I gave a child up for adoption...
Posted By: mypast on 2008-04-21
In Reply to: You Don't Know Me Like That - MomTo4
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gave child up for adoption in 70's
The kid has issues. And not just with me. Once, when she was staying with me, her adoptive mother sent her a gift card from Target. The kid's reaction was - how DARE she send me a card to a store that isn't near where I live? Now I have to go to all kinds of effort to use it - and it isn't the first time she has done this. Kid proceed to call that mom and tonguelash her for stupidity, thoughtlessness, selfishness (?!), etc. until that mom hung up on her and has refused to speak to her since. And stopped giving her anything.
Now we're not speaking either, but not regarding gifts, our problems include entitlement isssues, respect issues, lack of maturity in general. I am reluctantly storing some of her belongings that she abandoned here (as I know she cannot afford to come retrieve them) and she is using others as go-betweens to demand I bring certain items when I travel up there this summer. I keep telling those others she should consider herself lucky I haven't put it all in a pile and had a nice bonfire; as she claimed her step-mother did to belongings she left there. People treat her the way they do for a reason - she is nasty-tempered, rude and thinks the world revolves around planet HER.
I can't fix her. I've tried to help her, but I see I cannot. So I've joined the ranks of people she has alienated that ignore her on holidays. Its a pretty large group.
FYI.. I gave birth to a child with hydrocephalus
She'll turn 7 in August, is in first grade, loving it, developing "normally." We had a tough go at first with surgeries, a shunt infection, and finally got her home from the hospital at 6 weeks old, and then had an abrupt shunt failure when she was 5 with emergency surgery. Other than that, you wouldn't know that she has medical issues at all. She is absolutely the light of my life. I can't imagine having snuffed out this little light before it even had a chance to shine.
animal adoption
i agree that we needed to know about this. there are some deceived and warped people that would sacrifice animals in evil ceremonies. a relative of ours had a puppy turn up missing and later it was found with its heart cut out. sick, sick, sick,
adoption party
Congratulations! It'll be a grand celebration! Not many folks out there like you. Give me some particulars...
What is her name...her favorite color...favorite snack...is she allergic to chocolate...is she a princess or a tomboy?...Does she like art, music or dance....maybe baseball, or basketball, hockey?...So many factors to consider. School's already in by you...How many kids and adults will be in attendance?
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adoption party
I have a 7-year-old daughter and she is into Hannah Montana and tea parties. We had a tea party this year on her actual birthday (we had a "big" party at the movie theater, thus the lack of funds! I made chocolate edible tea cups (Google it, it's easier than it sounds) day before. Have thinly-sliced ham and cheese croissants (or just cut the crust off of white bread) top them with a toothpick and grape. Slice strawberries and fan them around carefully placed mandaring oranges and pineapples(out of the can). Serve the tea cups about 10 minutes after they leave the table. Invite some girls that you know she will be going to school with, this will help her become familiar with them. Have dress up items or barbies out. Board games have been popular for us, or swing sets and outdoor play. Ask the other mothers for guidance here. You can find lots of other simple ideas at birthdaypartyideas.com. Love the site and use it all the time. Good luck. It sounds like you are already on the right track.
Adoption Party
If it is hot still where you live, why not have an ice cream sundae party. We have done this for the kids a couple of ways. Once we got parfait cups from the DQ- they were happy to donate some, and bought ice cream and different toppings and sprinkles along with some fruit. Another time, with a group of boys after school we used a piece of gutter (new) about 6 feet long and let the boys make a huge banana split with all the fixings and Reddi Whip in the can. They loved making the huge dessert and it was a lot of fun for all. Just an idea.
Animal control adoption
Oie. We adopted a very sweet what we think is a lab/retriever approximately 3 years old from Animal control on Thursday. I think she's way older than 3 and not healthy. I finally got a good look in her mouth today and her teeth are a mess. She hasn't eaten more than a handful of food since we got here and I couldn't figure out what the problem was. I don't think she can eat solid food comfortably. Also, she was coughing Thursday night. Friday morning I made an appointment for the vet because I think she either has Kennel cough or pneumonia. She is coughing until she throws up now and has done so more times than I can count. It is just huge globs of mucous. She also has a nice itch issue going on. I called Animal control and they say she wasn't coughing/puking/itching when they had her. Maybe she's allergic to us. Has anyone had a dog with kennel cough? Any ideas on making her more comfortable until her vet visit on Monday? We are going to keep her and make her as healthy and happy as we can but I'm really annoyed that Animal Control didn't notice anything going on with her, especially her poor teeth.
Thanks for letting me vent. I'm off to clean up the floor, again. 
You stated, "most likely won't give up for adoption, "
as they don't want to be perceived as a bad person. Placing a child up for adoption that you know you are unable to care for properly is a selfless act, as well as a responsible, and most difficult one.
Dogs/Adoption of human kids
Boxers are just adorable! I love them! I have 3 pugs. I dunno - I just have this thing for pushed-in face (brachycephalic) dogs. Pugs are a pretty lazy breed. They sleep about 34 hours a day. They are very cuddley and loving. My oldest is 8, my second is 7 and my third is just shy of 6 (the older 2 are males, the youngest is a female). I have 2 black pugs and 1 fawn. I am going to be devastated when they die. They're going to have to lock me up in a psych ward and keep me heavily medicated. Hubby and I have been married almost 18 years. We tried for 14 of those to have a (human) baby. We went to all the best specialists, including the University of Connecticut, when we lived there. We're amongst the 20% of people where they just cannot figure out why we could not get pregnant, so my pugs are my babies. As fate would have it, 2 years ago, my uterus prolapsed, a grade 2 prolapse. I was wiping one day after going to the bathroom and felt a bulge. Well, having worked in the medical field since 1988, I was curious, so I pulled out a mirror and thought "I'll be damned - that looks just like my cervix." It was. Because of the degree of prolapse, I had to have an abdominal hysterectomy about 2 months later.
Now, adoption, you say? It's nothing more than buying a baby anymore, with the lawyers getting rich. An American baby runs around $40-50,000 and there's no guarantee the mother won't rescind on her offer, which would just absolutely devastate me. Foreign adoption? Runs around $20-30,000 dollars. We just don't have the money. I think Chinese and Russian babies are just beautiful and would love to have one.
Our next option is foster children and we're seriously considering that in a couple years. I'm leaving it in God's hands. It's God's will in God's time and if He wants me to have a baby, it will happen. If we're lucky, we'll end up with a wonderful foster child (they all carry baggage - though who doesn't? - if you don't believe this - go see the play A Chorus Line - if you've been knocked around by life, even just a little, bring tissues. Every member of that chorus line has a very sad story to tell) that just might come up for adoption. Like I said, God's will in God's time. Right now, I consider myself very lucky to have my puggies. It's all I can do not to get a fourth, but they average 75 pounds, and I weigh 120. There's no way I can handle 4 of them dragging me down the street. The visual is enough to make me laugh.
Creative ideas needed for an adoption party...sm
Hi,
We are finalizing the adoption on Monday of our 7-year-old foster daughter. We're working on setting a date for a party to honor this event and are trying to come up with some creative ideas of how to make this extra special but without spending a cazillion bucks.
Please post your ideas. Thanks!
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
NM
I gave my mom some too, and she
said it takes her less than half the time now to clean certain things with them, because you don't have to scrub as much to get it clean.
I would like to use the mop, but I am afraid it won't clean the ceramic tile as good as other mops. Where did you get yours? Do you clean ceramic with it?
Never gave up anything before, but
going to give up soda this year and maybe it will stick afterwards.
I gave up
about a quarter of the way through. It needed some paragraphs.
I liked the baked beans slithering out of the can though. Made me chuckle.
NO - she gave him 20 and he put in 30.
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My EX MIL gave me...
One year I was on weight watchers and doing really well - and for Christmas, my MIL bought me a big box of cookies and a box of chocolates!
Shows you how she felt about me, huh?
I think you do know. He gave you the answer. sm
And you have to take that answer at face value. You've gone away with him for a weekend, so it seems like he's willing to take more than he's willing to give. If you don't want him to "shoplift the pootie", then listen to your security system.
He told you what he's thinking, and either you're ok with that, and you continue on. Or, you're not ok with it, and you have to move on.
What was the best gift you GAVE?
mine was the digital camera to DIL. She is very reserved, but actually started crying, and jumped up and gave me a HUGE, LONG, hard hug! I was shocked!! She had mentioned wanting one last year, but didn't tell us until a week before Christmas, and we already had our shopping done by then. She said we even bought the one she had picked out, and was planning on getting after the holidays, hoping it would be on sale. It is the Kodak one with the printer. I told son later, she took the award for the BEST reaction EVER to a gift!!! He laughed and agreed.
I'd have to say the most DISAPPOINTING reaction was one I expected. It was from SIL. The one I talked about on here, never gives me any feedback, is so exasperating. I had given her a Creative Memories Carry Case, filled with scrapbook making supplies to get started, and three scrapbooks to start with, one with refills. One was a gorgeous victorian one, one was plain navy blue, and the third was a purse sized one, I was thinking to put grandkid pics in. She opened it, and said nothing. I said I hope you like it, I know how creative you are, and how much you love to do crafts, etc., I thought you would create some AWESOME memories for the kids with these! She just said yeah, thanks. *sigh* BIL said he thought it was a great idea. I don't know. It was a letdown to me though, I was REALLY hoping she'd LOVE it!!
Thanks for the support for those who gave it.
I don't feel I need to answer "Jessie" anymore.
How about now I have a bad check they gave me
this morning. I would never try to put into my personal account and draw from that. Went directly to the bank to get $$$$ in hand. You are no longer able to find out if a company has the money to cover an amount by calling but there is a fraud line. I intend to open up another acct - I have an acct there also and really big place. If that check does not clear, then i talk with fraud division about that company. I am still in there swinging. I was told by a furniture salesman that I caused him to lose 3 customers yesterday when I was in there, told him good - my intentions.
I gave my statement sm
just 20 minutes ago and they are going after the owners. An autopsy and toxicology were both requested. The police and the rescue people said there was no reason this should have happened and they will make sure that family never owns another dog. Thank goodness. I feel better now. They are getting much tougher in our area regarding animal abuse, fining and sending people to jail. That poor dog's internal body temperature was 107. Definite heat stroke. Makes me sick.
I say no, my mother-in-law once gave me (sm)
a used salad shooter for Christmas. I opened it and an old recipe she had been using fell out of the box. She also gives away used perfumes and lotions that she decides she doesn't like. I think it's very tacky. Sorry
You said something that immediately gave you away
you said fixin to- I know what that is because I am southern- we are always fixin to do something, right?
Who gave you this info.......
My daughter has several autistic and learning disabled children in her classroom, which is a regular classroom with 4 to 5 added children with learning disabilities. That comment is certainly out of place but where did you get the info from? If another adult, then you should talk with the principal.
I once gave my mother ...sm
one of those long wooden handles with about 3 body scrubbers attached. She used it as a back scratcher and thought it was wonderful. Found it at...almost hate to say it....Wal-mart.
you gave yourself your own answer
You need to move 50 miles and be with your family. I would start packing tonight.
As far as I am concerned, if the cable is off, there is no reason to stay....you are going to be okay!
Were you the one who just gave birth?
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I only gave you the suggestions I had gotten -
You notice I was laughing after the nana r hot and I was pointing my finger no after the 2 Hot that my 12 year old niece suggested.
gave birth later
I was 29 with the first and 38 with the second with no birth defects
Tell him his mother gave it to you! (just kidding) nm
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Mike Gallagher also gave them ...sm
an hour of his radio show if they stayed away from the Amish funerals in Lancaster. Kudos to him. I tuned in for a few minutes, but could not believe the garbage that was coming out of their mouths,
To the 2 posters who gave me info on WW ...
The Points system is the best. I'm joined the online program and keep my points tracker open all day.
Thanks for giving the information you did.
Like you, the strong medicine they gave just does not do
it at all. Oh, he also ordered an injection of cortisone today so who knows? I told him the hard stuff did not work and did not need anything for pain, wanted to find out what was causing my pain and after the trigger points told me definitely my problem. I have gone to a pain clinic close by before and would do that again, returning in 2 weeks to this particular clinic and by then should have started the water aerobics and will ask about the pain clinic. I told hubby tonight the pain there all the time, sometimes excrucating and other times just the all over the body pain like mine is today. Gosh, you would not wish this on your worst enemy, would you? Good luck to you also.
Thank you for those of you who gave valuable info!
I've lived in an apartment my entire adult life and had no idea that a fence would cost that much and all the tools/materials that are involved in building a fence! I got some great info from the majority of the people that responded and truly thank those people :)
I gave up a long time ago........sm
I gave up a long time ago trying to enlighten those not in the teaching profession what goes into this career. Most people who "poo poo", saying the pay is more than adequate, do not have a clue what goes into this profession. True, some teachers in much better communities have it pretty good and they will tell you they are perfectly content with their pay and time off; however, every teacher does not have that wonderful classroom, full of kids that learn and parents that support. Instead, they get the bottom of the barrel so to speak and it's darn hard, the frustration level is much higher, and they feel like they are fighting a losing battle some days, but they push on. They could find another job paying better, but most teachers that stick with it truly care for the kids and want to try to get that lightbulb to go off, somehow.
Called doctor at day 15 - she just gave me (sm)
a higher dose BCP
I gave away tons of paint that I
no longer wanted, someone asking for and told them take all or nothing. They did and it helped me clean out my garage. I saw a trailer someone was giving away -the kind some folks live in. I have been trying to get my hubs to get some free mulch- they have that all the time.
I meant that if a buyer gave him - sm
a downpayment he should have set it aside in an escrow account and held it for closing. If the buyer backs out due to no fault of the seller, then the seller keeps the money and can do with it as they please. No matter what you sell, land or a house, you should always put the prospective buyers deposit into an escrow account even if you are handling the sale yourself without a realtor. That is all I meant.
I wonder that as well. Recently gave my son's ex-girlfriend
a very expensive baby gift for her new little one (b/4 she was even born). I mean it cost several hundred dollars. Never heard a word, not even a phone call. Then she sent me an invite to her wedding soon after...i respectfully declined. Guess she had a stamp for that, but not for a thank you note.
Yes, always gave our kids an allowance.
They are 19, 18 and 17 now. The eldest has had jobs since he was 16, so we stopped paying an allowance then. Younger two get enough money to cover school lunches for a week, plus about $10 spending money. $10 spending is not a lot to a teenager, so when they started to complain, we taught them to budget, save, and work. They started with allowances and a chore chart around age 5. Back then .50 cents and putting away toys was all it took. We advanced it as age appropriate.
They aren't always perfectly responsible with their money, but they've got the idea and have some good financial habits. Our eldest went to community college for a year and paid his own way. Now that he's transferred to a state university, we're picking up tuition, room and board. He worked all summer, budgeted, and was able to buy his books and a new laptop for school.
I think allowances are good teaching tools.
We gave ours allowances, too, until the babysitting and other
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Dont know as I gave my real name
I had no problem with it as he and his friend were trying to run the scam on the insurance I paid for. Your case??
My parents gave my daughter
and 2 neices tiny diamond studs when they were about this age. I kept them in my bedroom and decided when and where she could wear them. They earrings has screw on backs, so all 3 girls, now teenagers, still have them. If you decide to do this, check on the screw on backs, very hard to lose that way.
I had a sweet little yorkie I gave up ..
I had a sweet little yorkie I gave up with my first hubby. She never did like him, smart dog!! I regret giving her up! I tell current hubby when he complains about my furbabies that he knows where the door is. Not giving up any critters for him!!!
I gave up wearing my rings sm
I've had them resized twice already, once up a size and another down a size. I don't think they will resize them a third time. I, too, have arthritis and prednisone swells my finger something fierce. I have a beutiful mother's ring that I can't wear again since it is too small now.
Well, with that info you just gave it does make it different! (sm)
Now I can see his point..before it just seemed trivial...some people do just change their name to "Sunshine" for no obvious reason.
Hey Ga MT - I see that Siemens gave ya'll a MRI anyway!...sm
That's awesome that while your hospital didn't have the most votes submitted, they're still going to donate a MRI when the hospital is rebuilt. That's great news!
I had a Rainbow that my mother gave me when
she moved to a smaller place. I used it until the motor burned out, but like the poster below, they are very cumbersome and not very quick to set up and put away. I have an upright Kirby now and love it. I bought one with the shampooer and all the attachments and it works just as well as the Rainbow. I wouldn't ever think of buying one for myself.
He gave it a good try and simply does not like it. ALso, SM
the thought of the bugs and spiders makes my skin crawl, and I am not a young child. I say encourage the other avenues of his interest and don't force him to do something that brings him to tears after he has given it a reasonable amount of time.
My oldest son gave me the idea about s/m
the generator. We rent a log splitter every fall and never even thought about it! How smart they can be.
We live on the county line, so we are always the last ones to get shoveled out as far as the roads go, but we seem to lose our electricity quite a bit, 3-4 times a year minimum.
My copy is long gone but my OB/GYN gave it - sm
to me (free) when I was confirmed pregnant by them as it was my first pregnancy. My copy is long gone. I am surprised her doctor did not give her a copy of it, presuming she has gone in for an exam. Other than that any local book store, Amazon or ebay would be my next step.
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