I feel your pain, been down that road many times over the years - sm
Posted By: catlady on 2008-01-11
In Reply to: My oldest furgirl is dying and I am crying - Grieving a lot
I am so sorry for what you are going through. You need to take her to the vet and let her go. That way she will not be suffering any longer and you will know you eased her pain. It sounds like it is time. Again, I have been through this many times over the years with my cats and it is hard each and every time. I will be wishing you all the best.
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I feel your pain
It is the same way here. My husband is disabled and could help some with my youngest, but does not. It is up to me to do it all. My MIL used to "butt" in all the time, but thankfully that has stopped. I have a teenager who could also help and does not. Ironically I live with 3 others in my home and I have never felt so alone. There are days my DH will take his disabilty out on me and it is not right, but I don't have to walk in his shoes so I try to be understanding. Men will never be mothers. We surely do not get enough credit! We have to work 24/7 365 days a year. I know personally I work 6 days a week and my "day off" I spend cleaning, doing the errands ect. What day off??? I know it takes longer, but I stop and tend to my kids even when I am typing. It stinks, but a mom has to do what a mom has to do. I just know if I don't help my youngest no one else here will. It's sad, but true. That is why I am still working from home as a MT. Lord only knows what would happen if I weren't here. I pray things get better for you. I can relate to just how you feel. Take care of you!
I feel your pain here also..sm
My sister passed away back in Nov. after 12 yrs in a vegative state resulting from injuries in a car wreck. My mother had chosent have her cremated and wanted to have her ashes spread in the ocean since she was a "sungoddess" by secondary nature! She wanted to wait until the summer time. We are planning to do this about the 2nd week of July. I was thinking about releasing butterflies as a surprise for the family.
As previous poster said, you could also check parks in your local area and have a bench in a nice peaceful area dedicated to her with a plaque. Some parks allow that type of donation. Or, if you are near an ocean, maybe you could to a bench there.
I feel your pain!
I get these little tiny things that look like sugar ants...until they BITE! I have horrible reactions to their bites, much like fire ants. I, too, have cats, so I have to be careful spraying. I also rent, so that eliminates lawn service. Darn ants!!
I feel your pain...s/m
My 7-year-old has asked me several times if we could "move away from daddy". It's hard when you are at a crossroads and your situation sounds a lot like mine. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you and your child!
I feel your pain (sm)
We have a similar (although not as serious) situation with my in laws. Thank God we have not had to face the kinds of issues you have, but it still hurts. My hubby is their only child, and they just don't care anymore. They were decent parents while he was growing up and in the past few years, and then about 18 months ago, bam! They act like they've been brainwashed.
I won't go into the details, but suffice to say that I'm finished trying to bridge gaps. It just is not worth it. We are going to make our own "family" from friends who actually like to spend time with us and give us support, and when good ol' mom and dad get to that point in their life when they have regrets or, more likely, get too old to wipe their own butts, well honey, that is why we have nursing homes in this country. The sad thing is that my parents are gone, have been for a long time, and I hate to see hubby lose his parents before they are even gone. However, it just is not worth it.
I think you did exactly what you needed to do, even if just to make yourself feel better for a while. It may not have been the most thoroughly thought out action in the world, but you have so much stress on you right now, I think that can be forgiven.
Good luck to you and your husband, and try to stay strong. You have enough to worry about without the in laws adding to it, so just pretend they don't exist for a while. Know that you are not alone, and that you can always vent here if you need to. We'll understand.
HC
I feel your pain
Boy do I ever know where you're coming from! I went on vacation with a bunch of girlfriends last July and I looked at the pictures and thought "who the heck let the elephant in the room!!!" It was horrible. I am going on vaca again with the same women in July and I have vowed to be at least a little bit better.
You do have to lose weight overall to get the double chin to go away. In extreme cases there are people like AL Roker who lost weight but not really much in his face. I'm betting you're not that extreme, though.
My sister and I started walking together three mornings a week. It's not much yet, but it's more than we were doing before, which was nothing. Find a walking partner and try to walk for 30 minutes several days a week and you'll see a change.
Good luck!
I feel your pain
You, my dear, have picked up a stray troll... There is a special place in heck for people who get their jollies torturing people. Just remember that YOU are normal, nice, and decent, and obviously a brilliant mother, and a troll magnet, as am I unfortunately!
Tomorrow is another day!
Love,
Regular troll victim
I feel your pain!
My mother-in-law sent my sone $2 for his birthday, not $20, $2, so what I did was add another $15 and got him a toy I knew he would love and told him it was from his grandma and grandpa. I then called and told them what they gave him. I didn't have grandparents growing up and although it is tempting to let him know what an a**hole his grandma is, it isn't going to do any good now and he will figure it out eventually on his own. Right now, I just want him to feel loved.
Yup, I feel your pain, not hard to
imagine at all as I have many of those on a daily basis 
Honey, I feel your pain..
We have 5 friggin kids..THREE of which are teenagers and the oldest is almost 26 but going to college full-time so I have footing that bill along with all of his other bills he has acquired as an adult..Then, we have the almost 20-year-old daughter who is unable or just doesn't want to work..so we took her back out of the homeless spectrum and got her a home..which we are footing the bill for...Thus, is the reason mom has to work 2 FT jobs..So, my answer to our kids thinking they are EVER moving back home when we boot them out is this...We're buying a motor home when they're gone. On the back it will be named "Kid's Inheritance." Then, as we pull out of the driveway, and if we see them in the rearview mirror, we're hitting the gas!!! and it's like this.."kids, if you can catch us, you can move in, but we won't be doing the speed limit." How's that !!! As you know, as a parent, you have to spend your time laughing or you will just start bawling uncontrollably until they come haul you away.
I feel your pain! (See my posts to other threads above) nm
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, i feel your pain nm
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I feel your pain too, but not spending my money is not going to help you - nm
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had it done 24-1/2 years ago. Very little pain.
Abdomen swelled a little bit. Back to work within a very few days (2-3). General anesthesia (that was the worst part of it for me). Hope it goes as well for you as it did for me. 
Yup, I feel your pain, but I solved things this year.
I bought myself a pair of boots I've been wanting forever, and a new purse, and a tennis bracelet - told him they were going to be from him to me. I bought 'em, wrapped 'em, and enjoyed them big time!! I deserved them! My DH means well, too, though just is clueless as well. Rather than sit and feel like crawling back in bed, this year I was right on the floor opening gifts with the rest of the bunch! Sometimes we women have to do what we have to do!
I feel your pain. I have a grown adult in my face 24/7.
The man needs a job.. He wants to be with me so he sits/lays behind me a lot of the day until I tell him to do something constructive like clean the house..his job.. As I tell him, you've been assigned a job description, now get on it. I will say that I wouldn't spend three or four hours arguing with him, he knows better. I'll knock his block off. :)
I feel your pain... sometimes I consider shaving my head!!! I just keep it short so as not to mess
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Been married 1-1/2 years...still 2-3 times DAILY and still very hot for us...
I dunno....started off just as intense physical attraction, moved to serious feelings, living together, marriage, and we still both want each other 2-3 times a day.
I don't know if we're just really lucky or really just freaks, lol!!!
I had nerve pain in my thigh for 15 years.
I finally figured out the cause of mine and it's gone, so I hope you can figure yours out too. Are the MDs saying nerve conduction studies wouldn't help them with it? Do you have hypermobile arches, where the ligaments are too loose and there is too much sag when you step down? If that is causing a nerve problem (and I just know it can cause pain to shoot straight up through the arch), then you would need to get just the perfect arch supports for your feet and NEVER go barefoot. Just a thought.
Good luck.
Cuz you're numbing your brain so you feel no pain! Flavored brandy
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I've been to Branson a few times. Haven't been in several years
tho. Actually, it's been 13 years. My son was 3 and we did Silver Dollar City and a couple of shows. We also did that duck boat thing. I don't remember what it was called. But it's a boat that drives on land and you drive it right into the water.
I know Branson has come a long way since the last time I was there. So I'm kind of excited!
My daughter is 35 years old and has been having pain in left lower abdomen for quite some time . . .
She had a CT with oral and IV contrast and it was normal, but showed she had an enlarged uterus. Dr. called the next day and said she needs to go for ultrasound.
There is lots of cancer in the family, so my daughter is very concerned. Can any of you who have experienced this help out here. Thanks.
I feel the same, though married now 13 years - sm
years ago my DH made me promise to wait until the kids were 18 to remarry. I promised as (1) remarring would not be high on my priority list especially if the kids were young (2) I don't know if I'd want to give up my new found freedom when I do eventually become a widow (in theory, he is 7 years older). We have our ups and downs and I would miss him but I certainly would not be in any hurry to replace him. Funny how most men run out and remarry fast though, and most women don't. I know some women just have to have a man but I think I would be quite content later in life to be on my own.
Same here. Married 25 years and it does not feel like work.
Perhaps we do work at it, and it just doesn't feel like it. But, I also have to say that both my husband and I are very independent, self-confident people. Even when we were dating, we did not feel the need to be with each other 24/7. We have very separate interests and pursue them to the point of even taking separate vacations at times. Early on we saw no reason to "compromise" and be only partially happy with what we were doing. There are certainly things that we enjoy doing together, but just not everything. We also decided early on to compartmentalize our lives and give certainly responsibilities 100% to the other spouse. He handles the money 100%. I handled the kids and the house 100%. That included delegation! So if I needed hubby to pitch in and do laundry, dishes, etc. That would happen. If he needed me to help with something that usually fell under this area of responsibility, I did it. I suppose that part is the compromise, but it doesn't feel like it.
We have friends who have been married just as long as we have, and I don't know how they stand marriage! Everything they do is together. They can't decide on a color of paint for the wall without big discussions. One can't go to bed unless the other is ready for bed, as well. That sort of thing would suffocate me and my husband. I suppose we're well matched, and so we're lucky.
pain and not wanting pain is understandable cuz of medical reason
I mean come on, when he has pain somewhere, does he not want to do something? Seriously, is this a true medical pain problem? If it is, then anyone could understand.
Sorry...should be paint store not pain (maybe pain...hehe)
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Oh, please! End times! People have been saying that since the beginning times!
It's just sensationalism. It seems that journalism has gone to a warm place in a handbasket. I briefly majored in journalism back in 1980, and what passes for journalism now would have flunked any of us right our of an entry-level course! It's all sensational reporting, because networks think that brings in the viewers, and thus drives up the advertising price that they can charge during broadcasts.
Another of my pet peeves in "journalism" is the phrase "Unconfirmed sources say . . . " Yeah. Right. Unconfirmed sources is just another way of saying, "Rumor has it . . . "
Next time there is breaking news, listen for it. It's said over and over again, because the networks and stations want to get the news out first. I don't know what happened to fact-checking and pursuit of the truth in journalism, but it's all about getting info out fast, and keeping the public tuned in with the most sensational reports that they can put out there.
Back in the days of the Roman Empire, people were treating each other pretty badly and in unbelievable ways, too. Crucifixion comes to mind. So, I don't really think modern news reports are pointing to end times any more than at any other time in recorded history.
think about down the road
My sister is in a very similar situation. Her husband won't ever go out socially or even to family functions or kids' extracuricular activities. Think about how this will be down the road after you have kids. You are lucky because you aren't married yet, don't have kids, and are thinking rationally about this. If this is really how you want the rest of your life to be, then so be it, but if you can't imagine still doing this in 20 years then maybe it's not worth it. My sister has told me many times if she could have looked into the future and realized what he was going to be like (they only dated for a few months before they got married and he faked being sociable to make her like him) she would have never married him. Now they have 4 kids and she feels stuck in an unhappy life but won't make a change because of the kids. She knows that even though they love each other she would be happier with someone who was more like herself and really her husband would be more happy with someone more like himself, too.
You still don't know which road to take with that question,
do you? I don't think they are standing in front of road, with the truthful man standing in front of the correct road or anything like that.
road rage sm
I can agree NCMT, same thing happened to us on New Years Eve one time, screamed my head off, not a cop around and went through two states. I will never forget it. I don't speak of it often as I didn't think anyone would believe me! No cell phones then, that's why they are useful, although I am not sure how fast they would come, but it sure makes you feel better. Thanks for sharing.
Please don't take my post down that road
I did not write that post for people to start gay bashing, any bashing, or bible thumping. I was talking about basic rights that have been taken away from me, because of the rights some others think they need. And don't bash me, I believe in God and I will answer to Him for me, and me alone. I will not answer to Him for everyone else, they can do that on their own.
yep - your tune shall change down the road..LOL
Look at the bigger picture down the road.....
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I'm going down same road - please answer questions for me-sm
I have no other option but to get this done. I have been putting this off for awhile now, terrified of dentists.
1. Do you feel better healthwise since you got the dentures? Sometimes, I feel I will just generally feel better and maybe have more energy if I get this done.
2. Did they pull all top ones at once or in a few visits? Seems like such a traumatic thing to me to have done, maybe it's not so bad though?
3. What kind of anesthetic did you have, just novocaine or nitrous oxide or completely out?
3. Do you feel better about how they look and happy about having it done, now that it's over?
Thanks so much.
Hey, you're "right up the road" from me!
I'm just a tad southwest of Bangor, maybe 3 exits south off 95. I love Acadia but not during tourist season! I think Orono is nice--college townish if you're into that scene. I feel old and crusty when I go there, so I don't. I just spent the day in Bangor because we've been without power for 24 hours and just got it back on mere minutes ago. Crazy T-storms here yesterday!
Welcome to Maine and sorry your vacation is turning out to be so crappy. Mine always do to, which I why I haven't taken one in...oh....5 years now!
Two words from me....ROAD TRIP!!!! Yea!! nm
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Religious conviction is a narrow road for some.
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Then, they can widen the road by allowing God to come into their lives!
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They unknowingly turned onto a logging road.
Logging roads are not owned and/or maintained by the state. I believe it's the US Forest Service whose in charge of them. In any case, they are not public roads and are only supposed to be used by logging companies (popular with hunters also though). Unfortunately, the Kims did not know this when reading their map. They thought it was a normal road/highway.
Such a sad ending.
Me, again another thing 1 night riding down the road
going very fast saw these huge eyes - a cow in the middle of the road, good thing I did not hit her.
Me too - more of a road block really, flat and wide. :) Also known as ,
Apple A$$ :)
An unfortunate trait inherited from my mother's side of the family.
I love the smell of a gravel road...sm
I think foreigners/men with accents are sexy....
I was valedictorian and voted most likely to succeed...now I'm a SAHM who does transcription to supplement our income. I wouldn't trade a single moment with my kids for the most successful position in the world...
My favorite guilty pleasure is watching stupid movies with hot guys (like Spring Break Shark Attack).
yes, the dogs are left outside to run around, right next to a very busy road sm
yesterday i took my son to ball practice to see if he wanted to join. the friend i talked about in this post, his mom was there. (i knew the boy played ball, that's why my son wanted to play ball too). so i told my son that we'd go watch and see if that's what he wants to do. so i'm sitting there talking with the mom and i told her that i was a little scared of my son playing football because of getting hurt, etc. that he had already had two broken bones. she said that her husband (the dad that kicked the dog), has had several broken bones, from wrecks and she said when he was younger, he used to fight (like street fighting type stuff, not boxing). but she said that he doesn't do that any more, we grow up as we get older. i thought to myself, i guess he just beats up dogs now. i'm going to check into what rescue groups are around here. it's very obvious these dogs don't go to the vet for checkups. even if there is no child abuse going on, the kids are going to think it's ok to hurt animals.
thanks for your opinions
Or just freeze to use in soup or sloppy joes down the road. nm
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...sinks later on down the road after it drives and the grooves reappear. nm
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Reading Beach Road by James Patterson
xoxo
Beach/road trash pickup, help neighbors
with yard work, or help little old ladies do things around the house. Not sure what things you've tried that require them to be 14, but there's always animal shelters and teaching little kids to read. I'm not sure if you need approval, but they could help collect canned goods or toys for the Salvation Army or other charities.
...on a search. Or look for real time status, road conditions, etc. for
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Very dusty, we live on a private dirt /gravel road - sm
have a dirt/gravel driveway )very short). Dust just seems to seep through somehow. House was built in 1989. I hate to clean so that does not help, and lots of stuff/clutter here for it to accumulate on. Need to just empty the house and bring back in only a few things and sell the rest. Would make such a difference.
Last time I was in SF, there was NAKED biking group parading down the road. Now THAT was educational
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My husband is 7.5 years younger. Been together almost 20 happy years...nm
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