I can completely understand your frustration ..sm
Posted By: Happy MTer on 2009-06-19
In Reply to: Needing A Mental/Emotional Jump Start - LONGLONG POST Feeling The Pressure
My husband has 2 sisters and 3 brothers, all now over the age of 38 and besides my husband and his oldest brother, none of the others work. It is just amazing to me. On top of that, his youngest sister (the baby in the family) and her husband smoke and deal meth. He was actually involved in a meth explosion 3 years ago, almost died but now he is able to collect social security, over $3000 a month to say the least. When he was involved in that, DFCS removed the children from the home and my husband and I ended up with their 5-year-old daughter for 1-1/2 years. Okay, that's off the point and a completely totally different vent for some other time, lol.
Anway, what I am getting at is this. Just like your ex, none of them work, they all live on land (with us) that has been in the family for over 100 years. Two of the brothers still live in the main house with their parents, none of them employed, and then the meth addict sister and her husband live in a small dump just in front of the main house. They all lay around all day and do absolutely nothing. It just amazes me. Come Friday and Saturday nights though they are out partying and having a big time. The one collecting social security disability for being blown up in a meth lab explosion, who supposedly will never be able to hold another job because of this, goes fishing, hunting (and yes he CARRIES a portable stand into the woods, plus his gun), works on the junk cars in the yard, which still don't run of course. It just really steams me that he is collecting social security disability for doing something illegally and he is DEFINITELY capable of obtaining employment (these deer stands that he carry into the woods are well over 100 pounds, plus a gun). I have reported him MANY, MANY, MANY times to the social security administration but it is hopeless.
This does not even begin to skim the surface with these people but my point is that I completely understand your frustration. My husband has been in law enforcement for almost 25 years (before you ask, yes he has arrested his own brother and sister, one for DUI twice and the little sister 3 times for meth) and I have been doing MT work for over 23 years, working our behinds off to provide for our kids and then we sit back and see these people who never work, who continuously have kids, do not provide for them, they are constantly breaking the law, in and out of jail and yet, while it is definitely not the life of luxury, they never seem to have a care in the world, do not work and even manage to go on vacation 3 or 4 times a year. Seriously, what is wrong with this picture!! 
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i can understand your frustration sm
i have a 1st grader and a 4th grader. 4th grade is a little more strict than what i expected. they have homework every night except friday nights. monday he had homework in every single subject. i think it's rediculous to give them so much to do. i weighed his backpack and it was 15 pounds. it might not sound like much, but it is heavy.
it sounds like the teacher is being way too picky. if you have problems and they keep on, i would definitely talk with the teacher. we pay their paychecks.
good luck.
I understand your frustration
Your daughter is entitled to pain and suffering, should you pursue it. Your medical bills, however, should be covered by your medical insurance IMO. That's what it's there for. I don't see the dog owner as benefitting from this. If you weren't able to find the owner of the dog or it was your own dog that bit your child, you would use your medical insurance to cover it.
You didn't mention whether the owner of the dog is a friend or neighbor or just some random person. You also didn't mention how severe and/or the location where your child was bit. I also have to wonder if part of your anger isn't coming from the possibility that the dog owner never formally apologized or asked about the welfare of your child.
Just some things to think about. I know what it's like to feel anger over someone hurting your child, and that's part of the natural instincts as parents. I hope your daughter is doing well and will be able to overcome her fear of dogs eventually.
I understand your frustration, but I mean to let one's
anger out on innocent animals and babies, I do not think that women do this; there are always exceptions.
If one has to let off steam and get violent, then do it on material things, not on animals or humans. Women usually do this.
There are a lot of male serial killers, but a female serial killer is rare.
I understand your frustration too...sm
and as an MT who works on an account with someone similar to this, I know exactly what you are talking about. My coworker, so called MT, is so focused on being "fast" and trying to see how many people she can out do as far as lines go, that her quality just goes out the window. I see so many of her reports that are total cr*p. I don't know how she can even call herself an MT. Unfortunately, I have tried pointing out her errors, mistakes, and utter sheer disregard for client protocols to management and all that served to do was to bring more scrutiny to my own reports. I am not perfect either, but at least the client actually ASKED that I do all of their dictations. That has to say something. But management does not want to do anything about it. At least you still care about what your client wants. You sound like you are ready to do the right thing. Maybe this MT you have is the same coworker I have! oh, heaven forbid! I totally understand and support your decision!
I totally understand your frustration sm
but 900 parents in a timely fashion? I used to sub in a small elementary school (average #of students 200) and it was still a huge headache when there was a problem (schools closing early due to flooding). Most parents of course knew about the flooding because they lived in the area but it was still total chaos. In our area the TV runs a crawl across the bottom of the screen announcing when a school is closing early. I know that we as parents are not responsible for watching TV for "in case info", but I think in the case of a fire I am not sure I would want people staying in the building to look at paperwork.
I understand your frustration-I also feel sorry for the little girl (sm)
This should be a sign that she is not being taken good care of. However, unless they are being really abused I think kids are always better off with their real parents. It's just so sad. I had them as a child...my mother tried to get rid of them but if your house is a big mess like ours was, it is hard to get rid of them all for good. I wore a coat with a hood on all day every day to school because I was so ashamed. I don't know the answer, I feel for you and for the poor child.
Understand you completely - sm
My situation is exactly the same. He can ignore me for weeks. I mean completely ignore me to the point that I may as well not even be here unless he has run out of clean underwear and socks.
Then when he gets a wild hair, I'm supposed to jump with glee? No thanks, I would rather spend my time planning for the day I leave his sorry self now.
I understand completely...
and am in no way arguing your point, it's a valid one! I just don't understand the LACK of self-control these days. Maybe it's the lack of responsibility one must take for those actions..I don't know, guess we could debate this all day, but please, I meant no disrespect to your previous post. I enjoy reading your advice...very refreshing and inspiring 
Understand completely - sm
I too have been burned a few times for trying to help someone but not Stacy.
She's a smart kid, a good mom, and proudly independent. I think she will see it for what it is. The temptation is very strong to try to bring a "family" together for the sake of a child but I am really hoping that she won't give in to that temptation.
Her ex boyfriend and his mother are wastes of perfectly good flesh and oxygen. some people....
Not the OP but I understand completely - sm
And, just for the record. I don't have a cleaning lady but I would love one too. My husband is a complete SLOB.
I vacuum every night, do the dishes, clean the counters, etc. By the time I get up, there are wood chips, snow, mud, whatever, trailed through the house from his boots, there is protein powder all over the kitchen counters and on the kitchen floor, and more dishes in the sink than even my kids can go through in one evening.
Not to mention the pile of dirty laundry he pulls from under his side of the bed immediately after I have finished doing ALL of the laundry. Happens every single time!
I'm not even going to get into the stuff I find in the bathroom sink and on the bathroom floor!
Like I said, I would love to have a cleaning lady too but I would be too embarassed to let someone see what I have to live with.
I completely understand
My 13-year-old daughter just asked me for $25 for a T-shirt for the Science Olympiad. Thankfully her yearbook only cost $20, but she thinks money grows on trees. She does get an allowance for watching her younger sister and helping around the house, but when I tell her I'll deduct the money from her allowance, she looks at me like I'm crazy.
She's in Student Counsel and they go on trips every year, but her school does fundraisers so we end up not paying much at all in the end with his helpful.
She wants to go to college to become a Vet and probably will end up trying to go to Cornell. We've already told her to start saving and get some scholarships because there's no way we can afford it.
I still have a four year old to deal with. I can only imagine when she gets older.
I completely understand...sm
I am scrambling tonight trying to get some lines in because my work has been so slow I only worked 14 hours Monday until Friday. This weekend I got about 63 minutes of dictation so that will add some lines. I have to scramble to work about 20-25 hours per week.
Just want you to know I understand completely where sm
you are coming from and agree totally that it is terribly, terribly sad. I just don't want you to harp on it and let it work on you. You have done nothing wrong. Stand proud. They are entitled to their opinions - strange as they are - they are not entitled to spew them all over the place and say hurtful stupid things to you - just shows how mixed up they are. You sister was right in telling you to let it go - they are strange - weird - you are blessed your husband is so different. Give him a hug and ignore the rest of them. Good luck!
HA! - I completely understand dysfunctional.
My stepdaughter (12 years old at the time) unwrapped her presents last year. Went to go to her mom's afterwards and do you know the next day, I found all of her gifts stashed in the bottom of the closet in the very back. She took all the gift cards and cash with her - didn't give a darn about the rest, clothes, jewelry, makeup, all kinds of stuff. Everything from her aunts/uncles were still in their packages and never given a second thought. Talk about ungrateful!!!
Understand completely (see message)
This time of year is sad, can't cry because husband lost his sis as well from lung ca. during Christmas, so don't want to put salt on his wounds. Forgot about the brain mets - my sis had as well, two Gamma knife surgeries. Resident said, "Hospice or nursing home,you can't lay around here." Anything is minute compared to this disease, cutting off your fingers would be easier! Never smoked but transcribed a university study on it, some buried their butts, froze them, couldn't quit. So I am on a mission, I guess! There has to be a better way, I do have compassion but passion to help others see the reality of what it does to you.
I completely understand. I live in East Tx and it can be horrible sm
especially more so if you don't fight for your kids. Not saying kids are always right but you have to protect them from the idiots they tend to hire as principals.
I completely understand. I dont feel stressed but there must be something bothering us I think.
I guess we always dont exactly know what stresses us because it could be just a lot of things together that arent really terrible but just little stressors of every day life.
I feel your frustration
I need to see a gynecologist for the first time. My GP has always taken care of the pelvic exams for me in the past, but now I need birth control and can't use hormones. We had snow this week, so offices were closed two days and then they all close early or never bother to open at all on Friday. I'd been waiting and waiting to get a call back about my new-patient appointment, and never got the call. Called again and was told she doesn't see new patients at that location anymore. So now I have to find somebody else, and it was Friday afternoon. The one place that could see me was booked until April. Do what?
they ARE completely different
i can't believe you have a friend that had the nerve to compare her abortion to your miscarriage!!! im so sorry for your loss
I completely believe that. sm
I've never been separated from a marriage, but in 2 long-term (several year) relationships that finally succumbed to breaking up, we got along WAY better once we were 'only' friends. The change was immediate! Best of luck to you both. Sounds like you tried your hardest.
Agree completely......nm
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I completely agree! (sm)
As strange as this woman may have been, including the people she chose to surround herself with, there has never been a question about how she felt about her beloved son. Let's hope this woman can finally have some peace in the next few days and spend eternity next to the one person that wasn't involved with her for his own personal gain!
I may be completely wrong,
but when I caught a little bit of the story on the news, it sounded like the "amount of money she had been offered equaled out to 20,000 a day for each day they were married. I would not call her a gold digger when they first married, I mean, I most certainly could fall in love with Sir Paul, but now it sounds like she wants everything. As for Dancing with the Stars, she has shown up but I don't see the public embracing her and voting for her to stay.
Completely agree...
I have the same standards. Sleeping together is a gift that comes with marriage in my opinion. It is your house and your rules. Good for you for sticking to it!
I completely agree...sm
I live in one of the states that is in the middle of terrible turmoil due to illegal immigrants and what gets me is the minute citizens try to get laws that are already on the books enforced we are considered racists. The illegal immigrants form marches and get on TV and tell the world how terrible and racist the politicians are who are just trying to have laws that are already written enforced. It is just crazy. I mean they are here illegally, it has nothing to do with their race, it has to do with the fact that they are breaking the law and need to be treated like any other law breaker in this country. Geez. You have to be a citizen to vote, but all our signs outside the voting places have to be bilingual, does that make sense to you? Most jobs in my area are now only hiring bilingual people, so unless you learn Spanish, it is very hard to find a job, which I find even more irritating. I mean, what would happen to an American citizen if they tried to jump the border to any other country in the world, do you think we would be given any sort of rights other than being thrown in jail, deported, or just plain disappearing off the face of the earth? I don't think so.
Unfortunately, when we divorced I was completely sm
out of my mind. It is legal because it states that he has the right to make any decision and can change his mind at any time since he has physical custody. He has been very kind in the past to allow my son to spend the entire summer with us. This will be the first summer in 7 years that we have not seen him. Plus, we send for him throughout the year during holidays and spring breaks. He can do this and can make this decision.
I could get a lawyer and amend the agreement we have, but then it will get so ugly (again) and complicated and I don't ever want to go through that ever again. He still has emotional wounds from our divorce (I've since moved on and remarried), so if he wanted to be ugly he can. What's to say my husband and I hire a lawyer in his state, go to court, and then I end up losing even the right to see my son? That can happen, especially since he has not lived with us ever. Thanks for your suggestion, though.
I agree completely! Very well said (nm)
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Completely different posts....
You might want to read again-I was not talking about her meowing then. I am not talking about giving her foods, supplements, now. I am asking about how do you know about end of life. People say you would know and I am asking about her sounding off now. Please review my other post again- I am feeding her kittie cat food and also supplements. This post is entirely different.
I actually have, and it was completely normal - SM
I'm in my mid-20s and have always been very healthy and active. I could never even catch the chickenpox from my friends as a child! LOL! Oh well, I'll have to see if stopping this antihistamine makes a difference. I feel completely fine otherwise.
I completely agree with you. - nm
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I completely agree.....sm
I also as a child was spanked NOT beaten, an I can tell you that my generation had MUCH more respect than the generations now. I am not that old either...late 30s, but back in the day, the neighbors spanked you, then sent you home to your parents whom they called, and you got it again...needless to say, I turned out JUST fine and again, have a LOT more respect for my elders now. I cannot STAND when people say that just because you spank your child means that you beat them...I have 4 children, whom are spanked when needed, which has not had to be often, but I can bet you that they respect me, their dad, AND other adults, and even my oldest ones (who are teenagers by the way) have said THEY think it has made them better people. They can COMPLETELY understand WHY we as parents may resort to spanking (and we used time outs too, but those only work for so long and for the "little" things). I too think that if more parents "spanked" NOT BEAT, their children, we would not have all the disrespect we have today. Just another example of "society/government" getting in the way. Again, spanking and beating are two different things, so DON'T confuse the two. As it says in the bible...spare the rod, spoil the child! JMHO!!
Agree completely
I've always known my IQ (from accredited Mensa tests). and IQ may go down (due to age, partying too much, etc.) but it never goes up. I've taken several tests from different sources throughout the years (I guess I'm just weird) and the figure always stayed the same. I was on a dating forum a couple years back and everyone started coming on saying they were geniuses because they took an online test and it said so. I am also well acquainted with the Bell Curve, and also I knew from most of those poster's prior comments that they weren't the brightest bulbs in the box. It smelled fishy so I took it, and it padded my IQ by 10-20 points!
If you really want to know your IQ (or your child's, they have a kid's one), you can buy an accredited test (published by Mensa) at most mall bookstores for about $3. Most online tests are crap, designed to suck you into a marketing ploy, as well as make you look like a fool bragging that you're a genius, along with anybody else that takes it.
Kendra, I'm with you completely on this
I have a lot of animals and unfortunately have lost a few through the years. It is never easy and I have never stopped feeling conflicted about the decision to euthenize them, for the same reasons you mentioned. If I am reasonably sure they aren't suffering, and if I still see a spark of joy or love of life in their eyes I do what I can to support them, JUST LIKE I DID FOR MY MOM when she was paralyzed and bedridden, being fed through an NG tube after multiple strokes. She indicated to me that her life was still valuable to her, and I find it very difficult to determine when life ceases to be valuable to the person or animal living it. Also, I have seen miraculous recoveries after all hope was lost. I'm perplexed that we assume an injection is the "humane" way to deal with ailing pets yet recoil at the thought of human euthenisia.
Love and blessings to all of you going through this.
I agree with you completely!
It is such a rediculous thing to even think that EVERY pitbull is mean. So stereotypical of a narrow-minded person!
COMPLETELY agree.
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Completely agree...
You just don't know who you're talking to these days. There could be things going on at home, or like you said, these people could be dangerous. Best to let the school district handle it.
That is completely ridiculous.
I'm 30 and my mom (and family) still celebrates my birthday and we do hers. I live out of state now so if I can't be there for the day she will celebrate whenever she sees me and send me flowers or a cookie bouquet or something. My MIL does the same, even if my hubs does something on his own.
Personally, I would invite her regardless because despite her opinion she is still family. If she says anything about it again I think your hubs should discuss it with her further and let her know that she doesn't have to come.
I did something completely irresponsible and just for me ---
I have been looking to buy a new car. Wanted a convertible, so had the sebring picked out as it had the biggest back seat to put the grandchildren in, the most leg room in the front for my extra-large man, and today I went to buy it and brought home a 2-seater, bright red, convertible Mazda Miata!!! I love it!!!! 
I am completely outraged!
We have done so much for her, including giving her rides places when she was without a car since she lives right in the same town as us, plus about a million other things over the years! Whenever we would all go out to dinner, we paid for her 9 times out of 10. We're also talking about changing the locks on our doors since she has a key to our house! It's really sad, but we want nothing to do with her anymore now that we have seen her true colors.
I completely agree with you.
I'm not gay, but I totally see where you're coming from. The fact is, is that gay couples are no different from straight couples.
One of my favorite entertainers is a guy by the name of John Barrowman, who I think is a little better known in the UK than he is in the US. He is a very out and proud gay man and one of the things he is a most passionate advocate about is showing people that there is not a difference - that a gay couple goes through every day life just like a straight couple does.
I used to work with a man who was gay and he said something that really struck me one day. He said being gay is about who you're sleeping with, and that's no one's business but your own.
I agree completely. There would be no other
reason for her complete change in behavior.
I completely agree and ...
There are loads of rumors flying around about him cheating, however, there are just as many floating around about her cheating with one of her bodyguards. You could tell on the show that he is completely miserable. I believe that this man just wants a normal life, she has been pulled into the lime light and loves it. She travels a lot more than Jon does and admitted as much in an interview that she gave. She is giving speaking engagements and doing book tours and is gone for weeks at a time. Jon gave up his job to stay at home with the kids, like Kate, and I have to wonder if that is not where some of the problems started. I know from working at home for years that you can lose your identify if you are not careful and with the television crew there all of the time, all of the filming that goes on constantly, you have to wonder if he has not lost himself, again, I certainly think that she has.
There are so many possibilities here on what happened, how it happened, who is at fault, etc., etc., but I truly hope for these 8 children, as well as Jon and Kate, that they can salvage things in the end, if they truly still love each other.
I completely agree .... sm
Jon was not the only one that was accused of cheating, it has been reported for months and months that Kate was cheating with one of her body guards, actually before the news broke that Jon was caught cheating. Unfortunately I do not have much of a life, sitting in front of the computer most of the time with the tv on, so I have watched this show quite a bit. I have seen changes in both Jon and Kate, but IMHO, more so in Kate. She has really been big on the cosmetic surgeries, going to the spas and making it more about her than anyone else. On top of that she has always, ALWAYS, been so dominating when it comes to Jon and even as the guys from the bike show (okay don't watch that one), said, she definitely wears the pants in the family. I believe that this is a situation where it really is 50/50, she likes the fame, fortune and running everything and he wants a regular life, a regular family and to be the man of the house. He even stated last night that he had found himself, had learned to stand up to her and that had caused even worse problems.
Again, these are just some of the things that I have seen and are my opinion. 
Completely Agree with Your Post - NM
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I agree with that analogy completely.
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I had my dog completely trained by 2 months of age....sm
If you work at home this is a major advantage! Purchase a dog crate and put a small blanket or towel or toys in there. Your dog will learn to accept this as its home and will not want to pee/poop in its home. Take your dog outside of the crate and outside every couple of hours during the time you're not asleep, and of course do this at times when you can play with the puppy and let it run around for a while to burn up some of the endless energy. After a week start weaning this back to every 3 hours, then every 4 hours. Each time the dog pees or poops lavish on the praise with the "good boy" or "good girl!" and lots of attention. The biggest obstacle in house training a dog is getting them to realize that you will let them out to do their business. Eventually the dog will let you know when they have to go and you can start leaving the door to the crate open for periods of time. My dog makes this strange sound when she needs to go out. My husband's dog just keeps looking at you and the door until you get the idea that he needs to go.
You can crate train a dog regardless of its age. My father-in-law had problems with his 6-year-old beagle tearing up the house and peeing all over the place anytime they left her at home and they found out that as soon as they put the dogs favorite toys and blanket in the crate that the dog loved it, they could close the door to the crate when they left home and Maggie didn't go bullistic (they'd listen outside of the house). She now loves her crate and naps in there all of the time as she recognizes this is her home.
I am completely dressed before working
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Being a student is completely different than being a teacher.
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I agree completely....government once again
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are they just completely bitten off??or holes
adn spots?
That is so normal, completely child like
saw post below where said would take to a therapist. That, my dear, is what is really wrong with most of these kids now. A therapist?? Not just mother speaking but grandmother as well and I have heard lots of kids say that to their siblings- mine for example and they love each other now since they're grown.
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