I guess I could have stated my comments
Posted By: trose on 2007-04-07
In Reply to: I have an insane idea- order both--- be interesting - sm -
a little more detail. Both MIL and DIL like to cook. We always have a wonderful Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner. I guess I was just raised in a family that we had family traveling in to visit, we would do just a little extra. BTW, we actucally have a joint Pizza Hut and KFC restaurant. We call it the Cluck and Hut. That is why I suggested KFC. Doesn't matter now, I got butchered at the beauty shop last night and have been crying ever since. I am not leaving the house for at least 2 weeks.
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I second those comments!
It is like parents with the loudest, rudest kids think the entire world should put up with them. The parents seem tuned out. How nice for them! The rest of us have to be subjected to their screaming, whining, running around tables, kicking the back of the booth, and even pulling of our hair. If you dare say anything the parents look at you as if you are the devil himself. Bring on the animals any day of the week!
Thanks everyone for your comments (sm)
I am taking your suggestions to heart...he has a way of making me feel like everything is always my fault..I am going to call an abuse hotline as well as AA and just talk to them and see what they think. Thanks again so much.
In appropriate comments from
Taking a poll here...how many say something to their MIL if inappropriate comments are made and how many just let it role off their back no matter how hurtful the comments are? and I don't mean the first time a comment is made, I'm talking about repeated, obvious, and sometimes in front of other people putting you on the spot. and I'm talking about a MIL that lives close and cannot be avoided.
Thank you everyone for your comments sm
It helps a lot to be reminded that I am doing the right thing. I think my tendency is to just want to fix everything but this time I can't.
Looking for inappropriate comments? I don't think so! (sm)
Okay......and thanks for your input. I am the OP and I just want for you to know that I think that your comment was a little on the ignorant side. "I am not soooo appalled." I was a little shocked that he cared so much to go out of his way to make sure I found the right size bra. (He walked away from his job to come over to the checkout counter that I was at and felt the need to ask that, even though I was being checked out by a female clerk that was fully capable of making sure that I found what I needed?) Even the female clerk looked at him and said "What are you talking about?" I told her about the bra I returned to his service desk an hour earlier and she said "He is weird. That is none of his business!"
For the record, I receive male attention frequently and I am not easily offended or overly prudish when comments are made to me. This on the other hand was a bit strange.
My intentions were to ask others if they would consider this question to be inappropriate or not if they had been asked the same question under the same circumstances. I am not playing 'poor victim' here as I consider this a minor incident (yet still inappropriate).
In my opinion, it sounds to me like you don't get many comments offered to you and perhaps you would welcome them if you did? (That's what I get from your comment anyways!)
Exactly, Hayseed. Just look at the comments
on here. I feel sorry for her. People go through things like this all the time in life and do some of the things she has done, but they don't have to read about it in the paper the next morning. I think she needs some help and her family really needs to step in. I read an article that the guy she was seeing last said she would curl into a ball after they had s** and would say, why can't they just leave me alone. It's really sad. I don't think she is a bad person, but that she needs help. She's obviously crying out for help and is going through a lot right now. Everyone on here that has been divorced, just imagine everything about your divorce being front page...it's already painful enough without all that. People are cut throat.
You got me!! Even with the comments below, I didnt get it.
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Thanks all for the nice comments. Yes
Hayseed, he is a boxer. His name is Dempsey. He is the only thing keeping me sane lately LOL.
smart comments
Me, too. Makes me want to jump in and blast them back! No reason for it.
HA HA HA - loved your comments
Perfect...lmao here....I'm going to cut you off, I hope you believe that. HA HA HA....too funny. I can tell you've got a great sense of humor and also a wonderful outlook on life.
Think I was too harsh in my comments to you sm
I apologize, I am very raw right now from undeserved treatment by DIL so when I saw your posting title, it bothered me. I love my grandkids so much that I would welcome a list of "rules" if one were presented to me. It's too bad she uses the Bible, I have had this done to me more than once by those who misunderstand the good book and use it as a weapon. I certainly would have a heart-to-heart with her, don't lose your temper, and let it be known that interpretation of the Bible is a very private affair and she should never mention demons, bring a Bible to your home, etc., etc. Give her the option of playing by your rules and an option of her only playing children's games, watching a movie, etc., and keeping her opinions to herself. Give her supervised visiting priviliges and then you're off the hook if she doesn't accept. If she persists, then she truly is in need of psychological help which is not up to you to provide. Give her the choice and if she chooses to keep it up, then you'll have no recourse, little kids don't need this. At least you tried, it's her choice to not adhere to your rules, unfortunately, she's missing out on a lot, I wish she could see how lucky she is to be "talked to" and given options. Good luck with it. Hate the sin and not the sinner. I once had to lay down the law with my sister and the Bible. I have made it clear that I won't tolerate Bible talk, she can come any time but the conversation has to be light, not inappropriate, not religious and no politics. It has worked pretty well, once in awhile she has a slip and has to be reminded but we are talking - no religion, no end-of-the world,no Jesus talk, it takes reinforcing every once in awhile. Good luck with it all, it's stressful.
Not sure how to take your comments at this point but (sm)
I don't think I am amazing in any way. I think I had no other choice than to leave and I will probably live the rest of my life on a wing and a prayer.
I didn't see your comments before sm
but it is a subject that has been driving me nuts for several years. I am trying to figure out what happened to decency!
As I stated, (OP)
I'm all for it if the child earns it, and clearly a child making that much improvement definitely has earned an award...I am not against them totally, just think enough is enough already...I was waiting on the best teeth, hair, clothes award to come up next (not really, but you know what I mean--I hope)
In everything I have seen so far, she has not stated - sm
that she was using an birth control. If she just came forward to tell the whole world she was pregnant and what a "surprise" it was, with no mention of BC, saying, oops I must have forgotten a pill, my patch fell off, or my diaphragm slipped (not that I can see a 16-y/o using a diaphragm). Just the whole thing, and timing of it to me screams planned pregnancy; though the boyfriend may not have known about it. She is a dumb kid, just ruined her career and promise of a lucrative acting future. She may bounce back but not for at least 5 years I would think. Disney will dump her (as they should, they are promoting kids shows, not horny kids who don't know how to use any of the methods of BC that they can get in a local drug store). While it takes balls to keep a child at such a young age (a girl I knew got pregnant at 15 and kept the baby, I admired her principals but though she was nuts too), I still think it is a dumb thing to do. She should have kept her mouth shut and gotten an abortion. Any girl under the age of 20 (and some older) are just not ready to have a baby, assuming of course that they fully take care of the child. I am sure this kid will have a nanny and Jamie-Lynn won't do much of the actually child-rearing which is wrong too. I wasn't ready to have a kid until my late 20s, and if either of my girls come home at 16, 17, 18 pregnant they are not having that kid; and if they decide they just have to have it, I will not become a mom to it or raise it, I would leave it all to them. My mom told us before any of us had kids that she would not be a babysitter to our kids, (meaning day-care provider), and we all held our own taking care of our own kids, never pawning them off on someone else for the day, weekends, etc. (Other than a babysitter for going out now and then). Would love to see if her mom actually makes her raise this kid.
As I STATED above
I was NOT a civilian, I was a Marine working on an Army base! And, as I stated above, the Army is MUCH more lax than the Marines! The Army promotes people to Sgt in 3 to 4 years! Just one example of the many differences between the 2! And even still, it does matter who you work for, who the IG is, etc.
Very, very well stated. nm
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i have already addressed this. they blow those comments off
this was a TEACHER.
Where are the nasty comments. just some very strong
opinions that happen to not agree with your opinion. I thought we were all just discussing. So what if someone doesn't agree with my opinion, that's fine. We are all entitled to our opinion and we just have to agree to disagree. Please don't take this so personally. I don't think any of it was aimed at you. 
He has made a lot of comments about my weight (sm)
so I have been to self-conscious to be with him. But if he is using my undies doesn't that mean he wants me? Or not? I'm confused.
Any comments from DWTS fans?
I missed a bit of yesterday's Dancing with the Stars finale show, but looks like Helio and Julianne overall had the strongest performance.
What happened to Mel and Maks' freestyle? They were like kinda deflated or something.
IMO, Marie and Jonathan usually come up with pleasant surprises, but last night's freestyle was a real puzzler - I am not sure why Jonathan would agree to choreograph such a cutesy (yawn) routine when the competition is so fast and fierce. Marie was a bit too vocal with the judges...after all, they are the "experts."
I can't even deal with these comments. Thx for your concern.
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I'm giving up negative comments
I'm going to let only positive comments pass my lips, otherwise I will stay quiet. Believe me, the Lord knows what a sacrifice this will be for me.
Her web site asks for comments so
I left her some, none probably she would have liked, but what I and others just like me are thinking. I said, no job, no income, 6 other kids, no real housing of your own, food stamps, why bring 8 more into this world. What were you thinking?
Sorry, the drama has just stated again
in the Bahamas so here another 24/7 coverage for anyone who wants the updates. Oh, forgot to mention her mother has just filed another suit in Florida for disposition of the body! My goodness!
That part did not need to be stated at all--sm
as it surely led some to think that it was because he was Korean that he did this. He spent most of his school years in America, so he would not have had that particular culture that you brought up, in his head. He was a troubled young man and I surely don't think it was because he was Korean. JMO
Someone on MQ board stated
last week theirs was showing up already in direct deposit for a post date of Monday, April 28. I heard there will be direct deposits all this week for those who had their tax refund direct deposited. Keeping my fingers crossed as I should be in the next group.
As I stated before, if you knew what
the emails said, you would think differently about the whole situation. I have told her to not contact me if she isn't getting the kind of response she thinks she deserves or wants. It is not my place to give her any info about her bio dad. If she found me, she can find him. I have no right to allow her to disrupt his life, just as she has no right to disrupt mine if I don't want her to. Again, so sorry if I don't come across as the loving, nurturing mommy type to you. Is your life unfulfilled, because if so, I'll give you her number!
If things were as she stated then yes ...sm
she was a good owner. The only thing I disagree with the former pitbull owner is personally I won't take my dogs out in public loose. On a ranch wherever. They stated they had the dog at a ranch with them where the dog went frequently with no leash. I understand they had no reason to leash it because they didn't see it as dangerous but mine has never been dangerous eitehr. But see with me I wouldn't even let my dog run loose in my front yard and I live in the country. There is too much potential for accidents. What if he runs to the road and gets run over? What if someone pulls up and he doesn't know them? How would he react to a stranger? As the owner I have to make sure he doesn't get harmed or harm anyone else. They have to be on a leash if I take them anywhere. That isn't just my pitbull but beagle also. My pitbull is kept either in my backyard in a fenced in area he can't get out of or in the house. My pitbull has not given me reason to isolate him but I just have a rule that he stays in my control at all times. Some people do allow their pets to go in public without leashes or to go to friends houses or where they work and not leash them and that is okay for them but that is also how accidents happen. My dogs are not mean. But they never have that opportunity to bite or anything. If someone comes over my pit doesn't know he is put in the backyard and then maybe brought in and introduced to the new person and he is usually fine. I am a responsible owner. This is with any dog I have not just the pit. I don't allow the beagle out in public either not cause I think she is dangerous by all means she isn't but what if she gets ran over if she isn't leashed or in the fenced in yard. I just feel like it is my responsibility to protect them and other people from them whatever breed they may be. That is the only thing I think the former pit owner could have done different BUT not all people agree with dogs being leashed or isolated in fenced in yards. Everyone has a right to not like pits. And some are mean. Some are very dangerous. But a lot of them are so sweet and so loveable. You just don't know the love some can show. I have a beagle and a pit inside and the pit believe it or not is more affectionate. Not to say the beagle isn't affectionate but she is not AS affectionate as the pit. I am just stating that I believe all dogs should be kept on a leash or in a fenced in yard they can't get out of. I also have a warning sign on the fence saying warning: Dog. Just in case. He may not would bite but in case I will put the sign up and people will know he is there.
No, I think I stated that wrong
They, for some reason, think we voted for GW (which we didn't). They mainly believe we voted for GW because we lived in the same city as their wacked out relatives who did vote for GW, so they just assumed that because we lived in the same city we voted the same. We voted independent but because they voted for AG and then JK, they think they have higher intelligence than us. Even when we told them we didn't vote for GW. It didn't matter because we didn't vote for who they voted for they consider us the lesser.
Know exactly what I stated and any number
approaching 8 is a litter. I have enough sense to know difference between normal births and in my words, nothing but a litter. The mother needs to be spayed. Now come back on that, also.
I like Navy. I have had nice comments when I wear it. nm
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I'm originally from NJ, and I've endured a lot of comments.
If one more person asks me, "Which exit?" I might run him/her over!
And yes, when I was growing up, it was indeed the Garden State. I grew up running through tomato fields and along corn rows. It was wonderful!
She already stated that the garage was full
and that they said they would take them instead. Sometimes you do things like that for family, ya know?
Also, she would most definitely say, "why did you store them near the street where you had other things stolen before and stored yours in a safe place?" That is negligence!
Since their quads were not stolen, only the ones right by the street, it is obvious they acted negligently. She stated that the only things stolen on the property were right near the street before. Why would someone put something that they are storing for someone in the same place? That is negligence.
I have no doubt she would probably tell the OP that they should have cleaned the garage and took care of their own quads, but legally, her sister is at fault.
Stepped on a lot of toes when I stated
about how these posts come across, i.e. women stating how to take time of the baby, soccer time, cooking, doing the clothes, etc. and still complaining about not being taken as professional. Well, duh. As you stated, the perception is doubled when working from home your life is a bunch of bon-bons. Just the other day was told by a friend I could wear my PJs if I wanted to while working. That is definitely not something I do but the perception is there regardless and then the MTs come on here oh woe is me, what will I do with Jr. while I'm working. They should have to do the work like your grandmother years ago and probably would be grateful to have the opportunity to be at home and really keep their attention on their MT work instead of moaning and groaning. If you have to do your housework while working, do it and don't moan about it. Comes with being a mother and working at the same time.
Rosie O'Donnell as stated below
Yes, stated in post I take supplement
and that is the gluc/chon daily, no I do not stretch because usually hit the floor on a run to do all I need to get done. I took arthritic swim class for the pain and it got worse so don’t feel exercise is all that.
This is 100% correct and like I stated earlier
The mother is making excuses for them not to go. She needs to check her attitude because kids play on this. Pack a bunch of things they like and don’t play into their crying. She apparently does not care much about the MIL- it comes out in her posts- saying she only wants to show them off? Most grandparents want to show off g'kids. This is not unusual.
The OP stated below in the thread that started this whole
conversation that he says he has told her "everything" he knows. If that's the case, then why not tell her about his education. She loves him, for Pete's sake. He does sound like a wonderful man. I just don't understand the secretiveness. It's not like she is a casual acquaintance. This is the person he has chosen to spend his life with, so why not share his life with her. My husband didn't even finish high school but he didn't mind sharing it with me. Maybe we're just strange, but that's the way it is at our house (been married almost 30 years).
Male psychologist on CNN stated SM
he was powerful man who was afraid to discuss his feelings with his wife and "just wanted a hug". Pretty expensive, ahem, hugs.
question about rude comments regarding child with dyslexia. sm
my 11-yo DD was spending the night with her friend. she has dyslexia and has ever since diagnosed in 2nd grade. she struggles quite a bit in school. this year she didn't pass the 5th grade because she didn't pass her TAKS test in math (state required to be promoted). i picked her up today from the friend's house and she says so and so's dad told her she was "lazy" because she didn't pass the TAKS test. of course, his daughter is a straight A student without help and is an only child. i am furious at this!! am i wrong to feel furious and how to i address to him that he needs to be cautious as to how he words things and says things to little kids with disabilities? it is enough that they get ridicled and belittled by their fellow students, much less their parents!! i know this will only be the beginning of what she will have to endure as school starts back. i wanted to march right over there and give him a piece of my mind immediately, but thought i would calm down first and see what great ideas you bright ladies have to share so i don't regret blowing off my steam in the wrong way. HELP! never had a child held back before so i know it will be a challenge to get through this for her. 
I read all the comments and I agree with the poster who wrote
'One has to teach people how to treat you' and one has to tell people what is imoportant to oneself.
It is inexcusable not to call or meet one's mother for mother's day and Christmas, etc.....
In reply to your post where you stated, and I quote: (sm)
"I think that is why pharmaceutical companies are in the business (reference to to making money) or am I missing something here? "IMO, yes, you are missing something. IMO, Pharmaceutial Companies and the medications they produce save millions of lives each year, as well as allowing ill people to lead productive lives, improve their quality of life, as well as extended their life. While I do agree with your statement regarding making money, I believe wholeheartedly that medications save and extend peoples' lives.
You stated, "most likely won't give up for adoption, "
as they don't want to be perceived as a bad person. Placing a child up for adoption that you know you are unable to care for properly is a selfless act, as well as a responsible, and most difficult one.
Stated Income Home Loan
I am a self-employed IC and have purchased 4 homes in 4 different states as a single person. I was able to obtain a Stated Income Mortgage based on my credit, rather than my W2. No tax info was used, needed or requested. I guess, if your income is needed along with your husband's to qualify for a loan, then you would need the W2 info. But as a single person you can obtain a home loan based on your credit and not your tax info. Also, if you don't have enough for a down payment, you can take out a "second" against the house you are purchasing to finance your downpayment. You will have a short-term payment for the downpayment and your 30 yr note on the home. I was also able to obtain very low interest rates based on my credit rating.
Good luck, I did have to provide extra documents when I purchased one home with my exhusband.
they stated HALF of the money stayed here in US, not just for
the dying kids in Africa, but for underpriviledged kids here too.
It is sold, like I stated, to recoup not only my money
but also to pay what the court costs are. I had cash that day and only put $40.00 on my credit card. Doesn’t matter because I have my receipt and have the backing of the court. I tell you, I am not the only person this store has tried to skim-scam because another person in court with same 1. They have 4 big stores and guess what? I am not heading out to "do my shopping" and that is I am going with my sunglasses to choose which pieces I want to take this Tuesday (if no money forthcoming). It has been over a year so I do not think they would remember my 1 time in their store. This place now owes me over $700.00!! After this I plan on calling better business bureau and logging complaint against them also.
To the poster above who stated "she's 80, why'd you wait so long to sm
share the gospel." Well, thanks for your encouragement (not).
I haven't been a Christian that long myself and she lived 1,200 miles away. It's just not something that comes naturally to me to share Jesus with all of my unsaved and "lost" family members. I just try to live my life for Jesus and be full of love and hope and hopefully they will ask me what's different about me (which some have asked before), though we just don't see each other that often!
I have had to really study my Bible about the "lost" and this whole situation with my grandmother. I feel led by God over and over that it is HE who calls others to Him, not us. I did mention Heaven to my grandmother on her deathbed on Thursday afternoon and she put her hands up as to "shush" me. She also mumbled "Don't question me." I believe that is what she was trying to tell me. That was the last conversation I had with her.
This is very, very difficult for me. If you have anything negative or rude to say, right now is not the time. I am just trying to answer questions asked about her salvation, my seeing her etc. Thank you.
they stated half was staying here in US/hafl to Africa (nm)
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News stated Mattel apologized to the Chinese?
They stated the lead paint issue was only a very small percentage of the recall problem and that poor design on their part was the main reason. News also stated it was important for them to do so, since "saving face" in China is very important. Saving children should be too.
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