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  • movie was Layer Cake in 2005..... - nm
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It was a therapy/support group that I attended with my son/daughter.  I was the only parent there.  My child was never molested or had any such issues you think are common to "gay" people you are acquainted with.  None of the TG people I have spoken with expressed concern about any past abuse.  The main issue that everyone had in common and kept discussing was the crushing rejection they received from society and their family.  Many were shocked and envious that I as a parent was at the meeting, because their own parents would no longer even speak to them.

If a child is born with gender issues, we make it very clear to them the minute the issue arises that we don't want to hear it. We accuse them of making a choice and judge their choice is wrong, so we punish them, we try to silence them and make them stop the nonsense. So they learn to hide it and handle it alone. IF they make it through puberty without suicide, as adults they tell us it still exists and they must face it. What do we do then? Accuse them of duplicity because they faked being "normal" for so long (after WE forced them to), punish, ignore and hate them, cut them out of the family, weep and moan from the shame of it all and what people will think of them and us. We even tell them we'd prefer they were dead! Because we'd rather deny and eliminate our own child than deal with THIS problem. How very sad for us all. We need to focus on what is wrong with US that we would react this way to a loved one with a very tough problem. Only then can we work on how society sees it.

So for every transgendered person you hear of - know this - they are dealing with a horrible backlash from the people they love AS WELL as the gender issue. Most of them contemplate suicide daily (statistically 50% do commit suicide - the other half that die untimely deaths are murdered). Despise them if you wish, your opinion won't make it go away. The next transgendered person born could be your child or grandchild, your neice or nephew, your best friend's new baby. I pray they will each have someone in their lives that will love them anyway, who doesn't choose gender as more important than the human being.

NM

you said:  Why don't we all learn Mandarin?

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you don't know HOW astute a statement/question that is!!!  We all will have to know Chinese/Mandarin within the next 25 years or thereabouts....as China slowly takes it ALL over.....the world, that is...don't laugh or think I'm talking out of left field.... - Miami and Broward now offer Chinese and Mandarin classes in college.........the past few years....and then there are those subliminal fortune cookies...teaching us the Chinese or Cantonese alphabet......*ROFL*....but I'[m not really laughing.........

My Hispanic friends in Miami are speaking better English year by year, the longer they are here.....I stay out of the areas where they ONLY speak Spanish.....I'd be lost, as I only speak Spanglish.......Franglish, et al.

Yes, while in foreign countries, we speak their language and they all should be speaking English here but we cannot force it, unfortunately....hence, I learned some Spanish over the past decade and utilize it with English; hence=Spanglish.......*laughs* I think folks need to lighten up about language - we are all the same - we really are - just the amount of melanin in our skin or the slant of our eyes.....we all believe in the same G_d I do believe no matter what the name for G_d is......we all hurt, bleed, and die....it's all RED BLOOD....*grins*

Again, Tolerance........

HAPPY JULY 4TH :)

Work was backed up so I was doing extra, darn it!  I bet it was a great show though.  I hate these insurance companies refusing to pay for procedures, especially when someone's life depends on it.  What mess.  Something has to change, for sure.

There are facts in that case.  It has already been investigated.

It was on the national news.  Maybe it's the younger generation of men.  They've been so spoiled and given everything at home that when they get married they expect the same as their parents gave them.  Someone else always taking care of them.  I think the clear roles of men and women from years ago have diminished and men are just kind of floundering.

When I got married 16 years ago, my husband moved into my house.  When he asked me where I kept my ice (?!), I knew I was in trouble.

give your kids McD's because it reminded your mom of what she did to you. Your mom probably sees in you the parent she wishes she had been.  It may help to tell your mom you realize she did the best she could.  She must have done something right because you sound like a pretty decent person.