I feel exactly the same. I am very depressed and

• I think I am anti-gift giving this year - lac
  • Is there way several family members can pitch in money for - ONE really nice gift?
  • My family decided last year to just enjoy the holidays - WITHOUT the big gift hassle. - sm
  • I'm sure some of your relatives are feeling sm - nm
  • I still love giving gifts and have a solution with my family. sm - Happy
    • This is what it is really all about.. - MT with a heartbeat
  • opposite problem - holiday time
    • you sound like me - - Amanda
      • power trippin - holiday time
  • I feel exactly the same way. - Ohmt
  • we don't exchange gifts either - cj
  • I feel exactly the same. I am very depressed and - S/M
  • You need to take care of your - don't stress
  • Gift Giving - Brandy
  • My sisters and nieces and nephews and I stopped - wannie
  • sorry for your situation. it is a - sm
    • I went through this myself about 20 years ago. - Lllls

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but he created this huge mess of his life.  It is not his daughter's responsibility to pick up the pieces for him.  (Just to fill in the back story, dad blew all his money on a mistress.  Mom didn't just throw him out.)

I think the OP should have her husband tell her dad in no uncertain terms that he WILL NOT be staying with them when he loses his apartment.  Since the OP understandably has a weak spot for her dad, her hubby should step in BEFORE he is out on the street, look ole' dad in the eye and tell him it's time to be a man and stop the whining.  

Just wondering, OP, has your dad ever asked you or your mother to forgive him for all the pain he caused?   

I feel the need to vent a little about my parents.  I talk sometimes with my hubby but he doesn't give much input.  I'm close with my parents (I'm 36 they are in their mid 50s).  My dad has always been controlling and negative (causing stress on our family).  I'm an only child.  I'm not going to go into deep details about stuff.  My parents are not financially stable. My mom is a hard worker, always has been.  My dad hasn't worked for almost 9 years.  He rehabs houses when he has one to rehab.  They are down in the dumps I think because of money.  My mom gets stressed out with her job and then not having financial help from my dad, that stresses her.  My dad is a negative person.  He lost his mom when he was in his 20s and I'm not sure if he believes in God.  He doesn't have faith at all.  He gets jealous when my kids stay the night with my in-laws (my parents like my in-laws). There's no talking with my dad.  The one time I tried to talk to him about something he said to me that hurt my feelings (I was 30), he didn't talk to me for a whole week.  Sometimes I feel guilty for being happy.  My hubby and I are fine financially, with our faith.  I wish I could sit them down and talk with them, but there would be nothing but negative talk coming from them.  I know that really you can't help someone unless they are ready to help themselves.  It's really hard to say exactly what I feel.  I love my parents, I want them to be happy, but then I feel like YOU are the only one who can change your life, or what makes you happy.  I don't want disconnect from my parents (they live a mile from us).  If my dad would just go get a job, I believe he'd feel so much better about himself.  Anyway, I'm really sorry for rambling on like this.  I just don't have anyone to talk to.  I sometimes feel responsible for my parent's happiness/unhappiness.  But growing up, I could never do anything right to please my dad, so I guess that's why I feel that way.  There's so much I could type about, but not going to.  There have been numerous times I thought to myself that I wish my mom would've never married my dad.  Anyway, thanks for listening.

hard time grasping this that I can't imagine what his poor wife and family must be going through. I can't even move and want to read everything about them finding him, etc. if he only stayed in the car with them - He left Saturday morning to look for help and the found his wife and girls on Monday. And he was found dead today miles from where the car was found.

I guess I could thank God that his wife and 2 children are still alive. I am happy they are alive, but it just makes me unbelievably sad what he must have gone through. He had such a great will to live and yet he died out there.

I don't know if anyone out there reading this who lives in Oregon, but I certainly have zero desire to EVER venture out into the Oregon wilderness, now more so than ever. I've heard horror stories about one-lane, winding, extremely hazardous roads and I don't understand why the state won't fix that? This isn't the first family to go through something like this because a lot of maps are contradicting.

This should serve as a warning to anyone who wants to travel the Oregon mountains, especially in the wintertime - DON'T DO IT.

How tragic and sad.

My MIL died of cancer on Christmas Eve back in the 80s. My ex-MIL, whom I loved dearly, told me, "How wonderful. She died on the eve of the Christ child's birth. You can't ask for a more blessed event as she is definitely in the arms of  the Lord."

This always stuck in my mind and made me feel a lot better. I'm not an overly religious person, but when I think of that, I get a warm and fuzzy feeling all over.

I hope everything gets better for you. Just remember that they will be going to a better place without pain, sorrow, or heartache.

I am at about 10 weeks now.  For 2 weeks straight, I was taking a nap at 9:00 in the morning!  Then I could hold off until about 1, now I can go a couple of days without taking a nap.  Take it as a wonderful sign!

I had a miscarriage last pregnancy, wasn't tired and wasn't nauseous at all.  This time I am so very tired and so very sick and I took both as a sign that all was going well this time and it is.  Hope all goes well for you this time.  Take care of yourself and take it easy! 

I, too, remember all the lyrics (or most of them).......GREAT GREAT MEMORIES!!!  :)  

My heart goes out to you.  I  had an anorexic daugter for fives years which started at 10. She is 18 and is cured for the time being.  Anyway you are doing the right thing calling the pediatrician and seeking help. Maybe a professional can talk to your husband.  Once you get this help have patience it takes a long time for any results.  My advice also would not to find any treatment they offer your stepdaughter. My daughter was hospitalized 3 time, and almost died.  You have only a few years to work on this.  Once their 18 they are their own when it comes to seeking help.  Email me any time.  I will be praying for your family. . I am so glad you see the problem. 

I only now have night sweats - and I hate it, every night I tear off what I am wearing during sleep....and that's with the a/c on.....*laughs*.....neck, upper chest area is the worst.......drenching sometimes (tho not all the time)....

thanks for the heads-up on the new HRT method(s)....

that you have to insult people.  you are not being forced to read this board.  Like the OP said we do put names on our post.  If you have nothing better to do than to look for posts like these and put people down,it does not say much for you as a person.  Try to have a nice day :)

I first want to commend you for stepping up to the plate and taking care of your stepdad when no one else will.  I only hope he appreciates you for that.  Can you contact Social Services to arrange for some home nursing care?  You definitely sound as though you need some help with his ADLs.  I recommend plenty of exercise and time for  yourself if you can find it, a good stress release!  Also I think a 5 or 10 minute guided meditation does wonders, but I realize that's not for everyone.  Also, try Bach's Flower Remedy from health food stores.  There's one called Rescue Remedy - a few drops on the tongue and you feel calm and peaceful and it's all natural. 

And lastly just remember . . . this too shall pass !

I feel your frustrations.  I'm sorry you have to go through this.  I haven't had any situations similar to yours, but hearing about your BIL makes me angry.  Sounds like he needs to be turned in.  Is your sister scared of him?  Maybe that's why she hasn't called you to tell you how she really feels.  Mayb BIL has some control over her.  I don't have any advice, but I sure hope things work out for you.  Hang in there.  I really hope your son realizes that he doesn't need friends like that.  Especially the 20 something year old.  He needs to pick on a crowd his own age. 

Good luck. 

I agree with the advice to try to talk to him and get to the bottom of it. I know that can be a hard thing with some men. Would he be willing to go to counseling? In the meantime, I would encourage you to find strong girlfriends to support you rather than guy friends. There's a way of having an emotional affair even when you don't have the physical one, if that makes sense. So it could be true that you're actually both distant right now.

I've been through divorce, and it's a very painful road for you and the kids. Yes, you do need to be a healthy mom for your kids, but that doesn't take away the enormous pain they experience as a result of divorce and the aftermath. You're in a very hard spot with no simple solution.

Clearly something needs to happen, and sometimes things get worse before they get better. I pray God will step into your situation in a dramatic way. Miracles do still happen, so don't give up hope. And regardless of what comes out of this, God can walk you through to a better place than you're in today.

Hang in there. Take positive steps forward. Email me if you ever want to talk.

My daughter had the same situation in I think it was 2nd grade, had long beautiful blonde hair, was a nightmare, and, yes, I posted in response to someone about this once and some kind soul responded to me, get a grip, it's just lice, she could get it at the theatre or church or anywhere...which is true but not the case here, this was a problem at school that they knew they were having and had been going on all year I found out later. I was pretty naive, had never seen them before, took her to the doctor to find out what it was!  He said, yep, lice, here's some shampoo and get to work, got it cut out for ya unless you want to basically shave her head.  I got it, too, because I used my brushes on her hair.  Like I said, feel for ya, a real nightmare.  Had to call the mother of her friend who had just spent the night that weekend and inform her so she could keep an eye on her daughter.

I kept her home and worked and worked and worked some more on her and everything I could think of.  Luckily the rest of the family did not get it.  Went to school to talk to the teacher, who said there was a problem with a family who had 2 girls, one of them in DD's class, and guess what, she sat next to my daughter.   They had been sent home multiple times, too.  I went to the principal and had a little conference, asked why no notes had been sent home informing parents there was a problem and was he aware that a school had been totally shut down not far away where everybody, including the teachers and their families, had lice.  Apparently, he wasn't? said they didn't want to send notes because of privacy issues.  Huhs?  I'm not asking for names and numbers!! just to be informed to be on the lookout so we can be aware and get on top of it.  After that, they did start sending home notes alerting about lice outbreaks.  They also stopped making the kids put their coats and hats in a pile in the gym or at recess and told the kids not to share hats and coats, etc.  I started putting her hair in really tight french braids and asked the teacher to move her to another seat.  I kept it low key in front of my daughter, she felt bad enough, like it was her fault, and she cried every day as we sat and I picked the nits. I then understood the true meaning of nit picking!

Also be sure to take care of bedding, stuffed toys, favorite blankets, coats, hats, brushes, combs, etc. your bedding, blankets, pillows if been napping or such on your bed or siblings.  I also worked on upholstered furniture, couch pillows, car seats, etc.

Britney Spears - who gives a darn.  She does this stuff for attention. Same goes for OJ Simpson.  It's on the radio too.  I heard Marion Jones 5 time olympiad is striipped of her medals for steroid use and will be jailed for 6 months.  Why is this important?  Don't ask me?

I don't know who to vote for as it's so confusing to me.  I just know that it's time for a change.  I am glad that regular citizens stand up for things that are important and have laws passed for our benefit as this is something that takes strength.

My Mom told me that the "war" media coverage was never so explicit when she was young and they never showed this gorey footage that can give us nightmares.

I want those men and women back here where they belong.  World peace is something good, but sometimes these countries need to figure it out for themselves.

Times are changing.  I wish utilities and gas prices could come down just a tad.  I think we live in a "I must have" kind of society now and the things that mean the most have surely been forgotten.  It's dog eat dog!