I definitely wouldn't stick around! Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Posted By: ERMT on 2007-12-15
In Reply to: What would y'all do??.....sm - Help me please...
I'd be done with him. If he has done it once, he can definitely do it again.
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Agree, once a cheater, always a cheater...
and if you suspect it to be true, it probably is. Tired of people using the children as an excuse cause they don't want to get out when in reality the children should be the main reason to get out.
Better those than liar, cheater, retard or ADHD.
Those are just a few of the choice names that teachers have called my kids in the past. And my kids are all well-behaved honor roll students. I'm not stupid, I know they're capable of misbehavior. However, I have one kid who wants to quit band after five years because the teacher called him a retard. Now all the kids in the class call him retard, too. It's become his nickname. He's to the point of wanting to hit people who call him that. Frankly, I hope he does. I got nowhere calling the school on it. Since when did it become acceptable for teachers to call kids "retard?" Even if it was a joke, it's gone way too far. What do I have to do, home school or put him in private school? Now he's being harassed.
I think teachers use honey or sweetie because they can't remember all the kids' names.
Getting the stick and then you said
beating with a stick. I would think you are probably overstepping your boundaries. He could change his mind between today and tonight and this "beating" or "getting" the stick might not materalize. Have you actually seen any signs, etc. of abuse?
OK. I have to stick up for Wal Mart and here is why: sm
Wal Mart is NO different than any other department store or retail store on the market today. Why do people think that you CAN raise a family while working as a cashier at Wal Mart? Or a greeter? You can't. Just as you couldn't if you were a cashier at your local grocers. These people are there to ring up our products, take our money, etc, just like any other cashier's job. You can't raise a family on a salary like that ANYWHERE so why is everyone blaming Wal Mart for low wages? The last I looked our local grocer was hiring for 7.00 an hour and that is 1.50 less than what our local Wal Mart pays.
Second. Health insurance. A company that is privately owned DOES NOT have to offer insurance for it's employees. Hence, again, go look for a company that does offer it if you need it. Don't blame Wal Mart. The employee has choices. They can work somewhere else. It is expensive!! If they offered its employees ALL of these benefits people keep crying about then guess what? They wouldn't be Wal-Mart anymore. They would be called Wal-Mall because that's what would happen to their prices. They would go WAY up! And then I wouldn't be able to get a loaf of bread for 87 cents. You get the picture. Wal-Mart does a lot of families very GOOD. They dont' have unions because unions cost a TON of money. Once again, they would have to raise prices enormously if they were to form a union. I don't want that. I don't need a Wal-Mall, I need a Wal-Mart.
So, to drive my point in further, let me sum it all up for you: 1. You aren't supposed to earn a living working at Wal-Mart. If you have to raise a family, get an education or a better paying job and don't blame Wal Mart for paying wages that your local grocer or department store pays just because you think "they can afford it." 2. If Wal Mart starts offering insurance to all employees, form unions, etc., then Wal-Mart would be just like our competitor here in town, Publix, who drive up prices 40 to 50% so that they CAN pay their employees health insurance, etc., which is fine - that is their business. But I am smart. And given the choice of paying 2.50 for a loaf of bread or 87 cents, I think the latter is a much better choice for me and my family.
If your convictions stop you, then don't shop there. But Wal Mart is just too good a thing to pass up for millions of families.
I will say this in contrast, though. I don't always go to Wal Mart because I hate crowds. I do occasionally shop at our local Publix as I find them friendlier and more convenient. But, I always spend a lot of money and don't get nearly as much for my money except maybe peace of mind.
I agree! I'd rather stick with...
Weight Watchers and exercise.
The key is to find something you can stick with....
....for the rest of your life. I think lasting weight loss is about making lifestyle changes you can easily incorporate into your life and live with for the the long haul, including healthy food choices and exercising. I am not familiar with Calorie King or Kimkins, so I can't say what kind of programs they are, but fads are not the way to go, IMO.
Good luck to you, though. Losing weight is a big committment and really not a lot of fun. I've been on Weight Watchers and have lost 11 pounds so far. It's taken awhile, but I didn't gain all the weight overnight, either. Slow and steady.
Stick and stone...seriously! sm
My dad worked with a guy who named his boys stick and stone. Didn't believe him until one day I was working at a shoestore and was fitting some kids for their shoes and mom said, "stick and stone, get over here and sit down!" I about died! I had to run to the back room real quick to hide my laughter.
Sorry but what is stick? I do like how modulars look - don't know anything about them though (nm)
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Stick Vs. Modular
I think stick means a house built completely on-site with 2x4 lumber from the ground up. A modular is a house built in sections in a building somewhere else and then the sections are moved to your site and put together there. All the modulars I have been inside seem to develops cracks in the walls and ceilings as the house settles over time. Just my opinion but I think stick will give better quality overall, thought probably cost more. But I have seen extremely nice modulars when they are new.
Okay, don't want to be a stick in the sand
We lived near the beach for many years and saw this one time too many. So, instead of being afraid of the ocean be more afraid of the sand. Please don't let your sons dig holes in the sand, at least not deep ones. We have seen children and teenagers have serious accidents or worse with this. The sand collapses into the holes and consequences can be fatal, so just heads up on that. It was also just on the news so I hope a lot of parents watched it. What seems like fun can turn quickly into a serious situation. It was just a known fact in our home..... no deep holes at the beach.
Sorry to be a downer....just want to make sure the boys AND parents enjoy themselves. Do have a good time though!!!
Sounds like you are trying to stick to
something similar to the SouthBeach diet. Pistachios are a good snack but carrotts are full of sugar and supposed to be a no-no. Not flaming you, in my opinion carotts are certainly better than say doughnuts or chips.
I have a few things that stick in my mind but - sm
these were special circumstances. We were there on a Make-A-Wish trip last year (12-2005) and my daughter wore a special pin that identified her as a "Give the Kid's the World" recipient. We had a special pass so we did not have to wait in any ride lines (she still tired easily at that point 3 months out from when chemo had finished), so that was great of course. But one day when we were leaving the park at the entrance of main street, Chip and Dale were there getting their pics taken with kids, there was a line of about 20 or so kids and they stopped us and pulled us over and asked if we wanted to have my kids picture taken with them w/o waiting-- sure the kids did, so they did, that was pretty cool (though I am sure the people waiting were not too thrilled though they did explain it to the people at the front of the line); then during the electric night parade we got a spot on the route up in front by the rope so the kids could see well, and 3 different characters spotted my daugter with her pin on, in her wheelchair, and came over and gave her a hug (Snow White, the Queen from Alice in Wonderland, and one of the 7 dwarves), made my daughter's day (mine too). She also got to meet Cinderella when she was walking about too. All of the staff were very helpful to us since at every ride they had to either take us to the front of the line, ususally through the handicap entrance/fastpass entrance or in through a back way into ride (that was interesting) to bypass the line. Nothing extrodinary but for me the parade was the best part since they generally did not stop to hug kids and say hi. Like I said a little biased but we did have a great time.
newer ones are built same as stick;
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good! that is the trick, now stick to it!
hold to your guns, girl. dont let him go along good for a while and then stop. you are taking the right way, its not easy, and it may not end up with ya'll together, but you will then be able to look everyone, including him, and say i left it all out there. be sure though that you find something for yourself that will build you up! that is key to this. will make you stronger to deal with him and also if the time comes that you have to go, you will KNOW you can do it on your own. God bless your home.
Oh really? Even if they say accummulation of 1-3 inches, that won't stick? sm
LOL! I have no idea! It has to stick. It just has to. I mean, then that won't really matter if it doesn't stick!! I'll post pics when it's all over! haha
Recently we did a non-stick linoleum and I
cannot believe how much it looks like tile. The installer put in down in 1 sheet and it looks great. Very easy to clean, although you can't see the dirt, and everyone thinks it's tile. I never would have picked this out in a million years but a few people told me to give it a try. I brought a piece home, placed it on my kitchen floor for a couple days and really liked it. We were going to put hardwood in our kitchen (as the rest of our house is hardwood), but I'm really happy with the non-stick linoleum. Good luck.
I'll stick with my antenna!
A lot of people think when TV changes over to digital, they will need to switch to cable or dish TV and I just wanted to point out that isn't true. You can get the converter box and stick with your antenna. That's what I'm doing. Plus I found with the converter box, I get over twice as many channels as I did before.
Best of all, it's free! (Well, the converter box isn't free, but at least I don't pay a monthly fee.)
The Stick is making a comeback
Them that don't believe don't receive! 
you have got the ole stick it to the dentist syndrome
I paid that bill also and it is awful. Tell the dentist you want a different prize.
You could just get long stick matches or - sm
one of the long automatic ones (sounds like you have one that is just cheaply made). I remember my parents having long stick matches 8-10 inches long for the fireplace years ago, I am sure someone still makes them. Or try a fireplace store or like you said Home Depot, or Lowe's, I am sure one of them would have what you are looking for in terms of a nicer grill lighter.
As a Christian I have to stick up for Pat Roberts and television sm
evangelists. They work hard for their money. They earned their money. If you don't believe in what they are doing, then don't give any. Plain and simple.
After Katrina hit, Pat Roberts and his ministry set up camp down there and helped thousands of people (I saw it first-hand), which leads me to believe that the camps he leads in Africa and Asia, etc., must be real. He "take" other people's money and then distributes it where he feels led. What business is it of yours if that is what he is called to do? And why do you think he has to live in a shack because he is a t.v. evangelist. God is an excellent God and is not sloppy. He wants Christians to live in the Promised Land, full of riches and honey (it is clearly in the Bible). It is called God's blessings. You should read up on it.
I'm sick and tired of Christians and nonChristians who think that just because you live in a big house or drive a fancy car that you are not entitled to it because you are an evangelist. Pat makes money by writing BOOKS and speaking engagements, too, which earns you A LOT of money. Bill Clinton earned 38,000,000 in speaking engagements after his first year of leaving the oval office.
Our pastor who leads a very large congregation, lives in a gated community and drives a Mercedes. I love the guy! What an example! Hey, I'd be worried if he preached the Gospel and about living in the Promise Land and lived in a trailer behind on his auto payments. Please. He travels the country, has written several books and also sells real estate, ON TOP of his large ministry.
Soooo many people are totally misinformed about t.v. evangelists. Just because they are asking for money they think that all the money coming in goes to furnish their lavish lifestyle. I have done my research. That is NOT TRUE!! They make their money in a lot of other ways.
Pat is a rich guy, but he certainly does not make it through giving. Neither does Joel Osteen who pastors a church of 20,000 people. He has a median salary and lives in a mansion.
So, quit being so sick and tired of these t.v. evangelists and all that they have. Have you ever thought for a SECOND that God has blessed them IMMENSELY because they faithfully serve Him and obey His word? God blesses those HE chooses.
Peace to you.
It's snowing and starting to stick in Birmingham!
My 4 yo is in layers of clothes with socks over her little hands lol! I asked her to wipe off a leaf (over my waist high off the ground) to see what snow tasted like...she said it tasted like yellow! LOL! I told her not to get any more snow from that bush! This really beats Winter Storm of 1993 when we got snow, but had no electricity for 6 days! Like the OP, I have tried making trip plans for my little one to see snow and it has never worked out, so this is the first time for her :) She is having a blast...I like it too!
Hope you get your snow down south!
Hang in there and stick with it, be consistent, .just like children.....
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Try reaching for a stick of gum or a piece of hard candy.
The doctor I work for prescribes Chantix and it has been very successful for many patients.
Unfortunately, the schools stick their nose in many things that should be the parents job (sm)
my children have had teachers give one-sided views of politics, whether they should be democrats or republicants, who their parents should be voting for, etc. For some reason, some teachers don't know where fact ends and their opinion begins. We don't pay them to teach their opinion.
Anyone have recipe for chicken teriyaki on a stick in the oven? sm
I have the boneless chicken, the skewers, the teriyaki sauce, how can I do this in the oven without ruining everything or starting a fire? Kinda stuck in the snow here and making the best of preparing a menu. Also, if anyone still has the hashbrown casserole, I have all the ingredients (I think) but lost the recipe amts., etc.
Okay, my first thought was - stick a hose in the hole to flood them out! SM
HAHAHAH - Then I realized you meant Moles as in SKIN.... I need more coffee!
Oh speaking of which, I had a bunch taken off in my GP's office using frozen nitrogen and a quick snip. Painess and easy.
controversial: friend beating his child with a stick
I already know what I must do. I know I'm going to have to call CPS. Here's the thing: Dan and I both drop off our boys (8 years old) at school every morning. Sometimes after school he and I and the boys go to a local diner for coffee and cocoa. We've been those drop the kids off kind of friends, both single, but nothing more. (We could never get along because our parenting styles vary so differently.) He is VERY strict with his son. I raise my child with love and respect. His child lies and steals, mine does not.
This morning, after the kids were inside, he stated to me: "Tonight he gets the stick. I told him to choose between losing hockey or the stick, and he chose the stick." Apparently, the child does not move quickly enough in the morning and the reason they are often late is because he tricks his father, like turning on the water and pretending to brush his teeth, then climbing back in bed. (Which was today's offense.) I have made it very clear to him he is way too strict, that the outcome will not be as he expects. "That's the way I was raised," he states.
I don't know his address. I do know the address of the school. So, apparently, what I have to do is tell him that I will be calling CPS and reporting him, which might be the only obvious way to avoid this evenings' "stick." Sure, I guess this will cost me our friendship, but the child's safety is the only thing involved. However, the child's mother is even worse than the father. He obtained her as a mail-order bride, they are now divorced, she is on her fifth American husband, and is even more abusive to the child. Have I already answered my own question?
Getting the stick sounds pretty straight forward to me
You could talk to someone at the school, tell them what you know, what you plan on doing, and see what kind of support becuase they may suspect problems but don't have facts.
I admit sometimes it seems easier just to look the other way, but what if there was someone that could have helped Caylee Anthony and "looked the other way". Follow your instincts.
If your suspicious prove unfounded you are out nothing but a "friend". He doesn't seem like someone I would want to be friends with and if his child acts the way you say, I wouldn't encourage a friendship between the boys.
Thanks for the info. I'll stick with the Lidoderm patches as long as
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stick to your guns and let the bride and groom decide who they would like at the wedding(sm)
Twenty years ago there were 150 people at my wedding. I knew MAYBE 20 of them. My parents INSISTED on inviting every single long-distance cousin and relative, most of whom I (and certainly my husband) did not know and had never met. Granted, MA and Dad were paying for the wedding but I've always felt like I missed out on having MY wedding because, in order to stay within their budget, I only invited about five or ten friends. And my husband and his parents felt like they COULDN'T invite anyone because of the budget restraints and my parents' guest list. We ended up with about 20 people on my husband's side of the church (basically his immediate family), three of his friends, five of mine, and the rest were mostly my distant, DISTANT unknown relatives (with a few close relatives scattered among the many distants). I look back now and wish that I had taken better charge of the situation. It certainly would have cost my parents less money because I wasn't going to invite that many people.
Basically stick to a schedule. Laundry is only "housework" while I"m working. Keep calls sh
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LOL-I wouldn't think twice about getting the pup sm
When I lost my cocker 2 years I was looking around for another 2 weeks later. I couldn't stand the thought of not having my own dog. Sure, hubby has his Golden, but my faves are cockers and I absolutely fell in love with my new guy's face on the internet. We drove 2 days later about 40 miles and picked him up. I melted when I saw his little face cocking to the side when I spoke to him. Of course, I still miss my other dog and my new one looks just like her, only the personalities are SO different. And the Golden finally got his playmate. He's just like a pup again. When we first introduced the two, we did it real gradual and took our time with it. The new pup was VERY feisty and the Golden wasn't used to that with before. LOL-my other cocker was 14 when she died. She didn't play at all, only slept and ate. Big change for the Golden.
wouldn't do it...
I lived in a mobile home for 9 years before we moved up to a house. I would never go backwards. You're still going to end up paying more. Like others have said, they do depreciate, not appreciate. Lot rent goes up and up and up each year (at least for us it did, started at 125 and ended up at 269 in 9 years). They are definitely not built well, at least ours wasn't and we supposedly had a better made one. Good luck with your decision.
I wouldn't do it...
I wouldn't, either. I have a 4-year-old daughter who knows why I wear a bra and understands she will one day when she's a young woman. I'm sure the girls who do have bras so young are a little heavier, which brings on earlier development. I can understand that then. When we walk in a store, she loves to look at all the pretty pink pajamas and clothes, but she knows she can only look. I'll say maybe Santa will bring her something, but I won't allow her to beg me for something. My boys don't, either. My husband and I tell them before going to the store exactly what we are getting and that's it. I think 5 is too young for a bra. Same thing for pierced earrings, not until she's old enough to understand them and how to take care of them. This is a gimmie-gimmie world, but it's up to us parents.
Good luck!
I wouldn't...
No way would I invite myself and my family to stay at someone else's house. It'd be way uncomfortable and unpleasant, IMHO...if he insists, make him call and ask them.
I wouldn't eat it
Left over food should be refrigerated within 2 hours, otherwise bacteria and such can start growing and it is unsafe to eat
I would not appreciate it, but I wouldn't be mad about it.
My golden is on a strict diet of dry dog food only. Any sort of table food or "human" food is a no-no. She has allergies to some "people" food. That would be the only reason I would not appreciate anyone feeding her, but then again, I don't leave her outside very long. She is a family dog and a house dog.
Well, which one do you like better? I wouldn't put too much sm
emphasis in the relationship of the man who isn't as interested in you. If he's acting like that now it might be a sign that he's not ready, has ulterior motives, or just not that into you. Good luck!
I wouldn't do it
I'm pretty sure the hospital can't actually take anything from him. In his shoes and being elderly, before I did any of that stuff I would look into reverse mortgage. He could perhaps get enough to pay all of it or very close and then make payments on the remainder.
Thanks! That's why I wouldn't want
it to be a set date - just in case I didn't have the funds in there.
No, I wouldn't.
While you may know these boys like they were your own, what if they have 'friends' that show up with other ideas? Also, what about her reputation? I know times have 'changed' but having a reputation to be proud of as your daughter gets older is definitely something that has not changed. I wish you the best with this.
He probably wouldn't want you either.
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In this day and age, I wouldn't do it.
Plus, it sounds like people will know since you know the bus driver. You just never know who will be lurking. I'm sorry, but I trust no one. It is worth it to pay a neighbor or someone else until the child is at least a teenager. Sorry, but my daughter is in 3rd grade, she'll be 9 in January, and I would not leave her here for an hour by herself especially if the bus driver knew it. JMO.
I wouldn't do it s/m
rather be safe than sorry. I have a third grader as well and there is no way I would let him stay home alone. He will be nine in March. I don't even leave him home alone to run to the store, which is 10 minutes away. We live in the country, but it wouldn't matter where I lived. Things happen so fast and you just never know. It isn't just about not trusting your child, but trusting others as well. What if a solicter was walking up to the house at the same time as your child? What if someone was breaking into your house as your child walked through the door (this actually happened to my neighbors! The boy was 14 and scared out of his mind. He walked into the house and ran out when he realized what was happening.)
I also have a 19, 17, almost 9 and 7 year old. I think my oldest was around 13 when I first let him stay home alone, but it was for short periods of time and we went over so many things. What to do in case of a fire, answering the door and phone, etc.
I wouldn't tell them anything.
I don't think your kids will say, "Thanks, mom! That's inspiring and enlightening. I will definitely not make the same mistakes that you made."
It's more likely that they'll someday say, "You did it, and everything turned out just fine. So why can't I?"
Well, he sure wouldn't....sm
....sleep in my bed or do his laundry with mine! :D :D
I wouldn't know....sm
I can't afford a cleaning lady on MT pay. You must have a better paying job than I do.
I would be annoyed too if my stuff got broke.
I wouldn't do it.
Something's up with this guy and you don't know what it is. This kind of thing always comes back to bite you in the butt. I think it's an odd request and he's hiding something.
I wouldn't send it and this is why . . .
People like this get off on how they are hurting people. She can see in your email that you are hurting, and although it is a valiant and kind effort on your part, she will see it as a sign of weakness and groveling, which is what would delight her.
I'm so sorry you're put in this situation. You sound like a kind, gentle person and you certainly don't deserve the way she treats you.
The only thing I can suggest is to be around her as little as possible (family gatherings, traditions, etc.) and always choose to be in another room, on the opposite end of the dinner table, etc., as physically far away from her as possible.
Continue to be pleasant, don't stoop to her level, and you don't owe her an apology for anything.
She's the one with the problem, not you.
I wouldn't worry too much!
My husband and I, when we first got married, would go to Bath and Body Works and pick out scents that we both liked. It was something that we both enjoyed. I wouldn't put too much into it. Offer to rub some lotion on his back after his bath or hop in the tub with him!
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