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I have read all of the posts here and --sm
in my opinion, it is time to do what you have to do. She already has feelings against you, so what difference does it make. try to protect her as best as you can. protect your gd first and foremost. Get her some help, for YOUR peace of mind. God knows what you have done to help in your lifetime. Do not worry about your siblings or what anyone else might think. Do what you have to do..it is time. good luck to you, and God bless.
Now that I read your posts..
I'm figuring that's what my problem was. I had a tubal ligation after my third child 15 years ago. I had endometrial ablation done last March because of heavy periods, which was the best thing I ever did. It was to the point that I sometimes had to get up twice a night to change everything. My doctor told me that I might need another ablation sometime down the road or maybe a hysterectomy eventually.
I have not read through all these posts, but
I had a cat pee on my daughter's new bed and was horrified. We got urine gone from wal-mart and that fixed it totally. Hope you find a solution!
I can't read posts either...
Can't read posts either!
Before I even read the other posts
I understand what you are going through, having been through it TWICE - long story, I refused to be the 'other woman' both times. You have to change the way you think about this man. Maybe your brother did bring him into your life for a reason, to help you grieve and to show you some of the qualities that you want in a man - but at this time, this is not the man for you. It is very difficult to let go. I still wonder sometimes if I did the right thing by walking away, but I could not sleep at night knowing that I destroyed someone's relationship. For history, the first instance was my high school sweetheart. He went into the Army. We wrote letters all the time and talked about marriage. So, imagine my shock when he brought home a woman he'd met while in the Army. I had one conversation with him after that. I asked him if he was happy and he said he didn't know. He couldn't be sure if he'd done the right thing by being with this other person and not me. I KNOW I could've stepped in and he would've left her. But would it have lasted? Would he eventually regret what he'd done? After all, we were different people. So, I told him that I could not talk to him any more. It was too hard. If things didn't work out with this other person, I told him he could call me any time. He is now married to this woman and I pray that he is happy. I made the right choice, as much as it hurt to let go, and that is what you have to do.
When I read these other posts...
No kidding, Natalie.
Whenever I read the posts from forum members who are trapped in an unhappy, sometimes downright abusive domestic situation, I look over at my boyfriend and silently give thanks for hitting the jackpot with him.
The horror stories I've read on this forum about some of these men make me appreciate every single little thing he does for me (and makes me wish every forum member could find the happiness I was lucky enough to find).
The good ones ARE out there, ladies, they really are. You just have to keep opening up those Pandora's boxes until you unexpectedly come across the buried treasure!!!
I have read the above posts and really,
I am not stupid, do not need a shrink, am not in the least bit of trouble with any debtors, no one ever calls my home about a bill. I have spent money, sure, but have sold a zero lawnmower (have several left) no longer needed (4,000 for that), have only monthly small bills like electricity, water, no house payments, no car payments, nothing other than the credit card. I take several trips a year, nothing new to do for me and intend on this year also. My trips are paid in increments over several months so by the time the last payment is due, I have not paid thousands in a month in order to go. I say I spend a lot, nothing wrong with that but I am intending to pay down the credit card starting in May or so and can then throw at least $500.00 a month or more towards that. What I do now is pay what is due and the interest charge. Some months I pay extra on that. There is nothing wrong with spending really. The bad thing is when you are in debt above your ears. That is not the case here. I have been entirely out of debt several times and this will be no exception. I have no clue as to what common sense has to do with someone who spends a lot (if they can afford to).
If you had read my posts you would know
I am not only complaining of the reversed names. I am tired of trying to make something halfway close to words that we use with English that they are trying to do and very poorly. Thank goodness I could throw in the towel tomorrow if I get so ticked off I just do not want to ever hear again. Most do not have that option.
did you read my other posts? sm
am i supposed to leave him alone when he is having stomach aches every single morning because he doesn't want to go to school? (this has happened in the past too, but after a while he got over it). he won't eat at school (for two months now, at the beginning of school he was fine about eating at school). i don't want him to worry himself so much he develops an ulcer. i'm offended at your comment. i love my son very much and only want him to feel better. him feeling anxious about going to school to the point it makes him throw up in the morning, i don't think that's normal. he feels anxious about going to wal-mart, toys r us, hunting stores. is that normal too?
sorry, you hit a nerve with me.
i don't think i will comment any more about my son with this board.
thanks to the other people who seemed concerned and wish us well.
I went down below and read all the posts regarding this poster and her way of sm
parenting. Although we have absolutely no right to tell her how to raise her children, I will say that I am concerned about this way of parenting and living in general. She reminds me A LOT of my sister in law who, mind you, is absolutely perfect. Her kids are perfect, her house is perfect, her yard is perfect, everything is so perfect in her world that it leaves absolutely NO ROOM for mistake, i.e., leaving your coat at home, forgetting your lunch, etc.
I can't stand to be around my sister in law for a nano second, much less Thanksgiving dinner. If you are not perfect and your kids are not perfect, well, behind your back she will talk about you ll day long about how difficult it must be to be you. When, in reality, everyone is thinking this about her. It literally makes my stomach turn at just the mere thought of her.
I don't know about you, but my closest friends are humble, make mistakes, are far from perfect, very forgiving (which my sister in law is not), and just giving in general.
Contrast the 2: The perfectionist who thinks she is teaching her kids responsibility by not helping then when they make a mistake, instead ruling with an iron fist so that "they will never do that again!" OR the nurturing mother who understands that children have short attention spans and can get caught up in moments and will forget their coat or their lunches once in a while and that it is our responsibility to help them and guide them along the way, teaching them love, forgiveness, and that it IS okay to make a mistake.
Honestly, I feel so sorry for my nieces and nephew because of the perfectionist spirit that my sister in law gives off. She really reminds me of Mom of 3 Children. Hey wait. Maybe they are the same person!
Apparently you did not read all of her posts
either.
katie, if you read all the posts...
i think you would have to agree that it was more than a difference of opinion. the posts came across as genuine anger and lashing out.
i stand by my opinion that his/her lashing out did not originate with a tv show, that it went much deeper. i dont care to know the specifics, only pray that it gets resolved.
and that is just MY opinion!
well, I did happen to read all of the posts, and --sm
I just don't see where there was anger and lashing out, but that's just me.
and why do you read posts you have no interest in?
Perhaps no life? Grow up!
That is one of the nicest posts I have ever read on
MTStars. Thanks so much for sharing. It truly is more blessed to give than to receive. 
I can read the posts but it takes
about 15-20 seconds after you click on the post before it comes up. From NJ, Optimum online service.
I've read some of the posts
If indeed this guy has a criminal record, specifically for drugs - which you should verify the proper way through your local sheriff's office or clerk's office - I don't think you would be wrong to tell your daughter that she's not allowed to go anywhere with him. Just be prepared that she may seriously rebel! But you are right, if they're in a car together and he has drugs in the car, she could get arrested too. I would explain that to her and tell her that is your reasoning behind your decision. Yes, teenagers will do what they want most of the time anyway, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't try. My mother had the attitude of 'well you'll just do it anyway' so I was allowed to do pretty much whatever I wanted. I do NOT recommend that method! :)
Blondie, have read your posts before sm..
You sound like a very good person, very caring. I was in the same situation once with a neighbor's dog. He would go to Canada hunting and just leave his dog tied to a dog house in mid-winter in New England and I would take her into my home, feed her, keep her warm and all. This neighbor today I can say with full confidence was borderline-retarded without a doubt. I am so glad I did this. I even at one time went to the dog pound and claimed this dog who had gotten loose and said it was my own. I could not let this poor dog suffer because of its owner. All I can say is do what is in your heart, it may cost you a few dollars more but think of it is abandoned children and you are there for them. Take a good look at this guy and truly ask yourself is he is capable of the love and caring you have in your heart. I know times are tough, but perhaps you are the one who is meant to save these poor animals. Sounds like this guy is either not the sharpest tool in the shed or something else wrong with him. Does he have enough money for beer or etc., and not his dogs? Then he doesn't deserve them! Think hard about the dogs and what would happen to them if it were not for you. You are a very nice person. I hope you find an answer. As for your husband, only you can answer that question. I think he should at least stick up for you and address his dumb friend as to what his responsibility is in the situation. Good luck, Blondie, you are a sweetheart to put up with all this, and I am sure the dogs are in a better place with you. Do you have an SPCA or someone who could help with the food? Perhaps online you can find a way to make your own food suitable for dogs at a reasonable price. May God be with you. Perhaps you are meant to care for dogs in some way that would be beneficial to you in other ways. God bless you for caring. 
Try to re-read the above couple of posts
about material things. It matters not if it's yours or your husbands (a little weird to me to begin with if you're married). I think you're missing the point.
You need to read my posts more carefully.
That's exactly what I'm saying. When tonsils get infected, they do more harm than good and should be removed. I am saying that there's no corresponding indication to remove a normal, healthy, non-infected foreskin.
And incidentally, foreskin serves a protective function as well.
Hey, I didn't read all the posts below but sm for suggestion
Can't help ya with the subway system. I think newbies are all in the same scary boat, but internet could help.
My suggestion is one of those suitcase things on wheels that he can pull. Maybe one of those and then some sort of satchel/mailbag/backpack also.
Seems kind of cruel for this company to throw him to the wolves like that. They should be able to offer a little guidance??
Anyhow, I can't even imagine how you feel. I live in a college town with both kids in their 20s and every time they leave the house, I'm afraid they're going to get lost LOL. So I can only imagine your anxiety.
Try to help him look at it as a challenge rather than something he's going to dread. Once he gets to know the ropes, all should be fine.
Hang in there :-)
I have read all the posts below in answer to your question (sm)
and I believe your main problem lies in getting him to go to the doctor (I have one of those myself - he will probably die at home because he won't go) and in your case, he doesn't see any symptoms, so why should he go? I sympathize. It seems it might have to be something drastic to make him go. Are there other family members who might be able to help you convince him? A bribe of any kind that might work? Good luck with this. I hope you can get him to go. Sending good thoughts your way.
It's therapy. At least for me it is. I don't mind it. Just don't read the posts if you know
they will bother you. I'm sorry to be so rude, but you can't dictate what other people posts unless it's religion or politics. If you start getting into the media and bad news, then you are really censoring the board and you don't want to do that.
Edgy posts are here, just have to be quick to read them as they
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You really need to learn to read before answering posts
She NOR her husband initiated this contact - it is related to sports. Don't insult people when you yourself don't have all the facts. It makes you look like a foolish bully.
Good for you! To read your posts, it really sounds - (sm)
like something has happened with her, since this is a change of character for her. You said she was an awesome friend for many years, and she probably was. But something happened to change that. It could be any one of many reasons, too: Drug habit, early dementia/Alzheimer's, schizophrenia, even a brain tumor. The latter sounds very possible. I wonder what her husband thinks about all this. He seems like a pretty decent guy. Depending on how you view his friendship, you may or may not want to discuss the problem with him. Maybe he needs to get her to a doctor.
I think you were lucky when he offered to do the work on your house for a low price, and DIDN'T screw it up. So many times, you hear horror stories about such things. So the fact that he did the work, and it turned out well, sounds like you have an asset in his continued friendship. BUT, you of course want nothing more to do with the wife.
The easiest thing would probably be to just cut all ties with them both, but I still have this feeling the husband is a good guy. He could be caught in the middle of all this. Or in denial that the lady has a serious mental problem going on. It would also be interesting to know WHY she lost her job. The mental issue could very likely be the reason.
Anyway, I think you were very wise to change the locks! ;D
Many posts hafta read fast cause they are pulled if
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Moderator needs to see, unable to read posts and I am with Bellsouth, not comcast
Nothing here I guess
lol, you're posts are getting a little out of hand with the duh post below and this one.
in a kinder tone. The topic is not the concern to me, it's the tone of your posts. Thank you.
Received this today. If you want a good laugh, please read....sm
 Why God made moms answers given by elementary school age children
>>> to the following questions:
>>>
>>> Why did God make mothers?
>>> 1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
>>> 2. Mostly to clean the house.
>>> 3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.
>>>
>>> How did God make mothers?
>>> 1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
>>> 2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
>>> 3. God made my Mom just the same like he made me. He just
>>> used bigger parts.
>>>
>>> What ingredients are mothers made of?
>>> 1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and
>>> everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
>>> 2. They had to get their start from men's bones. Then they
>>> mostly use string, I think.
>>>
>>> Why did God give you your mother and not some other Mom?
>>> 1. We're related.
>>> 2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's
>>> moms like me.
>>>
>>> What kind of little girl was your Mom?
>>> 1. My M om has always been my Mom and none of that other stuff.
>>> 2. I don't know because I wasn't there, but my guess would be pretty
>>> bossy.
>>> 3. They say she used to be nice.
>>>
>>> What did Mom need to know about dad before she married him?
>>> 1. His last name.
>>> 2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook?
>>> Does he get drunk on beer?
>>> 3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES
>>> to chores?
>>>
>>> Why did your Mom marry your dad?
>>> 1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my Mom eats a
>>> lot.
>>> 2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
>>> 3. My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on.
>>>
>>> Who's the boss at your house?
>>> 1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because
>>> dad's such a goof ball.
>>> 2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff
>>> under the bed.
>>> 3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to
>>> do than dad.
>>>
>>> What's the difference between moms and dads?
>>> 1. Moms work at work & work at home, & dads just go to work at work.
>>> 2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
>>> 3. Dads are taller & stronger, but moms have all the real
>>> power 'cause that's who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at
>>> your friend's. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without
>>> medicine.
>>>
>>> What does your Mom do in her spare time?
>>> 1. Mothers don't do spare time.
>>> 2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.
>>>
>>> What would it take to make your Mom perfect?
>>> 1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of
>>> plastic surgery.
>>> 2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue.
>>>
>>> If you could change one thing about your Mom, what would it be?
>>> 1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get
>>> rid of that.
>>> 2. I'd make my Mom smarter. Then she would know it was my
>>> sister who did it and not me.
>>> 3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on her
>>> back.
Oh my God. I read People.com daily. I was warned today sm
that one shouldn't read too much or watch t.v. when it comes to the VT shootings. Well, curiosity got the best of me and I read (with great regret) first accounts on 4 students who survived, played dead, jumped out windows, etc. The first student who emailed his story to People.com puts you right there with him. He played dead. Everyone in his class died except for him and this other girl and she was wounded. I have 3 sons. My heart just broke, literally, for the first time since hearing about the tragedy. I've been sad for them, but not like this. How absolutely horrifying and terrible what has happened there. I am cringing over here at what it must have been like, the loved ones left behind, and the healing that must now take place..
I will pray extra hard tonight for everyone involved. 
Your OP says today, later post says 2 years ago....
Plain and simple, you were out of line correcting the woman, whether it was this morning or 2 years ago (whichever version you're going by at this moment).
Just wrong.
Be thankful you (supoosedly) have superior language skills that permit you to be an MT.
YOU_GO! Great post, today's 50 is yesterdays 30!
 
I feel the same way as what you posted - and I'm 58!! *winks* - feel 35, look 45, and I refuse to give up the Peter Pan complex/syndrome..
Again, if you re-read my post about how she is very
"scatterbrained" to the maximum, I find it very, very difficult to believe that there is absolutely nothing she can do about this because there is and she chooses not to. You seem to be taking the "Oh, she can't help it approach," and this is where we strongly disagree.
End of story. No more from me.
Why not read the post before going off on someone! SM
There is some great information inside. Give this woman a break!
As I read your post
I looked over at my cat napping. I am so sorry. I truely hope you can maybe go to a shelter and save another kitten and maybe it will also bring some joy into your life. Please don't think I am saying you kitten is just replaceable, but when my family dog died, the best thing for all of us was to get another dog that we knew needed a loving home that we could provide.
If you will read my post....
I am not defending abstinence only programs. I said if parents taught their kids about sex and condoms and STDs there would not be a need for a program PERIOD. In my opinion, as I said, that needs to be taught by parents, NOT by schools. And as far as standards, I don't know how much lower you can get than adultery in the White House, covering it up, committing felony perjury while in office, and the coup DE grace of those hail Mary pardons and stealing stuff on the way OUT of the White House. Oh yeah...there's a REAL standard to ascribe to. One of these days we will know the WHOLE Sandy Burglar story too. If he lives long enough and does not go the way of Vince Foster.
You did not read my post right
The law is completely behind me. They go with me, have the police there as I load up a truck, have appeared in court, spoken with the person who tells me how this works. Good gosh, would never take it upon myself just to pull up and start loading.
Read the post again
I did not ask what should I do- I asked what would others do.
When I read the post below
It looks like only 2 people voiced an objection. Ignore them. Who cares if they object. Some people do nothing but complain and attack on all of these boards. I can only hope some of these people do not behave like this in person but are embolden by their anonymity of the internet.
Read my post again and you will see
I said asked if I MIGHT have costochondritis because of the ribs that are still hurting so bad you cannot touch- this after my seeing him 2 weeks ago and it started before then. That is different from going in and stating I have that diagnosis and for some reason I have found as the years have gone on she is getting much more angry, it seems, in response to anything I say medical wise. Now I would never say anything medical but SHE brings up all the time because she is having this pain or that, going to various doctors, taking this and that and it is her talk more than mine. I said very innocently 1 day I was eating yogart because it was good for you. Talk about starting WWIII!. She asked who told you that and then started on how she had ate such and such all her life and she was ok. She had a much loved sister who was a nurse and I would be more than willing to say she would never say such barbed things to her. If I had just found out about fibro and just now seeking an answer or assistance it would be different but we are talking YEARS and I hurt severely. I told her I would rather know it was costochondritis than say other things it could be such as melanoma or bone cancer which are 2 other things I also read about and researched in trying to find anything I could do to help my own self as not getting it from the physicians I have gone to since, ah, say 2004. Maybe the best thing to do next time she starts about how do I feel, her having this ache or pain, taking such and such medicine, just say really off limits for me to talk about and just let it go at that?
Maybe you should read your own post because
you said murder- that was not mentioned before. You must be a very angry person with all that screaming going on.
If you will read my post above sm
You will see that I said exactly that - talk with the teacher and get the facts straight. I am perfectly aware of how emotional 13yo girls can be and how they can blow things out of proportion.
I still think this is a very inappropriate way for the teacher to have handled the situation. Regardless of how "worldly" kids are these days, the teacher could have discussed the situation on a one-to-one basis or with the female students only.
You should read your post
I'm sorry, but Christians don't tell people to go to "you know where." Christians don't say, not looking for advice - in other words, you don't want anyone to contradict you or criticize you - believe that is called pride.
How likely is it that all 3 sisters hate you for no reason? Have you thought about actually talkng to his sister, the one who hates you so much, about how you can make peace with each other? Doesn't mean you have to love her, but 2 adults should be able to be civil to each other.
As a Christian mother, you should set an example of love and peace for your boys - do you think you are doing that when you are ready to leave your husband over his family's feelings towards you?
If they hate you, that is on them, but if you hate them back, they have drawn you into their circle of negativity. Do not let that happen. If peace making efforts don't work out, then accept the fact that you do not get on with his family, let your sons and your husband maintain a relationship with them, and enjoy your time alone when they are with the family.
Love your children more than you hate your in-laws and do not draw your children into an eternal family squabble. You are pitting your ego against the ego of the sister and the mother - and putting your husband in an impossible situation.
did you not read my post?
"Please don't write and say a boy shouldn't be allowed to have his ears pierced"
and you are right i was asking about an AGE.
But you are 53, so that says it all, you were from a different generation and thusly I understand why you would be against it.
Read OP's post...........
That marriage is beyond repair:
1. She does not love him.
2. She wants out of the marriage.
3. She is unhappy.
4. Her children are not fond of their father.
Tell me what the pleasures are of going to bed and waking up to a person you feel nothing for.
What are the incentives because these are not hard times - this is THE END OF THE MARRIAGE.
No offense, but you need to put your bible away too.
I read the OPs post and nowhere
does she say it is irreparable. She says she does not love him. Well, at times, I don't "love" my husband either, sometimes I just want him to go fishing for a few days to leave me alone. Sometimes I am unhappy, so what? Happiness comes from within, not without. No one on God's green earth, (oh yeah, you don't like religious talk, too bad), is here to make YOU or anyone else HAPPY!! That doesn't mean this marriage cannot or will not be saved. I've been on this earth long enough to know that seasons change, feelings change, everything changes, but if this OP is looking for an excuse because she thinks there is someone out there who is going to fulfill all her needs, there IS NOT, no one can! If she is telling her children things so that they dislike their father, that is emotional abuse. All this OP has said is she is not happy, she doesn't love him. Applies to most of the population at times, and not enough reason to get divorced and hurt the kids.
Sorry, just read post above. I did not
watch until the 3rd season, so did not know they had done wildcards in the past.
Chia, Chia, oh you gotta read the posts more carefully
I said getting jackets -not coats and fleece jackets at that, spread over 4 months (from debit card) of $7.50 per month). I don't know of any store I can go in and buy a jacket for around $7 using my debit card and they let me spread over 4 months. Oh, I wear them around my home all the time in the winter to give extra warmth so this is not a frivilous buy. You might say with wearing the jackets actually cutting down on my heating bill. The people who lived in my home prior to me had gas bill of over $300 per month, I keep the overall house lower temperature and my bill now around $140.00 a month.
I got chills when I read your post...
I have had a few similar events to yours, but nothing to that great extent. Next time it happens, just say hi.
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