I assumed that all those things you mentioned are obvious dangers with children being home alone nm
Posted By: Dreamweaver on 2007-05-25
In Reply to: It's not just being alone, but access to meds., alchohol, sex role play, abuse of the younger - kids, FIRE!, etc. etc. nm Horror waiting to happen
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I had mentioned to her before about missing things
so this was the straw, you might as well say, that broke this camel's back. My hubs told me several times about things missing- I am not saying made from gold but stealing is still stealing whether you steal a pair of panties or my towels or cleaning solutions or whatever I have worked hard to get and why should I let anyone steal from me? And, bottom line on this, I brought her back over to my home to find the panties (I had placed in top drawer)- she opened the first drawer, the 2nd and the last and no panties- downcast eyes, never said she did not take. If I were accused of something I think I would speak up and say no, I did not do. She was the only person here besides me- and I let her "try to find them."
I think some things mentioned here are healthy
like nuts- I would like to see a picture of you say at 65 and see do you not still have a spread- it is called the middleaged spread and it happens whether thin, fat or whatever. Get off your high horse and quit looking down on others.
Who said those things are said in the children's presence? (sm)
I don't see where it says that anything like that is being said in the kids presence. The dad is calling it a "vacation." When parents have problems that does not mean the kids should be taken from both of them - dad is at home being a dad it sounds to me.
I suppose you home school your children?
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And you are saying to look at things in my home because
I am closing an account? That does not really make too much sense to me, maybe to you?? Did not state why I was closing but why should I check articles in my home?? Do not get the connection.
I find it to be harder working from home with children who are not in school..
I have a 2 year old home with me all day and believe me it would be much easier to take her to day care and get my work done...
I have posted several times on the dangers of
grocery food pet food. I am glad the above poster is reading that particular book. In regards to the cat who is 18 and eating purina, people live until their 90s or above smoking, just depends on their constitution, but that does not mean they should have smoked or could not have been healthier. Please consider your companions and I personally would not want them eating anything I would not eat as they mean that much to me. I am on a very strict budget, but I buy them all holistic food and find that they eat much less of the better quality foods such as (Innova) and many others as compared to what they used to eat of the grocery store brands. Please please educate yourself on this very serious issue, the pet food manufacturers have been lying for years and there is very little requirements or forcing of what their ingredients are. Heck they can't even enforce what is in our foods coming over the border, they certainly can't police the petfood industry.
There's lots of things kids can do at home
all summer that are worthwhile and free. Take them to the library once every week or two and get them reading! Where I lived as a kid it was hot all day, so I read all day and played outside in the evening when it was cooler. It doesn't have to be books, either. It can be magazines, comics, or whatever. Just the 'reading' part is the key. I used to read and re-read old comic books, Life magazines, National Geographics, and books on animals and earth sciences. I also think I read Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn multiple times each during the summer.
Kids can put on a neighborhood circus (and make some cash by charging admission). They can put on a pet show. We used to have pet shows, haunted houses, dog shows, cat shows, talent contests, bike races and foot races, too, and hurdles contests.
With some scrap wood, hammers, nails, etc., (if they're not too small) they can build things. We all had tree houses in just about every large tree in the neighborhood. My friend built a go-cart, and I built a wooden wagon. I also collected rocks, and used that wagon to haul home my latest acquisitions from around the neighborhood. (Much to my mother's dismay... she apparently didn't have the 'rock-gene' that my siblings and I all seem to carry!) Starting collections of any type (even if it's not rocks) can be a fun summer pastime.
Making mud pies and cookies was fun, as was collecging pollywogs and watching them magically turn into frogs.
A job such as painting a fence (a-la Tom Sawyer) can be a messy but fun experience for kids. Or, creating a mural.
Art projects are fun, too. How about giving each kid a journal to write their private thoughts and dreams in? Or, an older child can be taught the basics of cooking or sewing, which will come in handy some day when they're older. You could also teach hand-sewing, beading, embroidery, etc., and let kids make themselves a T-shirt or tank top, shorts, etc. that is work of wearable art.
Or, how about starting a veggie garden for the kids to take care of? They could also be involved in cooking and eating what they grow.
Even though it seems useless, the down-time in the summer, spent just doing NOTHING, isn't as bad as it appears, and when kids don't have every minute booked up for planned activities, they learn to explore what's interesting to them, and amuse themselves.
There is a site I have bought lots of home made things from
and that is Etsy, have you heard about that one? I bought everything from soaps from the cake soaps to lotion soaps, bought some beautiful bling plates off there, hand decorated coffee cups for Christmas presents, flower pens also for this past Christmas. I love to look thru there. Go there and see what you think.
Because you said you assumed....
Did not make that up- you said first or are you having some difficulties with the ole memory board?
....sigh....you mis-assumed what I said
what I said was....you could be doing something good INSTEAD of wasting a few hours, every single day, watching the same thing, every single day.
Maybe not slamming, you just assumed
WRONG- She is a yankee- like you. I guess because it sounds unlike anything you know, you assumed southerns eat crap like that. Ugh! I detest country music and wear shoes. Just imagine!
you mis-assumed again, not bad, just a waste of good time
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You are caught, you assumed and completely wrong!!
I love it, have been a stay at home mother, working mother, everything rolled into 1- I never saw that much trouble with it and I do not really remember hitting the playgrounds to be interviewed for how hard of a life I had. What a joke.
I'm sorry - I assumed she was in first grade. I just read your post again. nm
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you neither slammed or assumed; you only asked if from the south
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I'm not obvious about it, but...
it is obvious by her mood swings when it is approaching, and we all run for cover! Also, when she gets hers, I know my is only a few days aways, so that is helpful to me, too.
I also regularly check her BC pills (she's 17) because she is in a serious relationship for over a year with the same guy and I'm not ready to be grandma for a long time.
obvious to who?
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Sorry if I ask the obvious questions, but ...
Are you providing scratching posts loaded with catnip, fun toys, that kind of thing? I have had maybe a dozen cats over the years, none of them declawed, and none ever touched any of my furniture (some of it leather to boot)because I started them when they were young with taking them to the claw posts, praising them there, providing toys, etc. Give it a try before you declaw, please!!! Good luck.
Never said that she was, just stating the obvious......
I know if she were my sister (I'm around her age) I would not have wanted anyone to know, that's all.
The most obvious question here is......
Why isn't your husband doing anything about this? Just because this is his only sister doesn't mean he should put his family at risks. Does he worry more about his sister's feelings than his children's safety? He is the man of the house.....he needs to act like it. If he's anything like my husband, he's afraid he'll hurt her feelings. My SIL has always played the innocent, couldn't possibly have a negative bone in her body kind of game, but eventually my husband realized this was what was happening and he finally starting distancing himself. She is playing him for a fool and this is really about who he stands up for more than anything else......her or his family, and your MIL is doing the same thing......"Son, who do you really care about, me and your sister, or your wife and your children? Where does your loyalty really lie?" Better nip this in the bud.....it's already gone too far.
It seems obvious but I feel bad (sm)
I don't want to be mean to a good person just because they don't have it together. It's a hard decision for me.
and the obvious question is
What was on TV? ;-)
mine's probably obvious
aside from the fact that i'd be lost without my alprazolam, there is another reason. my initials for tying are MS, which are very common. so, many, many years ago, to separate myself from the group, i changed my initials to MX, which no one had. now, i've even changed the way that i sign any documents requiring my initials as Mx.
also, as is probably common, some of us have other screen names here than just our primary. i have more than one identity here, which shall remain nameless. another one of me is much more of a trouble-maker than the true XanaX, another regards being an ex-employee for another company, and yet another regarding my location in this country. i'm usualy X, but my mood changes and sometimes i need to be more anonymous. 
I know this is stating the obvious but sm
Just quit doing it and they will get the idea and stop. Trust me, I have a whiner for attention here at my house (and I have French doors to my office so he can see me to boot!), and when he pulls that whining nonsense I just ignore him, he gets bored, and moves on. Be firm! Best of luck! 
If you can't change your SIL's mind (and it seems obvious you can't) sm
Then you need to build a fence around your property to protect your children. Yes, I know it's expensive, but what are your children's lives worth?
he shouldn't even ask-it's too obvious and classless
again, just my own *take* on the situation...betcha these people always get called by virtual strangers or acquaintenances to stay with them while the guests do Disney Parks.....living in Orlando and all that....
it reeks of using them.....just to stay there.....
Bad taste, to say the very least.
You are a caring, loving person. That has been obvious SM
from your posts for a long time to me. You are doing the right thing and staying on top of this. With your close eye and caring and with professionals on board I think your son has a bright future. Keep us informed. 
Besides the obvious humiliation the girl has suffered
Isn't this also the equivalent of performing medical testing on a minor without parental consent? I agree with all of the above posters. This child has been humiliated and that counselor needs to lose his job. I have a 12 yo and she would be MORTIFIED if this was done to her. She's uncomfortable enough with her body changes, such as her breasts developing and just starting to have periods. She would be embarrassed beyond words if something like this happened to her.
The Missing Link, for obvious reasons (nm)
Obvious error in prior reply - meant to say
My two "proceeding" pregnancies,I had no morning sickness! - Sorry about that --
Yeah, it's pretty obvious what any list means
is - this is a list of all the medications the patient could remember and I could find in the records.
Re-read your post - you already know the answers to your questions, it's obvious. nm
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Yeah we are both Christian women I thought that was obvious.
and while I'm on a roll I might add that he found time to build a barn but not fix the obvious (s
problems with the house. Putting your wants before the NEEDS of your family is called being selfish. Maybe you are doing the same thing so you can relate to him so well?
I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
Buy a home of my own - not a palace, but more of a smallish home on a large piece of land. (nm)
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Anyone move from a single family home to mobile home? sm
I own and live in a house in a midwest city in a bad neighborhood (wasn't that bad 11 years ago). I spent the day waiting for the plumber to come and jackhammer the foundation (slab house, no basement) to find a leaky pipe that is flooding my DD's bedroom. Last week, it was the electrician with quotes for costly repairs.
In the meantime, I've really been thinking about selling out and moving into a mobile home. Has anyone done this before? Is a mobile home in a decent park less of a hassle than a regular house? I'm so tired of cutting the grass and spending $$ to fix things and tired of old flooring and cabinets, etc., that are just too costly to replace. I'm single with no man to do these things for me and I can't afford a mortgage on a newer house in a good neighborhood. Some of the pictures I've seen of the mobile homes look really nice and modern on the inside.
Any advice and comments appreciated. Thanks!
Well I figure I can make my own hours & be home when the kids are home (sm)
I worked PT in an office for a while but spent most of my money on childcare in the summer. Full-time in an office was just a nightmare and I felt like I missed a whole year of my children's lives. I want to be in control of my schedule so that's why I'm looking into the cleaning thing. Never thought I would want to do that but live and learn! Some of the most intelligent people alive work as carpenters and similar things because they have learned what's really important in life. Whew....off my soapbox now :-) Good luck to you!
I saw that too and mentioned
to my hubby afraid really the nipple about to show, very revealing, not just low cut but almost out like you are saying.
I don't believe I mentioned that AT ALL
I only plan to show the page to the principal and, in case he is unaware, give him the website to find this information. I stand firm that the employees of that school and any other school should be very aware of who is entering their doors. Where did you get the notion that I was going to plaster posters all over? Naturally I am very concerned about that little girl and, from what I understand, counselors are involved.
This is just want I mentioned
in a previous e-mail - unbelievable! A few posts above I spoke of a story I just read about a wife whose husband was diagnosed with Asperber's at age 60 after leading a full functioning life.
I would have mentioned about...
Sex of child/teacher and age. I need opinion regardless of age and sex. Does it suit a teacher to use word honey and sweety? ethical?
Like was mentioned above, it is all in what
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I did not see mentioned that your
grandmother wrote a will. Why did she not write a will?
Also: Why is the 'nephew' only your sister's nephew?
How is the relationship?
If your grandmother did not write a will, that means she died intestate, then the State takes over the distribution of your grandmother's assets. There are strict inheritance laws which will be implemented.
I doubt that this 'nephew' can take your inheritance away from you, since you are the grandchild and he is only the child of a grandchild. It seems that your grandmother's lawyer will be the executor, unless your grandmother gave a power of attorney to somebody else. This is the person who sees to it that all heirs get their right shares.
I have also 1 question, like the other poster:
What happened to the 'children' of your grndmother, namely the 'parents'?
They are the first in line according to succession.
I think like you mentioned in your other post
you just HAVE to wrap that and give it to him as one of his gifts for Christmas (unless he thinks of it first) LOL!
just trying to point out that the OP mentioned--sm
specifically that the franchise she was talking about began with the letter D and the above poster said "if you are talking about Pizza Hut..." shows how much they read these posts. lol.
Funny you mentioned that because
my favorite chair was the 1 they clawed to death and I put in an unused hallway until I got the time to spend making sure they loved the catnip more than my new leather. I hear them in the hallway going after that ole worn out chair. I would have had it recovered but once the scratching started, figured they would go at it again. I am doing cleaning this morning and this afternoon will have the time to put their catnip out and take my covers off. Does cutting their nails help any or will they still scratch as much as they do?
If this hasn't be mentioned before (sm)
Chances are the school has a policy regarding this. If not, the child/parent may have some recourse.
Generally school policies supercede general law and rights, i.e. search and seizure regarding lockers (they can go in them as they please).
I'm thinking if they imposed such a stiff penalty, they can back it up lawfully. It really matters not if we think it is right or wrong. If it's school policy (approved by the school board) and stated in the handbook every student gets at the beginning of the semester, then that's the bottom line.
you mentioned how blessed
if you believe in blessings, i would (here goes this word again) "assume" you believe in forgiveness also. i think you should be the bigger one and try to contact your son and make an attempt to straighten things out. at least you will know you tried and then the ball is in his court. :)
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