I guess I lucked out in the stepmother department
Posted By: HappyFlaMT on 2008-12-05
In Reply to: society does not get it - stepmom
Because I honestly love her as much as my biological mother. I was 8 when my dad remarried, and to be honest, my sister and I were pretty much brats. It wasn't instant family love, but she and my dad worked together to make sure that none of us were treated any differently just because of who had which parent. She did look at it as an adoptive type situation and even gave me a cross stitch poem about how I didn't grow under her heart but in it. It has been 27 years since they married, I never call her my "step"mom except when I'm trying to clarify things for people, and I always tell people that I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters, not steps, halfs, full, whatever, because that is how we were taught. I know not every situation turns out like this, probably only a minority, but it does happen. I'm sorry if I offended anyone because that was not my intent.
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went through this too, but we lucked out
and the vet saved him. Did your vet say anything about parvovirus becoming resistent to the immunization? Mine did tell me that it was impossible to kill outside once it had been there, but that was 20 years ago.
Wicked stepmother??
You just did this "girl" a huge favor by making her take responsibility for herself. I am not much older than she is, but I have been taking responsibility for decades...what is wrong with her, other than she seems totally incapable of managing her own life, can't make a decent adult choice to save her fanny and she has someone to constantly bale her out?
I am GLAD you cut her off! I am proud of you for doing it too, it took guts. By helping her at every turn you simply encourage and enable her behavior.
BRAVO!
My stepmother and father (a total man's man)
just had their bathroom remodeled and had a big sunken tub put in just so he could take baths. He is 64 and in very good health, but finally realized how good a tub soak feels. My step-mom tends to light candles for him and add bubbles and he loves everybit of it. BTW, she often joins him as well. they also have weekly at home massages by a masseuse. Men need to slow down a little sometimes and enjoy the gentler things in life.
Sounds great but what department
do you find this in? Never have seen in my Publix but certainly don't mind asking. I will get and try, anything to keep those babies off the new stuff.
Go to a department store and have it professionaly done. sm
You don't have to buy all the expensive products that were used on you unless you want to. Just pay attention to what is used and then go to a discount store and use cheaper products.
I agree. The health department
needs to go in and take over. The poor little girl is probably dealing with an alcoholic or drugged-up mother or maybe she's mentally ill. The little girl shouldn't be living with such an irresponsible mother. At the very least the health dept needs to go in and fumigate and clean them up and monitor the house and family members. Better that than having 30 families trying to contend with this problem.
Check with your local department of the aging, too. nm
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I would check with your parks and wildlife department. sm
I believe in Texas it is against the law. It used to be and I think still is.
Deer are beautiful animals, but they are very destructive. They are best admired in the wild.
Ask for first/last name and then call local police department
to see if they will do a check on these people to see if there are any reports of misconduct. This sounds too good to be true, actually. Light housing for free rent may lead to cleaning the pool and pressure washing the house.
I have been trying to find a room mate off Craig's List. There are many legitimate but why take a chance of ending up profiled on Nancy Grace, is my thought. Another woman I know who has done this successfully takes their name and birth date and calls the local police dept. She said when she tells them she is a single woman and about to interview a stranger for a roommate, they oblige.
I'd also say, take a gun if you have one.
Robbery is going to skyrocket in this economy. That is another concern.
I did contact the State Department. Sorry I asked....
I had no idea there was a website I could go to in order to get information, but I did find it after I posted my question. The travel advisory is largely for border towns. As far as Cancun, they just ask you use common sense in travel i.e. do not go alone after dark or to "bad" parts of the city, careful with money etc. The same advice you would give someone visiting L.A., Detroit, or New York for the first time.
I'd check with your state's unemployment department.
Likely they have better information than your co-worker. ;) They probably have a website with all the information about who is eligible, how to apply, etc.
Of course, if you don't like the job, there's really no reason to fight to stay on, if you can't meet their goals and expectations. And be sure to make a note of what you just said, about the working conditions, and the fact that the people aren't friendly certainly contributes to a hostile work environment.
Meanwhile... start perusing the "companies" section of this board (and the MT Companies section of MT Chat as well) to find names of companies that people like working for, hunt down their websites, and start applying online. And keep a list of the ones you apply to, when you applied, and what happened. You'll need that information if you are approved for unemployment, to prove you are job-searching.
I did what I just talked about above, and that was how I found my new job, after nearly 28 years working for a doc who closed his practice....
Best of luck, and keep us posted!
The local police department told me to call them so
I called the department back (not 911) and advised them to please not tell anyone else that. I also had the email address for this person at Paws and sent her an email telling her sorry I got her at a bad time, did not mean to interrupt her day and to have a nice day. I went back within the next week to check again on this doggie, no other reason. Hubby did not particularly like when I told him (later after the deal done) but fed her again and then followed her to see where she was going. She went to some homes close around and I figured maybe that was where she lived. No one that I called there seemed to have wanted to give assistance. I could not bring her home when I first saw her because noticed she had droppy boobies and need puppies close around, but ?? I never expected a reply like that from someone who supposedly helps animals. Makes you kinda cynical, doesn’t it?
Ask the Department Stores that sell them. They often have travel sizes. NM
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Call a minister or hospital social service department - nm
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Thanks TravelinMT. Point well taken. I did check out the State Department's advisory
and they do have one, but they break it down into areas of Mexicos. Obviously, it is the border towns that are dealing with high crimes and they warn about going there. As far as the "tourist" cities such as Mazatlan, Cancun, Puerto Vallarta etc.. they ask you to use just common sense, as you have stated, not walking alone at dark, down alleys, and just caution with money etc.. I also travel to Mexico every year (love, love PV by the way) but this is the first time we've been to Cancun and everyone just freaked me out. I have always felt safe there. The people really do encourage tourism but that is how they survive in most cases. I definitely would feeling safer walking around Mexico than some places in large US cities like in Chicago etc. Crime is everywhere. You just have to protect yourself and use common sense.
The department you deal with in Michigan for things like this is called "Friend of the Court".
You need to get in touch with your version of this in your state and tell them what is going on and file a form for re-do the visitation agreement. You may even have to see your original divorce attorney. We went through this with my husband's ex-wife and he filed papers to amend the visitation and what they call an "in pro per" form. Which basically is a DIY form. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but you need to get started now to get your ducks in a row.
Have you thought about talking to somebody at the local VA office in your state or city? Those guys are a wealth of information.
Good luck to you.
I used to do store security for a major department store - try this -
Go to the store and ask to speak with someone from the security department. Tell them what you have stated here. Hope they are able to help you!
It's anybody's guess
I hope it's Sanjaya, but three people forgot the words to their songs. My guess is maybe Brandon (one who forgot the words). With the exception of Lahisha, Melinda and Blake, I am not impressed with this years singers at all. It's one of the worst seasons for me.
Just old, I guess :(
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I guess
...that's why I gave up on Christianity. Jesus' message was beautiful and loving for the most part, but the religion has become inundated with intolerance and condemnation and even damnation. Religion world-wide is too much of a trigger for war and violence and I'm not sure how it got twisted into its present form(s). Well, let me take that back -- it seems as long as there has been religion humans have been fighting and killing each other over it, which is a sad advertisement for a particular religion, unfortunately.
To quote from a favorite folksong, I'm willing to "let the mystery be."
no, actually, i guess i don't. (nm)
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Well, I have 8, so I guess not . . .
and, if I had it to do over again, I would do exactly the same! My youngest will be two in June, and my oldest has two of his own. Yes, we have quite an age spread there.  Our 2-year-old is the joy of our lives. One little laugh or even a smile from him, and everything else seems to pale in importance. He's a great little de-stressor.
As I have always told my children, "Friends come and go, but familes are forever."
I guess it's not who you know, but who you ?
not funny
Hey, guess what???
Still havent called… I asked if anyone else had done this. I don’t live in terror that I will fall over, have my own blood pressure cuff. I can ask if others have done this without showing up at the emergency room....
Guess you were never a kid?
As long as she's smart, then she should be able to stay out. Now if she's going to be all night, she should have the courtesy to let her mother know. I've been in that situation where I had to pay rent to my parents once I was that age. They didn't have a curfew for me, but I was considerate enough to let them know when I'd be out all night or staying with a friend. According to tradition, the female child does not move out until she's courted and then gets married? I think the OP should cut the girl a break and let her make some decisions on her own.
Are they all like that? I guess that's what I really want to know
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LOL - I guess they run out often!!
I guess it should go to you, then, b/c you know what
Ahhh, the arrogance. You should be careful! lol
You said yourself so I guess sex at 16 ok
your daughter was 17 and this relationship going on over a year. Sorta sounds like 16 to me but hey, if you are alright with letting your daughter live like that, oh well.
Sorry, I guess this has already
been posted. I got it as an email from someone.....It is really cute for Christmas...
my guess is...sm
Wagons East  Cat
my guess is .......
My Cousin Vinnie?
I guess I was probably
a bit of a Nazi then because my kids opened one at a time, they took turns handing out presents to those who were there, and we recorded each one and made them actually look at whatever it happened to be that they opened and smile and say thank you grandma or whoever...
I guess I too, was trying to be brief....
Ablation was never an option for me. Besides the adenomyosis, I had a septum inside my uterus and was told this prevented me from ever having any kind of ablative therapy.
Guess I am the only one who DID. LOL! SM
You probably know it is a musical. I loved the time period, etc. Yesterday I checked on the price of a the Sweeney Todd CD and can't wait to get it. I was very low in money, but just checking to see who had it. The song I was referring to is acutally "Not when I'm Around" sung by the young boy in the film. What a voice and what a beautiful song. Let me know if you see it, Cat. I warn you . . . not for the faint of heart! LOL.
LOL. I guess that's what I'm saying
I swear I have a four year old and a 14 year old (on 2/10) and they act like they're both four. The older one can't get that all she has to do is walk away from her sister. I let my husband deal with that one a week. LOL.
Let me guess again
You're the same who has been arguing the same nonsensical points for the last 2 days. Three words for you: LET IT GO...breathe...LET IT GO. Nobody cares!
We all second guess ourselves but---sm
Keep up the great work. My daughters are 19 and 23 but I had the same standards you have. They did not get cell phones until high school, they could not wear tank tops that their bras would show. They had curfews. My 19 year old still does when she comes home from college 1 a.m. She hates it but I want to sleep at night. I went to all of their activities even though I could have been doing my own thing because they were my children and that is what we are suppose to do. That I always knew where they were, did not let them get involved with children that we knew the parents were drug addicts etc. They have recently told me that were glad that morals were instilled in them That they now know what is right and wrong because so many people they meet in college have parents who realy dont care and have no morals.
Someday your children will tell you they appreciate the way you brought them up.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY
We can only guess, and
one possibility would be a stressful home situation that has her so stressed out that her immune system is failing. One yeast growth gets out of control, thinking can get very fuzzy. She needs relief from the stress and somebody to take care of her physical condition. That's supposed to be her parents, but something is going on there.
Just my guess.
guess what
That makes us even - because I am having a hard time believing you! If there was a significant bite, something would have been done. Been there & done that.
Again, concentrate on what your child needs, not what you need to make yourself feel righteous.
Well then I guess I know someone just like you nm
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Tx - I guess its just sad (sm)
When you realize your own relatives think of you like that. DH says if that's the way he feels then fine he can just sit down there (where they live) and think whatever they want of us and they can all praise each other and tell each other over and over how intelligent they are. Then DH said "maybe he'll get some medication for it". :-) Anyway...we've got too much going here and from now on if his family calls they get voicemail. Just is sad - couldn't imagine my family saying things like that.
I would guess so, but I don't think you
can have as big a hard drive, memory, etc. Also, the screen would be soooo small.
I guess
A lot of schools are even cutting art programs (which is too bad because they keep SPORTS!)
At least the self-satisfaction of having a degree is a plus!
I guess 47 or 48.
I had tried a LOT of SSRIs but none of them worked. Effexor is an SNRI, which I guess is what made the difference. I was on a pretty big dose, 75 mg twice a day, for about 1-1/2 years. Very recently this has started to feel like too much...I'm not sure if my brain chemistry has become permanently "unscrambled" (which would be nice) - or if it's because I'm completely through menopause at this point -- but at some point a few months ago I started to feel "wired" and to have very bad nightmares. I've started cutting back VERY slowly. I don't know if I'll end up getting off it altogether. For the moment 37.5 twice a day feels okay. I took more than a month to wean this down, & even that might have been a little quick for this drug.
My main symptoms during menopause were (nice to be able to use the past tense) SEVERE, debilitating anxiety, almost a physical sensation of dread, a lot like extreme stage fright. There were days I was afraid to get out of bed and literally stayed in bed until 10, 11 in the morning, terrified, with the covers over my head. And explosive anger. I can't tell you how many nasty e-mails I fired off because some innocuous thing someone said made my head explode. Then I would be terrified to look at my e-mail for a week. This was all very tough. I did my share of mopping up after myself, but I did not tell anyone what was prompting my behavior. Maybe it would have helped, I don't know. At the time it felt like that would have been making excuses, but it's possible people would have understood, or maybe I would have gotten help sooner if I'd been able to articulate to myself -- out loud -- what the problem was. Adding to this was the resistance I have always had to using "female problems" as an excuse for anything -- not because it wasn't warranted from time to time, but because of the stereotype of women being less, what...reliable? level-headed? because of hormones. I didn't want to feed into that, even though Heaven Help Us, testosterone is a hormone, too, & a lot more dangerous than estrogen, from what I can see in the world around me.
Anyway, I know there are people who breeze through menopause. I was not one of them. I'm very glad it's over.
guess i'd
buy some sanitary pads and maybe have some Midol on hand. I've seen things about what we are doing (eating?) that is thought to create early puberty in young women, but can't remember what it is...might also have some hot cocoa on hand (warm drinks soothe)to help with cramps, encourage moving/walking if she gets too uncomfortable. Just let her know to tell you what she needs, and where supplies are...
Well, guess you could say same for why do I want my BMW
But, my husband buys for me and he says just wants to get me what he considers the best. I do not know what they cost and I do not know what he pays monthly just that he buys them for me.
Just a guess . . .
He gave you something very rare and special, the $2 bill represents your son.
I guess we can see where she got it from...
...if her mother didn't do anything about the situation, that's pretty indicative that she is a bully herself.
At least your mom tried. You gotta love her for that :-)
I am glad that you are an adult and no longer being bullied. What an awful thing for a child to have to go through.
my guess
My guess would be that she is in heart failure, but all the fluid in the lungs looks like pneumonia on the x-ray.
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A little bit I guess
I never really thought we looked like each other, except the way we talk our mouths are similar (loud - ha ha, actually our mouths move alike) but the last time we were in a store the cashier looked at us and asked if we were sisters. We said yes and she said "aren't you two the cutest together" - and we were 48 and 46 at the time. It was a nice compliment. But I look at pics of me and my little sister (who died when she was little) and we most definitely almost looked like twins.
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