I doubt a guy would send an anonymous letter- sm
Posted By: on 2009-01-26
In Reply to: What would you do? - sm
it is mostly likely a woman sending it, possibly the girl in question if there is a girlfriend. I would not blindly accept it as untrue but then again I would not let it wreak my marriage as it is quite possibly the work of some sick individual out to cause trouble. I do trust my DH, but he will never cheat as he is terrified of getting a STD and of getting someone pregnant as well, and I do keep him happy as well. But I would just be a bit more aware of things, if any red flags pop up, then maybe have him followed by a PI for a few days to see if there is anything to it. If they find nothing then I would not worry about it. One of my good friends had her DH followed, though she could not get any proof as he was pretty slick and suspected he was being followed which did not help, but he did give her crabs which is what led her to use a PI, he had some lame excuse as to how he got crabs too, really makes me wonder at how dumb men think women are. They divorced in the end of course and she (and the kids) are much happier today.
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Write an anonymous letter. Type it up if you are that concerned, although I sm
am a big fan of minding my own business. You need to talk to her first instead of about her like this. Tell her your concerns. Be real and up front. Say, I don't respect you for this because you seem to be able to do such and such and I should turn you in. Don't be scared to do this. But if you are afraid, then write a letter since you say you know the insurance person and secretary.
he did send a thank you letter
the following day. See I don't know if the secretary gave the interviewer the message and he didn't call back or if he didn't get it. If he did get it I'm worried if he calls again he'll seem to pushy.
They should just make it a law that you have to tell them right after the interview!! LOL
Send them a letter . . .
stating that the debt is not valid. They will have to prove the debt is valid within 30 days before they can continue trying to collect. A lot of times, collection agencies buy up batches of bad debt for pennies on the dollar and do not have documentation to prove it is a valid debt. Many times, they give up after this, but will sell it to another collection agency. Also send a letter telling them to stop contacting you. It is a good idea to send these letters certified.
If they cannot prove it, dispute it if it is on your credit reports. Also check your state's statute of limitations for collecting debt. In my state it is 7 years. If they do not collect it by then, they are legally out of luck.
Lastly, if they prove it is a valid debt and it is within the legal time frame, you can negotiate a payoff with them. Don't pay more than the original debt because they only paid pennies on the dollar for it.
PS: I didn't send the letter...Thanks! nm
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I would also call the superintendent's office or send a letter.
I'm sure you will not be the only one to file a complaint. It has not happened yet, but our school says they will call. That's part of the PTO room parent's job is to break down that list and help call. The list isn't necessarily only in the building.
I agree, I would send just send a card....
maybe a mass card if they are Catholic.
By anonymous I mean
"not face to face." I know it's not completely anonymous. I just mean that people say things in writing that they might not say in person.
Sex toys - embarassing & anonymous
Hi - I'm serious - anonymous embarassing question for anonymous answers! I am 39 years old and my husband recently found out that I have a sex toy I bought about a year ago. He is furious and is acting like I am a really bad person. I think these things are way more common than the thinks. Just looking for opinions?
you'd bet your first born on an anonymous post
I think YOU might be ill and need a therapist. I'm not that poster but I think your response here is assumptive and presumptive and you *seem* so much smarter than this.....you cannot assume anything on a public board online....and you said YOU'D BET YOUR FIRST BORN on your thoughts about that poster.....I think you need to recheck your priorities...........
JMO..........
I would make an anonymous call
Just say you are not sure if the information will be helpful, but it is just something you noticed. Of course in the case of a fire they will do an investigation, arson and such, and it is very rare for a house to burn to the ground and everything in it turn to ash before the fire gets put out. I think they could tell if it was empty or not. I used to type up forms for a college fire department, and they are very long and detail-oriented, nothing is left out. On the subject of home insurance, I myself am tired of paying higher premiums because of just this kind of thing. They won't get away with it if this is the case. People are so afraid to report anything illegal these days. I live in a cul-de-sac with the nosiest bunch of neighbors I have ever encountered, they know who did what and with whom at what time, but nobody seemed to know who stole my car right out of my driveway a few years ago. I guess I'm just tired of honesty NOT being the norm.
Anonymous question regarding abortion (sm)
With this being a major factor in the political arena right now I wanted to ask this:
For anyone who has ever had an abortion (and there are many of us), were/are you ok with it still or did you have a period of extreme guilt/anxiety over it? I had one and did not terribly regret it, other than a short grief period, until I actually had children. I went through about two years of horrible guilt and remorse. I am now pro-life. I feel an abortion kills an innocent child and causes emotional scars for the mother that will never go completely away. I feel that I am not deserving of complete happiness in my life, ever, because I denied my child the right to have a life and attempt to find happiness. I know my reasons at that time and I know I felt like it was something I had to do, but the fact is many of us had them to avoid the shame, embarassment and/or financial burden that we feared. We thought we couldn't give our child a decent life even if we had him/her. The thing is, for the small price of some embarassment/shame and inconvenience, we could have given a family without a child a chance to have a child to love and raise, we could have given that child an opportunity to grow and seek happiness, even with obstacles to overcome. Instead, many of us chose a more selfish route, convincing ourselves it was less selfish. Anyway, that's how I feel about it. How about you.
anonymous herpes survey - sm
How common do you think it is? I think it is very, very common. Statistics show it affects about 1 in 3 people. Do you know anyone who has it? (self included?)
I know a few people who have it.
If receiving anonymous help, prayers,
painting him out to be a monster, talking to parishioner or WHATEVER contributes in any way to get her one more step toward out, then she should try it all. Things are simply not as cut and dried in the world of abuse as you would like to think. You never know what turn of a phrase or sense of inspirational support (even if it is coming from strangers) is going to do the trick, so anybody looking from the outside in should try everything they know. Also, especially with kids involved, this is no time to throw caution to the wind in such a volatile and potentially violent or, God forbid, fatal situation.
maybe it's anonymous because the person knows you would say Not True.
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I used star77 to block anonymous
callers but it doesn't work for those who put the phone number on caller ID. It has really gotten bad in the last few weeks. I work nights and they start at 9 am and go on all day. I'm on the no call list but really would like to block all toll free numbers. Any one know how to do that? I have digital phone through Time Warner.
Can you do an anonymous call rejection on the cell? nm
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Anonymous was me....I had accidentally used the wrong name on my post...nm
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Dang it, my posts keep automatically putting anonymous....sm
It is me though.
You will probably just need a letter
from your vet. But if you have any of the packages from the bad food, keep them, whether they are empty or still full. If they are still full, at least you can show you had been buying them at the time. Just make sure nobody accidently uses them!
letter
I worked for a family practice physician who would send personal letters to the family of any of his patients who died. He also pulled me aside when my dad died and expressed his condolences and told me how much he had enjoyed being my dad's doctor. What a great guy.
I don't doubt that there are
people like your first husband who simply choose to live that way, but the majority do not choose it and do not enjoy it. It is a miserable feeling.
I do give money to people that I think are truly down and out- but I just try to differentiate between them and the professional panhandlers. I see guys out in the medians of roads or on freeway ramps with signs and some of these guys are dressed better than me. Those people I suspect are scamming and I do not give money then. But I don't want to withhold help from someone who really does need it because I have been there and it was the loneliest most miserable thing I have ever been through.
That's possible, but I really doubt it
The woman she is dealing with is irrational and has serious issues. Confronting her could lead to a big emotional blowup that would leave the OP feeling even worse.
When you are talking about rational people who are able to deal with their problems calmly and with some degree of objectivity, then discussing problems is an excellent idea.
But believe me - I have been there when it comes to dealing with people who refuse to face their own problems. I definitely came out of that situation feeling much worse than when I went in, even though I remained calm, softspoken, and rational during the entire conversation.
I think the OP should use her own judgment in deciding whether it is worth it to confront the woman over this. Sometimes it's better just to close the door, literally and metaphorically, rather than try to get "closure" through confrontation.
JMHO
No doubt! LOL NM
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I have no doubt
That if this was the only thing I had going on right now I could make over 400 a week too. And I mentioned in passing the patient who came in on a Sunday as a joke, like we MTs often do. I have plenty of patience, I promise.
I never blamed the professions fault, but yes, the profession is partly to blame. Offshoring, ever decreasing cpls, and unethical MTSOs greatly contribute to the declining pay scale of the medical transcription profession. That is one of the reasons I am getting out of it. But the main reason is because I originally began school to become a psychologist, and I want to finish that.
As for the patient with the rash that came in on Sunday, guess what? They were told to go see their primary care physician on Monday.
I seriously doubt you know anything about
Don't poop where you eat small town girl!
Anyone else get this letter in mail?
Got letter in mail -- inquiry about 'opportunity' for my service to hire on 50+ MTs including dictation platform - something about an MTSO losing 98% of its hospital business in November and wanting to place these MTs. ? I'm wondering if these poor MTs even know about it yet ??
That was the letter he was given by the teacher. nm
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I have already written them a letter that I will
I also suggested they take the "America" off their name as they don't represent America in any form.
Sad letter to granddaughter
My GD has started college now. This is son's child. I have posted here before but for years I was always put on the backburner, her maternal side of the family always came first. I tried, really tried, took the entire family on wonderful vacations, bought clothes, gave them this and that but hardly any visits (passed me by on the way to the other GMs home) - always calls though from DIL but I so wanted to speak with my own son some. Oh, I could see and talk with him when I paid to have work done around my home (although on the maternal's side, GM and great-GM always had yard cleaning, painting, whatever done as freebies.) It really hurt my feelings. My DIL's family have no outside friends, just family and thick as thieves so I was the outsider. I remarried about 7 or so years ago and have wonderful man for a husband, spoils me and we have, in our golden years, much to be thankful for, jobs, travel, wonderful relationship. After my son wanted to give me a tongue lashing about what he perceives me to get in money from my father's estate, I had enough and basically threw in the towel. Just too much to take any more abuse, verbal or otherwise. I get letter yesterday from my GD asking me why did I give up "blood" for my present husband? I could not believe what she said. She said saw her great-aunts more than she does me or even communicates with me- This went on from the time she was born and it was due to her mother basically taking the kids around her family more than me. I used to cry, I was sad but finally just gave up and I mean no visits, no calls, no nothing. I cannot tell her why- she probably would never believe me and why should she? She is her mother's daughter and extremely close to the maternal side. I wrote her back and told her unable to say why, would not be believed anyway- would only cause people to feel worse towards me (I never explained to anyone there why I stopped coming around- just stopped). I have been passed over all these years, just basically ignored when it came to the kids and now this?? I told her I would be the fall guy and to believe the ones she has heard for years, I would have nothing more to say. My father (prior to his death) had given the GD and her brother both $5,000.00 in their high school years to buy their clothing until they got out of HS- her mother spent that but does this daughter know? I kept that a secret- never said anything, would not be believed probably but yet this GD says I bailed when times got tough? My father also gave the GD and her brother (both my g-children) $20,000.00 several years ago for their college- I have no idea if any of that left in the bank as after father's death the parents of these children had access to the accounts- and yet I am to blame for bailing so to speak? I could write a book on this. My heart has been heavy for years but no way could I find to squeeze into their lives and now this. The no visiting and so forth started way before this marriage and now I have a DH who loves and adores me and yet I am catching flak for dropping out. My GD says the bad thing is that I seem to be content with things as they are- I have had to learn to live and accept things as they are if I could not change them and I am content now .Anyone else have a similar problem? Oh BTW, I moved to my new home in 2004- son who lives about 15 minutes away has never been to my new home nor even called.
I think that is really a touching letter. sm
I could send the exact same letter to my mom, unfortunately she is no longer here. Not trying to bring you down, but I am going to start paying more attention to my MIL cooking. She does the Thanksgiving dinner every year and I just make a couple of casseroles. Just may have to spend the day with her which is something I really enjoy doing, most of the time. LOL
What a lovely letter...sm
Thanks for sharing it.....My Mom's 1004 miles away.... I'm sure you've called her by now to get all the "how to's" for your first turkey and all the trimmings...She'll be delighted to give you all the secret family recipes....Have a great Thanksgiving!  Cat
This is a letter I sent to the parents of a
I am writing to inform you that, after much discussion with other parents of children who are in direct contact with your son, Matthew, and daughter, Samantha, i.e. on the bus and in school, it has been the consensus that your children seem to be modeling quite a bit of inappropriate behavior, including bullying and inappropriate language, as well as not being able to keep their hands off of other children. As parents of children in this community, we are concerned about your children’s apparent complete lack of respect for not only the rules of the school and the bus, but also lack of empathy for the feelings of their classmates and fellow bus riders. Bullying is not only painful to the victim, but is also a reflection of the bully’s own ineptness at dealing with their own feelings of insecurity and perhaps a direct reflection of a dysfunctional home life. It also interferes with all of the children’s education and the feeling of safety and community in the school environment.
As the parents of these children, we would avail you to please work with your children to teach them appropriate behavior and to keep their hands to themselves in order to not be disruptive and stressors to the other well-adjusted children in the classroom setting.
Thank you in advance for your efforts to teach your children appropriate behavior and social skills.
anything positive come out of this letter?
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I think the letter is fine (sm)
until it reaches the "Bullying is..." paragraph. I would have left that section out. At that point, it appears you are attempting to psychoanalyze these children, which is strange (and arrogant).
Stimulus Letter
Even though I had my direct deposited, I actually got a letter two days after it was already deposited that it would be coming.
If its a business letter,
I wouldn't use Thanks. It's too informal for me. I use the old standby Sincerely most often.
having said that, I would tell my husband about the letter...
He deserves to know what is being said about him.
When it doubt, toss it out (sm)
We will give him credit. At least he was honest and said he wanted to be sure and is still accepting matches. To me? I would feel like a doormat. Hey, if I'm not good enough for you and you're still out there fishing, then do it without me. That's not saying someone has to be exclusive in their dating, but in this day and age, there are too many love diseases to be spread, I wouldn't want to be a part of that.
It sounds like you're good enough for now, but if something better comes along, he'll be dropping you like a hot potato. I'd be moving on.
Without a doubt, Proactiv...nm
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Pilates- without a doubt
I have heard that you see the difference within the first couple of weeks, and it tones you all over.
He is an indoor dog. I doubt very seriously
But thank you for your suggestion.
I highly doubt it
I have no clue how that is even possible. I really don't think that you can. You might want to ask Verizon, though.
They will take you to court, without doubt.
It isn't too little for them. If they have evidence you owe that debt, then they have legal recourse to collect.
If it goes to court, you will get a judgement against you. It will go on your credit record and they can also garnish wages to receive their money. They may be entitled to other collection means.
It won't matter whether you send a cease and desist letter -- it is a debt you legally owe. You need to call them immediately and discuss your concerns over the legitimacy of the claim. Never, ever avoid them - it will just cost you more in the long run.
I would give it all to him. No doubt about it. nm
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I doubt that anything has happened (yet)
The fact that she wrote the nice thank-you note shows that she assumed that you also knew about the gift. There is a good chance that your husband was just trying to be nice and generous to a girl down on her luck, but the fact that he hid it from you shows that he knew you wouldn't approve.
While there probably is nothing between them, the feelings he has for her are dangerous and could easily lead to something happening between them. I think you're right to ask him to end their relationship now, even though at the moment it is only platonic. He will probably think you're ridiculous, but I would strongly suggest it to him and, if he insists he doesn't want that, then the other alternative would be that you make your appointments together.
does pizza hut begin with the letter D?
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They guaranteed me a letter grade better
It is quite expensive though. But it was worth it in my household. Good luck!
Mine is letter carrier
and with mail volume going down, he is thankful for Netflix, and Amazon, and E-bay and people mailing oranges from Florida, and . . . .
To the poster that got the certified letter from the ER
Been thinking about you and hoping everything turned out okay.
I would write a detailed letter - sm
to the teacher, school counselor, principal, and send a copy to the school board. No resolution, no satisfaction, no kids in your school!
That counselor was way out of line but the blame also falls to the principal and teacher for not following up and making sure you were able to get a meeting.
They have some nerve. They forget WHO pays their salaries.
I just read a letter I received from the SM
ASPCA thanking me for my membership and devotion. The letter describes a gift they will be sending in appreciation.
They indicate a gift from "Miss Bea" will be comiing. They tell the story of this darling little dog who was locked in a closet with atrophied muscles from no exercise, etc. This dog was living with pounds of matter fur and living in urine and feces.
The letter went on to say that every time they go into the field to rescue an aminal people like me are with them.
I just needed to share this with you, and to urge you to donate to either the ASPCA or your local animal shelter in behalf of these defneseless animals. The level of cruelty and ignorance is apauling.
I am reduced to tears with emotion at this story, and the fact that I am so appreciated. Thanks for listening.
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