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I don't know

Posted By: Siren on 2008-09-18
In Reply to: I'm with you. I don't think I could handle that - S/M

about making a marriage stronger.  My family history sort of makes a statement against that.  My grandfather was married to 2 women at the same time.  My grandmother gave him an ultimatum either his 6 children, who he loved to pieces, or this other woman, he chose his children. However, they had a horrible marriage.  My mom and dad divorced when I was 8.  My dad remarried 4 times.  My mom remarried once, and divorced.  She had big time issues with trust, which I think is what destroyed her second marriage.  Her second husband was a gem, but mom just could not trust him.  He felt smoothered.  He was a wonderful stepfather!  


I just don't get it.  Yes, I have been tempted as I think everyone is, but to me, especially in my case, if you really love a person, and you have already hurt them once by cheating, how could you ever do it again!!!!  No matter what the temptation is. No matter, if this woman, has long beautiful black hair and green eyes, blah blah blah. 


I am not trying to sound all righteous here, but if I were unhappy in a marriage, I would end it, then move on.  I wouldn't want my cake and eat it too, if you know what I mean. 


Having been through it, and seeing what it does to relationships, individuals, and children - - it is a horrible situation. 


If I decide to leave this marriage, I do not think I would ever marry again, let alone date.  It has really crushed me.  It has crushed my self-esteem.  I have gained over 100 pounds in the last six years since my husband's last affair.  I just do not feel attractive, and some of this has to do with things he said to me. 


Okay, I needed the vent ;-(.  Thanks for listening.  As you can tell, this is weighing heavy on my mind today.  They say time heals, well it has been six years, and so I do not know about that statement.


 


 


 


 




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