I did not receive any child support, so we agreed to
Posted By: sm on 2008-04-03
In Reply to: Divorced parents college agreement? - Need Help!
split all bills evenly as we have joint custody. That is what our papers say, that we split all major expenses, i.e., clothes, school supplies, education fees, etc.
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Mine owes over $76,000.
child support
I'm in southern Idaho and I was shocked one day to read in the paper that only 10% of people here who are supposed to pay child support are current on their payments. I knew it was a problem, but I didn't realize it was that bad. I generally think my ex is a selfish jerk, but I do give him credit that he has always paid his child support and it's no small amount ($1000 a month). Sometimes I think I'd rather have him out of our lives and give up the support payments, but then I realize that it's best for the kids to have a relationship with him (unless he was abusive, which he's not, just self-absorbed).
She was getting a lot of child support before and --
her exhusband just got out of the military and now refuses to give her any money. He is in another state and is not working anymore and says he does not have to.
Yes. There is a reason. I am a little behind on child support. sm
So, I am scared that it will be used against me. I get my son anything he needs and he is very well taken care of by the both of us. Very well. I fell on some hard times last year and I am now behind.
So, if I take this to court that will be held against me and I may lose him forever.
I did NOT want to go into any detail with my post. I just wanted to say that i was having a very hard day and was sad about the entire situation. That's all. Thanks for your caring.
Child support questions
I hope I'm on the right board here. :D I have 2 kids and have been divorced 4-1/2 years. I have had a child support order in effect since around 3 years ago, which included back pay for the whole 4-1/2 years. This was for (don't laugh) $125 a month. I FINALLY just started getting this support about a month ago. First, it was $25-something a week and the past couple weeks, it has dropped down to $9.65. I believe this is automatically coming out of his paycheck (this is the first job he's had in forever). He tells me he has a very good job in trucking and so, what my question is, if I go back to court to modify that order, to get more, since he now has a job, will I need an attorney, or can I do that on my own? I'm really thinking it won't even be worth the time and money with a lawyer, but I would like to have it modified, since he has an income. To add to that, I am paying $250 for the kids' insurance, and I wasn't when the original order was made. He also tells me he just bought a house (which is likely baloney, anyway), but if he can afford a house, surely he can afford more than $36 a month in child support.
PS: Per the handy-dandy canculator on the state website, figuring both our incomes in (what he claims to be getting, anyway), he should be owing between $1500 and $1800.
Thanks, y'all!
I got it! Tell him 1 more kid will equal a lot more child support after the divorce : )
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rant! who's owed the most child support?
mine is currently in arrears in the amount of $23,775 --- he inherited MILLIONS when his father died -- he refuses to work, he's never paid me a dime.... my case worker is attempting to put a lien on his $1/2-million home in Vegas.. Blessed with this child, but sure would like some support, maybe not have to work two jobs...
I'm so glad you're all here for ranting.... thanks, friends.
Of course he should help and he paid child support because they are his kids (nm)
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Good point! Maybe he should have to pay child support!
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Child support - must depend on state, my
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Update traffic court/child support
Well, I managed to make it to family court yesterday and back home while flying low :) My son-in-law walked out 5 months in arrears and next payment due 3/1, already in debt for about 2 grand, plus he has to pay for the DNA test (99.999% - ha, didn't need Maury after all!) My daughter is $1500 in arrears with another payment due 3/1, and her order has been moved over into the category to take any Federal Income Tax refunds she gets in the future to be applied to the order. So now, finally, I should have no further court appearances unless the two want to TPR (terminpate parental rights) and let me adopt. The next step for my daughter is jail if she doesn't pay in March, so she is already making noises she might let me adopt. The dud has wanted to me to adopt her all along to avoid CS.
I went to municipal court and had the arrest warrant removed and was given another 2 months to pay the s-t-u-p-i-d ticket. I asked whether the judge would accept that I corrected the tag problem the next day and was told no. If it was expired at the time the ticket was written, then they do not make exceptions. I checked our local newspaper and the city hired 11 new officers in 2006 for the specific purpose of enforcing vehicle/driving codes in the city. They have increased the number of traffic-related tickets issued to almost 18,000 in 2006, up from less than 8,000 in 2004. Now I just have to remember to pay it, but did buy a new day planner today and have written 3 reminders to myself to pay it on time 
On another note, as I have no health insurance and need certain maintenance medications (almost $1000) a month, I found needymeds.com. I have already received a 3-month supply of one drug and will be receiving another each month shipped to my doctor's office. The manufacturers help people who fall between the cracks by providing free medications.
I feel a lot better about things. 
Don't you watch Judge Judy? Being behind in child support sm
does not disqualify you from seeing your children. It's true! LOL
Child support is a separate issue from visitation. nm
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Child support works by you supplying info to them
You need to contact the state - to supply where the other parent works....they don't track 'em down - you have to supply the info and everytime the other parent changes jobs, you have to call CS and supply them with the new info. Believe me, I did this from the time my child was 9 until 18......
You supply the info and you keep on CS behinds..........don't know what state you live in but in the 21st Century here in the USA - they are gunning for deadbeat parents
AND I live in a huge metropolitan area where said CS was gotten from...20 million people in my state......
If father thought child support was not being spent
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Posters are correct, child support diff from visitation
Just because a parent is behind on child support does NOT mean you lost your visitation rights, even if you went to court and tried making restitution. What the courts might do is GARNISH your salary (if employed) with some going towards back child support. I am not sure if all states are the same, but I would think they are on this subject, but again, I'm not sure. Florida works this way though, this I can assure you.
ask and you shall receive
I have not seen this movie. and no I have no desire to. It is just not a movie that a christian mother would allow her children to see. Done. Now I am getting to work.
what if you don't receive your pay?
Hi there, I am just getting done a job I have had since 2001, and I have a gut feeling that I will not be receiving my last two checks. Not to do with my work at all, but the boss is pissed off and happens to be my daughter as well, so if this turns out to be the case, what recourse do we have to collect what is owed us? I thought maybe someone else out there had run into this, probably not with the "family issue" added, but similar. Thanks for any thought you might have on this kind of issue. I really need those checks to pay my bills!
Just because you receive an invitation
does not mean you have to go to the event. All you had to do was decline.
We were fortunate enough to receive one for coal...sm
Considering the high cost of heating oil, natural gas, and kerosene, we're very grateful...Thanks, Santa.  Cat
At least 2 of the kids are dev disabled and receive SSI. nm
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Wow. I didn't realize the response I was going to receive. Let me all tell you a little sm
something about me (for a change).
I am a very intimate, romantic, sexual (close your eyes if this is offensive), kind of gal. Seriously. My mother always told me I was a "hopeless romantic!" One of my favorite movies is Pretty Woman, for crying out loud. For years, I would shop in the lingerie dept. at various dept. stores, even buying things from Victoria's Secret, mind you. But if there is one thing my husband has done to me over the years is help me to completely lose interest in intimacy and now, sex. He doesn't listen to me, doesn't compliment me, doesn't touch me at all during the day. It's saddened me so much over the past few years. If we meet up after work he'll just go on about his business, not reaching to give me a kiss, ask me about my day, nothing.
The fact that he approached me the other night was actually surprising. Yes, he's trying. But what is a woman to do when after so many years of neglect? Jump at him? Tackle him? I can't. I simply can't. I'm suffering from low self worth as it is due to his lack of communicating any kind of affection or concern to me. I don't know how to gain it back. I don't know how to get back that spark. It's not there. It saddens me so much, but it's true.
So, give me a little more credit.
I agree, they should receive more respect from students
and parents alike. I just don't believe they are underpaid for the actual hours they put in.
The idea of gift giving is not to receive anything in
Either give from the heart or don't give at all. Expect nothing in return and if you do get something, then consider it a blessing including a thank you. In God's eyes, this is what Christmas giving is truly about and isn't this all over the fact that you are child's Godparents? I think you should think about that for a minute and what responsibility that holds in this young girl's life.......... It sort of sounds like this is about you and not about what God would want.
How important is it to you to receive a sympathy card
How important is it for you to receive a sympathy card? I know this has been quite a long time now (3 years), but still bothers me. My mom died 3 years ago and I received only 3 cards. One from my DH's aunt & uncle and my best friend sent me 2 cards. Nobody else sent me a card. My MIL, BIL (3 of them - all married), SIL, co-workers (8 of them), people in my quilting guild that I've been quilting with for years and years. None of them. I went back for the funeral and listed to my sister and aunt tell each other about how many cards they got and how much they were loved by their friends (they made it into a joke as to who was more loved by who got more cards :-) My sister got about 18 or 20 cards and my aunt got about 30. They said they were sure when I got back I'd have many cards waiting for me (I flew back 2 days after hearing of my moms death). My sister even offered me some of her cards. I came home and had just the 3 cards. My best friend also send me some "cheering up gifts". But still nothing from anyone. I never said anything to DH but it bothered and still does bother me that people thought so little of me than to send me a card letting me know they were thinking about me. The worst thing was that I always sent them birthday, anniversary, and sympathy cards to them. I even would send them sympathy cards when their pets died.
Well I'm over it, but every once in awhile I think about it and it just saddens me. So now I don't send any of them any cards for anything. Just wondered if it bothers other people like it did me.
In Georgia, we receive permission slips also.
I don't think they should have to check every child's record before administering any MEDICAL testing, but I definitely think permission slips are in order.
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
NM
Agreed!
Dump the ape! I liked the lizard better too.
Agreed, ER MT!
If not her, then maybe that Haley girl.
I think it might come down to Chris (Sligh), LaKisha, and Melinda.
For some reason, I really like Gina...but I don't think she'll last too long.
Agreed!
But that was something you agreed to (sm)
and then of course regretted - I'm sorry to hear that. During the divorce, though, did he try to get custody of them initially? And you still don't regret it even after what you went through - you still think it was the right decision? Because I am so struggling with this.
Agreed!
:)
Agreed - he only gets it once a day or
every other day and eats regular dry food, but he is a nibbler and a spoonful of AD gives him a calorie boost.
Agreed and..
One of my children is an attorney!!
Still think society needs to get control of all of this unfounded litigation and so does this daughter. she would never take this case!
Oh so agreed!!! nm
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Agreed Hayseed!
I think is about manners. These things happen, sometimes kids cannot get to the bathroom in time, but they can say excuse me. Still not sure they should be punished if it cannot be helped.
Agreed, Patti.
My first hubby was a good friend but we never should have gotten married. We did produce a wonderful son so we were determined not to be acrimonious for his sake. After the divorce, we were better as friends, and my second husband and I are friends with him and his second wife and hang out occasionally. As a matter of fact, they stood up for us at our wedding. My son wins. There's no reason to be enemies that I can see!
He has agreed the kids should go with me (sm)
He wants to see them of course but he knows they want to live with me. So at least he is being reasonable about that part.
Agreed, very disappointing.
I think Marie should have gone, too distracting now with everybody wondering if she will make it through each dance now. The judges' scores should be given much more weight, as they are the experts.
agreed. He's probably the one that got her started
on whatever crap she's been taking. He seems like an enabler, taping her while she was enbriated (huh???...I love the Soup)
As of 1 minute ago, here's what they agreed on
If you make at least 3000 but don't pay taxes, you'll get 300. If you pay taxes, you'll get 600. Plus, you get an additional 300 per child. Each couple that pays taxes will, therefore, get 1200, plus 300 per kid, as long as they make under 150,000.
Yahoo news had the wrong numbers posted this morning, but everything has been decided on now and above is the info.
agreed except for one thing
I hope the guilty are sitting at home realizing they should take responsibility for their actions and not worry about the video and I also hope that they have enough conscience to actually feel guillty and to realize just how immoral their actions are. unfortunately, it appears people just do not have a heart anymore.
I agreed with you until I started thinking about it....
When my daughter has her immunizations, I didn't sit her down and explain to her what each one was for. We do not have to explain to her that she can now have sex with multiple partners and be protected. We can simply say it is suppose to protect her from a certain type of cancer. What makes me MORE nervous is what will the side effects be ten years from now......I'm going to wait and see what my doctor recommends. I don't live in Texas...Just a thought.
AGREED - the poster has done NO RESEARCH!
Agreed. This world is going to h*ll in a handbasket.
Toddlers wearing bras...I'm sorry, that's just obscene. Are their parents buying them thongs too? Who are these people and why are they breeding?!
I'm so happy. When I told DH, he agreed with you too. Really
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OMG! YES, YES YES!!! AGREED!! LOVE MY TOOL!
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I did until my family finally agreed to get off the
That got rid of the guilt, and made my lack of money seem like less of an issue. Gave up XMas cards, too, except for a few notes to a few special friends & family that I never get to otherwise see or communicate with. Although I'm glad when I don't have to be bombarded with all that worn-out music every time I go to the grocery store, other than that I don't have to hold my breath until the holidays are over. Still, I think the best day is Jan. 2nd, when life finally gets back to some semblance of normal. Until then, I just enjoy the weather, and even though I can't afford to heat it very often, & sometimes the cupboards are bare for a few days until payday, I still consider myself luckier than some others because at least I have a roof over my head, good friends (even if they live a long way away), my health (so far), a PC, and a working TV set. And I try to hold some hope that either the MT business will turn around someday or else there's a more decent job waiting out there somewhere that I just havent found yet.
Agreed--harnesses are much easier & safer :)
When we lived in the city, we let both of our cats out on leashes but they wore harnesses, mainly so they couldn't slip loose. They did start out as kittens with them though, not as adult cats. They would hear me jingle their leashes and harnesses and come RUNNING to be tied outside to the little backyard there. They absolutely loved it and the worst that would happen is they would get tangled to each other and around a bush. I was always around to supervise though...usually enjoying morning coffee out on the back deck listening to the thumping cars and sirened-vehicles drive by. Man do I miss the city--NOT!
Good luck with your kitty! I'm sure you'll be fine! 
Agreed---very sweet smoochable face!
At least SOMEONE is having fun in all this junk!
No dead beat if no CS agreed on but not paying court
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