I don’t fire off the questions because
Posted By: Doctors on 2009-06-11
In Reply to: doctor visits - mt
most physicians now just try to race through because having to make that quota. But back to him asking you to have a sleep study, first of all you can refuse to have any test done you don’t want to have done. I refuse to weigh in my doctor's office. That is not really information basically needed (unless having anesthesia or dye injected for MRI say). Has any family member stated to you about excessive snoring, that being a reason you would need to have the study done. I did have a young niece to die from sleep apnea so in that case with loud, excessive snoring that you have heard about, then I would ask for it myself. I just turned down a nerve conduction study the other day. The neurologist said he oculd not treat; therefore why have it just then.
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Darlin', I saw fight fire with fire. Oh, I know, it's not being the "bigger person" BU
it's better than keeping it all inside and letting it fester. Your MIL sounds like mine and your DH sounds like mine as well. My husband doesn't want to deal with his mother, so he pretends he doesn't notice anything she says or does and the same goes for my FIL. He knows how is wife is, but he just ignores it. My husband will tell me privately "oh, you know how my mom is." For about the first year of marriage, I bit my tongue with his mother. But when I saw that my DH was never going to stand up for me, I decided to start biting back. She would say stuff like "You like you've put on a little weight, sweetie." and I'd say "you look like you've put on a few years."
My MIL and I have full on yell fests sometimes. We don't speak to each other for weeks or months because we're mad, but we always make up. Also, my DH has come around too. He has gotten to where instead of ignoring comments that his mother makes, before I can come back at her, he'll jump in and let her know that what she said was not acceptable. So now there are less fights because mommy doesn't like to be called out by her baby boy.
I think for a long time my MIl was just jealous of me because she was the main woman in her son's life for years and that changed when I came into the picture. So she turned every family gathering into a competition for her son's attention. I hated the first years, but now being married 16 years, I really don't care if she gets all his attention when we get together. Let her fix his food and tell him how great he is. Gives me the day off. 
Someone should set THEM on fire -sm
That is totally infuriating. Too bad the 3 months *confinement* doesn't include being confined to a burn ward with 3rd-degree-burns over 75% of THEIR bodies. At the very le3ast, they should be made to sit through watching someone in the tubs at a burn ward getting their skin pulled off piece by piece. Might be a real eye-opener. Also, I think their parents should be liable for the kitten's vet bills.
A few months ago there was a horrible video on YouTube where some jerk in the Philippines (who must've been missing more than a few chromosomes, just like those girls!)lit a caged rat on fire in the same manner. Then, as if that weren't bad enough, he took another caged rat and poured boiling water on it. When that didn't quite kill it, he set it on fire. I went after that guy with a vengeance... got his video pulled from YouTube, (and hopefully him banned from it permanently). Also got on some of the internet forums in the Philippines and tried to track him down so that cruelty charges could be filed against him, pointing out that people who torture & kill animals often go on to start doing it to humans...
Cotati isn't far from where I live, and there is also a man in that area that *adopts* kittens from the free ads and on Craigslist, and tortures & kills them. People have been trying to get that guy put away, but it's been an uphill battle.
But to fire someone for
wishing someone Merry Christmas? That's what I'm talking about. God forbid anyone says the word, "Christ." I wonder how long it will take before "In God We Trust" is removed from our money.
Maybe if you start a fire in your
fireplace, your swamp cooler will be more effective!
Either that or get a dehumidifier.
I hate humidity also, and here I am in NC. Would you believe that when people are sick they sometimes run HUMIDIFIERS HERE?? Makes no sense to me when they could just step outside most of the time, and we have enough fungus amongus, LOL.
Big fire pit with table
and snowshoes.
Where there is smoke, there is fire...
Someone said consider the source. So let's consider the source...
You don't know her and she doesn't know you. Why would she seek you out to lie to you?
Apparently your husband does know her and was going to warn you beforehand that she might try to stir up trouble. Why would she pick your marriage to stir up trouble in? What bone of contention does she have with your husband? What is his relationship with her?
And if there is nothing to what she says as your husband suggests and that she is just trying to "stir up trouble" then why did he feel he needed to warn you?
Sounds to me like he's covering his bases. Personally, I think you husband has a lot of explaining to do and this advice of "keep quiet and take notes" is bunk. Don't be the victim. Listen to what your gut is telling you. Something smells in your situation and I bet it's coming from hubbie.
Trust me when I say, men can look their wives in the eye and lie without batting an eye and when caught in a lie, they will practically hurt themselves trying to rationalize and justify. Whatever is going on with your husband, you cannot deny that there are rumors out there that your husband feels he needs to squelch. That's troublesome by itself. Why would someone make up rumors about him?
Don't excuse him, don't treat him with kid gloves. Confront him and find the truth. You'll know it when you hear it.
He can light my fire! ;)
The Australian guy that sang the Doors song 'Light My Fire' is GOOD-LOOKING. Doesn't hurt that he sounds good also ;)
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Fire mountain gems has a great selection and you can order a free HUGE catalog. They have wonderful prices and fast shipment. Local stores are all most always cheaper than Jo-Ann's and Michaels by the way.
I'd fire that doctor in a nannosecond...sm
there's no reason at all for a doctor to act like that, much less your husband!
Most of us survived chicken pox just fine as kids. Having the vaccine doesn't guarantee you won't get it - it just reduces the chance of getting it (i.e. some people who get the flu shot get the flu anyway).
Keep the lotions and potions on your child and you'll get through this.
You are playing with fire and someone is going to get burned. sm
Infedility by any means is not moral and it is not right. Your husband has every right to be upset, as would I if my husband were doing the same. I'm not condemning you, I'm saying what I would tell anyone. In fact, my best friend brought a guy to the movies with us the other night and she is MARRIED. Needless to say, I was very upset and called her after the movie and told her I didn't think that was very cool.
I bet you 99% of the responders to this post will agree that what you are doing is not right.
It's just exciting and fun right now and not at all worth it in the end. If your husband finds out he may never respect or trust you ever again.
Also, what helps me if I ever, ever get an inkling to stray (which has happened once in our 10-year marriage), is to think about ALL my husband has been through with me and put up and has done for me (which is A LOT), and eventually the "other guy" just doesn't seem that appealing anymore. It actually made me cry when I began thinking of all my husband has done for me and my child (I was married once before we met).
Anyways, you have to stop it. Leading a double life weighs very heavy on your conscience. It's no fun. Not good for your health.
Oh, one more thing! Why is he single, if he is? He's probably a jerk. He ditched you once, right? If he's willing to hang on to you even though he knows you are married? He's not worth it, girl.
I grew up with fire ants and believe me sm
You KNOW when you've been bitten. They aren't called fire ants for nothing. We do think it might be insect(s) from the tree we bought (see post "something occurred to us").
Wow, sounds like you want to jump right into the fire.
I wouldn't do it. Way too expensive. Y'all are probably young. I would sleep on it for several, several nights.
Wow! You're sure a ball of fire! nm
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Sounds like the MIL is the one fueling the fire!!
I have the world's greatest MIL! I could marry 50 more men and not have a MIL like her!! She is my BFF! She thinks and acts as if I'm her own daugher (she only had 2 sons). But I will tell you this, more than likely the MIL is the source of the problem and stabbing you in the back worse than you think. Sounds like she may be where all the animosity is coming from. Sorry to say, but she probably thinks you aren't "good enough" for her son. (you know how Mama's boys are) I would definately DEMAND that my hubbie take up for me or I would send him home packing to his Mama!
birthday/fire hall
What fire department in the US allows smoking indoors? I really don't need to know. I'm sorry you had to endure that. Cat
Hi Cat! I was told it was at a fire hall, but actually was SM
more like a legion, etc. Hope you know what I mean. . much smaller than the fire hall which was down the street. I got lost three times, was not familiar with the town, even though it is not far from where I live, etc. Wow. . what a day. Thanks for caring. It is now 12:50 a.m. and my eyes are actually still burning!!
fire at school, i was not contacted
Here's what happened: I dropped my third-grader off at 8:20 this morning. A group of us moms who drop off their kids meet at a little coffee shop just down the street. I leave the coffee shop at 9:30 a.m., return home, check my voice mail (none), and then leave to run an errand (taking my elderly neighbor to the garage to pick up her repaired car). It's now just after 10 a.m. On the car radio, (from an out-of-town radio station, not local) I hear that my child's school has been evacuated due to a fire and school has been dismissed.
I immediately pull the car to the side of the road and call one of the mom's I had just had coffee with, asking her if she had been called by the school. She had not. So, I turn the car around and start racing back to school. My brother then calls me (his daughter is in the same grade, same school, as my boy), stating that he has picked up our children and is taking them to grandma's house. He said he had only heard it from his girlfriend who heard it on the radio and called him.
Last year, we had to fill out this form stating who was okay to pick up our kids from school in case of emergency. My brother was on that list from last year, but this year we were not supplied with one of those forms to fill out. What if things had changed? What I had decided he was no longer to be on that list?
Anyhow, I get home, check my voice mail again, still none. On the noon news, the story is there, stating the children have been evacuated and bussed home. How many kids got sent to a home with parents away at work? How many kids waited to get picked up by non-contacted parents? Isn't there supposed to be an emergency system which can contact 900 parents in a timely fashion? I am really miffed. Everything is alright, but this was a fiasco.
In case of a fire and no keys
I would go through the window but not in a situation like this, different case altogether.
You're not alone. According to the fire marshal,
our house fire was my fault. I left a burner on and went out the door. I was in such a hurry (as usual) to pick up my kids that I didn't turn it off the whole way. The house went up in flames and everything with it. The first thing the kids said when we moved in our new house was, "Mom, I don't think you should operate the stove." Thanks, guys. Like I don't feel guilty enough. But I'm learning to laugh at myself again. Can't keep beating myself up over it. Everyone was safe and that's the most important thing.
Such as how much nuclear fire-power you have....
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Great balls of fire! sm
That $540 could pay a month's rent for some families. Or feed a third-world family of five for a year!
Sheesh! Michelle may be a shoe addict, to which I can relate, but she's gonna get flamed for this one.....
Oh, great balls of fire! sm
When I was 25 years or so younger and still fairly pretty, I ran into a situation like that, only the man was divorced. He even showed me his divorce decree. However, he failed to mention his live-in girlfriend. When I found that out in a very short time, I excised him from my life like a space-occupying lesion. But for crying out loud, that sux! In a way, it almost seems worse than being disloyal to one's legal wife. E-ew!
A house on the next block is on fire. Winds are
about 20 mph and I lost track of the number of firetrucks have responded. Just last night our community had a benefit concert for another family that lost their house to fire just before Thanksgiving. Hopefully everyone is safe and the fire doesn't spread.
Don't do myself, but look at Fire Mountain Gems on line &
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Mine slept through fire alarm
My 16-year-old daughter sleeps like the dead. A couple of years ago the fire alarm went off in the middle of the night and it was absolutely blaring in her room, and she SLEPT THROUGH IT! Needless to say, an alarm doesn't work. I not only wake her up, I physically pick her up out of bed and stand her on her feet. I honestly don't know what she will do when she goes off to college. No problems with my 18-year-old. By the way, I don't do very many other things for them - they are self-sufficient. But this is a practical matter.
Isn't it illegal to fire someone for observing their own religion? nm
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There was fire at Turkey Point. Grid went down sm
in Miami, so that began domino effect with other grids getting overloaded and then shutting down.
tub bath outside in sun or cozy in front of fire
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cozy/fire....Thanksgiving or Christmas?
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Fire pit, dogs, smores and fireworks here. Have Barbie
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Monte Carlo Casino in Vegas on fire see it on
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bread with spagetti sauce and cheese, over the fire
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Heat Surge electric fire place
I posted a few weeks ago about an article I saw for a Heat Surge electric fireplace with a wooden mantle built by the Amish.
Well I received it about 1.5 wks ago and I must say that it is absolutely beautiful! It is virtually noiseless, I seriously cannot hear it running at all. The brightness of the flame is adjustable and it has a low and a high heat setting. Best of all, it works! It does exactly what I had planned on and keeps the back of my house at a reasonable tempurature during the night so I do not have to worry about keeping the wood stove in the front going full blast all night.
The kids turned it on one evening when they were playing pool and they actually ended up turning it off because it got to warm.
So in my opinion, if you want something that is beautiful, well built, safe, and does provide more than enough heat for a room or two (mine is between the family room/kitchen which is all one long room) then it is absolutely worth the money.
Beware of fixing your own stove, fire hazard! nm
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winter wonderland and chestnuts roasting on an open fire
and baby, its cold outside. have more than 1!!
Teen girls accused of setting kitten on fire (sm)
This article made my stomach roll. Maximum penalty (yeah, right) is 3 years in solitary confinement. Personally, I think they should be publically whipped until they scream and then whipped until they stop screaming...but that's just me.
"A boy and his friend said they saw the smoke and heard the cat shrieking while the girls laughed."
http://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/13708685/detail.html?rss=dgo&psp=news
(cut and paste into your browser to read article)
Questions
I have breastfed and am currently breast feeding and would like to ask you
If you were on the air plan which would you prefer the mother breastfeeding her child to comfort and keep him/her quiet in this cramped uncomfortable environment or to listen to this child scream bloody murder making your trip totally unbearable????
Some thoughts:
Children that young dont know how to clear their ears when changing altitudes and it easier to either have them sleeping or sucking.
Also some young children that are breastfed refuse bottles completely.
Older babies do not like to have their faces covered while eating they want to see their mommy and surroundings.
Personally:
I am the mother of a ten month old that will be flying (on a long flight) for the first time next month. I plan on breastfeeding him if needed and if I do need to I will have my older daughter there to hold a small blanket up as a sort of shielding wall. I am more than ready to be done breastfeeding and am working very hard to get him there as well but because his schedule doesnt agree with mine I dont think that I should be barred from traveling on a plane and I think the other passengers on the plane would prefer I comfort my child to the best of my ability so that they can try and enjoy their trip as well.
The sucky part about is I will be on the mentioned airlines soooooo may be my son wont get to meet his grandparent for the first time because my child comes first always!!!! Take care everyone and enjoy your holidays I am climbing off my soap box now
you need to ask yourself 2 questions sm
1. Can the bridesmaids comfortably wear a strapless dress (not everybody can)?
2. Do the shoulders need to be covered if the wedding is in a church?
I'd choose number 2.
Two questions
Has she been anywhere that she could have come in contact with bedbugs? (stayed at a motel, slept over at a friend's house)
Is it possible she has been in contact with poison ivy?
We went through a similar problem with my husband a while ago. He has to travel sometimes for his job, and several years ago he picked up some bedbugs from a hotel.
Since then, we have moved to a new house and he got a new bed. When he started itching again we were concerned it was bedbugs, but the rash was similar to how you describe your daughter's rash, and we finally figured out he had probably gotten into some poison ivy in our back yard.
Good luck - I hope you figure out the cause (and cure) soon.
questions
1.You'll never see me watch___? reality TV
2.You'll never see me wear___? a designer dress
3.You'll never see me eat___? chocolate covered ants
4.You'll never see me buy___? any male enhancement products
5.You'll never see me clean___? at all, unless I'm getting company!
6.You'll never see me kiss___? Jack Black, ewwww
7.You'll never see me talking___? about wanting to work outside my home
questions
I think a lot depends on your specific circumstances. I got an apartment because he refused to move out. I had planned it for months. Legally though if you leave and the house is in both your names, that's not good because he'll get the house.
As far as the kids, so much depends on their ages but you'd be surprised how much they already intuitively know. Just be honest with them and make sure they know they are loved by both of you, and that none of this is their fault. Give them as much stability as possible and once they see you are happier, their lives will be too.
There are a lot of questions here,
1 being the fact that this "nanny" was supposed to be with the 16-year-old. The police said they are sticking with their story, the Travolta camp saying differently. Supposedly this child had two (2) nannies that were supposed to be with him at all times. If a cover up, it has a lot to do with it.
Some questions sm
Boy this is a tough situation. My first thoughts are to ask you if you feel he has been a good husband. In other words, if this DID happen 17 years ago, perhaps he has changed his ways and become a better partner. However, you indicate you think he's lying to you so I'm wondering if you have trust issues even today. You really need to sit down and have a long heart to heart with hubs and clear this up because it's not easy to throw away 17 years of a marriage and children together.
Well, more questions then
If this only happens once a month, or approximately every 28 days....
How long has it been going on?
Is she gaining weight?
Is there a boyfriend in her past or present?
I've had friends who got pregnant at 14. It happens. And nobody had a clue that anything was going on.
Christmas questions
1. Egg Nog or Hot Chocolate? - Hot Chocolate
2. Does Santa wrap presents or just sit them under the tree? Mom wraps, Santa stuffs stockings.
3. Colored lights on tree/house or white? Colored inside, white outside
4. Do you hang mistletoe? No
5. When do you put your decorations up? When I have time. Usually get the tree the first weekend in December.
6. What is your favorite holiday dish (excluding dessert)? Turkey
7. Favorite Holiday memory as a child: Spending Christmas with my mom's parents who lived 2 hours away and then coming home and seeing my dad's parents who lived right down the street.
8. When and how did you learn the truth about Santa? My cousin informed me in elementary school and took great pleasure in crushing me. 
9. Do you open a gift on Christmas Eve? I always wanted to, but wasn't allowed, so now my kids each get to open one on Christmas Eve, and my oldest is in college and still likes to do this.
10. How do you decorate your Christmas Tree? colored lights, all the oraments I have gotten my kids over the years plus the ones they have made in school since they were little, star on the top. Probably nothing Martha Stewart would approve of - LOL.
11. Snow: Love it or Dread it? Used to love it, now dread it, but don't know why exactly.
12. Can you ice skate? Yes.
13. Do you remember your favorite gift? Bionic Woman doll
14. What's the most important thing about the Holidays for you? Being with my family and Christmas Even services at church and singing all those great hymns.
15. What is your favorite Holiday Dessert? pumpkin pie
16. What is your favorite holiday tradition? Christmas eve candlelight service
17. What tops your tree? star
18. Which do you prefer giving or Receiving? Love to give and see the look on my kids' faces when they open their gifts.
19. What is your favorite Christmas Song? O Holy Night
20. Candy Canes: Yuck or Yum? Yum
Christmas questions sm
1. Egg Nog or Hot Chocolate? Egg Nog (loaded).
2. Does Santa wrap presents or just sit them under the tree? Wrap them all.
3. Colored lights on tree/house or white? Colored.
4. Do you hang mistletoe? No.
5. When do you put your decorations up? Weekend after Thanksgiving.
6. What is your favorite holiday dish (excluding dessert)? Baked ham.
7. Favorite Holiday memory as a child: Going sledding in Garmisch, Germany. The adults went skiing. Lived in Germany 10 years as a kid, and every Christmas was great there. Very festive place during the holiday season.
8. When and how did you learn the truth about Santa? 9 years old, my younger brother found all the gifts in the closet - I was devastated.
9. Do you open a gift on Christmas Eve? No.
10. How do you decorate your Christmas Tree? Leave that to my daughter and grandson.
11. Snow: Love it or Dread it? I like to look at it, but dread driving in it. We have enough here in Colorado to share with everybody.
12. Can you ice skate? I would be afraid to try it now.
13. Do you remember your favorite gift? My first Shaded Silver Chinchilla persian kitten. He lived to be 20 and I am now on my second one.
14. What's the most important thing about the Holidays for you? Giving.
15. What is your favorite Holiday Dessert? Irish Christmas pudding with hot Bird's custard.
16. What is your favorite holiday tradition? Baking Christmas goodies, watching Home Alone, and homemade Eggnog.
17. What tops your tree? Star.
18. Which do you prefer giving or Receiving? Giving.
19. What is your favorite Christmas Song? Jingle Bell Rock
20. Candy Canes: Yuck or Yum? Yum.
Sorry if I ask the obvious questions, but ...
Are you providing scratching posts loaded with catnip, fun toys, that kind of thing? I have had maybe a dozen cats over the years, none of them declawed, and none ever touched any of my furniture (some of it leather to boot)because I started them when they were young with taking them to the claw posts, praising them there, providing toys, etc. Give it a try before you declaw, please!!! Good luck.
thanks for all the answers to my questions--sm
I appreciate the input, even though it saddens me that this would even happen anywhere in the USA!
Common questions that men ask
Questions that I've been commonly asked in the "dating world" since I'm single.
"Why arent you married"
"Do you want kids?"
"Why hasn't someone snatched you up"
"Do you date?"
or when the guy states...
"I'm a really nice guy"
"I'm a great catch"
"I've always been too busy to meet someone special until now"
Another thing..for some reason, I find divorced men who have kids living with their mother to be a turn off.
I feel that they made their families and now they are dating while the brunt of child care is now on their ex wife.
Maybe it's ignorant of me, I don't know. I really admire men who LIVE with their children or I'd prefer to date men who didnt have children at all.
I guess the purpose of this post is mostly a rant..anyone identify with any of this?
I have the same questions except it's a second marriage? SM
A friend of mine is getting married for the second time. The first time around it was a huge, and I mean HUGE, affair with an engagement party, bridal shower, bachelor and bachelorette parties, huge Catholic wedding with a huge reception with food and free booze, etc. They registered at Macy's and expected everyone to get their presents from there. There China was over $100 for a place setting!
The couple divorced and now she is getting married again and has sent out invitations to all the festivities. She's planning another huge wedding and she has registered again at Macy's! Now, personally I feel this is just wrong. I think a small tasteful wedding is in order for the second go round and I don't think it is at all necessary to register anywhere for the second wedding. How much China can one person use? I mean, she got almost everything in her divorce!
I'm sort of a down to earth, pratical kind of person so Wal-Mart dishes are fine with me, so I guess maybe I'm not the best person to understand wedding traditions and etiquette, but do I really need to go to Macy's and get another expensive wedding gift?
Lots of questions
1. How old is the first house? The one with the sewing room and the carpet coming up?
2. How many sq ft is the second house - the newer one?
3. Have the rest of the houses in your neighborhood appreciated 66% in the last five years? (from $75,000 to $125,000)
Your husband has a good idea about putting the money in savings for six months to make sure you can afford to pay a mortgage that is twice what you are paying now. And after six months, you will have $1800 more to put down on the house.
This is strictly personal experience - but last summer we moved from a 25-year-old house to a brand new one. We lived in the 25yo house for 12 years, and the money we spent remodeling and updating (+ original price) it would have bought us a brand new house of the same size. So I would say go for the newer house if it comes to a choice. Older houses can be a LOT of work.
OTOH, you say your husband likes woodworking. If you're willing to live in a house that is in a perpetual state of remodeling...go for it!
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