I can't thank you all enough for your support, information, and caring..sm
Posted By: Cyndiee on 2008-11-09
In Reply to: Yes, and it was a very hard decision... - beNice
You have really uplifted me a bit, and we will continue to search for answers and pray to do the right thing. She is so loved!! And God Bless each and every one of you, and your loved ones, for your kind notes and posts, SO APPRECIATED!!!
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Thank you for caring for that poor dog. sm
She must have been neglected for a long time.
With her coughing up mucus, she probably has pneumonia and needs antibiotics. She also needs dental work.
You might want to feed her some ground beef and rice. You should boil the beef, not fry it (no seasonings)and add it to cooked rice that has no seasonings. This is what my vet prescribed when one of my dogs was sick. It should be easy for her to eat this. But please get her to a vet ASAP.
She probably has some kind of allergy that is causing her to chew herself. Or she might be doing that because her teeth hurt her.
Thanks for caring so much and for passing that along! NM
thank you all for the advice and caring.....sm
I knew I was doing the right thing posting here. All of the MTs I have spoken to on this site have been really kind.
I found out about the cheating when the other woman's husband called our house last night, and my husband told me first thing this morning so that I could hear it from him instead of the other guy. I have since talked to the other husband and the wife says that my husband wanted it to go further, but she stopped it. I think she is just trying to save her a@@. The other husband read some e-mails to me that they had passed back and forth together, and it sounds to me like there was more going on. I also called my cell phone company today to get the past few months details on his phone so I can see just how much they were talking. My husband said they didn't really talk that often (the CSR checked through the records and found multiple calls on multiple days. She was very nice, helpful, and encouraging).
We have 2 small children (4½ and 2½ girls) and I feel like I owe it to them to try and find a way to work through this. He has agreed to counseling, but I don't know at this point how I want this all to turn out. I'm still just too numb, shocked, angry, etc. to have thought it out that far.
Thanks again for all of your advice and opinions. There is a lot to be learned from other peoples experiences. Just pray for strength for me to get through the holidays without having a nervous breakdown or a murder charge.
God bless you for caring sm
We have kept our dogs for up to 16-17, until it would have been inhumane to let them suffer, so I can feel your pain. I cried more over my dogs than I did for family as the first one was born right here in our home as well and we treat our animals as one of us. Unless one is an animal lover, others cannot understand why you could be so heartbroken. My husband took it hard as well and we were both so distraught it was worse than a human death. We had ignorant people say ignorant things such as, "it's only a dog," etc. Be comforted in knowing that those of us who love animals feel your pain. It will take a long time to get over. I could not walk past the pet food aisle without tears. The only answer to my pain was guess what? Another pet if possible. Bless you, we are here to talk. Those of us who love animals know what you've been through. You feel helpless, I'm sure, but you did your best.
Thank you for caring. It means a lot.
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Thank you all for caring. I have an appointment on
Thursday to see a Christian psychologist at a local church. I have been thinking of attending this church for some time, and when I have my appointment it might be a foot in the door so to speak. Thank you again for your kind words. My post was just another way of reaching out. When I get terribly depressed I tend to internalize everything and avoid people. I really need to sit down with someone and just unload. I think this is a step in the right direction.
Bless your heart for caring!
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Anyone here caring for aging parents?
Whoof. This is so very hard. My mother is/was a brilliant educator, highly respected in her field.
We are walking a very thin line these days. I just hate it, and I do not use that word often.
We have found an assisted living facility that she likes, and I do as well. But, she is not liking the fact that she must decide. Oh, it is so very hard.
She was quite ill back in the summer, went to a nursing home for therapy (to recover from pneumonia), and then home. She is failing, and not going "gentle into that good night." She wants so very much to live on her own, but it is such a struggle. I am afraid for her, and I am so very tired.
Is anyone else living with this? If so, what do you do? I have read a thousand articles, talked with so many specialists, and still am lost.
but short on compassion and caring.
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Thanks for being a caring person. Please don't change.-nm
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You sound like a very caring and kind person
I'm definitely not going to flame you, but I'm wondering if you actually put stuff *inside* the mailbox because that is against the law. I would appreciate the thought, but I really wouldn't like someone going in my mailbox besides my mail carrier.
My neighbors across the street have the most beautiful lights. I just moved here from the sticks and it was SO cool to be able to look outside my window every night and look at their array. I don't see them because our schedules are different, so I thought about mailing them a thank you card. But it really would not be appropriate to just pop it in the box.
Anyhow, please don't take offense, but maybe some of the looks you are getting is the mailbox thing. I'm not assuming or anything, just wanted to give you a heads up.
I sincerely hope you feel better :-)
The woman has children who are supposed to be caring for her
Interfering could lead to some seriously unpleasant unintended consequences.
I had that problem with a neighbor, only they weren't caring
constantly barking. I would put water out for the dog and sometimes feed the dog because it was being neglected. Finally, when no one was looking I had the dog come with me and I took it over to my moms house and found the dog a really loving home. My bad? I don't care, I knew the dog was being well taken care of. The lady I gave him too just doted on him and he was no longer neglected.
Even though a dog is being fed and given water doesn't mean it isn't being neglected. Animal neglect is a form of abuse. If you call anyone, don't call Animal Control. Call the Humane Society or some other entity who can take the animal so it won't end up being put to sleep. It's not the dogs fault that the owner neglects him.
confidence of not caring what other people who don't matter think
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Thanks to all for caring. I will use Resolve and update on this board SM
to let you know. It happened so quickly, and I guess that is what happens when you snack in the living room. I am used to sometimes putting my glass or bowl on the floor when I am finished eating. This time I paid a high price. I think it may at least take some of the stain out, and thank God it was one of my smaller pans. As Cat said, a throw rug is an option as well.
Have a great Thanksgiving! I am working, but will have the afternoon with my family.
Well it sounds good but a true caring
and giving person that gives from the heart and not merely to impress would also probably not have thrown a post like that in the middle of ones where people are obviously having great financial difficulties. LOL. Sometimes ya just gotta laugh.
Bless you all that are having money problems and I hope things get better for you soon. And, remember, this too shall pass.
You are a caring, loving person. That has been obvious SM
from your posts for a long time to me. You are doing the right thing and staying on top of this. With your close eye and caring and with professionals on board I think your son has a bright future. Keep us informed. 
Thanks for the information.
These are the things I was hoping to hear...don't want to do something I will regret later. :)
Thank you for the information.
I will be checking it out. My husband and I have talked to my son. He seems to be listening to what we are telling him, but I will have him read this article as well as others. All we can do at this point is guide him in the right direction and hope he makes the right decisions.
I believe here in New Jersey you have to be 19 to buy tobacco products. I think I have seen the sign, but I am going to double check, not that it makes any difference now because they are selling it to him anyway.
It is a tough age and I know I have other things to worry about as he hits 21, which is the LEGAL drinking age here in NJ, even though he has already been drinking and getting alcohol illegally. That is another problem we have had to deal with right before going away to college.
It has been a rough few months. Thanks again.
I did not know that and I do appreciate the information.
But it still bugs me when people keep their lights up year-round!
Some information - sm
Some HO policies will pay for the damage the leaking roof caused, but not the roof itself. Also, if a plumbing pipe breaks and you have water all over the house, they will pay for the damage the water caused, but not the pipe to be fixed.
You can call your insurance company and ask what is the limit they will pay out before your insurance is raised or they drop you. They will tell you. You can do this with car insurance also. If you get in a small accident, call and ask anonymously what is the $$$ limit before your insurance goes up. For auto - ours if $1800 an incident. So, if I get in 3 accidents and each costs $1200 to fix - my insurance will not go up in either case as it did not pass the $1800 limit.
They will not volunteer this information, you have to ask for it.
Hope this information helps somebody!
Thank you for information
Thank you for your helpful information. This weekend is the time that I plan on changing over. I will do some research at those sites you so kindly passed along.
Thanks for that information
 I have always used Gain and suddenly the towels were smelling tacky. I will definitely try the Arm & Hammer!
TOO MUCH INFORMATION! NM
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Thank you so much for the information (sm)
I have new and better insurance starting this month and will check into getting the testing done. I never realized it was so dangerous. No wonder my doctor won't just keep prescribing the Provigil. That stuff is about $180 a month! Thanks again!
They should have at least given you more information . - (sm)
My sister was treated in this way once, and it scared her to the point of tears as she sat on the exam table waiting to hear the worst. Turns out, sometimes one type of film doesn't get the right view of what they want to see, and they'll try an ultrasound or an MRI.
As it turns out, there was no problem at all, but the WAY THEY HAD ACTED in that office had scared her half to death.
And if you need a biopsy, all is not lost. I've had a couple friends get biopsies or just get the lump taken out, and it was benign.
I had a "suspicious" pea-sized lump arise in my mid to late 30's, and it stuck around for years. They mammo'ed it sometimes every 6 months, sometimes once a year sometimes less. The other breast has always been normal. Most of the time I had other stuff to do and not the time to think about it much.
Amazingly, the last mammo (whenever that was... I don't keep very good track!) showed that the lump was gone. Even the speck of calcification in it which had made them all suspicious of it was gone.
I typed xray and mammograms for many years, and one thing I learned is that everyone is different, every lump and xray finding is a little different, and the various imaging types yield different results. Very, very few of the people who did have tumors had breast pain associated with it. That's pretty rare. So until they tell you otherwise, I would be optimistic.
Even it the news should not be so good, I can say that my cousin had DCIS and did the mastectomy and chemo, and she's been FINE for 10+ years. (Her hair grew in GORGEOUS, too! Thicker, and curly/wavy!) So even then, there was an upside to the whole thing.
Good luck, and don't worry needlessly... wait until you actually know there is something to be concerned about, and get out there and enjoy the holidays! :)
For your information
I have just found about the gay stuff TWO days ago!!! I was referencing asking for sex BEFORE i found out.
What information??
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where do you get your information from?
genuinely hurt you thought their secrets were fraudulent.
Information on cirrhosis - does anyone know the - sm
early signs of possible alcohol-induced liver cirrhosis? I fear my DH may be experiencing some signs of it, it's either that or gallstones I suspect. He is starting to think it too as he was asking me a lot of questions about the liver cirrhosis reports I was transcribing the other night (generalities, not specifics about patients). He has drunk 8-12 beers a day-- every day practically-- (light beer so he thinks this makes it okay---I checked its 5% alcohol a can for the brand he drinks, most regular beer is 6% I think) for the last 20+ years. He is 47. He won't go to a doctor. I told him I'd make him an appt about a month or so ago and he was like, not yet, just about bit my head off in the process. But I think the pain is getting worse. He walks around here every night (still drinking mind you) holding the right side of his abdomen (right of midline) around the waist area. I thought about pancreatitis but I think his pain would be much more severe and located more midline than where he indicates. He is in good health otherwise as far as we both know, not overweight, probably underweight actually (5ཇ"/6', 162 pounds). He does have insomnia though, but I know that is related to the alcohol, and I believe would rectify itself if he quit. He also has an fear (?) of doctors and medication, to him no news is good news. So he will have to be in some pretty nasty pain before he will go to a doctor, and by then he'll probably be in pretty bad shape, or at least the liver will be IF that is what is the problem. So I thought I'd see if anyone had personal experience with this. TIA for any information you can pass on.
Need help with information regarding fireplace
Have moved to new home. I have gas heating and also gas operated fireplace. Have never had the fireplace on yet. My question to anyone this applies to, I was told recently if you use a blower, the artificial logs with your fireplace this can save a lot on your regular heating prices as it uses less gas this way than turning your entire home heating system on. Does anyone have any information regarding this? Thanks.
You have some good information here--sm
but I did see in your list some of the very pet foods that are being recalled...science diet and nutro, for two of them, but I have kitty cats and I don't know too much about the dog food part.
It was me that mentioned the vets not being nutritionists nor experts on what to feed a pet. I don't think anyone is particularly blaming any one manufacturer over another. This all came about when someone said that Iams was offering free pet food and I suggested that it was probably the stuff that got recalled. So, I guess it could be construed as a slam against Iams, which I have never liked, nor science diet either. This recall has just opened a lot of peoples eyes as to what may or not be included in our pets foods. I guess that could be a good thing, except for the loss of precious life in the finding out part. So far, my kitty food has not even been mentioned in the recall, but my senses for watching for anything wrong with my kitties is extremely high. Personally I think I am skeptical of pretty much most store bought food these days. I just hope it gets totally resolved soon.
No, but my husband does. The information
that I finally got was after prolonged searching. I was diagosed as fibro by a rheumatologist (had no clue as to why my shoulders tremendously sore). I try to self-treat, definitely not hypochondric, have better things to do with my time that sitting in an office waiting but so wracked with pain went in as a work-in this past Monday, just trying to sit, wait to see someone. Here after asking point blank to doc about could it be costo then, the most horrible pain 4 days later so started researching some more and that is when I found the connection between fibro and the costo and also the bit about the omega 3. I stopped immediately, went to the store to get. Had been taking some hubs had but not the strength needed. If I can ever help my own self, that is done prior to any doctor visit period! I cancelled a follow up visit with him and now cancelling out completely.
That was some great information. (sm)
I just got a great color job from my guy, but watch out because it seems like they are really pushing highlighting right now, and that can look very good or really overdone. The celebrities are overdoing it IMO right now.
Awesome information
Thanks for all of that. Very interesting. I am going to send it to friends. Wow, lots to know and working at home, I would have never known...we would have missed it! Plus, now I will be on guard for lunacy all around me! LOL.
I think you got some good information above
I definitely would take the doggie and try to fix him a home for bad weather (rain, cold and the like). Make sure if outside doggie to be sure and keep him clean water and his food and he should be alright with your type of weather. Good luck! I would love to have weiner dog.
Thanks for all the information Lowly MT
Unfortunately I've tried a lot of the above and I knew most of the above. Since he already had a really bad UTI I've done/tried most of what you suggested. He's 11 so I've had a lot of practice. LOL. The Comfort Zone spray sounds interesting though, I may have to look into that. I've been up most of the night so I'm kind of loopy so when I get some sleep I'll reread your post and see what else I missed. Again, thank you so much for taking the time to try and help. Like I said at this point I'll try anything.
You are full of information!
Thanks!
Do you remember when Nick went away to boarding school at something like 7 and came back 19? It's completely crazy but I know they have to do it to keep the story line going. I can't wait to see what he looks like though...Sharon or Nick. Michael's dad, I thought that was a dead issue. I wonder who decided to go ahead with finding him. Here we go with Gloria again huh. lol
I missed today but watched yesterday's online. I'm so glad Victoria got a chance to talk to Sabrina. I'm still hoping Sabrina doesn't kick the bucket but sounds like she will. I wonder how Adam will like step-mommy Niki moving into the ranch...I think that's where things are headed.
That is some wonderful information - sm
I am in a similar situation, though a lot more in the hole, about $80K between the 2 of us, unfortunately my DH is the one that has no idea. I am to the point where I have to tell him too. I will call all my CC companies though and see if I can negotiate a better interest rate, only behind on 1 account and this was this month, just did not have $650 to make the payment. I need to see a lawyer first though before I "confess" in case this goes the divorce route, want to know where I stand and if it is possible I would lose my kids over my financial irresponsibility; I know he would fight me for the kids though he cannot deal with having them so he would probably do it just to spite me and make the kids miserable in the process. I am trying to figure out how to tell him, in a note, in person (however I am afraid of him as he has threatened me before but has never physically harmed me--afraid this might send him over the edge as he has undiagnosed depression), I am leaning toward a note, take the kids out for the day or several hours, come back and discuss the solutions I have mapped out in my head. In our case staying together and working togehter is the best plan I think, though I would proabably walk off debt free in a divorce because of the splitting of assets, he would actually end up with debt, so it would be to his advantage to stay together. I still love my DH, but I do put up with a lot of crud. I am just afraid of change I guess and for myself and my kids. My friends are scared too, my family knows nothing of this nor does his family. Anyone have any good advice on how to tell him w/o ending up getting killed in the process?
Thanks for the 90210 information
I wonder if it's somewhere online. I'll have to check. He's my screensaver (lots of pics). I even got myself a tour T-shirt. Even at my age. I figure you only live once. I don't drink or smoke so I have to have some obsessions. LOL
Great information -
I looked at the Wikipedia article, and it certainly fits. It said fasciculations can be caused by magnesium deficiency and then in parentheses, "(may also be due to stress)" Uh, I think we have an answer!!! Thanks so much.
Information on coverage
First of all, how old is your mother and is she retired or was she working at the time of the disability? I am going to apply to start receiving the money paid into social security. I have been once, got questions answered and this Monday going again because I know you have to set up the payments 3 months prior to your receiving them. I will have reached full retirement age in March. I do not wish to accept Medicare insurance - I just wanted the money BUT I have found out (as your mother should have) regarding what I have to do. I have husband's insurance which is really excellent but I know this will be secondary to Medicare. I have A now but when I got it I knew it was for hospital only. Why did your mother give to a doctor when being seen by them? I think she must have not been informed or gotten information she should have. My elderly aunt has advised me on A, B and C and I think there is a D- I wrote it down but meeting Monday will ask the SS office. Before my PPO coverage, I absolutely did my own finding out about my coverage- if a physician referred me to another I called my insurance company to find out if set up with them. I one time saw a man being charged over $400 because he had not done his seeking out of what he should have- in other words he went to a physician because his internist told him he was being referred- yet his insurance company did not cover and he was responsible for this money. How did she get the card for part A?? Did she call or did she go in to get it? I went to the social security office and got mine- it was not sent- don’t know if they send to your home address or not? I have questions that I have written down, got answers from my aunt who gets Medicare and want to know up front what is covered, what I want and what I do not want. It seems as though maybe your mother needed some assistance- why did she not ever ask questions? I have been told in the past I owed a big amount, never to Medicare but mine was worked out to my advantage- hopefully hers can be also.
Do I always give up too much information?
I notice that I'm always being real personal and saying lots of things but nobody else does... not sure if this is smart of me. I just found out my name can be googled and anyone can see everything I've written. I guess I should be more cautious... I mean nobody said where they live now or anything..
BUT FOR NOW
I was born in Eureka, California. A small town an hour and a half south of the Oregon border. I moved to Reno NV when I was 24 and yes visited California a lot, my parents and friends are still there. However now I'm in South Carolina and won't be back to CA until my 10 year reunion this summer AHHHHH
No every time I go back it's the same gossipy small town CRAP!
You never said where you were born!!
Do I always give up too much information?
I notice that I'm always being real personal and saying lots of things but nobody else does... not sure if this is smart of me. I just found out my name can be googled and anyone can see everything I've written. I guess I should be more cautious... I mean nobody said where they live now or anything..
BUT FOR NOW
I was born in Eureka, California and lived in a small town 10 miles North called Mckinleyville, an hour and a half south of the Oregon border on the coast.
Yes that is a picture of around my town... may look beautiful but it was always cloudy, windy, rainy, foggy... hardly ever would you go to the beach (we were lucky to hit 70 on a summer day... and i mean LUCKY)
I moved to Reno NV when I was 24 and yes visited California a lot, my parents and friends are still there. However now I'm in South Carolina and won't be back to CA until my 10 year reunion this summer AHHHHH
No every time I go back it's the same gossipy small town CRAP!
Gabby - You never said where you were born!!
Thanks so much for the information you provided
I just called my daughter and told her what you had to say regarding the program. I told her to try calling the drug maker first and asking for that program you talk about, the indigent program. She says has no problem doing that and will talk with them soon. Thanks for the help.
great information here to help you
alleycat.org
thank you, this is great information......nm
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Awsome information! Tx for sharing...
That is my worry regarding the ablation that it will not last. I'm only 36. I have hypercholesterolemia and apparently an elevated liver enzyme but a normal ultrasound of the liver (no fatty liver) thank goodness. I do not want to be on birth control pills as I have had trouble with migraines. I had a doctor tell me she would do the uterine ablation and place an IUD but I had an aunt that died of an infection from an IUD; go figure... we all have our stories, but you have shed some light on the uterine ablation. Good luck with the hysty - I'm sure you'll find relief. Hopefully things will be better (been there/done that "shower thing") before menses as well... regular menses here though for now anyway/I'm 36.
I got wrong information from court..
Told I could go in and collect enough to not only pay what they owe me but also to cover the truck I rented this morning and also more court costs because they would sell in 1 bundle on court house steps. The deputy this morning tells me I can only get what totals up to my amount. This is where I am left- paying out of pocket for another truck, renting a storage place for a month, running ad in paper to advertise the sale and then also paying for other costs, autioneer. Now if someone bids $5.00 and no one else goes higher - they get for $5.00. You are so right- if I stole from them I would be under the jail. How a place like this stays in business- not small place - 4 around town. They are on Kudzu and I will write scathing report after this is over plus better business but right now trying to find out bank. I could sit there but I do work and how can I work that? Have no idea when anyone would go to the bank. I can garnish- thought about having someone pay check there for a small amount and then see where deposited. That would take me another month or so though and I am chomping at the bits as I type.
New information this morning on just how much extra put on
There is a news report just coming in on the hamburger drama. The chief of police said so much salt put on it was actually caked on, looked like shards of glass and not only that but pepper put on some heavily that the lettuce was entirely black.
Thanks for all the good information, this is what I have decided
Next year I start drawing over $500.00 per month on a retirement fund (from the hospital that outsourced us). I still wanted to keep working. My thing was I knew before full retirement that SS took away part of the money you make and after full retirement age you can make any and all without them taking away. I want to work after full, draw the retirement starting in 04/2008 and then wait until the full retirement (03/2009) and then I will have the full money. I do not want to quit working, just wanted to see what everyone thought about taking a % off if you took SS before your regular retirement age.he Thanks everyone for all the info.
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