I feel for your grief!

• My parents getting a divorce after 30-something years... - blondie
  • I'd get a lawyer ASAP and have those - assets frozen s/m
  • Ladies, please tell your mothers this - Listen carefully
    • Except FL has no fault divorce. Everything is 50/50. - My 50% wasn't bad.
      • Same as Georgia, still does not mean - Listen carefully
        • I had a grown child and was employed (in this great - field!). Could have gotten more if housewife. :)
          • You are right, for a woman to spend all her years - Listen
  • I'm sorry to hear that, blondie. .sm - sm
    • Blondie and newbie MT - doggielover
  • I can understand this well because some guys - Hard to figure out
  • I understand - stacy72468
  • I feel for your grief! - newbie mt
    • Thank you for your kind words...nm - blondie

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I lose my Belgian when he was only 6 to sand colic, had to have him put to sleep. That was over 15 years ago and I still miss him.

I have 3 old horses that are rescues. I am sure they would go to slaughter. But they are still rideable and very good with children. I love them so much. They are like big puppies and follow me all around their pasture.

Keep saving one at a time!

John is not remembering things correctly.  That would be quite understandable.  If you explained everything to your aunt and she is on your side about what was said in the past, then so be it. I would let that drop right now. 

Even with Joan dying, your mom does not need to be moved right away.  I feel that John should pay the cost for moving her as well.  You GAVE them the deeds to the plots, they should be grateful.

I would go to the viewing.  But if he does start anything, do not argue, do not defend, walk away.  No matter what you say will be wrong.  He needs to get through his grief first.  Being that you suffer from panic attacks, you should just limit your time there.  My DH suffers from them as well, but sometimes there are things that we just have to do. 

Best of luck to you.

I am under a lot of stress with an elderly mother who has a grim prognosis. She is 90 years of age and has CHF with another recent hospitalization last week. She is home now, but her doctor called me the day of her discharge and gave me a complete detailed summary of her condition and prognosis. I have been more anxious since the discussion with him, although he is to be commended for his frankness and the sensitive way he handled the situation. 

I know counseling is beneficial after we lose someone close to us, but I feel I need some help now just dealing with this now. The only way I can explain how I feel is to say I feel like I am carrying a bomb and not able to put it down. I know what will happen and still not  able to prevent the inevitable.  The nurse told me last week at the hospital that the normal BNP level is not to be above 50.  My mother's BNP this last time was over 4600.  The doctor told me the same value on the telephone and told me it almost blew his socks off, in his words exactly.  They removed 5 1/2 liters of fluid this admission. She also has chronic renal failure. I am blessed to have her this long, but it makes it no easier to let go. I have such a heaviness in my heart. Thank you for listening.

My MIL died of cancer on Christmas Eve back in the 80s. My ex-MIL, whom I loved dearly, told me, "How wonderful. She died on the eve of the Christ child's birth. You can't ask for a more blessed event as she is definitely in the arms of  the Lord."

This always stuck in my mind and made me feel a lot better. I'm not an overly religious person, but when I think of that, I get a warm and fuzzy feeling all over.

I hope everything gets better for you. Just remember that they will be going to a better place without pain, sorrow, or heartache.

I am at about 10 weeks now.  For 2 weeks straight, I was taking a nap at 9:00 in the morning!  Then I could hold off until about 1, now I can go a couple of days without taking a nap.  Take it as a wonderful sign!

I had a miscarriage last pregnancy, wasn't tired and wasn't nauseous at all.  This time I am so very tired and so very sick and I took both as a sign that all was going well this time and it is.  Hope all goes well for you this time.  Take care of yourself and take it easy! 

I, too, remember all the lyrics (or most of them).......GREAT GREAT MEMORIES!!!  :)  

My heart goes out to you.  I  had an anorexic daugter for fives years which started at 10. She is 18 and is cured for the time being.  Anyway you are doing the right thing calling the pediatrician and seeking help. Maybe a professional can talk to your husband.  Once you get this help have patience it takes a long time for any results.  My advice also would not to find any treatment they offer your stepdaughter. My daughter was hospitalized 3 time, and almost died.  You have only a few years to work on this.  Once their 18 they are their own when it comes to seeking help.  Email me any time.  I will be praying for your family. . I am so glad you see the problem. 

I only now have night sweats - and I hate it, every night I tear off what I am wearing during sleep....and that's with the a/c on.....*laughs*.....neck, upper chest area is the worst.......drenching sometimes (tho not all the time)....

thanks for the heads-up on the new HRT method(s)....

that you have to insult people.  you are not being forced to read this board.  Like the OP said we do put names on our post.  If you have nothing better to do than to look for posts like these and put people down,it does not say much for you as a person.  Try to have a nice day :)

I first want to commend you for stepping up to the plate and taking care of your stepdad when no one else will.  I only hope he appreciates you for that.  Can you contact Social Services to arrange for some home nursing care?  You definitely sound as though you need some help with his ADLs.  I recommend plenty of exercise and time for  yourself if you can find it, a good stress release!  Also I think a 5 or 10 minute guided meditation does wonders, but I realize that's not for everyone.  Also, try Bach's Flower Remedy from health food stores.  There's one called Rescue Remedy - a few drops on the tongue and you feel calm and peaceful and it's all natural. 

And lastly just remember . . . this too shall pass !

I feel your frustrations.  I'm sorry you have to go through this.  I haven't had any situations similar to yours, but hearing about your BIL makes me angry.  Sounds like he needs to be turned in.  Is your sister scared of him?  Maybe that's why she hasn't called you to tell you how she really feels.  Mayb BIL has some control over her.  I don't have any advice, but I sure hope things work out for you.  Hang in there.  I really hope your son realizes that he doesn't need friends like that.  Especially the 20 something year old.  He needs to pick on a crowd his own age. 

Good luck. 

I agree with the advice to try to talk to him and get to the bottom of it. I know that can be a hard thing with some men. Would he be willing to go to counseling? In the meantime, I would encourage you to find strong girlfriends to support you rather than guy friends. There's a way of having an emotional affair even when you don't have the physical one, if that makes sense. So it could be true that you're actually both distant right now.

I've been through divorce, and it's a very painful road for you and the kids. Yes, you do need to be a healthy mom for your kids, but that doesn't take away the enormous pain they experience as a result of divorce and the aftermath. You're in a very hard spot with no simple solution.

Clearly something needs to happen, and sometimes things get worse before they get better. I pray God will step into your situation in a dramatic way. Miracles do still happen, so don't give up hope. And regardless of what comes out of this, God can walk you through to a better place than you're in today.

Hang in there. Take positive steps forward. Email me if you ever want to talk.

My daughter had the same situation in I think it was 2nd grade, had long beautiful blonde hair, was a nightmare, and, yes, I posted in response to someone about this once and some kind soul responded to me, get a grip, it's just lice, she could get it at the theatre or church or anywhere...which is true but not the case here, this was a problem at school that they knew they were having and had been going on all year I found out later. I was pretty naive, had never seen them before, took her to the doctor to find out what it was!  He said, yep, lice, here's some shampoo and get to work, got it cut out for ya unless you want to basically shave her head.  I got it, too, because I used my brushes on her hair.  Like I said, feel for ya, a real nightmare.  Had to call the mother of her friend who had just spent the night that weekend and inform her so she could keep an eye on her daughter.

I kept her home and worked and worked and worked some more on her and everything I could think of.  Luckily the rest of the family did not get it.  Went to school to talk to the teacher, who said there was a problem with a family who had 2 girls, one of them in DD's class, and guess what, she sat next to my daughter.   They had been sent home multiple times, too.  I went to the principal and had a little conference, asked why no notes had been sent home informing parents there was a problem and was he aware that a school had been totally shut down not far away where everybody, including the teachers and their families, had lice.  Apparently, he wasn't? said they didn't want to send notes because of privacy issues.  Huhs?  I'm not asking for names and numbers!! just to be informed to be on the lookout so we can be aware and get on top of it.  After that, they did start sending home notes alerting about lice outbreaks.  They also stopped making the kids put their coats and hats in a pile in the gym or at recess and told the kids not to share hats and coats, etc.  I started putting her hair in really tight french braids and asked the teacher to move her to another seat.  I kept it low key in front of my daughter, she felt bad enough, like it was her fault, and she cried every day as we sat and I picked the nits. I then understood the true meaning of nit picking!

Also be sure to take care of bedding, stuffed toys, favorite blankets, coats, hats, brushes, combs, etc. your bedding, blankets, pillows if been napping or such on your bed or siblings.  I also worked on upholstered furniture, couch pillows, car seats, etc.