I dont' say I was single to make people feel sorry for me.
Posted By: wannie on 2009-02-16
In Reply to: Like I said above, bless your heart. - Amy
I, rather, feel sorry for you because you obviously don't care about people who are truly in need, single, divorced, widowed or otherwise.
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SO very sad there is not a single person who you would feel comfortable
or that you would want to just drop in on you without prior notification. What a humdrum, unspontaneous, antisocialist, by-the-book etiquette approach.
Dont feel sorry for me!
I never once said I never appreciated the significance of the event.
And I am so glad your 8 year old thinks the way he does.
and your 6 year old too - that is one i hope she doesn't forget!
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A single mother by choice does not make them a welfare
recipient and/or a bad person. Heck, I would be more inclined to put that person as unselfish and determined. You chose the easy way out, the single mother took on her commitment and took the responsibility.
We all have a free will and have to make choices every single day. Christian or not. sm
I am a devout Christian, believe in God 100%, but I must make good decisions every single day with regard to my health, family, finances, self, etc. You can't place blame on anyone (including God or others) when you continually make bad choices and bad things happen. It doesn't take a genius to figure that out. That rule works for non Christians too!
God is there to help us when we mess up. He's always there. An ever-present help in trouble. That's a comforting thought. God didn't want their water to be turned off. He doesn't wish for anything bad to happen to us, but just as if we have adult grown children we will allow them to go through certain things so that they might learn and grow. God does that with us, too!
You reap whatever you sow. I think most of the time it is our own choices and bad decisions that get us into hot water. Too many people cry foul when things go bad and not take responsibility. It's time for people to start growing up and taking responsibility for their lives and decisions. I was homeless at one time and have had a very hard life, so this isn't coming from someone who was given a silver spoon.
Are we talking single people or
families with children?  H and I make between that together but looking at our individual salaries no. We also have 2 kids. All I know is that we did not qualify for free or reduced school lunches. LOL.
Has anyone taken Tamiflu ? Is it worth it? I dont feel
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I completely understand. I dont feel stressed but there must be something bothering us I think.
I guess we always dont exactly know what stresses us because it could be just a lot of things together that arent really terrible but just little stressors of every day life.
Don't confuse people. We dont want then trying to
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Yea, some people dont like different ideas. Want
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I dont think people who celebrate Christmas should have
to work so you can buy groceries when you want them. I'm sorry, but that is like saying auto mechanics should stay open on Christmas Day so you can get your car fixed at your convenience or that the Post Office should stay open on Christmas Day so you can buy stamps when you want them. I respectfully disagree with your opinion, but it is your opinion and you are entitled to it. Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Dont blast me people, but if you do I can take it. Exhausted, please do not have any
yourself, financially or otherwise. That sounded bad, but not really meant to be.
Dont understand why people generalize
Just seeing your post and stating 53 and from a different generation and thus against guy's ears being pierced- please do not assume- you are so wrong- I just posted above about loving my man's ear piecing and wanting him to get another and I am 65!!!
Thanks much. I have heard a lot of people say they dont want flippers because they are a problem.
This is a front tooth but I would be willing to try it. I cant get an implant because of so much bone loss and quite frankly I have had so many apicos etc I am sick of dental surgery. All this was due to a fall when I was a kid.
True. And why dont people going on Survivor learn
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It'd make me feel better, which is better than nothing..--
Besides, I have a feeling that somehow, someday, something is going to happen to cause the government to crack down on this unscrupulous industry, and put them on a VERY short leash.
If the industry cheats and underpays too many of us, allows too many of us to sit around with no work, or fires us in favor of offshoring, there are going to be a LOT of people with very high writing and communications skills with nothing to do but start pushing -- HARD -- to turn that whole worldwide scam upside down.
Wow - evidently it sure DID make you feel better....
 You are creepy.....yuch.......
You make me feel like a slacker...
I'm reading "Stop Dressing Your 6-year-old Like a Skank" by Celia Riverbark. Very light and very funny. Perfect beach book, if I were at the beach, which I'm not unfortunately.
It did not make me feel bad, but it made
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responses like this make me not feel so bad :)
Good for you for making the most of it and being happy!!
I have moved on and was just trying to make SoBlue feel better.
I have moved on and gotten on with my life. My ex now lives 2 minutes from me and I could care less. The kid who robbed me is now 19 and in jail for robbing a bank and I don't have to worry about him either. These things were in my past and I have learned and become a stronger person from them.
Just love them and include them. Don't make them feel SM
like they are a part of a bad movie not really understanding the plot and worried about what is going to happen to them. I have an adjustment disorder and panic situation all my life as a result. When you feel the floor falling out from under you it is a frightening situation. Just make them feel as secure as possible. That is the main thing. Tell them over and over it has nothing to do with them. Kids tend to blame themselves. I don't know the ages of your children, but young ones particularly take it on themselves. I told my dad the night it really fell apart that if I had been a better daughter this would not have happened. Obviously, that was not an accurate statement. I was sitting in a chair unable to walk listening to a terrible fight and my mom telling him she hated him. No one should have memories like that. My parents were good people. They felt overwhelmed and that is what happened. We needed family counseling. Good luck to you, dear.
i feel bad for people
can't appreciate life and respect for another living thing. No one is asking you to spend time with the dog. The dog would probably run the other way. Its some children who frankly are pretty scary at times with their parents shopping! I hope you can put a smile on your face today.
And I feel sorry for people like you
People who think they their opinion is worth more than others. That they have the right to force their own likes/dislikes/approvals/disapprovals on others.
Animals are not acceptable everywhere, period.
I'm thrilled for you, ma'am. Really I am, that you have an attachment to your animal.
However, just because YOU find it acceptable to bring Fifi into all public places does not mean that we have to accept it.
There are many reasons not to have an animal in grocery stores and shopping malls.
It is your inability to exercise, even comprehend, the difference between your preferences and others that make you sad.
Thanks. A lot of people feel that way about my
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Thanks, I will, and I feel such sadness for those people
how horribly frightening and terribly sad. God bless them all.
I feel so sorry for the people whose children don't help sm
my stepfather was married to my mom for 5 years and visited with us one weekend a month after the divorce. He had given my sister and me his name when he married my mom and he paid child support for us and our brother (his son) until we were 18. Once I grew up I only talked to him on the phone a couple of times a year (he is not a big phone talker and I moved out of state). Yet two years ago when he needed help, I felt a responsibility to help him. It seems the least we can do. Some people don't seem to realize that some day they too will be old and may need help. Sad.
IME, people don't feel sorry for fat people either
They actually have less sympathy than they do for people who have substance abuse, IME.
At any rate, I do feel sorry for Britney but the safety of her children should be everyone's first priority, then her safety. It would seem to me that all these hangers-on she has are jeopardizing that safety. It's all just very sad.
Thanks both of you! I do expect to make some people mad (sm)
Don't really care. My enough button has finally been pushed!
all that make people look stupid.
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I know this will make people angry and ...
I do not know everyone's situations, but I see women on here whining and whining about stupid things. Enjoy the person you love. My husband is at war and I miss him terribly. All of these stupid little things that women deem "selfish" and such are usually nothing more than selfish women wanting things their own ways. Like I said, not every time, but come on, you have to give some, too. If you think your man sucks, there is really nothing he is going to do to make you happy, so you should probably cut him loose to find someone who can appreciate him.
I feel sorry for people having multiple miscarriages
Many women do not know this but if one has multiple miscarriages, it COULD be a rheumatological problem, autoimmune problem and not just a gynecological problem. I used to work for a rheumatologist and typed many, many of these types of reports and so I just think that women either *forget* about the field of rheumatology or don't know about the field regarding multiple miscarriages, so I'm merely here to *inform*
*hugs* 2 all who have experienced miscarriages - and best of luck to all!
I feel sorry for people who live off the government
I have raised 2 kids that did not have to do without and on my own. I was a divorced woman and did not, thank goodness, have to rely on anyone or anything else. I am much stronger than that.
'scuse...keep calls short as I feel I must do these things in order to make money. No babies
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Well i have SEEN certain people that make evolution hard to argue!!!
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I like Paula, the media and people make up so much stuff!...nm
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Dont read this post if you dont want to know names
Brandon was not the worst of the bunch. People are for sure not voting for who they like. I will vote for Stephanie and Blake until they are gone. I couldnt get through on Lakisha and Melinda. They will be the last two IMO. I also like Jordan. I like none of the other guys. Would it be funny if all guys went home first and only girls were left!
Many meds for depression and mental retardation make people very SM
heavy. My friend has gained probably 75 pounds or more since being on some of the meds. Don't know quite why they contribute to weight loss, but one commercial some years ago said that it does something to the part of the brain that senses when you are full. . . . .
Poster did not give the ride. Why can't people read something and make an
effort to understand the whole issue before spouting off?
Make sure his Will is made out and pray. I've seen too many people like this in my nursing career
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Never said they dont communicate.Also dont spell
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No I dont and I dont take any medication for anything. nm
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I'm with you 50 and single..
I too have sworn off relationships and very happy being on my own. I cannot and will not go through it again. Both my ex's were two peas in a pod. Unfortunately, I seem to attract the same type of people. At 52, I am quite happy being alone but also having a great circle of friends. It far outweighs being unhappy, angry, always hoping things would get better when they never did.
I am not a single mom but...
I was a single woman when I bought my house. It is one of the things I regret the most right now.
BUT ONLY cause I wasn't settled down, no family, things came up and i wanted to move. I also bought it right before the market crashed 2.5 years ago, and now I am in an interest-only ARM on an upside down mortgage.
Now, considering this probably wont happen to you because the market has already crashed, there still might be room to wonder if it could fall more, depending on where you are looking to buy. My advice is if you are going to stay there and that is your home, your job, etc. etc. then buying is a great idea and when you mention you are responsible for anything that happens to the house... well that is the chance you take. Depends on what kind of home you buy, how old, and if there are HOA dues. I still dont know how I feel about homeowner's associations, even though I belong to one. However, they will be responsible for anything exteriorly wrong with my house, but for $80.00 a month. you know? so you definitely have to weigh your options.
My main advice would be DO NOT RUSH. that is what I did as I was young and excited to be a home owner at a young age, but now all that money i worked so hard for since the age of 15 is gone. I no longer have the 50K I put down on the house. That is something REALLY tough to deal with.
I love being a homeowner, but I hate that I bought when I did. you know? I know I am not the only one in that boat of course but it is still very very tough.
Good luck!!
well, I'm a single mom....
I've been divorced for nearly 8 years. I have taken care of my son completely on my own. I do not have a huge social circle, but I know what I like to do, and I concentrate on my son, but one day that child will (hopefully) grow up and be on his own and so it will be just me. I know what I like, do what I like, but sometimes, having that special someone would just, for me, make things better. But, now this is the odd part, having been married to the wrong man, I would be perfectly content to have a "significant other" without ever going to the "married" stage. I am fine and have been fine on my own the last 7 years, learned a lot about myself. Now at 35, I feel like I want someone in my life, but I dont necessarily have to be married. Sounds odd, and most of my friends are the opposite. But, I'm also one of those people that never had a lot of boyfriends, etc. I was not the girl in high school who had crushes on a lot of guys, I chose to date and not have a serious relationship in high school because I thought I was too young for that, haha. I've seen both ends of the spectrum, I've seen completely happy couples, my own mom and step-dad for example, if I was to ever get married again, I want a relationship like theirs. They are each other's best friends, and still so in love, but they also make a point of doing things separately because they are, after all, 2 separate people; and I've seen people in my life who are in their 60s and still perfectly content to be single.
I'm in the middle of that spectrum, haha, I would like someone to share in parts of my life, but I don't have to marry him if that never happens either. :)
I do know that I'm picky on friends, and I'm shy, and I don't date much, its just hard to date. I'm a single mom, I work from home, I live in a small town and have only been here 6 years, but only made 2 friends, well, people I would consider friends, I work midnights, sleep during the day, and spend time with my son in the evenings and with our family on the weekends, so I really don't even have time to date, so its a darn good thing I am happy in my life, haha, or I'd be a lonely mess. Sometimes it does get lonely, but in an affection way, not so much in a socializing way for me, I don't know how else to word that.
A single woman
What you're feeling is perfectly normal. Please do not rush into a relationship with any man at this point. Enjoy this time and spend it getting to know your children better and just spending time with them. Also get to know yourself and feel comfortable with who you are - develop some hobbies and interests. If you've spent the last 2 decades in this kind of relationship, you haven't had much time to spend on yourself. Soak in a hot tub every night if you want to.
In a sense, you've just cut a huge wart off your foot and of course it's going to feel strange and unfamiliar. It was the wart that was strange, now things are normal. It just feels strange because you aren't used to it.
Hope some of this makes sense. If you think about it, I bet you are actually less lonely now than when he was there. Some of the loneliest people I know are in marriages and relationships. Some of the happiest and most joy-filled people I know are on their own.
So happy to be single.
Sounds like he has a huge stick stuck somewhere uncomfortable. Big hugs for you!
were you a single parent
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It was not my attempt to single anyone out
is simply curiosity about some of the posts I've read. Has nothing to do with Huckabee, constitution, declaration of independence, etc.
As far as the nice day goes... right back at ya! :)
Question for single MTs
I am divorced now for awhile. I am finding that I have absolutely no interest in dating! I look at the online dating sights occasionally but no one attracts me. There seem to be slim pickens if you know what I mean. Anyway, I seem to be very happy on my own. My question is, do any of you feel the same? I guess I'm just at a point in my life where I'd rather stay single.
not one single fear
zero, zip, zilch, nada...
we are born with two fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. the rest we create or obtain on our own later in life. me: none, other than the two i was born with.
Single Mom Survivor here ... have
Looking back over my experience as an owner and as a renter, raising my children alone with limited resources:
Renting is easier and more cost effective for you than buying.
Pro's of renting:
1. Low deposit to get in the door.
2. Rent is usually reasonable and oftentimes contract won't go up if you are a good renter.
3. MAINTENANCE is the responsibility of the management -- you are not out for those costs.
4. You can leave with a 30-day notice.
Pro's of ownership:
1. You are building equity.
2. Tax breaks.
3. If financial crisis, it takes about 6 to 9 months to get to foreclosure so you do have some time to find another place.
Con's of renting:
1. May require a background and/or credit check.
2. Although evictions are subject to some jurisdiction (they must give you a 10-day notice), it can be quicker to evict you from a rental than from your own property.
Con's of ownership:
1. ALL maintenance and repairs are up to you. Can be very costly.
2. You cannot get out of this very easily - especially in this market.
Hope this helps.
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