I guess I'm the odd man out
Posted By: OddityMT on 2009-05-31
In Reply to: What would you do? - thread
Under certain circumstances, I might allow it. I don't agree with the 21 drinking age anyway; I grew up able to drink at 18 and somehow managed to avoid getting any DWIs nor am I an alcoholic now. In Europe, they seem to go right from the breast to the wine glass. So I would not have problems so much with the drinking as I might with who and where the drinking was happening. If there were adult supervision and it was a couple of girlfriends who are celebrating the end of the school year with a glass of champagne, I'd be okay with that. If it was a BBQ with adult chaperone and they're having a couple of beers, I would be okay with it. I would also have to know the family where it was going on so that I could confirm the adult presence. Of course, there would be strings attached- no leaving the house/yard, no driving, no getting in a car with anyone else who has been drinking no matter how sober they may seem, etc.
The fact that your child asked you is a good sign. Had she wanted to, she could have gone off to spend the night with Tiffy with you none the wiser. Even if you do end up saying no, it provides an opportunity for you to explain appropriate behaviors and the responsibilities and risks of alcohol use.
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It's anybody's guess
I hope it's Sanjaya, but three people forgot the words to their songs. My guess is maybe Brandon (one who forgot the words). With the exception of Lahisha, Melinda and Blake, I am not impressed with this years singers at all. It's one of the worst seasons for me.
Just old, I guess :(
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I guess
...that's why I gave up on Christianity. Jesus' message was beautiful and loving for the most part, but the religion has become inundated with intolerance and condemnation and even damnation. Religion world-wide is too much of a trigger for war and violence and I'm not sure how it got twisted into its present form(s). Well, let me take that back -- it seems as long as there has been religion humans have been fighting and killing each other over it, which is a sad advertisement for a particular religion, unfortunately.
To quote from a favorite folksong, I'm willing to "let the mystery be."
no, actually, i guess i don't. (nm)
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Well, I have 8, so I guess not . . .
and, if I had it to do over again, I would do exactly the same! My youngest will be two in June, and my oldest has two of his own. Yes, we have quite an age spread there.  Our 2-year-old is the joy of our lives. One little laugh or even a smile from him, and everything else seems to pale in importance. He's a great little de-stressor.
As I have always told my children, "Friends come and go, but familes are forever."
I guess it's not who you know, but who you ?
not funny
Hey, guess what???
Still havent called… I asked if anyone else had done this. I don’t live in terror that I will fall over, have my own blood pressure cuff. I can ask if others have done this without showing up at the emergency room....
Guess you were never a kid?
As long as she's smart, then she should be able to stay out. Now if she's going to be all night, she should have the courtesy to let her mother know. I've been in that situation where I had to pay rent to my parents once I was that age. They didn't have a curfew for me, but I was considerate enough to let them know when I'd be out all night or staying with a friend. According to tradition, the female child does not move out until she's courted and then gets married? I think the OP should cut the girl a break and let her make some decisions on her own.
Are they all like that? I guess that's what I really want to know
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LOL - I guess they run out often!!
I guess it should go to you, then, b/c you know what
Ahhh, the arrogance. You should be careful! lol
You said yourself so I guess sex at 16 ok
your daughter was 17 and this relationship going on over a year. Sorta sounds like 16 to me but hey, if you are alright with letting your daughter live like that, oh well.
Sorry, I guess this has already
been posted. I got it as an email from someone.....It is really cute for Christmas...
my guess is...sm
Wagons East  Cat
my guess is .......
My Cousin Vinnie?
I guess I was probably
a bit of a Nazi then because my kids opened one at a time, they took turns handing out presents to those who were there, and we recorded each one and made them actually look at whatever it happened to be that they opened and smile and say thank you grandma or whoever...
I guess I too, was trying to be brief....
Ablation was never an option for me. Besides the adenomyosis, I had a septum inside my uterus and was told this prevented me from ever having any kind of ablative therapy.
Guess I am the only one who DID. LOL! SM
You probably know it is a musical. I loved the time period, etc. Yesterday I checked on the price of a the Sweeney Todd CD and can't wait to get it. I was very low in money, but just checking to see who had it. The song I was referring to is acutally "Not when I'm Around" sung by the young boy in the film. What a voice and what a beautiful song. Let me know if you see it, Cat. I warn you . . . not for the faint of heart! LOL.
LOL. I guess that's what I'm saying
I swear I have a four year old and a 14 year old (on 2/10) and they act like they're both four. The older one can't get that all she has to do is walk away from her sister. I let my husband deal with that one a week. LOL.
Let me guess again
You're the same who has been arguing the same nonsensical points for the last 2 days. Three words for you: LET IT GO...breathe...LET IT GO. Nobody cares!
We all second guess ourselves but---sm
Keep up the great work. My daughters are 19 and 23 but I had the same standards you have. They did not get cell phones until high school, they could not wear tank tops that their bras would show. They had curfews. My 19 year old still does when she comes home from college 1 a.m. She hates it but I want to sleep at night. I went to all of their activities even though I could have been doing my own thing because they were my children and that is what we are suppose to do. That I always knew where they were, did not let them get involved with children that we knew the parents were drug addicts etc. They have recently told me that were glad that morals were instilled in them That they now know what is right and wrong because so many people they meet in college have parents who realy dont care and have no morals.
Someday your children will tell you they appreciate the way you brought them up.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY
We can only guess, and
one possibility would be a stressful home situation that has her so stressed out that her immune system is failing. One yeast growth gets out of control, thinking can get very fuzzy. She needs relief from the stress and somebody to take care of her physical condition. That's supposed to be her parents, but something is going on there.
Just my guess.
guess what
That makes us even - because I am having a hard time believing you! If there was a significant bite, something would have been done. Been there & done that.
Again, concentrate on what your child needs, not what you need to make yourself feel righteous.
Well then I guess I know someone just like you nm
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Tx - I guess its just sad (sm)
When you realize your own relatives think of you like that. DH says if that's the way he feels then fine he can just sit down there (where they live) and think whatever they want of us and they can all praise each other and tell each other over and over how intelligent they are. Then DH said "maybe he'll get some medication for it". :-) Anyway...we've got too much going here and from now on if his family calls they get voicemail. Just is sad - couldn't imagine my family saying things like that.
I would guess so, but I don't think you
can have as big a hard drive, memory, etc. Also, the screen would be soooo small.
I guess
A lot of schools are even cutting art programs (which is too bad because they keep SPORTS!)
At least the self-satisfaction of having a degree is a plus!
I guess 47 or 48.
I had tried a LOT of SSRIs but none of them worked. Effexor is an SNRI, which I guess is what made the difference. I was on a pretty big dose, 75 mg twice a day, for about 1-1/2 years. Very recently this has started to feel like too much...I'm not sure if my brain chemistry has become permanently "unscrambled" (which would be nice) - or if it's because I'm completely through menopause at this point -- but at some point a few months ago I started to feel "wired" and to have very bad nightmares. I've started cutting back VERY slowly. I don't know if I'll end up getting off it altogether. For the moment 37.5 twice a day feels okay. I took more than a month to wean this down, & even that might have been a little quick for this drug.
My main symptoms during menopause were (nice to be able to use the past tense) SEVERE, debilitating anxiety, almost a physical sensation of dread, a lot like extreme stage fright. There were days I was afraid to get out of bed and literally stayed in bed until 10, 11 in the morning, terrified, with the covers over my head. And explosive anger. I can't tell you how many nasty e-mails I fired off because some innocuous thing someone said made my head explode. Then I would be terrified to look at my e-mail for a week. This was all very tough. I did my share of mopping up after myself, but I did not tell anyone what was prompting my behavior. Maybe it would have helped, I don't know. At the time it felt like that would have been making excuses, but it's possible people would have understood, or maybe I would have gotten help sooner if I'd been able to articulate to myself -- out loud -- what the problem was. Adding to this was the resistance I have always had to using "female problems" as an excuse for anything -- not because it wasn't warranted from time to time, but because of the stereotype of women being less, what...reliable? level-headed? because of hormones. I didn't want to feed into that, even though Heaven Help Us, testosterone is a hormone, too, & a lot more dangerous than estrogen, from what I can see in the world around me.
Anyway, I know there are people who breeze through menopause. I was not one of them. I'm very glad it's over.
guess i'd
buy some sanitary pads and maybe have some Midol on hand. I've seen things about what we are doing (eating?) that is thought to create early puberty in young women, but can't remember what it is...might also have some hot cocoa on hand (warm drinks soothe)to help with cramps, encourage moving/walking if she gets too uncomfortable. Just let her know to tell you what she needs, and where supplies are...
Well, guess you could say same for why do I want my BMW
But, my husband buys for me and he says just wants to get me what he considers the best. I do not know what they cost and I do not know what he pays monthly just that he buys them for me.
Just a guess . . .
He gave you something very rare and special, the $2 bill represents your son.
I guess we can see where she got it from...
...if her mother didn't do anything about the situation, that's pretty indicative that she is a bully herself.
At least your mom tried. You gotta love her for that :-)
I am glad that you are an adult and no longer being bullied. What an awful thing for a child to have to go through.
my guess
My guess would be that she is in heart failure, but all the fluid in the lungs looks like pneumonia on the x-ray.
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A little bit I guess
I never really thought we looked like each other, except the way we talk our mouths are similar (loud - ha ha, actually our mouths move alike) but the last time we were in a store the cashier looked at us and asked if we were sisters. We said yes and she said "aren't you two the cutest together" - and we were 48 and 46 at the time. It was a nice compliment. But I look at pics of me and my little sister (who died when she was little) and we most definitely almost looked like twins.
how did you guess?....
:D
I guess
that Adam will be the winner. At least he should be.
Second best: Kris
Third: Danny
I do not hear anything special in Danny's voice or performance.
He was better at the beginning, kind of washed out.
Allison was much better than Danny and even better than Kris.
I bet on Adam.
my guess
ovary is misfiring.
you will need to get that checked to make sure there is nothing wrong with the ovaries.
I guess she's so old she does not know
the police vehicles have video recording the events. She was putting out the story prior to the video being shown that she did nothing wrong at all. Now I hear she has quit giving interviews and hired a lawyer. Granny should have quieted down some.
Guess the writers can't keep up?
I'm still stumped as to how Meredith can say they are going to take it slow this time ... and they are naked in the bathtub at the time. Gag.
You Will Never Guess What A Child Said
I stopped to get gas this afternoon. As I was about to walk out a man & his son walked over to me to say hello. The boy was a child I worked with a few years ago when he was in kindergarten. He is now in 3rd grade. He was always a very rough talking child, just like his parents. Always talking about kicking someones ar*e, & getting drunk, poppin a cap, stuff like that. He would push the other kids out of his way, grab things away from them, couldn't stay in his seat, very hyper as well. The parents put him on meds & that really calmed him down so he could focus on his work.
The Dad said hello, then the little boy looked at me & said "I got a hot dog & its in my underwear, you wanna see it"? I'm standing there stunned & the Dad laughs hysterically & then says " He's just like me ain't he"? The clerk was frozen in disbelief & so were several customers that were standing in line. I turned & walked out the door & as I was leaving I heard the Dad say to the boy, "you're somethin else Billy, thats a good one, I'm proud of you son".
What a foul mouth bunch of hillbillys they are. If one of my kids had said anything remotely like that their little mouths would be washed out with soap, they would have been made to apologize, & they would never do it again. I cannot believe that a Father would be proud of his son for talking dirty like that to an adult, especially a woman. Where in the world do these people come from?
I guess you are too for responding to me!
xx
I guess you'll never know!
I guess he can, but I don't think it's right. Alcoholism
may end up as a disease but one makes the choice to take the first drink. I may get flamed for this but that's okay. Instead of applying for disability, why not take steps toward recovery? I personally know the devastation wreaked by alcoholism. I am married to a recovering alcoholic (sober for 6 months now). He almost killed himself drinking. He lost lots of weight (122 pounds at 6 feet tall), puked like a pregnant woman, and just about ruined his liver, but he decided he had to quit and did. I think it is sad that our tax money is being spent helping people stay on disability when they could possibly be rehabilitated and become active in their own care.
LOL! I guess I was thinking they could
be born in the same minute, but not at the same moment (LOL!)
I guess I could say I've been around...LOL sm
I actually grew up in one town until age 14, but then we began moving...six times in 1-1/2 years before I had enough and was emancipated at 15. I have one place that is okay, but one that I would go back ot in a minute if given the choice.
Not cheap I guess, but
being into gardening I was wondering if they would like to fill containers with a little container garden of coleus varieties or other small, less expensive annuals. They could keep them or give them to their moms for Mother's Day. Just a thought. Maybe they could paint the outsides of the pots.
Man....I guess I'm lucky
The only problem I've had with any of the neighbors is that the dog across the street attacked my dog - that dog is twice my dog's size (mine is a Pomeranian, 20 pounds) and my Pom was on his back in a totally submissive position but the other dog still grabbed onto his hindquarters before I could reach them. I had to keep beating the other dog off and I was screaming at him and meantime my poor Pom was scared to death. Fortunately there wasn't any serious damage but now he won't walk out to the mailbox with me any more (which is what we were doing at the time, and it is the ONLY time I ever let him out without a leash).
I realize there are much, much worse neighbors - but I feel almost like my baby was attacked.
In our old neighborhood, we had next-door neighbors we called "The Addams Family" - they were spooky and ooky, but they kept to themselves.
Well, guess I am in trouble then because
my housekeeper who has been with me exclusively for the past say 15 years or so only works for me. No taking out of taxes, all under-the-table, how if she never does taxes, pray tell, will the IRS know???
Would need more info I guess (sm)
Is she near his age? Does she have a good income herself and is she helping foot the bill? If so, I think it's fine to do whatever she wants. If not, if he is paying for it all and she's much younger, I would probably have a problem with that (as his daughter), but even so, saying something to him isn't going to do anything other than hurt your relationship with him.
PDQTrans, guess what?
Yep, I was the one talking about Las Vegas asking if you were a high roller. Hubs and I have been talking about a return visit so we are possibly looking towards the end of August to go for a few days. So far, and this is hard to believe, but the Bellagio is about the most reasonable from my part of the country. He loves it there, well yeh, but I would like to try out others as well. My mouth just waters thinking about the mountain of shrimp there at the buffet! It is unbelievable that all of that food brought into the town, isnt it? He will go back to the Rio for their seafood feast and I once again will take in a favorite show, George Carlin will be there soon and I also would love to see Rita Rudner ( think that is how she spells her last name). I wish I had the money years ago to see some of the legends like Sinatra or Elvis there- see I don’t live in the city's backdoor like some folks! When is your trip, where are you staying, etc? We would go earlier but I have my own vacation already planned for the end of July into the first of August and then I guess I will plan a side trip with him, it he behaves!!
Why do you keep watching, my guess
you have no life?
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