I can understand how you can get caught up in the excitement (sm)
Posted By: anon on 2007-02-19
In Reply to: What do you think of this scenario? - Lee
... those exciting feelings of a new love. I'm sure you have had those same exciting feelings about your husband at some point. Life happens and those feelings tend to dull. You need to put your time and energy into reigniting those feelings with your husband. I really like the teachings and concepts of Willard F. Harley, Ph.D. You can check out his web site at www.marriagebuilders.com. There is a lot of information there that can help you. He has written a great book (among others) "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage." Good Luck!
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I can understand how you can get caught up in the excitement (sm)
... those exciting feelings of a new love. I'm sure you have had those same exciting feelings about your husband at some point. Life happens and those feelings tend to dull. You need to put your time and energy into reigniting those feelings with your husband. I really like the teachings and concepts of Willard F. Harley, Ph.D. You can check out his web site at www.marriagebuilders.com. There is a lot of information there that can help you. He has written a great book (among others) "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage."
Was it Santa? or the excitement
to all the wonderful gifts? I agree with the above poster. I feel it is unnecessary to lie to the children and set them up for such pain. To hear a parent say "I had to tell her the truth" is jarring when she is speaking of her very own child.
adding the excitement back
I don't have any great advice - I'm no counselor - but, try reading "The Wedding" by Nicholas Sparks if you really want to make your marriage work. It's not great literature by any means, but it's a sweet little story about a man who realizes that his wife isn't in love with him anymore and they've fallen into that roomates routine and what he does for both of them to fall in love again. Falling in love is the exciting part. It's easy to miss that when you've been married a long time.
Caught in the act sm
Sounds like a really selfish person to me. Don't let it get to you, I can't imagine living with someone who would do this with a busy household at that time of day and in what I think was personally degrading to you. Where are his family values anyway and his pride, never mind yours! Don't accept being talked down to or treated as "less than." Perhaps you had no place else to go, so you vented to us, at least you got some support. Sounds sick to me.Yours sounds like a normal reaction to a very distasteful situation.
I had a cat who once caught a bird...
in mid air. I saw it with my own eyes or never would have believed it.
Caught the rhyme!!! LOL...nm
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If they get caught, off goes their water!
Have my shutters open this morning and I see my next door neighbor starting to water her lawn. We are in a drought really bad here and the water is being rationed, so to speak. No one waters on Sunday (and Sunday as I write) and we have an odd, even day system when we do water through the week. Atlanta, which is close by, has gone to a 1 day a week watering system. Some places in my state have turned off water to people caught abusing this. I remember in the 80s we had such a drought our showers were limited to 5 minutes. I would hope it does not get that bad again.
i got caught in the middle
of a redneck area. needless to say, I fled the area and the boyfriend. too much for me. I'm a yankee, and so is he, but he was use to the so called rednecks. I do love the more cosmo parts of south. Can't help it!!
Right?! I once caught a fish so big...(sm)
that I wanted to run back to the house to get the camera or at the very least an eye witness, but was all by myself. This fish I caught, it was a carp, which is a basically a goldfish on steroids. This thing was as big as a 5-gallon water bottle--no word of a lie. It actually broke my fishing rod.
So there I was, down below the highway with my huge catch, and I had no way to contain the thing and didn't want to kill it by taking it for a walk with me. So, I did what any insane person would do. I unhooked my bra, took off the bra, strung the straps through the mouth, out the gills, and attached this "tethered" but quite safe carp to a sapling that dipped into the river.
Mind you, this all took place in the CITY (I so totally don't belong in city) and I had to scramble up an embankment and cross a 2-lane highway, while holding down my flapping boobies, to get back to the condo to get my eyewitness.
My husband was home and he got to witness the whole spectacle. No camera though...all I have are my memories, which I am told are degrading, as my fish gets bigger and bigger every time I tell the story.
Long live us rednecks! 
I only caught a bit of the interview, but - sm
she looked almost like she was on drugs... She was very stone faced and did not seem to show any emotion. I do not know, just take the baby and leave seems to e a better idea than shooting him... Just my opinion
Ah, caught the peek up there. nm
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Caught husband looking at wfm ads (sm)
After he had used the computer in the history there was a list of women seeking men ads that he had been going through. I waited a day and then asked him this morning if he was looking for someone else....he said "Ummmmm, not necessarily." I said, "No?" Then he said, "there are none available." I said, "I would hate to think that you would do anything risky." and he said, "I haven't found anyone risky." So I said, "then you are looking?" and he said no, and then started to deny that he was looking, etc. We have been having some marital problems and I am not completely surprised, but was asking him to be honest with me. Anyway...how would you react?
I caught about the last 15 or 20 minutes. Can't hardly
wait until next week. Maybe House and Cuddy will finally get together.
Caught my index finger in the
front door storm door this afternoon. One shriek wasn't enough, so DH had to hear a second one. I iced it and elevated it and still it throbbed. Feels fine after a hydrocodone though, and I can type! I'm glad I'm off today though so I can rest it. Whew, that was close.
Oh, and when I shrieked, DH was sitting at the computer desk. He tried to get up so fast he banged his ankle, so now he's limping.
We're such clutzes.
Glad you caught that quickly and put it out
And that nobody was hurt.
Thanks for the reminder!
They caught the guy from the sex tape!! He admitted who he was!!!
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071016/ap_on_re_us/sex_tape_suspect
The guy who raped the little 3 year old girl was caught - he got pulled over for something else, confessed who he was and said he was tired of running!!
I caught the blues when trying to eat the red meat
because husband is a health food junkie and I think sometimes he expects the same of me. I love steak but hardly eat-are shrimp bad for someone who has high cholesterol? He eats fish- I don’t care for- fish is fish is fish to me- all taste alike except for the shrimp with the sauce and horse radish in it- yummy! My physician when I mentioned about my cholesterol told me to tell hubs to leave alone- mine was excellent and I could eat most anything. So there, man of the house!!
I see your answer in post below me; so he did not tell you, and he would not have; he got caught
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Does your city have a fine if you get caught?
Does your city have a fine if you get caught? I don't know about mine. I don't think there's one, but I could be wrong.
ALBANY, N.Y. -- The New York state Legislature has given final passage to a bill that would charge $250 for pet owners who don't pick up after their dogs in some parts of the state.
Dog owners currently have to pay $100 if they don't pick up the poop. The change would apply to the five boroughs of New York City, Albany and Yonkers.
The Assembly passed the bill Wednesday and the Senate had already passed it.
A spokesman for Gov. David Paterson said the governor will review the measure.
Mine was caught at an older age,
unlike the listing above and we have so much in common. He makes me laugh and a big love, just want to take a little bite of him. Oh, that is the cougar I guess coming out.
Caught between pride and terror
I became a mother in 1970 and have been actively mothering non-stop ever since. Now my baby daughter (who is actually 17 and a senior) has received acceptance from two of the four colleges she applied at, with the other still undecided, and it finally became real - - - She's actually going to leave! She is not only my youngest but my only daughter and she and I have been inseparable all her life. I can't begin to imagine not knowing every facet of her life, down to where in her messy room I can find a particular item of clothing! My oldest son is 38 and long since married and I only see him every few months. I guess I'd see him more if he had kids but unfortunately it's not in the cards for him and his wife.
I think I'm kind of going into mourning, thinking of not having her here. I'm so proud of her, and thrilled that she knows what she wants to do - study anthropology and travel the world and make a name for herself. If anyone can do it, she can! And I'll continue to live vicariously through her somewhat, but I know it won't be the same. The idea of having to do the "well, how have you been - - - good, good, how are you - - - what have you been up to - -" stuff that I do with my son terrifies me. Is is possible to maintain a really close relationship with a grown child even over time and distance? I mean really close? We're taking a trip to Canada for her graduation gift, just her and me, and I'm afraid I'm going to be crying the whole time!
Thanks for listening.
You are caught, you assumed and completely wrong!!
I love it, have been a stay at home mother, working mother, everything rolled into 1- I never saw that much trouble with it and I do not really remember hitting the playgrounds to be interviewed for how hard of a life I had. What a joke.
Caught my housekeeper red-handed stealing from me
My household is small, just hubs and myself (with 2 pets). Hubs went out of town to visit his brothers, left early Saturday. I got my housekeeper of say the past 15 years or more to come clean up for me yesterday. Knowing that I was having a doctor's appointment today I had laid out fresh underwear to put on (this is unusual because most times I am without my undergarments but thought I better wear panties today). I put them in my first dresser drawer Saturday night, went and picked her up Sunday, started to lay out all my clothing Sunday evening and my undergarments gone. I am literally ticked beyond belief. I am about to lose a housekeeper- my husband told me for sometime that things were going missing such as things he bought, toilet paper, some forks and spoons, things like that which I normally do not see. If I let her go, I have to do the work myself (she does washing besides housework) but yet I cannot let this pass. Any ideas? I do not think I would be able to get anyone for what I pay her but cannot stand the fact of being stolen from - especially since if she needs something she could ask and I usually get for her. Ideas??
I was a total cougar til my prey caught ME, lol!
My boyfriend is YEARS younger than I am. Started as a one nighter that turned into a 4-day sleepover...I thought he was totally hot but also totally dumb as a pet rock.
Fast forward 2 years...He's sitting on my couch watching the news, and we've been living together 1-1/2 years. He's still totally hot, but not at all dumb as I had initially suspected and, in fact, handles our finances, etc.
Yeah...being a cougar totally rocked, but it turned out even sweeter than I expected when my prey caught ME!!!
Remember Me? Caught Between Pride and Panic?
Well, my daughter has been accepted at her #1 college choice, and we're going to the Accepted Students day this weekend.
In her Creative Writing class in school, they were assigned the task of summing up their Senior year in six words and then to illustrate it. What she came up with blew her father and me away! I hope those of you who have had children leave home will get an inkling of the emotional impact this had on us. Suffice it to say, there was not a dry eye in the house! See below.
Caught him when her husband called my house to ask for her -
My husband introduced me to J. We became good friends. When I was working and could no go places, she and her son would go with my husband and my children. We stayed at each other's houses all the time, went places together (me and her/us and her). I noticed her husband never would do anything with us or hang out, but she said he was just antisocial. Eventually she and her husband moved away because of a transfer and me and my husband separated. Then one day her husband called and asked me to speak to J. Long story short, my husband and her had been seeing each other even before he introduced us to be friends and her husband thought that I was just a front and not really married to my husband but was just a third wheel willing to cover so that they could be together whenever they wanted to hang out...
That Iranian president is a real laugh riot. Caught
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I watch both CSIs, caught a typo on a Vegas episode, they spelled Novolin wrong! LOL. nm
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i understand
I have just become single again and have 2 kids. What I believe is that obviously we have spent so many years doing "kid stuff", going to the grocery, errands, etc. that we have a hard time hooking up with single guys because we lose sight of who we are beyond mom, household manager, etc. Try to remember or imagine what you would be doing if you didn't have kids and resosibilities or had time to do it. Whether it is rafting, reading and discussing things, being at a college class, hiking or some particular sport or interest(chess club, rock climbing, etc) you HAVE to make an effort to do these things, even if it constrained by time and $$hook up with a free group and devote a few hours a week to it. THEN eventually you'll be in the place to meet the person you would hang out with even if you weren't a mom.
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I understand....
I worked away from home until just recently. The pressures to "donate" are horrible. My friend and I finally decided that we would allocate "X" amount of dollars for giving, once gone, the well was dry. Saying "NO" is not easy, and the repayment of debt falls in your lap.
You are probably more talented than you realize. Be creative if you work from home. Work hours while the children are asleep, or see if you can work split shifts to accomodate your children's schedule.
If you are unable to pay back on the taxes you owe right away, just attach a signed letter with your tax papers requesting a payment plan. You can set it up to reflect a reasonable monthly payment, include the first payment, and the IRS will work with you.
If you are incurring (sp?) debt, make sure that it is for something useful that is going to last for a while.
I understand what you are saying, but
I don't have a husband or significant other either, and when I did I still took out the trash, mowed the lawn, and what is snuggling? When the lump on the sofa was asked to leave, the only thing I missed was having to tell him to move to the other side.
I understand what you are saying, but did --sm
you read my post at all? How can one make *good food choices* when the govt. makes that impossible to do? I eat all organic these days, when ever possible. I eat lean red meat once a week. I eat a lot of veggies and fruits and try to find something that does not have HFCS in it...which is terribly difficult to do. It is a losing battle when all the cards are stacked against you. My vice is not food or overeating. My vice is what the govt inflicts on unsuspecting and disbelieving people who think that obesity is a choice...it isn't. and neither is diabetes or hypothyroidism. Good food choices do NOT override this condition. This condition was inflicted on me by money grubbing *professionals* who have their heads where the sun don't shine. If you think todays doctors and pharmaceuticals have our best interests at heart, you are an ostrich. Research it and do not *assume* that being overweight is a choice. it isn't. and simply making *good food choices* is not going to change that fact. JMO
He may not really understand what an IC is--sm
and he is concerned about future income, but really all he needs to be concerned with would be your income tax statement from last year. Personally I don't think he should need that type of letter, just proof of income, which would be tax statement. that is all. JMO
don't understand
If you bought a certain piece of furniture why is bidding involved and why does it have to be done on courthouse steps in the public and all that? By all means, do what the law says -- sure sounds like they're on your side. But getting a news station involved isn't a bad idea either. These people sound like crooks and the public needs to know. Even just a friend with a video camera to send a film of it all into a station with the hopes of a reporter followup to keep others from being tricked too. And I sure think you should get something for mental pain and aggravation and loss of interest on your money. 
From what I understand
nobody was "demanding" anything, they were making do just fine with the sinks. This was done because people complained about the sinks being used for this purpose. I guess I just don't get what the big deal is.
People are so afraid that immigrants are going to somehow take over the country, its like this big "us versus them" mentality- its just silly. What, are you worried that they will do what WE did when we "discovered" America to begin with? You know, we are all immigrants here when you think about it.
I understand about all that too
but they found no reason for my miscarriage and knowing all that still didn't help the pain or grief of losing the babies after trying for so long, and everybody doesn't just get pregnant again right after. I didn't. I was just blessed that God gave them to me in a diffent way
I do not understand what you mean?
A bite itself itches, you can scratch an itch but you cannot itch an itch. I would think that is a backwoodsy type statement if you said it.
I just don't understand this
First, my husband would not dare do this to me or my kids. This man obviously has no respect for anybody. And that is what I would tell your daughter's friend's parents, along with if it keeps up you'll divorce him! And I'd tell him the same exact thing. But if mine did this just once, I can assure you it would not happen again, after I got through with him.
What most of you do not understand
being as you are young and are able to work from home, years ago, well gosh as early as the early 90s, if I wanted a job and I had to have to raise children (not a single mother, a divorced woman) we had to work outside the house, did not have a choice. I am so very glad my kids are not in the toddler, preteen or teen years. The ones I see now are awful. Just in one of those box stores last night and I heard screaming, could tell not just 1 but several kids and finally here comes the mothers pushing and pulling several different ages of children along and the mothers, I guess, thought it was really cute that their kids could scream and act out like they were doing, the mothers actually smiling. Thank goodness, no more rug rats to raise.
You still don't understand. (sm)
A narcicist is not capable of being a friend. Divorcing him will be an insult to him and he will want to prove it is all your fault. Therefore you need a good lawyer to see if he can build a case to show that he is so bad for you and your children than he does not deserve visitation. You are going to need evidence, I'm sure.
Don't trust your own judgement the next time you are considering marriage - get a psychiatrist to evaluate any future husband for your own protection. You and your kids have been through enough, and I've read a lot of cases of women marrying the same type over and over again.
I understand
You have to feel that you've done everything possible to make your marriage work, so that if and when you decide to separate, it will be with the knowledge that there really isn't any other alternative for you.
The fact that your husband got excited about having a second chance is a good sign. Just don't let him slip back into his old ways. If he makes one demeaning remark to you, stop him cold in his tracks and tell him, "No more if you want this marriage to continue."
Be firm, be steady, and good luck!
I understand
But look what happened during Prohibition. And look at the availability of illegal drugs. It's a nice thought, but I don't think it would work. 
I don't really understand.............
I just know nothing would keep my mom from her grandchildren, even if she stopped speaking to her children and their spouses completely.
I think that is how I understand it, but
if someone else has them,(and how did they get them?) he (OJ) cannot just break-in to that person's room and take those items back. He should have notified the cops that this person had items belonging to him, stating the situation and go from there. I guess he thinks he is above the law after getting away with MURDER.
I'm not sure I understand what you
mean by associated, but it sounds like you did not pull the file from the disk into the transcription module. I did take a look under settings and then the files tab, where it shows the types of files ExpressScribe plays and where you check the box/es of the file types you will be transcribing. I did not see the one that you mentioned there, but just wanted to suggest that you could try converting the file using a program like GoldWave (free download) to something that is compatible. I usually convert to .wma files, which have always played fine on either of my modules (Olympus and ES).
Hope that helps, and good luck!
I understand....
I'm not telling everybody to not get it, just making sure they know all the side effects. I just tend to be overly cautious! :)
Hey, now I understand about no
respect by what you just wrote. You answered my question completely.
As I understand this...sm
these crosses were erected on PUBLIC land, not privately owned land. I can sure understand you being against roadside memorials though, in your situation, but this one is different, as it is public land and not hurting anybody..however, if it is violating some sort of state or city law, the laws should be adhered to, in my opinion.
I don't understand. Do you want to
leave him or stay with him. Sounds like you are miserable there. Maybe he was thinking the same thing and just afraid to be the first one to bring it up. If you are going to stay with him, then things have to change on BOTH sides.
I so understand, there too
 It is good to hear someone with the same problem as me. My daughter died 12 years ago and sometimes it just hits me real bad, a sound, a memory, a smell, and it all comes rushing back. No one can understand unless they too have lost a child. I feel for you. This time of year is always so hard.
I understand
Maybe he just wants more space and to get away from little brother - sounds like it's going to be a good situation for him - and probably his sister too..
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