who formerly screamed loudest about separation of church and state who are now taking full advantage of such new laws, while still preaching that the government is a menace to and is endangering the separation of church and state rules. What’s up with that?
The timing of these new breaks in the law is especially propitious since the church is going more and more into non-traditional styles of ‘ministry’--- ranging from ice cream parlors to beauty salons to athletic facilities to funeral homes to day care centers to bookstores! Churches get property tax breaks, and lee way in using their land to a degree that other organizations can only envy. Here’s one telling sentence from the first of these articles which appeared in Sunday’s paper--- “In recent years, a church-run fitness center with a tanning bed and video arcade in Minnesota, a biblical theme park in Florida, a ministry’s 1,800-acre training retreat and conference center in Michigan, religious broadcasters’ transmission towers in Washington State, and housing for teachers at church-run schools in Alaska have all been granted tax breaks by local officials — or, when they balked, by the courts or state legislators.” Of course all these facilities have city water, city trash service, city fire and police protection and so on—they just don’t have to pay the taxes which pay for them.
In some cases, it is right to ask are all of these exemptions given to activities that are 1) not for profit; 2) could be called charitable activities that benefit the whole community and the like? It is easier to answer this question when it comes to soup kitchens open to all, drug rehab centers open to all, clothing and shelter services open to all. For example, my church runs a ‘Room at the Inn’ service for the homeless several nights a month. These sorts of services do indeed benefit the whole community and are a public service. But some of these perks seem to go well beyond the intent of First Amendment which of course says that Congress shall make no law in regard to the free establishment of religion or prohibiting the free exercise thereof. In what way is freedom of religion at issue in the establishment of a Christian beauty parlor? Inquiring minds want to know. When you discover tax exempt Christian old folk’s homes that are raking in huge sums of money, do not take the poor or indigent, and bleed dry every last resource of various old people, you have to say--- THIS IS NOT A CHARITABLE ORGANIZATION.
And then there is the issue not just of tax and land use breaks, but the actual garnering of federal grants. You will be interested to know that this growing trend began with Bill Clinton in 1996. There are now federal grants and contracts that churches can regularly apply for. Just another example of everyone’s tax dollars at work. Is it really true, by and large that radical courts have been gutting our religious freedoms, or would it be fairer to say that the courts have not done this, indeed quite the opposite in the last fifteen years, but it has become more particular about the public display of religious things on public property? It seems to me that the latter is nearer the actual truth.
Lets consider another aspect of the separation issue—employees of religious institutions. Many of them have few if any legal rights when it comes to their employment. They can be dismissed without due process or proper cause. Take for instance the story of Mary Rosati. She was a novice in training in an order of nuns in Toledo. One day she went to the doctor with her Mother Superior and discovered she had breast cancer and that it was serious. The Mother Superior then announced” We will have to let her go. I don’t think we can take care of her.” (not a religious ground for dismissal. Indeed one might say that dismissal for that reason goes against the religious teaching of Jesus). Some months later Ms. Rosati was told that she was being let go because the Mother Superior and her council had concluded she was not called to be a part of the order (a religious opinion). Mary Rosati lost her health insurance in them midst of battling cancer, and still has none. Now if it had been a secular employer, Mary Rosati could have taken the matter to court and won on the basis of the American with Disabilities Act. But when Ms. Rosati went to court, the case was dismissed as an ‘ecclesiastical’ matter which was beyond the court’s jurisdiction and indeed outside the Americans with Disabilities Act. Bottom line—here we have a Christian organization trying to selfishly protect itself, at the expense of one of its own noviates. In short, the law, or lack of a law, allows Christians to behave badly towards their employees. And there are many similar tales I could tell. Take the case of Lynette Petruska, who was a chaplain at Gannon University, a Catholic school in Erie Pa. In fact she was its first female chaplain. During her brief three year tenure in this job, she apparently did her work too well. She refused to co-operate in the cover up the sexual misconduct of a senior official at the school, she refused to support the slackening of restrictions in regard to on campus rules about sexual harassment, and she was demoted and then in essence force out. Here was a woman who went through 16 years of Catholic education, was very supportive of her institution she was serving at, thought that Christian ethics should especially apply there, and probably lost her job for it. Two years have come and gone, and no court so far will touch the case because of ‘separation of church and state’, even though Rev. Gannon says that her superior acknowledged he was demoting her because she was a woman. Or I could tell you the story of the 73 year old United Methodist minister who was forced to retire from his church in Stony Brook even though he wanted to keep serving as did his church, but he bumped into the mandatory retirement rule of our denomination. He has sued, to no avail thus far. Does age discrimination have a place in the Christian workplace?
Perhaps we don’t want the state to police the church for us, but in that case, should we not be policing ourselves? Should we not set up some sort of ecclesiastical court system for all genuine Christian denominations that such people could appeal to? Couldn’t we have an accountability system for Christian colleges and institutions? Something with some clout like the Evangelical Financial Accountability organization?
But there are other issues as well. In June of this year, Governor Jeb Bush signed a piece of legislation into law which exempted “the Holy Land Experience” from paying $300,000 a year in back taxes for the last five years. Seems this ‘Christian business’ has been raking in the dough. Now I have been to this Christian theme park. It’s o.k., but it has its hokey dimensions, and it certainly isn’t a charity. It’s a for profit organization that benefits from land use laws, property laws, and tax exemption as if it were a church. Only its not—it’s a business, a theme park, only a few miles from Disneyworld and other theme parks. It cost $35 for adults and $23 fir children to get in. Charity is not the word that comes to mind. Nor is it providing any public service of a social nature at least (it is providing some dubious Biblical interpretation). I don’t have a problem with them being a business—but shouldn’t they be paying for city water, lights, streets, fire and police services, like any other business? Inquiring minds want to know.
If we look at the issue of laws invoking or ruling on the separation of church and state issue two things seem clear. They were far stricter in the mid 70s than they are today, Secondly, we cannot claim that this change is due solely to the growing political influence of the Republican religious right. In fact it has come about because Christians who are both Democrats and Republicans in Congress, the Senate, and the White House have been in favor of doing more that weakens the separation of church and state provisions. Now none of this crosses the line such that we could claim that the government is establishing or prohibition a particular religion. After all, Moslems, Jews, Hindus and others are also benefiting from these laws. But as it stands the government, both federal, state, and local is now in effect fighting secularism on its own by passing such laws. Which brings me to a point and some final questions. I haven’t even touched the fact that clergy can opt out of Social Security and get housing allowance breaks with the IRS. There is incredible scope to the amount of privileges granted in the name of religion by various levels of our government.
QUESTION ONE--- IS IT TRUE OR FALSE THAT OUR GOVERNMENT IS ANTI-CHRISTIAN? I don’t really see how we can claim it is true in any global or comprehensive sense if one looks at the trail of legislation.
QUESTION TWO—DO WE CARE IF THE SEPARATION OF CHURCH AND STATE HAS BEEN ERODED IN SOME RESPECTS, AND STRENGTHEN BY EXEMPTIONS IN OTHERS? It certainly seems that even many traditional Christian separatists care less and less about this.
QUESTION THREE—DO WE WANT THE GOVERNMENT HELPING US THRIVE IN BUSINESS, AND EXTEND THE SOCIAL GOSPEL IN VARIOUS WAYS? I don’t particularly see the latter as at all a bad thing, since it has some wide public benefit and does not amount to the establishment of religion in the doctrinal sense. As for the former, I have some questions.
QUESTION FOUR--- IF ALL THIS IS TRUE, IS THE CLAIM OF INCREASING LIBERALISM AND SECULARISM IN OUR CULTURE SIMPLY FALSE? Yes I think this is largely true on the latter issue (secularism). We are a profoundly religious people, its just not as much Christian religion as it used to be. As for the former question, I think the answer is yes and no depending on the issue. If you look at the way the nation votes as a barometer, the answer is that since 2000 signs point definitely towards no.
Prices will vary in different areas of the country.
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yep, those *pristine* areas never show REAL LIFE
PLEASE do NOT think that *pristine* neighborhoods are free of drugs, crime, domestic violence, child abuse, alcoholism, methamphetamine labs, and all the REAL stuff that goes on in MOST neighborhoods - because ALL these problems have crossed over ALL socioeconomic lines in this country!
Let her rant and rave....nobody really knows what goes on behind closed doors! Pristine, white collar, no matter what kind of area - the blight has crossed over EVERYWHERE over 30-40 years now!
And her tail covering those "delicate" areas to prevent
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Cavities in areas no longer protected by enamel.
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Question. Do many of you have problems with streets, turns, etc. driving at night in strange areas
you are not familiar with. I am not thrilled by night driving in unfamiliar towns.
It's anybody's guess
I hope it's Sanjaya, but three people forgot the words to their songs. My guess is maybe Brandon (one who forgot the words). With the exception of Lahisha, Melinda and Blake, I am not impressed with this years singers at all. It's one of the worst seasons for me.
Just old, I guess :(
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I guess
...that's why I gave up on Christianity. Jesus' message was beautiful and loving for the most part, but the religion has become inundated with intolerance and condemnation and even damnation. Religion world-wide is too much of a trigger for war and violence and I'm not sure how it got twisted into its present form(s). Well, let me take that back -- it seems as long as there has been religion humans have been fighting and killing each other over it, which is a sad advertisement for a particular religion, unfortunately.
To quote from a favorite folksong, I'm willing to "let the mystery be."
no, actually, i guess i don't. (nm)
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Well, I have 8, so I guess not . . .
and, if I had it to do over again, I would do exactly the same! My youngest will be two in June, and my oldest has two of his own. Yes, we have quite an age spread there. Our 2-year-old is the joy of our lives. One little laugh or even a smile from him, and everything else seems to pale in importance. He's a great little de-stressor.
As I have always told my children, "Friends come and go, but familes are forever."
I guess it's not who you know, but who you ?
not funny
Hey, guess what???
Still havent called… I asked if anyone else had done this. I don’t live in terror that I will fall over, have my own blood pressure cuff. I can ask if others have done this without showing up at the emergency room....
Guess you were never a kid?
As long as she's smart, then she should be able to stay out. Now if she's going to be all night, she should have the courtesy to let her mother know. I've been in that situation where I had to pay rent to my parents once I was that age. They didn't have a curfew for me, but I was considerate enough to let them know when I'd be out all night or staying with a friend. According to tradition, the female child does not move out until she's courted and then gets married? I think the OP should cut the girl a break and let her make some decisions on her own.
Are they all like that? I guess that's what I really want to know
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LOL - I guess they run out often!!
I guess it should go to you, then, b/c you know what
Ahhh, the arrogance. You should be careful! lol
You said yourself so I guess sex at 16 ok
your daughter was 17 and this relationship going on over a year. Sorta sounds like 16 to me but hey, if you are alright with letting your daughter live like that, oh well.
Sorry, I guess this has already
been posted. I got it as an email from someone.....It is really cute for Christmas...
my guess is...sm
Wagons East  Cat
my guess is .......
My Cousin Vinnie?
I guess I was probably
a bit of a Nazi then because my kids opened one at a time, they took turns handing out presents to those who were there, and we recorded each one and made them actually look at whatever it happened to be that they opened and smile and say thank you grandma or whoever...
I guess I too, was trying to be brief....
Ablation was never an option for me. Besides the adenomyosis, I had a septum inside my uterus and was told this prevented me from ever having any kind of ablative therapy.
Guess I am the only one who DID. LOL! SM
You probably know it is a musical. I loved the time period, etc. Yesterday I checked on the price of a the Sweeney Todd CD and can't wait to get it. I was very low in money, but just checking to see who had it. The song I was referring to is acutally "Not when I'm Around" sung by the young boy in the film. What a voice and what a beautiful song. Let me know if you see it, Cat. I warn you . . . not for the faint of heart! LOL.
LOL. I guess that's what I'm saying
I swear I have a four year old and a 14 year old (on 2/10) and they act like they're both four. The older one can't get that all she has to do is walk away from her sister. I let my husband deal with that one a week. LOL.
Let me guess again
You're the same who has been arguing the same nonsensical points for the last 2 days. Three words for you: LET IT GO...breathe...LET IT GO. Nobody cares!
We all second guess ourselves but---sm
Keep up the great work. My daughters are 19 and 23 but I had the same standards you have. They did not get cell phones until high school, they could not wear tank tops that their bras would show. They had curfews. My 19 year old still does when she comes home from college 1 a.m. She hates it but I want to sleep at night. I went to all of their activities even though I could have been doing my own thing because they were my children and that is what we are suppose to do. That I always knew where they were, did not let them get involved with children that we knew the parents were drug addicts etc. They have recently told me that were glad that morals were instilled in them That they now know what is right and wrong because so many people they meet in college have parents who realy dont care and have no morals.
Someday your children will tell you they appreciate the way you brought them up.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY
We can only guess, and
one possibility would be a stressful home situation that has her so stressed out that her immune system is failing. One yeast growth gets out of control, thinking can get very fuzzy. She needs relief from the stress and somebody to take care of her physical condition. That's supposed to be her parents, but something is going on there.
Just my guess.
guess what
That makes us even - because I am having a hard time believing you! If there was a significant bite, something would have been done. Been there & done that.
Again, concentrate on what your child needs, not what you need to make yourself feel righteous.
Well then I guess I know someone just like you nm
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Tx - I guess its just sad (sm)
When you realize your own relatives think of you like that. DH says if that's the way he feels then fine he can just sit down there (where they live) and think whatever they want of us and they can all praise each other and tell each other over and over how intelligent they are. Then DH said "maybe he'll get some medication for it". :-) Anyway...we've got too much going here and from now on if his family calls they get voicemail. Just is sad - couldn't imagine my family saying things like that.
I would guess so, but I don't think you
can have as big a hard drive, memory, etc. Also, the screen would be soooo small.
I guess
A lot of schools are even cutting art programs (which is too bad because they keep SPORTS!)
At least the self-satisfaction of having a degree is a plus!
I guess 47 or 48.
I had tried a LOT of SSRIs but none of them worked. Effexor is an SNRI, which I guess is what made the difference. I was on a pretty big dose, 75 mg twice a day, for about 1-1/2 years. Very recently this has started to feel like too much...I'm not sure if my brain chemistry has become permanently "unscrambled" (which would be nice) - or if it's because I'm completely through menopause at this point -- but at some point a few months ago I started to feel "wired" and to have very bad nightmares. I've started cutting back VERY slowly. I don't know if I'll end up getting off it altogether. For the moment 37.5 twice a day feels okay. I took more than a month to wean this down, & even that might have been a little quick for this drug.
My main symptoms during menopause were (nice to be able to use the past tense) SEVERE, debilitating anxiety, almost a physical sensation of dread, a lot like extreme stage fright. There were days I was afraid to get out of bed and literally stayed in bed until 10, 11 in the morning, terrified, with the covers over my head. And explosive anger. I can't tell you how many nasty e-mails I fired off because some innocuous thing someone said made my head explode. Then I would be terrified to look at my e-mail for a week. This was all very tough. I did my share of mopping up after myself, but I did not tell anyone what was prompting my behavior. Maybe it would have helped, I don't know. At the time it felt like that would have been making excuses, but it's possible people would have understood, or maybe I would have gotten help sooner if I'd been able to articulate to myself -- out loud -- what the problem was. Adding to this was the resistance I have always had to using "female problems" as an excuse for anything -- not because it wasn't warranted from time to time, but because of the stereotype of women being less, what...reliable? level-headed? because of hormones. I didn't want to feed into that, even though Heaven Help Us, testosterone is a hormone, too, & a lot more dangerous than estrogen, from what I can see in the world around me.
Anyway, I know there are people who breeze through menopause. I was not one of them. I'm very glad it's over.
guess i'd
buy some sanitary pads and maybe have some Midol on hand. I've seen things about what we are doing (eating?) that is thought to create early puberty in young women, but can't remember what it is...might also have some hot cocoa on hand (warm drinks soothe)to help with cramps, encourage moving/walking if she gets too uncomfortable. Just let her know to tell you what she needs, and where supplies are...
Well, guess you could say same for why do I want my BMW
But, my husband buys for me and he says just wants to get me what he considers the best. I do not know what they cost and I do not know what he pays monthly just that he buys them for me.
Just a guess . . .
He gave you something very rare and special, the $2 bill represents your son.
I guess we can see where she got it from...
...if her mother didn't do anything about the situation, that's pretty indicative that she is a bully herself.
At least your mom tried. You gotta love her for that :-)
I am glad that you are an adult and no longer being bullied. What an awful thing for a child to have to go through.
my guess
My guess would be that she is in heart failure, but all the fluid in the lungs looks like pneumonia on the x-ray.
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A little bit I guess
I never really thought we looked like each other, except the way we talk our mouths are similar (loud - ha ha, actually our mouths move alike) but the last time we were in a store the cashier looked at us and asked if we were sisters. We said yes and she said "aren't you two the cutest together" - and we were 48 and 46 at the time. It was a nice compliment. But I look at pics of me and my little sister (who died when she was little) and we most definitely almost looked like twins.
how did you guess?....
:D
I guess
that Adam will be the winner. At least he should be.
Second best: Kris
Third: Danny
I do not hear anything special in Danny's voice or performance.
He was better at the beginning, kind of washed out.
Allison was much better than Danny and even better than Kris.
I bet on Adam.
my guess
ovary is misfiring.
you will need to get that checked to make sure there is nothing wrong with the ovaries.
I guess I'm the odd man out
Under certain circumstances, I might allow it. I don't agree with the 21 drinking age anyway; I grew up able to drink at 18 and somehow managed to avoid getting any DWIs nor am I an alcoholic now. In Europe, they seem to go right from the breast to the wine glass. So I would not have problems so much with the drinking as I might with who and where the drinking was happening. If there were adult supervision and it was a couple of girlfriends who are celebrating the end of the school year with a glass of champagne, I'd be okay with that. If it was a BBQ with adult chaperone and they're having a couple of beers, I would be okay with it. I would also have to know the family where it was going on so that I could confirm the adult presence. Of course, there would be strings attached- no leaving the house/yard, no driving, no getting in a car with anyone else who has been drinking no matter how sober they may seem, etc.
The fact that your child asked you is a good sign. Had she wanted to, she could have gone off to spend the night with Tiffy with you none the wiser. Even if you do end up saying no, it provides an opportunity for you to explain appropriate behaviors and the responsibilities and risks of alcohol use.
I guess she's so old she does not know
the police vehicles have video recording the events. She was putting out the story prior to the video being shown that she did nothing wrong at all. Now I hear she has quit giving interviews and hired a lawyer. Granny should have quieted down some.
Guess the writers can't keep up?
I'm still stumped as to how Meredith can say they are going to take it slow this time ... and they are naked in the bathtub at the time. Gag.
You Will Never Guess What A Child Said
I stopped to get gas this afternoon. As I was about to walk out a man & his son walked over to me to say hello. The boy was a child I worked with a few years ago when he was in kindergarten. He is now in 3rd grade. He was always a very rough talking child, just like his parents. Always talking about kicking someones ar*e, & getting drunk, poppin a cap, stuff like that. He would push the other kids out of his way, grab things away from them, couldn't stay in his seat, very hyper as well. The parents put him on meds & that really calmed him down so he could focus on his work.
The Dad said hello, then the little boy looked at me & said "I got a hot dog & its in my underwear, you wanna see it"? I'm standing there stunned & the Dad laughs hysterically & then says " He's just like me ain't he"? The clerk was frozen in disbelief & so were several customers that were standing in line. I turned & walked out the door & as I was leaving I heard the Dad say to the boy, "you're somethin else Billy, thats a good one, I'm proud of you son".
What a foul mouth bunch of hillbillys they are. If one of my kids had said anything remotely like that their little mouths would be washed out with soap, they would have been made to apologize, & they would never do it again. I cannot believe that a Father would be proud of his son for talking dirty like that to an adult, especially a woman. Where in the world do these people come from?
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