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We have a similar (although not as serious) situation with my in laws.  Thank God we have not had to face the kinds of issues you have, but it still hurts.  My hubby is their only child, and they just don't care anymore.  They were decent parents while he was growing up and in the past few years, and then about 18 months ago, bam!  They act like they've been brainwashed. 

I won't go into the details, but suffice to say that I'm finished trying to bridge gaps.  It just is not worth it.  We are going to make our own "family" from friends who actually like to spend time with us and give us support, and when good ol' mom and dad get to that point in their life when they have regrets or, more likely, get too old to wipe their own butts, well honey, that is why we have nursing homes in this country.  The sad thing is that my parents are gone, have been for a long time, and I hate to see hubby lose his parents before they are even gone.  However, it just is not worth it. 

I think you did exactly what you needed to do, even if just to make yourself feel better for a while.  It may not have been the most thoroughly thought out action in the world, but you have so much stress on you right now, I think that can be forgiven. 

Good luck to you and your husband, and try to stay strong.  You have enough to worry about without the in laws adding to it, so just pretend they don't exist for a while.  Know that you are not alone, and that you can always vent here if you need to.  We'll understand.

HC

Boy do I ever know where you're coming from!  I went on vacation with a bunch of girlfriends last July and I looked at the pictures and thought "who the heck let the elephant in the room!!!"  It was horrible.  I am going on vaca again with the same women in July and I have vowed to be at least a little bit better.

You do have to lose weight overall to get the double chin to go away.  In extreme cases there are people like AL Roker who lost weight but not really much in his face.  I'm betting you're not that extreme, though.

My sister and I started walking together three mornings a week.  It's not much yet, but it's more than we were doing before, which was nothing.  Find a walking partner and try to walk for 30 minutes several days a week and you'll see a change.

Good luck!

even want to post on this board.  My son chose this.  He started acting up when he was 18 years old and will be 35 in June.  He just decided he wanted nothing to do with his family.  We have been around and around with this junk.  Last time he called was 2 years ago.  He calls and starts a ruckus and then you don't hear from him for 3-4 years.  I haven't laid eyes on him in 9 years.  He has to figure out his own problems. 

I have another son who is 32 and is a firefighter here where we live.  He is a joy.  He is married and I agree with you about a sons a son til he takes a wife.  Everyone I know who has sons and DIL go through this.  I love my daughter-in-law dearly and have never had a cross word with her but its not like my son and I don't get treated as well either.  I just suck it up and go on.  No reason to cause a ruckus.

O well, enough for today

Hi to all you smart legal types,

My dear sweet grandfather passed away on February 6, 2009, at the age of 87.

My brother and I have been named in the will in place of my father who has alcohol dementia and is in a nursing home receiving state assistance. My aunts and uncles (my father's sisters and brothers) are also in the will. My grandfather's intent was to keep the estate in the family, so,therefore the will was changed to me and my brother. On the day of the funeral my aunt (who is the executor) informs me that there may be some CDs and/or life insurance policies that were not changed to me and my brother and are still in my father's name. My grandfather's intent when changing the will of course was to keep the estate in the family and not have it to go to the State of Wisconsin since my father is receiving Medicare and Medicaid. This does not make sense to me why everything was not originally changed!

I am unsure how this all goes, but these things I have learned from a friend who went through a similar situation and want someone to clarify me if I am wrong.

Here goes: First off, why would the original lawyer (they have since hired someone else to handle the estate since my father passed now) not have made sure everything was changed and had my father's name taken off everything? Shouldn't this have been part of his job since the original intent was to keep it in the family? And if this is part of his job, someone suggested I contact his malpractice company as this may be our recourse to this dilemna since he didn't do his job properly.

Secondly, since my aunt is the executor, I was also told that what an executor does is acts in the behalf of the deceased (my grandfather) and she has the authority to have this changed even now. She is telling my brother who is the power of attorney for my father that he needs to hire a lawyer and have this changed. I am also told from my friend that if he does have to hire a lawyer he can sue the estate to recoup the costs of doing so, which I am sure will go over like a lead balloon! Is my aunt not aware of what her role is or am I wrong? My brother of course has a passive/aggressive personality and I am the go-getter, and he basically said he doesn't care and wants to let it go because he does not want to deal with it. I feel if my aunt is so concerned about it and keeps bugging him about it and has the authority, then she needs to do it. But, I also told him that grandpa's intent was to keep it in the family and if something can be done to change it then we should, but of course it may not be worth it monetary wise either as the lawyers will get a good chunk of change. And on that note, am I allowed to ask the lawyer exactly the dollar amounts we are talking such as life insurance, CDs, or the estate itself since I am listed on the will? My aunt told my brother, but not me and he says he doesn't remember.

I am not very trusting of my family and I can see greed written all over this! If this is not being handled properly by the family, especially my aunt, I am trying to figure out what is in it for her. I have a call into the new lawyer, which by the way, I was not told that we had switched laywers by my aunt. I only found out through my brother who I spoke with the other day. Since we are all listed in the will, we should all be kept informed. I don't believe the family really wanted me and my brother in the will, but agreed to make the best a of bad situation as best as they could, versus the State getting the money or the only grandchildren listed in the will!

Sorry so long and windy, but have so much on my mind right now regarding this situation and until I get some real answers this will bother me all day. Please if anyone out there understands anything about how wills and/or estates work and has any insight, please respond.

Thank you!

Interesting video on YouTube - this guy says it simply & eloquently.  He wants people to send him videos on the subject - anyone out there in MT with a PC-cam could certainly get the word out on the offshoring-of-medical-records to a HUGE audience in this way.  Here's a link to the video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8NDs4YuLXE

Who among us has not colored their hair, seen a plastic surgeon because we weren't satisfied with our bodies, took a pill to alter our mood or help a physical condition that made us uncomfortable?  Who has not dieted, worn colored contact lenses, got a perm, had liposuction?  Who didn't get their ears pierced, or love someone who has a body piercing or a tattoo?  Even if you never did any of these things, did it make you "sick" whenever someone else did?

Why is it MY business what someone else does with their body?  Oh, that's right, it isn't.  If I don't like your decision to become a blonde, should it make me "sick"?  Should I sneer at you and throw rocks because I personally don't like it that you got breast implants?  Well, that's what people do to people that change their sex.  What gives them the right?