I chose to buy. I was in a position to be able
Posted By: singleMT on 2009-01-22
In Reply to: Single moms - is it better to rent or buy? sm - AnonMT
to put enough down on the home so that my mortgage is actually less than most rentals around here.
I would recommend you buy if you plan on staying in that area because the rates are so great right now. You are likely to be able to grab a great deal on a house. If your credit is good, don't put as much down for a deposit and sock it away for emergencies. Good luck to you!
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Yes, I think my LL is in the same position as you.
Although I am a very good tenant, my LL tries every year to raise my rent, so that he can cover HIS mortgage payments.
I like the apartment and the neighborhood, so I accepted the raises.
But now, in these times, I will refuse to accept a rent raise, then he has to take me to court if he wants to evict me. And I do not think that not agreeing to a raise rent, especailly in these bad times, is a reason to evict a tenant.
Anm I right or wrong?
I will, to the contrary, ask him to lower my rent.
P.S. My LL is a 'stingy' one, with everything.
For instance, he refuses to take a professional pest exterminator and does it himself. The results are not good!
What a horrible position to be in..sm
There are some really good groups on MSN where you can go and talk to people in similar positions. There are boards specifically for people with family members with drug addictions. I would also suggest that you get some counseling for yourself to help you with the guilt that you feel.
I was in the same position until I put my foot down.
Stopped doing all the little things they liked. One by one, they wondered what was wrong with me. I finally said they could at least pick up their things. Husband cleaned the kitchen that night and the dining room floor. You have got to put your foot down and stick to it! Don't feel bad for them, you help them by not doing so much and taking care of yourself. Then, they will realize and pitch in. It does not happen overnight and you may have to grin and bear a messy house for a while. But don't see it, and do something for yourself instead, get out of the house, read a book, take a walk every time you feel bad for them and then do for you. It works, speaking from experience. But you have to stick to it! You will feel better. Try it you will see!
Yep, had one of those too in the "on" position
Vibrating like crazy, way up there with a huge volume of lube. The ER doctor couldn't extract it with the forceps, so he gave the guy the choice of waiting until the batteries died or having it removed under anesthesia. The patient opted for the anesthesia (maybe he used Energizer batteries and they would just keep going and going and going...)
How about beach-chair position?
Doncha know the patient wishes they were really in a chair on the beach instead of in the operating room.
Neither am I - quite the opposite - I guess if you have never been in this position you don't kno
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Wow. I am in the same position but with three kids BEGGING me to...
divorce their day. He is absolutely horrible. He is verbally abusive, mentally abusive, emotionally abusive, horrifically financially abusive, etc... I could go on and on and on. I had the same question when my three children were young. They are all a year apart. I knew if I divorced him when they were very young, he could partial custody or certainly visitation rights. Now, I don't care. They are 14, 13, and 12. I am going to give them the choice of whether or not they want to see their dad, which from what they tell me, they say they won't be happy until he is dead. Sad situation for those of us in it. You are in my thoughts. It's a brutal situation to be in. I know...I am there.
Look, Walmart changed their position BECAUSE people
complained AND stopped shopping at their stores. They said they admitted they had made a mistake.
Neither. I work in a corp position and we have Thanksgiving off plus
I love it and would never go back to MT work.
I chose not to
Recently, my teenage son got up from the computer and left his IM window open. On it, he has referred to my husband, his father as "Hitler." I chose to keep this to myself.
However, I wonder if you telling your dh that your child considers him a yeller, if that would change something.
Also, if he is in constant pain, that probably has a TON to do with dh's attitude.
Yes, I chose to have everything taken out due to the risks
involved of leaving the ovaries in. I was actually pregnant at the time of this discovery and elected to continue the pregnancy (against medical advice) and had the surgery done afterwards.
But he mom chose to dismiss it, and the dad did his best.
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I had it done, chose the string..sm
method - I don't agree that they will fall off with no pain - I DID have pain, and continued bleeding to the point that I had to wear a band-aid for over a week. And yes, mine did grow back - although it's not nearly as large as it was before I had it removed. If I do have to repeat the removal, I think I'll go with snipping it off!
NOT all CHOSE to be here! and they are trying to do their best to acclimate!..nm
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I try to pick and chose- sm
in the Fall I usually have 4 going on at various times. Nuts for GS, candles for dance, flags/magazines for school and frozen cookied dough for school...the two school ones do not overlap but are only a few weeks apart from each other. The nuts and candles overlap the school ones though. Obviously I try not to bug my neighbors too much. We hit everyone up for GS, but for dance I just make a donation, and school we may ask a few people on the flag/magazine one, the cookied dough one I don't bother anyone, it is gross, and I still have stuff in my freezer from 2007 (which I have to chuck). Kids just brought home another one a few days ago for St. Judes (from school). I give to our local Children's Hospital and Make-A-Wish, and ASK (raises funds for MCV's Pediatric Oncology Dept.)so St. Jude's is out of luck there. I just do cash donations now if I want to donate that is, otherwise I do not go to the trouble to bother every soul I know to buy something, and never ask family except for the grandparents.
why I chose a Ford
This website is excellent. Most people are happy with their cars for the first couple of years, but then the lemons start to surface...
carsurvey.org
We went out together and I chose mine - and love it
your boyfriend sounds very immature. Good Luck!
My first husband chose that life
not because he was broke, hungry or the like. He came from a well to do family, had home but just wanted to live that kind of life. Stayed out there for years because he wanted to. I do not hand out money to beggars along the roads. Ask them to come and work for you (even though holding up a sign saying they will work for money) and see how many offers you get. I can flip how many burgers not to be another out there- probably a heck of a lot.
Exactly! Poster chose to put those 4 sentences
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I'm also disappointed that you chose this route.
It seemed obvious that you didn't want the paddling to happen, but you caved and let someone else (school and daughter) make the decision.
Whether one is for or against corporal punishment isn't even the issue for me. The bigger thing with me is the thought that some adult getting may be getting his/her thrills from paddling a teenage girl.
oh, it occurred to her, she chose to ignore it...
and these people had to pay $7000 income tax on these vehicles so most of them sold the vehicles instead. However, giving a car isn't as bad as a plasma TV in my mind for the homeless because at least they could sleep in the car(s)......cellphones and plasmas for the homeless made no sense whatsoever to me.
You chose assistance rather than working, right?
Says a lot for you.
Both of my children were out of high school when I chose this
job to be able to stay at home and work. I still wanted to be there for them and for my husband. I take great pride in my work and do a great job. Just because I chose a job that provided the "benefits" that I wanted does not make me unprofessional. A lot of people chose their professions based on the benefits that profession offers, but it doesn't make them a bit less professional. So, TM, I'm with you on this one. I chose this job to be able to stay at home and I'm not the least bit ashamed to tell anybody that's my reason. 
My mother chose my stepfather over her kids
I have been in the same situation for the last 20 years. My mother figures she only sees us once in a while, so she would rather not be alone the rest of the time. I know how much it hurts to not feel welcome in your mother's house. It shouldn't be that way.
Garmin is a popular model, but DH chose
the Magellan Maestro 4000 GPS portable navigational system for features and price.
He got it on Bizrate through Beach Camera.
http://www.beachcamera.com/shop/basket.aspx?sku=MGM4000&act=add&sks=MGM4000,
glad you chose to hand quilt...sm
I've always felt that machine quilting was cheating...I like nana's idea of the yarn ties...that was the first one my grandma taught me how to do. Mommy also quilted and we'd hit the quilt shows where you have to wear white gloves before touching any quilt.
Recently went to the Museum of the American Quilter's Society in Paducah, KY (couldn't touch....it took all my willpower, believe you me).....The unique artistry and craftsmanship of each piece was breathtaking....a lot of applique and embroidery was employed as well...painting with thread and material...whoa! My friend and I split up and studied those quilts for about 1-1/2 hours and then we asked each other "Which one would you choose to take home?"  Cat
Good for you. I could have worked 2 jobs, but I chose to
spend my time with my kids so they would know they had a mother, not just an I'll never ask anybody for help, never at home, money-making machine.
How pompous! I'm a single mom and I didn't "breed" - I chose not to murder a baby. sm
yep, I'm a single mom and I'm proud of it. I was in a very stable long-term relationship and I ended up getting pregnant while on the pill. But I didn't "breed" as you put it. You breed cattle, not babies.
People in other countries do not chose to learn English, they HAVE to learn it in school
for a period of 8 to 12 years.
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