I bet she did think twice of it.
Posted By: mt on 2008-04-15
In Reply to: Just to play devil's advocate... - phillychick
She just didn't say it out loud. I'm will to bet that like all mom's taking care of the children, the husband, the house, the meals and working herself she didn't have any time for herself. That's what the OP is talking about, and I agree.
I think the same thing all the time. I remember before I had all that, and there was plenty of time to care of me. Nowadays, it takes much planning and extra work for me just to get my hair done.
Yes, we could just walk out the door whenever and do whatever we want to, letting someone else take care of everything, but we don't. If I go somewhere, I'm the one that makes sure there's something for supper, all plans for the kids are taken care of including their homework, laundry, activities, etc., etc. If my husband goes somewhere he simply says, hey I'm going. I still take care of everything else.
I'm not on any sort of meds, but every few months I have a minor breakdown and everyone in the house knows it. They get better for a day, and then it's right back to the way it was. Yes, we are doormats, but it's simply in our nature. We don't do it because we're thinking we're a doormat, we do it because we think we're the only ones that will.
If you have enough help with everything that you don't feel that, good for you. You have a very good life. I consider mine a good, blessed life, but I also know for darn sure that I do most of what needs to be done and that usually means not much for myself.
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