I can understand why you are hurt at that on SM
Posted By: Sad for you on 2008-09-05
In Reply to: Husband wants to put dog down (sm) - LMMT
a few levels. I hope it does not come to that until it is necessary. It sounds like you love and value this anmial, and for that I am glad. Cherish every moment your pet brings into your life. Let us know.
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People that hurt dogs should be hurt themselves in the exact same way. I HATE sm
cruelty to animals.
This might have hurt!
Do what I do...request a copy of the office notes and the results of all tests. One vet in my area does this routinely.
You mention that your cat is vomiting. I think my vet gave my 21-year-old cat cimetidine and this helped him. Also, I made chicken broth out of precooked chicken from the supermarket with salt added. My cat liked the Italian precooked chicken broth the best! Also, get a tube of Nutri-Stat or Nutri-Cal to supplement her diet when she isn't eat too well.
Is your cat hyperthyroid? She may need an adjustment in her meds. Do you have her blood sent out to an approved/independent lab such as Michigan State Univ or Cornell (there are more, just can't think of their names!!)
Please don't hurt yourself sm
The way you want to lose weight is very dangerous and could cost you your life and/or your health. If you feel truly "fat" and that's an awful way to feel. I went through a depression briefly and gained a lot of weight and felt this way. Once I changed my eating habits and made the effort to read labels, use self-control and exercise more, going to a smaller size made me feel so much better, that I continued to live healthier. The junk food, salty food and greasy food became intolerable to me after that, your whole taste bud thing changes once you get used to eating right. Force yourself to take a brisk walk, you need not join an expensive club, etc. Reward yourself with a nice arm bath, some nice lotion,a new haircut and perhaps a manicure (you can get this at Walmart for $12). As you begin to lose weight, you will feel much better and perhaps your husband will get a "wake up" call. I would just "get up early" and use this time for your personal exercise and "you"time, then he'll be left with the night-time option only, as you won't be there. I hope you can do this for yourself. Then if it doesn't work out, I would definitely seek professional help as newly weds usually do "do it" more often than most and something sounds fishy here. Try being a "new you" and make yourself so attractive you will keep him guessing as to what's going on with you, not vice-versa. Hang in and start dieting "yesterday," you can do it! Lose more than one kind of "baggage", mental as well as physical. You're worth it. Don't hurt yourself, these purging and vomiting things only cause you pain later on and it doesn't last. You need a whole new way of life. There's plenty of help on the Internet for you.Good luck, make yourself absolutely beautiful inside and out!
Would you be hurt?
Say you were out of town with four other friends. Each of the other ladies is TIED to their cell phone for calls and text messages. It is WELL known that you are NOT one who is tied to your cell phone and the group even jokes about the fact that if they were on the side of the road broken down the one person NOT to text would be you because you wouldn't get it for a week and they would end up dying.
Back to the question...so you're all out of town and it's decided that despite everyone being tired, you would all get together to watch a movie. You go to your room and hear nothing. So, you turn on the TV and settle in. A few hours later, you go to your phone and low and behold there it is...a text message to you saying "It's movie time...where are you?" You have received no phone call in your room and no one has come to your room to knock to see if you want to join them.
Are you angry? What do you do? What should you have done? Is this just a matter of both sides not communicating?
Curious to see what you say here...
it does hurt
My ex's mother has just never been the grandmotherly type. She calls sporadically - never remembers birthdays or Christmas. Fortunately, my daughter's other grandparents(my mom & dad) were great. But "granny" just doesn't get it - I think there is something missing in her brain. She even asked my daughter (then 20) how she could be a better grandparent -my daughter said just call, write, send a card on my birthday, etc. That has been 2 years ago and my daughter has heard nothing from her.
You have hurt his ego most likely, thinks that only he - sm
should be taking care of business, or else thinks the toy does too good a job and you will not want him. My DH and I have a few different toys, though we do not use them too much, use them more together than I do solo. As stated they can enhance the experience, try to show him that and use it together, or show him how to use it on you, but if that still freaks him out then I guess that is out and just keep it for yourself when he is not around. Mine would love it if I got more into them actually, just depends on the guy and how confident he is in himself I think.
Ouch! That must hurt. Sorry.
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Because I'm hurt. She never comes to my "parties" sm
even though I always go to hers (as stated previously before), and so, yes, it is personal. Like I said, I called her to see if she were coming to a BD party tomorrow in my son's honor and she was like, "what party?"
LOL-OMG ouch! That would hurt!! sm
Anyway, I understood what you meant. This denture thing is all new to me. I never realized I would have to learn to eat all over again. It was more of a necessity than an option to get them. I have a full upper and a lower partial so it's only the top I am having trouble with. Feels better right now since Dr. ground down the annoying edge. Have to go back Tuesday and I think he will knock down the other side just a hair. Now, just to get the partial tightened up enough to quit popping out when I move my tongue...... Also, thanks for the tip on the Camphopenique. I'll try that!
I had one 15 few years ago, and it hurt
like heck. I was cleaning my present doc's office weekly (also did his house twice weekly) and he peeked at it when he came in one day and said "Come in tomorrow and we'll drain it." I came in the next day with a lump nearly the size of a 2 walnuts and while I was in the room waiting for him to come in, all of a sudden it quit hurting and started going down. He walked in and said "did you hit that thing with a book" and I said "no, today was my day to clean your house, remember?" He said "Must have been pretty bad, huh? That thing ruptured on its own. I don't have to do anything." He still teases me about how how his house gypped him out of draining that ganglion. LOL-it never came back.
You think you hurt now but you have no idea how bad it can get
and will get if you do not end it right this minute. It will be hard - but you will survive. You know it is the right thing to do - which is why you posted here. You deserve more than being the 'other woman' and your feelings will never change for him as long as he is in your life. He lied to you - lie of omission - by not advising you of his wife. Change your email, change your phone number, get out and meet new people - go to church, get involved and try your hardest to stop thinking of him - trust me - this will only lead you to more pain if you dont' break if off now. Will it be easy? Of course not? Will you regret it? Sometimes - but someday you will be glad you did.
It is going to hurt less if you just say no at the start.
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Wouldn't hurt to s/m
get the old movie "Grapes of Wrath" and watch that too. That'll show you what's ahead.
My big baby would never hurt someone..sm
that he knows and knows means no harm to him or his family. The only time he would hurt someone is if a stranger come in that was not supposed to be there and then I believe he could hurt them but the way I see it if someone wants to come up in my house when they shouldn't be there then they deserve what they get.
As far as our friends he loves them. As long as he knows you then he is fine. As long as he is introduced to people he doesn't know and you reassure him it is okay then he is fine.
I have no reason to be afraid of my dog. He honestly believes I am his mama I think. When I leave the house my husband said he sits at the window and whines until I come home. He is a big love. His best friend is a beagle who also lives in my house.
I am glad you do animal rescues, but how you claim to care for animals when you are prejudice to a certain breed you probably know very little about? Unless you have owned one it is impossible to know what they are really like. Until a dog has proved he is vicious and not to be trusted I don't think it is fair to stereotype them on what you have heard or believe to be true. I have had 2 Yorkies at different times, I have had a Chihuahua/Yorkie mix, and I have had 2 beagles. Out of all of them the Pit bull is the most affectionate dog I have owned. The Chihuahua/Yorkie mix comes in a close second. But you can believe it or not, he is the most affectionate dog I have ever owned. He just is protective of his family and to me there is nothing wrong with that.
What kids don't know won't hurt them.
My kids had no clue how slimy their dad was and what I had to do to protect us and I will never tell them. Their dad tried to drag them into the middle of it, but I was in his face faster than he could say "child support."
I know it's sad and unseemly, the things we have to resort to during a divorce, but it's ugly business and only a fool will put her honor before her children.
Maybe they just want to do something different w/o you this time and she doesn't want to hurt you
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Dyson! It hurt the pocketbook but I'm
Best vac I have ever had.
Had my feelings hurt, how to handle?
About a week ago my elderly aunt called and told me she was having problem with her scalp, asked what did I think she should do, dermatologist she asked. Told her I would be happy to check on an ole timey medicine to apply to scalp, used for daughter before and worked. Distributor no longer made but phamacist suggested something else. I took to her and did not want money for it and told her so. Today I get the cost of the medicine back and then she goes on to say what a terrible smell, stung when she first put it on (says so on the directions which I am sure she read), awful smell, could not go out anywhere, had to wash her hair, just terrible putrid smell. Now, except for a doctors visit every one in awhile, she does not go out and that is not every week. I did this out of kindness and now I feel hurt, not only about her returning the money but most of all how she went on and on and on about how she could not use. She is not senile, has plenty of sense, although elderly still drives and no kind of problems except I think she was kinda rude to me. Any ideas? Should I say something, let it go, not involve myself any more??
DH and I saw the crane and were wondering if any one had gotten hurt!!! nm
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I'd say she has been hurt badly and deeply
besides having a questionable upbringing. It has been shown you can even be raised weird and still have great qualities - something happened to push those natural feelings towards other human beings way down inside her. If it were me - I would just kind of detach myself from her as she will most likely not change and you will grow to become bitter and you cannot change her. You are not going to get what you need as a friend from her. Sorry also about your son. Hugs!!
Ouch! I'll say they hurt!
I've played paintball and it hurts through several layers of clothing. 
I don't know what the problem is either. My kids definitely have more stuff than I ever did. We got cable TV when I was in high school in 1983 and thought I had died and gone to heaven. Who knows what is going through their minds, but thank goodness for MY good kids, too.
Dang, I wondered why it hurt so much
sharper scissors, huh?
My shoulders and elbows hurt...anyone else have
Ok, a little background. I recently started a second job. I am working approximatley 12-14 hours a day (typing and other MT stuff). I have recently lost over 60 pounds. Over the weekend, I did raise my chair up some and that did seem to help, (I guess some of that 60 pounds was the big pillow I was sitting on!)but I still have some pain. Does anyone else experience this? If so, what did you do to help. I am 28, so I hope it isn't arthritis or anything yet! I am not a medicine taker and don't want to start taking anti-inflammatories or anything every day yet.
Thanks!
Honestly, it would hurt my feelings...
I've always had a key to my parents' house and if they asked for it back, it would hurt my feelings. It's kinda like saying you're not welcome here. Every time my parents move, they have extra keys made for me and my siblings, and it makes me feel like the door is always open. I live less than a mile away from them, but I make sure to always call before I come over. You might want to explain why you took the key from your son and make sure he didn't take it the wrong way and that he's still welcome to come back just to make sure he's okay with it.
I don't let people hurt my feelings any more sm
Was told years ago by a very good psychiatrist that we can control this ourselves - it is all about expectations. We let them hurt us - you had a higher expectation of her and when she did not deliver - she hurt you - so lower your expectation - realize she is weird (!!) that it was rather insulting - but don't let it hurt your feelings - and move on!! Kind of confusing I know - but it works
oh puhleeze - an employee gets hurt at Walmart
Oh...oh....LOL....my cheeks hurt....aerolas???LOLOL
LOLLOLL
You snip them off yourself, with scissors? Does it not HURT? Isn't there a lot of blood? sm
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It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm)
He does it every time too :(
Oh please, a few drinks occasionally never hurt anyone, and may even cause some 'fun'
gosh forbid! I think those of you with these totally one-sided bad attitudes about alcohol have just had some very bad experiences with alcoholics. Most responsible adults can have a couple of drinks. Give me a break! We're all grownups here.
Our dog bit a girl "that was pulling his hurt ear"
Well the girl's foster parents sued my parents' homeowners and they got their money. So, you need to contact the police again and find out how you can go about filing a claim. My parents' homeowners insurance went up after that, even though the little girl "provoked" the dog. The provoked part didn't matter. So, I guess what I am trying to say here is that my parents were "your neighbors" and they got sued and their insurance premium went up. We're going back quite a few years, but I'd bet those people that own that dog will lose their homeowners once you sue.
I would have to bet though that the "foster parents" of the bitten dog probably got legal assistance for free too, since they had about 10 foster kids and were getting a fat check each month and obviously not supervising these kids for that girl to have pulled my dog's ear. My dog jumped our fence and cut his ear, that girl pulled on the dog's ear, yet the police said that my parents were still responsible for the bite. I highly doubt that child really need the surgery and probably never even got the surgery, but those foster parents I'm sure took that check right to the bank.
That may sound harsh and by all means I know that not all foster parents are irresponsible, but in my opinion, my parents got the raw end of the deal.
Good luck whatever you decide.
The sheer look of them makes my feet hurt..nm!..
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I heard him too. Just a small lie, doesn't hurt anybody.
Obama said when they got a dog, they would get a rescue dog..a "mutt" just like him.
He even lies about the little things.
She said she wasnt hurt, GEEZE, done you people read the
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My kids only act out like that if they are sick - get him a strep test! Has he said his stomach hurt
My kids act terrible when they are sick - many times they have gotten in trouble and then later I find out they are sick. Both of them have had strep several times with NO SORE THROAT, NO FEVER, just stomach pain.
Would you wear high heels even if they made your feet hurt?
A survey conducted by the American Podiatric Medical Association showed some 42 percent of women admitted they'd wear a shoe they liked even if it gave them discomfort; 73 percent admitted already having a shoe-related foot issue. http://www.oprah.com/beauty/webmd/200802/beauty_highheels_b1.jhtml?promocode=CNNheelsDL?cnn =yesYou can read tips on how to avoid hurting feet at that link.
Morally-wrong things hurt other people. Loving
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Suggestion for cleaning chrome faucets in bathtub that does not hurt the finish of them but
removes water spots.
i understand
I have just become single again and have 2 kids. What I believe is that obviously we have spent so many years doing "kid stuff", going to the grocery, errands, etc. that we have a hard time hooking up with single guys because we lose sight of who we are beyond mom, household manager, etc. Try to remember or imagine what you would be doing if you didn't have kids and resosibilities or had time to do it. Whether it is rafting, reading and discussing things, being at a college class, hiking or some particular sport or interest(chess club, rock climbing, etc) you HAVE to make an effort to do these things, even if it constrained by time and $$hook up with a free group and devote a few hours a week to it. THEN eventually you'll be in the place to meet the person you would hang out with even if you weren't a mom.
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I understand....
I worked away from home until just recently. The pressures to "donate" are horrible. My friend and I finally decided that we would allocate "X" amount of dollars for giving, once gone, the well was dry. Saying "NO" is not easy, and the repayment of debt falls in your lap.
You are probably more talented than you realize. Be creative if you work from home. Work hours while the children are asleep, or see if you can work split shifts to accomodate your children's schedule.
If you are unable to pay back on the taxes you owe right away, just attach a signed letter with your tax papers requesting a payment plan. You can set it up to reflect a reasonable monthly payment, include the first payment, and the IRS will work with you.
If you are incurring (sp?) debt, make sure that it is for something useful that is going to last for a while.
I understand what you are saying, but
I don't have a husband or significant other either, and when I did I still took out the trash, mowed the lawn, and what is snuggling? When the lump on the sofa was asked to leave, the only thing I missed was having to tell him to move to the other side.
I understand what you are saying, but did --sm
you read my post at all? How can one make *good food choices* when the govt. makes that impossible to do? I eat all organic these days, when ever possible. I eat lean red meat once a week. I eat a lot of veggies and fruits and try to find something that does not have HFCS in it...which is terribly difficult to do. It is a losing battle when all the cards are stacked against you. My vice is not food or overeating. My vice is what the govt inflicts on unsuspecting and disbelieving people who think that obesity is a choice...it isn't. and neither is diabetes or hypothyroidism. Good food choices do NOT override this condition. This condition was inflicted on me by money grubbing *professionals* who have their heads where the sun don't shine. If you think todays doctors and pharmaceuticals have our best interests at heart, you are an ostrich. Research it and do not *assume* that being overweight is a choice. it isn't. and simply making *good food choices* is not going to change that fact. JMO
He may not really understand what an IC is--sm
and he is concerned about future income, but really all he needs to be concerned with would be your income tax statement from last year. Personally I don't think he should need that type of letter, just proof of income, which would be tax statement. that is all. JMO
don't understand
If you bought a certain piece of furniture why is bidding involved and why does it have to be done on courthouse steps in the public and all that? By all means, do what the law says -- sure sounds like they're on your side. But getting a news station involved isn't a bad idea either. These people sound like crooks and the public needs to know. Even just a friend with a video camera to send a film of it all into a station with the hopes of a reporter followup to keep others from being tricked too. And I sure think you should get something for mental pain and aggravation and loss of interest on your money. 
From what I understand
nobody was "demanding" anything, they were making do just fine with the sinks. This was done because people complained about the sinks being used for this purpose. I guess I just don't get what the big deal is.
People are so afraid that immigrants are going to somehow take over the country, its like this big "us versus them" mentality- its just silly. What, are you worried that they will do what WE did when we "discovered" America to begin with? You know, we are all immigrants here when you think about it.
I understand about all that too
but they found no reason for my miscarriage and knowing all that still didn't help the pain or grief of losing the babies after trying for so long, and everybody doesn't just get pregnant again right after. I didn't. I was just blessed that God gave them to me in a diffent way
I do not understand what you mean?
A bite itself itches, you can scratch an itch but you cannot itch an itch. I would think that is a backwoodsy type statement if you said it.
I just don't understand this
First, my husband would not dare do this to me or my kids. This man obviously has no respect for anybody. And that is what I would tell your daughter's friend's parents, along with if it keeps up you'll divorce him! And I'd tell him the same exact thing. But if mine did this just once, I can assure you it would not happen again, after I got through with him.
What most of you do not understand
being as you are young and are able to work from home, years ago, well gosh as early as the early 90s, if I wanted a job and I had to have to raise children (not a single mother, a divorced woman) we had to work outside the house, did not have a choice. I am so very glad my kids are not in the toddler, preteen or teen years. The ones I see now are awful. Just in one of those box stores last night and I heard screaming, could tell not just 1 but several kids and finally here comes the mothers pushing and pulling several different ages of children along and the mothers, I guess, thought it was really cute that their kids could scream and act out like they were doing, the mothers actually smiling. Thank goodness, no more rug rats to raise.
You still don't understand. (sm)
A narcicist is not capable of being a friend. Divorcing him will be an insult to him and he will want to prove it is all your fault. Therefore you need a good lawyer to see if he can build a case to show that he is so bad for you and your children than he does not deserve visitation. You are going to need evidence, I'm sure.
Don't trust your own judgement the next time you are considering marriage - get a psychiatrist to evaluate any future husband for your own protection. You and your kids have been through enough, and I've read a lot of cases of women marrying the same type over and over again.
I understand
You have to feel that you've done everything possible to make your marriage work, so that if and when you decide to separate, it will be with the knowledge that there really isn't any other alternative for you.
The fact that your husband got excited about having a second chance is a good sign. Just don't let him slip back into his old ways. If he makes one demeaning remark to you, stop him cold in his tracks and tell him, "No more if you want this marriage to continue."
Be firm, be steady, and good luck!
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